I want to clear my conscience and tell the boyfriend of the girl I slept with what I did. Should I do this?
Q. Hello all I did something very bad, and I'm quite ashamed of it I had sex with a girl who has a boyfriend. Sure, that happens all the time, but this girl...well...I work with her boyfriend, and I also work with her mum. idiot? yep i kn...
A. 3 November 2011: You do realize what you want to do has no benefits at all to anyone involved (you don't plan on dating the girl, you aren't now nor do you plan on having a friendship with her boyfriend) and it could cost you your job and the respect of someone you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a bruise on that part of your body without it leaving a mark?
Q. I have a question about a mysterious bruise incident. Fact: She told me had a bruise and it hurt like heck and she got it by bumping into the sharp corner of her dresser in the dark, on her chest. Fact: The next day she showed me where the brui...
A. 3 November 2011: Perhaps the acupuncturist applied a needle wrong and made up an excuse? Perhaps the soft tissue, muscle, or bone directly below her skin is bruised? Perhaps the incident caused some inflammation deep below the skin and the inflammation is ... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my cross-dressing partner?
Q. I did write a post on here nearly 2 years ago about my partner who had told me that wearing female clothing is something that he has wanted to do from a young age. Anyway i have really been struggling with this finding It so hard to deal with. It ...
A. 3 November 2011: A man can be a transvestite and love to dress and act glamorous and like a woman without being a transsexual who feels he is a woman trapped in the body of a man. Just because a man likes to dress like a woman and fantasizes about being in a lesbi... (read in full...)
Am I with a narcissist?
Q. Hello and thanks! Am I with a Narcissist? He was so charming, sweet, made soooo many promises to me, gave me compliments, told me he loved me a lot. Then it started becoming about him. He changed jobs 5x In 3 yrs his reasoning? His bosses were ...
A. 2 November 2011: Please re-read what you have posted. If it is all true...if this is how he is...you don't have a loving relationship. There is nothing to save. He does not care about you and he will not change. Begin a new life without him.... (read in full...)
Talking with a strange guy, he seems to be interested but ignorant at the same time
Q. The thing is that i met a guy through social network website , then he added me on Facebook , i liked his pictures , he looks amazing like my dream man , i gave him my number and he texted me , i asked him to meet up but he said it is too early ...
A. 2 November 2011: I have a feeling the guy you spoke with on the phone looks nothing like the guy in the pictures on the social networking profile. You may want to just break off contact. He will continue to make excuses instead of dates.... (read in full...)
Is it normal that your guy asks you if he really loves you? or is he cheating??
Q. Is it normal that your guy asks you if he really loves you? or is he cheating?? I mean he was like I love you.. I said I love you to .. he said is it true? TELL ME THE TRUTH.....
A. 2 November 2011: I think he was asking you if you were telling the truth about loving him in return.... (read in full...)
Do I get a boob job and give up sensitivity?
Q. I can't decide whether or not to have a boob job! I have really small boobs and so does everyone else in my family and there's no hope of them growing anymore (I'm a 32A/AA). For ages now I've been thinking about getting a boob job but I still don't ...
A. 2 November 2011: You have a third option...learn to accept yourself as you are. Please find the strength and confidence within yourself to stop judging your self-worth and relationship-worthiness on you bust size. I fit into the same training bras my mom bought me ... (read in full...)
My wife's neuroses are hurting our marriage.
Q. I am 39 years old. My wife is 41. We have been together for 19 years now. She has always been a little neurotic. For instance, we pretty much stopped kissing two or three years into the relationship because it just made her self-conscious and she ...
A. 1 November 2011: Where is her doctor?
Does she have any friends or does she spend most of her time alone or with you?... (read in full...)
A man she had a thing with years ago commented on her Facebook, I feel so betrayed!
Q. Yesterday i saw a post of a picture of my wife and my grandfather on facebook and saying that she feels much happy because never had a real blood grandpapa and for having a grandfather like him,etc. And everybody replied and liked it, and this guy ...
A. 1 November 2011: I don't think she is cheating on you. If you are uncomfortable with him being able to comment on her Facebook, why not calmly and rationally explain how you feel. Tell her that his commenting brought back the negative feelings you have towards him ... (read in full...)
Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?
Q. Hey, yep its me again so thanks for taking the time to read my question. I haven't been at school for about a year now and now and my family and I are making the necessary changes for me to go back to school. Only problem is many schools round my...
A. 31 October 2011: Have you considered an online school or online/correspondance courses? Is a home-schooling program an option for you?... (read in full...)
She wants me to stop taking the pain killers after I hurt my knee otherwise she will leave me! Should I just leave her?
Q. hi guys ive been dating a woman for almost 2 years shes spoiled and is just a baby i dont make a lot of money but i do pay bills, take care of laundy, cook, clean i do it all.... recently i got hit at work in july by a truck so ive been in therapy ...
A. 31 October 2011: Is she taking your drugs? Is she perhaps trying to get you to stop taking them so there are more for her?... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?
Q. Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...
A. 31 October 2011: If you make the decision to abort your child alone you will have to keep it a lifelong secret. If he ever finds out, it would be a tremendous breach of trust. He would not see you as the woman he loves, but as a woman capable of killing her ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure whats wrong, could I possibly be pregnant even though I'm on the needle?
Q. Uh, i have no clue how to put this. ill just try my best. Lately iv been feelings a bit weird. i feel like im going to vomit pretty much all day every day. I get full off like nothing pretty much, i pee millions of times. i havnt had sex sinc...
A. 31 October 2011: Frequent urination is not a symptom of gallstones. If you have other symptoms like burning or discomfort when you urinate, dark or cloudy urine, or only a little bit of urine comes out when you go, you could have a bladder or urinary tract ... (read in full...)
I seen alot of potential with this relationship but he has backed off. What did I do wrong?
Q. Did I do something wrong? I have been on five dates with a new guy over the last month or so, and I felt things have been going really well. On our last date, he seemed a little off with me, not nearly as hands on as he has been in the past. W...
A. 30 October 2011: As long as you have good hygiene and act normally then his actions (or lack thereof) have nothing to do with you. Perhaps he likes someone else more, perhaps he is not into you, or even into women...
If you want to know whether you two potentia... (read in full...)
LDR--we were to get married but now he's always ill. I just don't see things happening
Q. i'm gonna have to say sorry in advance cos this may be a long read. I'm 30. He's 31. We been in LDR for 3 years. Different countries. We met while he was working in my town for a few weeks. I was in a mess trying to end my then relationship. He was ...
A. 30 October 2011: The only way for you to know with complete certainty what is going on with him would be to visit him in his home country.
I would not be surprised if he has a completely different life that does not include you.
If visiting him is not possible,... (read in full...)
Why are guys so quiet after sex?
Q. why are guys so quiet after sex? after sex all my boyfriend wants to do is sleep and hardly talks. seems like hes in a bad mood. usually im not the type to always be that sleepy after sex. i dont mind laying there and cuddling but i cant just lay ...
A. 30 October 2011: After sex, my fiancé likes me to cuddle with him, he occasionally likes to make small talk, and he almost always falls asleep.
I've only been with a few men, but none have been chatty after sex.... (read in full...)
Why would a woman refuse to do a DNA test to prove to him that he is the father, if she was certain that he was the father?
Q. I had a friend ask me for advice and I was just wondering if I can some other people's ideas before giving him any advice. My friend had a one night stand with a girl (I know for certain it was not a relationship, just a once off) anyway a few ...
A. 30 October 2011: I see two possibilities:
1. Perhaps she feels like he is questioning her integrity?
2. She would like your friend to be the father, but is uncertain whether he was the man who contributed half of the child's genetic material.
Reg... (read in full...)
I'm not sure whats wrong, could I possibly be pregnant even though I'm on the needle?
Q. Uh, i have no clue how to put this. ill just try my best. Lately iv been feelings a bit weird. i feel like im going to vomit pretty much all day every day. I get full off like nothing pretty much, i pee millions of times. i havnt had sex sinc...
A. 30 October 2011: Your symptoms could be indicative of many medical conditions. Perhaps your doctor should be running other medical tests?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sick and wont go to the doctor, I'm really worried any idea of what he could be sick with?
Q. Hey guys this is more of a health question but i cant find any help any were on the internet so i was hopeing you guys could help. Well my boyfriend is 18 and about two days ago he started feeling sick. He will feel really hot and break out in to a ...
A. 26 October 2011: Does he use or abuse medications containing opiates or benzodiazepines? The symptoms you are describing can occur when someone abruptly stops taking these types of medications.... (read in full...)
We go through weeks of being really in love, then weeks of feeling really distant! What should we do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend a year and a half together, there were always periods of detachment. A week ago we felt really in love. And suddenly now I feel an extraordinary distance. We talked about it and he feels the same. I'm afraid of losing him. I d...
A. 26 October 2011: If these periods of alternatingly hot and cold feelings towards one another have occurred with some regularity throughout the duration of your relationship it is entirely possible that the 'love' you feel towards one another is actually an intense, ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 25 October 2011: You can't expect a man to buy the cow when you are giving away the milk for free...
You need to stop having sex, and doing sexual things with men and get to know them first if you want a relationship.
There is a good possibility that... (read in full...)
It irritates me that my sister in law won't go to my church but instead goes to her own
Q. Hi guys. I am staying with my sister-in-law. when she first came to live with us, she would go with me to my church. then all of a sudden she decided to go to her own church on a different day. why do i feel undermined and irritated by it?is it ...
A. 24 October 2011: Religion can be a touchy subject.
Is your sister in law going to a different church that is the same denomination as your own, or are you upset because she has decided to go to a church of a different denomination?
Perhaps she didn't like ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my fiance about this? Accident while Doctor attended to me. Does this mean I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a 24 year old virgin. I've never done anything more than kiss heavily. I'm perfectly fine and happy about that. I'm engaged to a wonderful girl who is just like me; needless to say we are insanely eager to get married and ...
A. 23 October 2011: When you undergo certain types of medical exams, certain reflexes can occur. Ejaculating during the course of a prostate exam is one such reflex. While it may be startling or even embarrassing, it has absolutely nothing to do with losing one's ... (read in full...)
What advice do you have for an ugly girl?
Q. What advice would you give to an unattractive girl? Not beauty advice but life and dating advice...
A. 21 October 2011: Be confident. Ensure you have good hygiene (fresh breath, smell good but not overpoweringly of perfume, cologne, etc.) Smile and mean it! :-) Be yourself. who you are goes much further with people than how you look... (read in full...)
If both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?
Q. Hey so i was just wondering if both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?...
A. 19 October 2011: HPV and herpes can be passed by kissing.... (read in full...)
Could he have food poisoning?
Q. Hi, my bf has been going to the bathroom every 5-10 mins. He has been cramping and every time he eats it's hurts his stomach and basically feels like he have to use the bathroom constantly. It's loose stool only a bit. It's been going on almost 2 ...
A. 18 October 2011: He needs to see a doctor as soon as possible. This type of illness is probably not food poisoning, but only a doctor can order the necessary medical tests to diagnose what ails him.... (read in full...)
Does our friend have a new girl friend or not? He is acting differently with this one versus all his previous girl friends
Q. my dearest friend has a new girlfriend, we text heaps and he's always talking about her and what they get up to etc. BUT when we are face to face and I ask how she is going he just says she is good and changes the subject? is there a reason for this...
A. 8 October 2011: If you would like to meet her, why not tell your friend you are interested in meeting his girlfriend? ... (read in full...)
Why do girls get so mad? Why don't girls forgive mistakes?
Q. why do girls hate you if you do one thing that makes them mad? i liked this girl a lot then i said something on facebook she didnt like and now we avoid each other and dont talk....
A. 8 October 2011: Have you offered her a heartfelt apology? ... (read in full...)
It still hurts. He has drug issues. How do I accept it will never be the same?
Q. It's been six months since I moved out of my place with my ex and so much has changed. We dated for over a year, and in the beginning everything was perfect. I knew he had a past with drugs, but I thought that's where it was going to stay. We star...
A. 8 October 2011: You look at his actions...he is selfish. From his wife, to his affair with you, his cocaine use/abuse/addiction and disappearing for months on end without contact. His choices in life speak clearly of his selfishness. He is someone who thin... (read in full...)
Her negative comments about cheerleading really bothered me. Do I have a right to be angry?
Q. Ok so do I have a right to be angry? I am trying out for cheer. Well, I tried out today (haven't gotten results) but this event takes place before then. So I tried out for freshman cheer, and at my school we have three clinic days where we learn the ...
A. 8 October 2011: Is there perhaps an extracurricular activity that you and this second friend could plan on trying out for in the winter or spring?... (read in full...)
Her negative comments about cheerleading really bothered me. Do I have a right to be angry?
Q. Ok so do I have a right to be angry? I am trying out for cheer. Well, I tried out today (haven't gotten results) but this event takes place before then. So I tried out for freshman cheer, and at my school we have three clinic days where we learn the ...
A. 7 October 2011: Your friend seems to lack tact and sensitivity. If she really hated cheerleaders, why hasn't she mentioned this to you before? Is it possible that she reacted the way she did because she has low self esteem, is concerned you will no longer be ... (read in full...)
Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations?
Q. Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations? It has really become a hindrance to me, almost uncontrollable; every time I think back on something 'stupid' I've said or done (which is quite a long list, and the ...
A. 7 October 2011: It sounds like you may be experiencing social anxiety. I recommend seeing a counselor who specializes in helping people with this disorder. They can provide you with talk therapy, tips on how to communicate effectively with others, and cognitive ... (read in full...)
I feel waves of romantic emotion toward her, I'm not sure about an LDR but I want her to be happy.
Q. She is pomosexual I am a demiromantic pansexual who identifies as male and sometimes androgynous. She lives up North, while I live down near the Carolinas and Florida. We're both in college. We share similar hobbies. She and I talk on the phone, ...
A. 6 October 2011: The truth is, until very recently, long-term committed relationships built on communication, trust, caring, and similar interests, were frequently carried out over long distances (regardless of gender). Pen pals were one form of this; however, up ... (read in full...)
She's the girl of my dreams but she wants space.
Q. Hello, I have been in a fairly good relationship for almost 5 years now, I love my girlfriend so much but she doesn't seem to appreciate it, lately things have started to go downhill, its been over 5 weeks since we have been intimate, we have had no ...
A. 6 October 2011: You have my sincere apologies. I was providing advice based on reasons why I had stopped wanting to be intimate with a previous partner and only wanted ensure that it wasn't something easily fixable like helping more with chores or showing ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me or is he being nice to me ?
Q. Okay so i need to clarification. I have this theater teacher and he is in this play and i'm part of the running crew. Hes always telling me i'm going a good job but he adds complement in or he'll tell me personally for example . Your doing a great ...
A. 6 October 2011: It seems like he is pleased with the work you are doing and wants to make sure you are included with the rest of the group for celebratory activities like the dinner.
Are you friends with others in the cast and crew, or are you more of a loner wh... (read in full...)
My wife says I don't care about her because I don't help her with her resume enough!
Q. I've known my wife for several years, and we got married a few months ago. She has had a tough situation at work for the past 2 years or so, and she gets very angry and upset about it. I listen to her talk about her situation at work frequently,...
A. 3 October 2011: If she wants a new job, she should be working on her resume herself.
It seems like she is taking you for granted. What on earth is she spending so much money on if you are paying for household expenses, giving her cash, and she is working?... (read in full...)
I'm only 15, if nothing's happened with a guy yet, will it ever?
Q. im 15 and i have not had any interact with a boy. ive never been kissed, or had a boyfriend or had sex. i get attention quite a bit from older men. but im worried that if i havent manged to do anything so far it will neverhappen. like i keep ...
A. 3 October 2011: Don't rush things. Firsts happen when they happen. If you would like to speed things up a little, start by letting someone know you are interested in them. Write a note. Have a mutual friend approach him. Even just tell the school gossip about ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself taller?
Q. m 22 yrs old n my height is 5.4 inch only.. Is there another way to increase my height .. Plz suggest me How to increase my height?...
A. 3 October 2011: There are leg lengthening procedures, but they are incredibly painful, require the utmost dedication to doctors instructions and physical therapy, you are confined to a wheelchair for at least a year, and you only gain 2-3 inches in height. Ther... (read in full...)
How do I stop from getting BV?
Q. How do I control BV (bacterial vaginosis)? I get this all the time, it's rather annoying. I'm constantly on metrodizanol, then I get thrush due to the antibiotics. HELP PLEASE!!!!___ ...
A. 3 October 2011: If you have a sexual partner, they need to be treated for the infection as well, or you can be reinfected during sex.
If you haven't already, you may want to talk to your doctor about having a specimen sent to a lab to be cultured so the exact or... (read in full...)
I broke up with b/f to make him realize he took me forgranted, but it backfired!
Q. i don't know what to do... i was in a long distance relationship for almost 5 years, and things were not going well... he's always been insecure, never trusted me enough and i was going through a rough time in my life... i really needed his suppo...
A. 3 October 2011: Even if you made the decision for the wrong reason, you made the right decision when you broke up with him. He seems like he is stuck in a rut and has been for some time. When I was around your age, I broke up with a long-term boyfriend under ... (read in full...)
Living together vs. the FIOS contract
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, How would you take this comment? Dating exclusively 11 mos, we're seeing each other 4-5 nights a wk (includes sleeping over), we're had a couple of vacations together but talk of the future has been minuscule other...
A. 3 October 2011: He seems preoccupied with finances. I'm surprised he hasn't considered the amount of money he has spent driving to sleepovers at your house...or are you the one who is spending money on gas to visit him? As for FIOS, if he JUST signed the contr... (read in full...)
She's the girl of my dreams but she wants space.
Q. Hello, I have been in a fairly good relationship for almost 5 years now, I love my girlfriend so much but she doesn't seem to appreciate it, lately things have started to go downhill, its been over 5 weeks since we have been intimate, we have had no ...
A. 3 October 2011: From a woman's standpoint: if she is not interested in sexual relations with you and she has told you she wants space she is obviously upset about something. For her, this is not just about sex, nor is it about how you feel about her. It seems l... (read in full...)
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