My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks.
Q. I need some outside advice... We've dated for over 2 years now. My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks. Each time, she had what sounds and feels like a reasonable excuse why it happened. First time, she had fallen asle...
A. 12 December 2012: Here's the deal: going out and having fun is low priority compared to being sick, hospitalized family members, and final exams.
If she was going out and partying and avoiding you, then i could understand your hurt feelings, but she isn't.
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What can I do about my hairy butt? Because I'm worried my Gf will be grossed out by it.
Q. My gf wants to do things to my butt. but i am really conscious because its hairy. What do i do , I dont want to stop her from doing it because it'll be embarassing, but it will be even more embarassing if she gets grossed out when she actually sees...
A. 10 December 2012: As long as your hair is clean, she should not have a problem.... (read in full...)
How can I stop being hurt by the break-up with my husband when he was never good for me in the first place?
Q. How can I stop being hurt by my husband when he was never good for me and over the idea of getting back together with him for our child's sake? Been married 6 years, currently separated (2nd time) and have a two year old son. Lots of bad stuff hap...
A. 8 December 2012: "I thought I was doing the best thing for my child to not have him grow up in a dysfunctional home with a father who had a track record of leaving when things got rough."
You need to do what is best for your child.
A loving single parent ho... (read in full...)
Can't talk to her without her getting angry, what do I do?
Q. I am in a relationship and my partner can be easily annoyed and agitated! If I try and tease her or make a joke she can get really defensive and angry and that just makes me angry and agitated! I love her but it can make me feel bad and I feel that ...
A. 8 December 2012: Are you certain your teasing and jokes are clever and amusing? Or are they really clever and amusing to you because you are making a joke out of her?... (read in full...)
How can I keep a friendship with her and be OK with her being with someone else?
Q. I'm a staight woman who has fallen in love with my female best friend. We met in high school over 13 years ago. After a year of friendship we had feelings for each other and started a secret sexual relationship. Now we are both mothers she's been ...
A. 8 December 2012: You could start by setting up boundries in your relationship.
Before that, you need to decide if you can make this sacrifice for her and still maintain friendly contact, or if even friendly contact is too much pain for you to bear.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin the relationship, due to my dislike of porn? Or are there bigger issues of concern in this relationship?
Q. Disclaimer: This is long but I really need advice and help. Please! I'm having a hard time letting go of my ex boyfriend. We were together for 20 months and just broke up last Sunday. We were living together the past 2.5 months. He was my first ...
A. 8 December 2012: "He wouldn't even kiss me goodbye when we were breaking up"
Why on earth did you expect him to kiss you goodbye when you were breaking up? This is real life, not the movies!
You argue with a man for most of the relationship about his porn h... (read in full...)
Would I be right to tell anyone I meet in the future that I'm a virgin because I feel like I am, despite having tried to have sex a number of times?
Q. Dear cupids, I do not know how to explain how I feel at the moment. I am disgusted with myself. After I experienced bleeding, I still tried to have sex again like a month after. I bled again and every time I bleed. I believe I am still a virgin cos ...
A. 8 December 2012: Because you have had sexual intercourse, you are no longer a virgin.
Bleeding and pain during intercourse are symptoms that need to be addressed by a doctor if at all possible.
Most likely, the bleeding is a sign that you have at least partial... (read in full...)
My bf's nervous problem causes problems for us..what should I do?
Q. Hello there! I have a little problem and i don't know how to deal with it... I'm in a serious relationship for almost one year, and so far, it's been great. However, whenever my boyfriend gets nervous, he has a terrible stomachache and ...
A. 6 December 2012: I only know one person who would hide in bathrooms like your boyfriend does. This guy blamed his 'stomach pains' on anxiety. The truth came out months later. He didn't really have stomach pains. He was addicted to drugs, would go to the bathroom ... (read in full...)
My best friend's younger sister wants me to pop her cherry and give her a crash course in lovemaking...but she has a boyfriend
Q. There's a girl who wants me to take her virginity and teach her about sex with a guy. She's a friend, but not a girlfriend, and I'm unsure about how to handle it. I'm 23 and hope to graduate next May with a degree in marketing. I'm unattached ...
A. 6 December 2012: I do not think that you should do anything with your best friend's little sister. If you do, you will complicate things beyond what you can imagine.
She can find the information she seeks online.
If she wants to make sure her first time doesn... (read in full...)
We break up, we make up, but nothing has changed. What do I do about her?
Q. I have been back with my girlfriend only a week after us breaking up. We broke up because I found she had been registering on dating sites. Not only that but had been engaging in explicit conversation and exchanging photos. At first she denied it ...
A. 6 December 2012: She is not attached to you in the same way you are to her. If she was, she wouldn't continue to cheat.
She is angry that you were being attentive and brought her flowers...and caught her lying to you about carrying on with others.
I do no... (read in full...)
I already feel so unloved by this guy, it's like I'm just a friend that sleeps in the same bed as him at night
Q. I've been dating (officially) my boyfriend for only 2 weeks, but for 3 months we've been on and off, like acting like a couple, but with no commitments. Getting together, I thought all the hard times would be behind us, because we had such a ho...
A. 6 December 2012: You have been together on and off for 3 months and official for two weeks.
"So why is it so difficult to act like a normal loving relationship?" your relationship is still very new. It is obvious that neither of you are comfortable talking ... (read in full...)
"I love her as much as I could" What does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when a man says "I loved her as much as I could.?" I ask, because, an associate of mine cited that he cheated and left an ex girlfriend over twenty something years ago, but he claims that while she "loved him more than he loved ...
A. 6 December 2012: It means he felt obligated to love her, but it was obvious that she loved him more than he could ever love her in return.
Her love for him was unconditional but his love was only out of some ill-conceived duty or obligation to her because he saw h... (read in full...)
I just had a baby, walking around on eggshells because husband has panic attacks if I try to talk about our problems!
Q. Hi, Wanted to ask opinions about my relationship difficulties, as I am feeling a bit stuck right now... I have been married for 5 years and just had our first child, who is now only a few weeks old. Husband is a good, kind man and loving and su...
A. 6 December 2012: His panic attacks began on your honeymoon. Are you certain they are because he thinks you are going to leave him? What triggered the first attack? Has he seen a doctor and had bloodwork performed to ensure he doesn't have a physical problem that ... (read in full...)
Female Boss Sending Flirty Winkies Boils Over Into Sexual Harassment?
Q. Female board member flirty texts my husband numerous times per day w/ lots of ;)winky smiles, etc. She constantly leans in and whispers in his ear in public and even takes my seat when I get up. I think she follows school events and knows where to ...
A. 6 December 2012: This is a public school district that receives money from your state...correct?
If these communications are occurring on city/county/state issued property, you should be able to demand that the state turn over the text records.
Please resear... (read in full...)
Do you think it is just stress? Or could I have some sort of mental health issues?
Q. Hi so i'm having a lot of difficulties right now. I'm in my last year of university and it's tough i've been trying my best and trying to stress as i am a very stressful person. There have been numerous things going on in my life also. Stuff that's ...
A. 4 December 2012: You don't necessarily need a doctor. A psychiatrist does have benefits as he/she can prescribe medications if you have symptoms of mental illness; however, self-harming behavior often requires behavioral intervention. A psychotherapist may be able ... (read in full...)
Do you think it is just stress? Or could I have some sort of mental health issues?
Q. Hi so i'm having a lot of difficulties right now. I'm in my last year of university and it's tough i've been trying my best and trying to stress as i am a very stressful person. There have been numerous things going on in my life also. Stuff that's ...
A. 3 December 2012: It is a combination of stress and not having an outlet for your stress and negative emotions.
If you can find a counselor that you like, you should start therapy so you can develop positive coping and stress management skills.... (read in full...)
How do you know if you have an yeast infection?
Q. i heard that a women's scent changes depending on diet. i'm starting to see discharge and it has a chlorine scent and is white but a little thick and creamy. i am on the iud birth control method so could that be changes as well? i don't have ...
A. 3 December 2012: A yeast infection is extremely uncomfortable. Along with a thick white discharge (doesn't have a foul smell), you will often experience redness and irritation of the vulva.
Yeast infections almost always itch/burn.
White disharge alone d... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask the doctor for an x-ray so I can see my condition?
Q. i have scoliosis, one of my hips are flat and the other comes out alot which makes my body tilt to one side. im curantly doing physiotherapy. i haven't had an x ray at all, according to the GP my scoliosis isn't that bad, but i think it looks bad, ...
A. 3 December 2012: After a certain age, scoliosis cannot be treated. Your parents should speak with the doctor who diagnosed you and either discuss your treatment plan or seek a referral to another doctor.... (read in full...)
The guy I'm just starting to date may have given me strep throat. Should I tell him?
Q. I have this crush on a guy who I think gave me strep throat about a month ago when we hung out. How do I tell him? What if I'm wrong? I met this guy this past summer at an event. He body painted me and we became friends on facebook and I finally got ...
A. 30 November 2012: Many people are carriers of the strep throat bacteria and never exhibit symptoms.
While he may have given you strep throat, you could also get it from sharing cups, plates, or utensils and if you smoke you can get it from sharing a cigarett... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is respectful and caring but indifferent about love, what's the story?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Whilst he behaves is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, in fact he tells me he doesn't. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or I should be a little patient with him? He ...
A. 30 November 2012: You are young. Do not waste some of the best years of your life with someone who provides you with 'small talk' and treats you with 'indifference.' This is not respect. This is what he feels obligated to provide you with after almost two years ... (read in full...)
In love with a drug addict
Q. there is this guy. he is a couple years younger than me. i'm 22 he is 20. i've known him for about 3 years. he has extreme depression and social anxiety. he is extremely shy and it was a lot of work to build a friendship with him. we have only hung ...
A. 30 November 2012: You've hung out 3 times in 3 years. Of course he thinks you are looking for attention when you told his sister about him being violent and taking drugs!
Your obsession with him is unhealthy for both of you. Whether he is genuinely shy or not, ... (read in full...)
What would you think if your other half seeks emotional support from the opposite sex?
Q. I have a boyfriend (tgt about 3 years) and everything seems to work out ok between us. I don't know about other ppl, but I always need to feel "connected" to the one I love by having deep conversations, I love sharing deep thoughts, ideas......
A. 30 November 2012: I think you are looking for a "kindred spirit" and not a "soul mate."
The relationship with a "kindred spirit" has platonic implications, while the relationship with a "soul mate" has romantic implications.... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 29 November 2012: I've gotten into fist fights with a younger brother because he wouldn't stop putting his fingers in my face despite repeated warnings that i would punch him if he didn't knock it off. Not that either one of us was in the right...but i damn well ... (read in full...)
Worried I'm gay?
Q. Well I'm 13 I like girls, but I'm scared I'm turning gay I kind of get excited when I think about a penis, I get hard when I think of a penis, but I would never want to have sex or kiss another guy I'm sure i was born straight, I mean when...
A. 28 November 2012: Yes sweetie, it is just a phase.
You are born gay or bi or whatever. You don't change into it later.... (read in full...)
Am I just trying to see something that is not there?
Q. So I am wondering if anyone out there is an expert on body language. Theres this person in my life who well I find quite attractive. The problem is he has a matter of authority above me and is responible for my performance in what I do. I am not ...
A. 27 November 2012: If you are genuinely 'not trying to start something,' then please stop 'trying to see something that is not there.'
He is in a position of authority over you and trets you the same as everyone else. You answered your own question, you know.... (read in full...)
How do you go from a drug fueled intense relationship to something normal? Am I weird for still wanting my ex?
Q. My life is going a bit out of control. My ex got me into taking drugs. When we took this we had such incredible sex, sometimes for 8 hours. I'm not saying its his fault that I took them because everyone can make up their minds about taking things. I ...
A. 17 November 2012: Would you mind specifying which drugs you were influenced by? I only ask because certain types of psychoactive drugs (mainly hallucinogens, empathogens, and entactogens) cause an intensely intimate bond between two people. This bond is heightened ... (read in full...)
'Making Love' versus 'Having Sex' with boyfriend.
Q. So I guess this is a question about lovemaking vs sex. I had spent the day with my boyfriend and he was helping me studying. Then after several hours I had to go out to do something else, and we were kissing a bit, and I said, I have to go, and ...
A. 16 November 2012: He helped you study and did not distract you even though your cleavage was obviously distracting him for HOURS.
If your cleavage was not on display for him, then who was it for? I am sure he thought you dressed sexy for him and after behaving... (read in full...)
What is wrong with people these days? They say I look like some-one that I don't look like.
Q. people say i look like sheldon's girlfriend from the big bang theory. i do have thick stright hair and glasses but i don't think i look as ugly as her, i have long straight hair (some people say it looks silky) i have some reading glasses, no ...
A. 15 November 2012: I've been told that I look like a llama, and I've also been called 'sir.'
Why not try different styles with your hair? Maybe have a stylist layer it to give it some bounce, or maybe try using curlers to mix things up a bit.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I have a fight over why I didn't take a shower???
Q. Need some advice on an argument I had with my girlfriend. So a few weeks ago, we were invited to my godson's birthday party. My gf decided she didn't want to go, so I went alone. A couple weeks later, my gf and I go out to brunch, but before we ...
A. 15 November 2012: Your girlfriend's post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-is-dirty-and-wont-take-a.html... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is dirty and won't take a shower for me, how can I get him to?
Q. My Boyfriend does not like to keep himself hygienically clean. He is almost a 40 year old man. His average is a shower every three days. He thinks that he is clean. It gets hard to be intimate due to his lack of cleanliness; it affects my sex life ...
A. 15 November 2012: Your boyfriend's post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriend-and-i-have-a-fight-over-why.html... (read in full...)
I'm being torn over which parent to spend Christmas with! I don't need this!
Q. After a tough year getting divorced I am now facing a dilemma over Christmas Day. My immediate family (Mum and Dad and Sister) live 2 - 3 hours drive in different directions to me. Both want to see me on Xmas Day but... they have fallen out yet ...
A. 15 November 2012: If you really feel like his family is welcoming you, then go with your boyfriend for Christmas.
The only other option I can see is perhaps visit one parent on Christmas and one on New Years, or perhaps visit them on two different days close to... (read in full...)
I'm an intelligent woman losing her wits over a crush on my professor!
Q. Adult Woman Crush on Professor, This is extremely distracting to me. I have not been able to fully focus in class, I got my first B+ in a class that is an easy A+ (due to the fact I was more concerned how I looked prior to class than going over ...
A. 14 November 2012: Most universities and colleges forbid professors from engaging in relationships with current students. Depending on your institution's policy, he may be able to date students that he does not teach or aren't getting a degree from his department; ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get together for sex - does she really want more??
Q. i've been seperated from my girlfriend for about a month now. we split due to differences between us. for example, she's very high strung, i'm very laid back. she's very conservative with how she wants to raise kids (which we both decided we would ...
A. 14 November 2012: A bird and a fish can make a home together in a marsh, the wetlands, or even along a river, lakeside, or the sea's shore. But both the bird and the fish must compromise to live in harmony.... (read in full...)
How do we tell our parents that my 17 year old girlfriend is pregnant?
Q. I really don't know what to do with this situation. I'm 21, in my last year at undergrad (pursuing my PhD), and have a 17 year old girlfriend back home who, after a very passionate end-of-summer date in August, is now three months pregnant. And she ...
A. 14 November 2012: Who is going to pay for the baby?
Diapers are expensive! A box of around 100 is 18-25 dollars. Babies can go through 6-10 diapers a day. You will also need to buy wipes. Every 10 days you will be spending at least $25 on diapers and wipes. ... (read in full...)
Where is our 'friendship' going? Do I even like her in that way?
Q. I don't really know who to ask for advice or guidance on this so ... hello Dear Cupid I'm a second-year university student. Since starting the academic year in late September I have been spending a lot of time with one of my 'closer' female ...
A. 14 November 2012: If she seems upset with you and/or another woman after you hook up with one it is because she likes you as more than a friend.
I think you should go for it. If she rejects you, you can still be friends.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want any kids so why does he always want sex when I am at the most fertile time?
Q. my bf of ovr 22 yrs says he doesnt want more kids, but the way he acts during sex and how he seems to not be so worried about geting me pregnant and asking when every month my period is due and we always eem to have sex only during the most ...
A. 14 November 2012: It has to do with pheromones.
When you are fertile, your body produced hormones that a guy can sense and it makes him unconsciously desire you. It is a biological mechanism...but one he probably is not aware he is influenced by.
If he has tol... (read in full...)
Can I have your opinions on this? I can't tell if he likes me based on our night together.
Q. Ok, this may be a little long, but I can promise that it's worth the read. So, about a few months ago I saw this extremely cute guy at a store. He gave me a discount, but being as shy as I am, I didn't say anything. I went back, oh, about 2 weeks ag...
A. 14 November 2012: I he talks about other girls alot, it is very possible that he has many female friends, and/or friends with benefits.
Why not just tell him that you think that you have good chemistry together. Then ask him if he feels the same and if he would li... (read in full...)
My husband flipped out because I wore a male co-worker's jacket! Is he making it too big of a deal?
Q. Hi everyone. Pretty quick question: Is it okay to wear a male coworker's jacket if you are married? My husband found out that my coworker let's me wear his jacket at work and totally flipped out. I don't see the harm in it. Let me know what you th...
A. 14 November 2012: I think you should bring your own jacket to work.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I have a fight over why I didn't take a shower???
Q. Need some advice on an argument I had with my girlfriend. So a few weeks ago, we were invited to my godson's birthday party. My gf decided she didn't want to go, so I went alone. A couple weeks later, my gf and I go out to brunch, but before we ...
A. 14 November 2012: This is NOT about showering. This is about her feeling like she isn't important to you!!!
Maybe she is stressed out, tired, and/or even depressed.
Whatever is going on, you two need to talk about what each of you feels is 'wrong' with you... (read in full...)
My specialist doctor makes me feel very uncomfortable around him.
Q. I've been seeing a specialist doctor over the last couple of years about an medical problem regarding an intimate area and have to see him again in the future for check ups. I feel a bit uncomfortable around him. He stares at my lips the whole ...
A. 14 November 2012: Is he older? Could he be reading your lips due to a hearing impairment?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is dirty and won't take a shower for me, how can I get him to?
Q. My Boyfriend does not like to keep himself hygienically clean. He is almost a 40 year old man. His average is a shower every three days. He thinks that he is clean. It gets hard to be intimate due to his lack of cleanliness; it affects my sex life ...
A. 14 November 2012: Warning: if you follow this link it has foul language and raunchy humor. Your boyfriend should read it...especially #4
http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-things-men-do-to-ruin-their-own-sex-lives/... (read in full...)
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