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writes:I split from my boyfriend 8months ago due to cheating and lying. So ever since i've been pretty cautious with guys, as i dont want to go through that again.Two weeks ago I went to watch the rugby at a bar and when the match finished, a guy approached me and said he had been watching me the whole time and thought i was gorgeous and with that he gave me his number and walked off.It took a few minutes to sink in, but i took it as a compliment as he was handsome, kept the number and carried on with my day. I text him about 2 days later trying to make sense of everything and he said he'd like to meet me. He picked me up and we just went for a drive, parked up and chatted for a while. He said how attractive he found me, how nervous he was about me not texting/calling and if i ever wanted to see him again.He was so sweet, really genuine, and gorgeous.Four days later we met again for dinner and really hit it off and we text mostly all day everyday. However he constantly says how much he likes me, how much he finds me attractive and how im his 'perfect' girl. He's even hinted a relationship. Is this too fast or should i be flattered?
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (14 November 2010):
You said your are pretty cautious about guys.. then how can you be flattered when a guy who you met so recently praised you?? girl you said you does not want to be through this again so be careful. don't fall in the trap so quickly. and remember he is a handsome guy. so many girls must be dying after him. what if he leaves you one day after being committed with you? i think you should wait a little because i am having doubts about his intention. Firstly because he said he finds you attractive!!! yes attractive!!! this means that he loves you only for your physical beauty. if you was not beautiful he would not fall for you. no what if tomorrow a girl who is far more attractive than you come into his life??? considering all these facts i seriously think you should try to know him more before considering a serious relationship with him. don't be so quick you might regret
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): If all he's talking about is your looks, Id be very weary. A man needs to earn that word and that is genuine. What actions has he done otherwise that has shown he's actually interested in your personality? Cause if he is indeed interested in a relationship he would get to know you and get to know you pretty damn well. His sense of the word perfect here has no substance and imo, he puts you on a pedestal which isnt right to do and isnt fair to you. Why? Cause he's building an expectation of you and he doesnt even know you really so is that even logically plausible?!? No doubt you are prob gorgeous, no doubt he may be too...but it seems to me this guy has somethin up his sleeve given the fact he has only talked about your looks. What about the books you read? Or the arnold films you like to make fun of? ;p...or why you like the philosophy behind twilight? lol..be careful! Hope things go okay here.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 It depends on you? Are you comfortable with his hints? Perhaps he was seeking a relationship all along. He surely was not trying to offend you in anyway so all evidence points to him feeling that this may be the beginning of something worth while. How do you feel about it?
I realize you may be extremely cautious right now but you must know that not all men are like your ex. There are plenty of honest men who would never cheat. Those are the ones who will care for you and cherish even just friendship. If this new man rushes things, simply let him know that you are not ready yet, you just wish to see how things go before delving into anything.
I hope that helps.
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