Does he want me to move on?
Q. i don't know how to take this. recently the man i've been involved with for a better part of 5 yrs responded to an email i sent him wishing him and his family a Happy Thanksgiving. Mind you this was the first time i attempted to write to him...
A. 4 December 2011: Do you want to make yourself available to sex with a man who only wants you for that purpose?
If you had moved on completely from this man and were seein another you were compatible with not only sexually, but also emotionally, would you even con... (read in full...)
My husband is a true conflict phobic, is never assertive and its causing a lot of problems for us
Q. My husband is a very gentle guy, and does not like to argue with anybody. He hates conflicts, and whenever he can ,he trying to avoid them. He is a true conflict phobic. I love him, and it makes him a very kind father, and husband. But sadly it ...
A. 4 December 2011: Take photos of the damage and document when they were paid, your attempts to contact them, and any conversations you have had with them regarding the damage. Keep track of people you spoke to, and the dates you spoke with them.
If the contract... (read in full...)
Does he want me to move on?
Q. i don't know how to take this. recently the man i've been involved with for a better part of 5 yrs responded to an email i sent him wishing him and his family a Happy Thanksgiving. Mind you this was the first time i attempted to write to him...
A. 4 December 2011: Something else is going on here that you are unaware of.
He told you he had hoped you would move on while he was gone. Likely, your moving on to someone else would make you sexually unavailable to him. This is just a guess, but it seems like he ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to move on?
Q. i don't know how to take this. recently the man i've been involved with for a better part of 5 yrs responded to an email i sent him wishing him and his family a Happy Thanksgiving. Mind you this was the first time i attempted to write to him...
A. 4 December 2011: Something else is going on here that you are unaware of.
He told you he had hoped you would move on while he was gone. Likely, your moving on to someone else would make you sexually unavailable to him. This is just a guess, but it seems like he ... (read in full...)
I feel heavy because of my height and want to be an model
Q. I have serious body image issues. I'm 5'11, and I think I'm attractive. Because of my height I constantly feel heavy - I'm 64kgs. Im very uncomfortable round boys because of it and don't act confidently- sometimes I just feel like crying and othe...
A. 4 December 2011: To start: your weight is perfectly acceptable and healthy both for your height and age. You are likely even a bit on the lower side of average. If you think you need to lose weight, I urge you to speak with your physician before embarking on any ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat or is it all in my head?
Q. hey everyone I have bi polar disorder and depression and anxiety issues and paranoia...(yeah I know its a big nice gift right?) anyways...I am engaged to my fiance (obviously thats why hes my fiance lol) but lets see...a few months back I found a ...
A. 2 December 2011: It is possible that the wrapper he put in his pocket that day went through the wash, possibly more than once before it fell out on the floor?
It is also entirely possible that one of you accidentally tracked a condom wrapper into your home fro... (read in full...)
Unhygienic session of anal sex.. Will I get sick?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and finally had anal sex. I've had anal sex before but they've always taken place in the shower (with my ex of five years) so it had always been clean and super enjoyable. Well, it kind of ...
A. 2 December 2011: Brush and floss your teeth and use a mouthwash (3% hydrogen peroxide mixed with an equal amount of water works really well.)
While it seems gross, you should not become sick. If there is a next time, make sure he washes it off quick with soap and... (read in full...)
Want feeling back in penis.
Q. Alright so the deal is my penis is very imsensitive, and only becomes sensitive when I orgasm. For maybe two years I was an idiot and did that stupid bed humping thing. It's not too bad but head doesnt feel like it used to, and my gf's handies ...
A. 2 December 2011: You aren't currently taking any medications that could diminish sensation in your penis like anti-depressants, opiates, or certain muscle-relaxers are you?... (read in full...)
What should I do with my girlfriend who is into muscles
Q. This would sound a bit silly, but i've become to realize my gal is a MUSCLE fan. She even mentions it in a very inconsiderate way, like if we'd be talking, and i mentioned a guy's name, she's say "yeh the guy with the muscles" literately. No ...
A. 2 December 2011: Are you saying that you feel a bit insecure because your girlfriend described one guy (whose obvious defining feature is his well-stacked frame) as 'the guy with the muscles?'.
I have a brother who is described as 'the guy with Spock ears,' a... (read in full...)
Father with two kids and a persistent housewife
Q. We have a married couple with 2 kids where the husband wishes to divorce his wife but she wants to continue with the marriage. Here are some questions I'd like to get your answers to : 1)How can a single father protect himself and the kids when he...
A. 2 December 2011: The only step he should take is talking to a lawyer.
Why do you want to divorce your wife who happens to be a housewife?
What makes you think you will get the children and not her?
You do realize you will likely be paying for her lawyer du... (read in full...)
My married lover wants to continue seeing me while he ties up loose ends with his soon to be ex-wife
Q. I am involved with a man who is still married but unhappy. he tells me he will file for divorce within the next 5 months because he is unhappy. he wants to wait to do it because she is not able to support herself financially due to their debt.......
A. 2 December 2011: If you are planning on sticking around, you need to wait 5 months.
If he hasn't divorced in the period of time he gave you, it is time to move on completely.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend has crossed the line
Q. I am friends with my boyfriend's guy friend and his girlfriend...We double date occasionally. Well, I never really talk to the guy friend and my boyfriend never really talks to his girlfriend, except when we're all together...so this guy recently ...
A. 2 December 2011: Actually, talking helps has a good point. There are many people, men especially, that get some kind of thrill from making people (especially women) uncomfortable.
My fiancée does it. Usually not to me because I'll ignore him trying to get a ri... (read in full...)
Where is he getting his sexual needs met? I'm worried he has an addiction to meeting new people....
Q. I have been datiing this man for a year and we fist we all over on another and then as a year approached it became less. i know how relationships go and they do settle down in the sex department the longer your together. i was even married for 15 ...
A. 2 December 2011: Perhaps he wants you to initiate?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend has crossed the line
Q. I am friends with my boyfriend's guy friend and his girlfriend...We double date occasionally. Well, I never really talk to the guy friend and my boyfriend never really talks to his girlfriend, except when we're all together...so this guy recently ...
A. 2 December 2011: It is inappropriate, but if it is flirting it is definitely a weird way to go about it. He seems more like he gets a thrill out of being vulgar.... (read in full...)
What is with men being attracted to teenagers?
Q. I've seen a few questions on here about this. Guys if you're in your twenties why don't you want to date someone your own age? Why do you want to be with someone who hasnt even finished school? Is it because it's forbidden?...
A. 1 December 2011: Both of my brothers would date younger girls. They weren't in their 20s and dating high schoolers, but they were 18 and 19 and dating 14-15 year olds. With my two brothers, the relationships with younger girls were NOT sexual. The girls parent... (read in full...)
Would it be better to not get married and disappoint our families?
Q. I am due to get married in three months. For the past two years I have been catching my soon to be wife in darting chat rooms. She has been clumsy and left things around,including guys phone numbers. I have never been able to get past this as she ...
A. 1 December 2011: If she is not committed to you now, your vows will mean nothing when you marry.
Won't your families be even more disappointed if you marry only to divorce later on?
... (read in full...)
No more erections!
Q. For emotional reasons, I believe it's best that I stop having sex. I'm wondering if there are any techniques that can train you to never have an erection again, like pinching your skin very hard each time you get an erection. Would there be an...
A. 1 December 2011: Thank you for taking the time to write us a response and provide more information about the nature of problem, and the difficulties you have experienced with treatments. Regarding anti-depressants: when I was 18 I was prescribed a ssri called Zolo... (read in full...)
I feel so used and don't understand what is going on
Q. So to make a long story short. Met one night 7 months ago. Been talking and hanging out ever since. One day, he just stopped talking to me. For two weeks I tried to pretend I didn't care, but one night, my emotions got the best of me and I contacted ...
A. 1 December 2011: Thanks for the follow up. Sorry for being way off base with my original advice. All things considered, I think you may like him a lot more than a little. And there's a good possibility he feels the same way. Guys don't usually talk about settl... (read in full...)
Bed bug problem! My boyfriend doesn't believe he has them even though I get bitten!
Q. I have a unique problem. My bf wont support me on bed bug problem and its causing great strain. I mistakenly bought a used mattress a little while back and i started getting bitten all over. I sanitized everything in my place but then I think one ...
A. 1 December 2011: Are you certain you aren't being bitten by another type of bug?
Fleas and Mosquitos can cause nasty bites for some people due to an allergic reaction. When my niece is bitten by a flea, the area becomes hugely red, inflamed, and looks like a b... (read in full...)
No more erections!
Q. For emotional reasons, I believe it's best that I stop having sex. I'm wondering if there are any techniques that can train you to never have an erection again, like pinching your skin very hard each time you get an erection. Would there be an...
A. 1 December 2011: You need to speak with a psychiatrist who specializes in sexual issues. A psychiatrist can address both the emotional issues surrounding your desire to eliminate sex from your life and can prescribe medication that will diminish or eliminate your ... (read in full...)
Am I reading the signs correctly?
Q. okok so ive been chatting online for 2 weeks with a lovely girl - shes 26..gorgeous. funny. intelligent. etc... after a week, she confided that she had a bf.. i was super chilled. said wow he must be awesome. i hope he appreciates what he has... she ...
A. 1 December 2011: Seems like she is looking for a man to take care of her seeing as she didn't have someone lined up already. She seems like a party girl. Manipulative. A user who is using sex appeal to take advantage of the next willing man she's lined up... .... (read in full...)
I feel so used and don't understand what is going on
Q. So to make a long story short. Met one night 7 months ago. Been talking and hanging out ever since. One day, he just stopped talking to me. For two weeks I tried to pretend I didn't care, but one night, my emotions got the best of me and I contacted ...
A. 1 December 2011: My best friend was in a similar situation. Everything was on his terms. He would have her over when it was convienent. She'd run to his place to take care of him when he was sick, needed a shoulder to cry on, or even if his youngest child needed ... (read in full...)
Irregular periods are making me nervous about having children in the future, what should I do?
Q. Just want some readers opinions on this. I've been tracking my menstrual cycle and in this year alone (2011), ive so far had 6 periods. Obviously this is different to the 'typical' woman who may have 1 every month or so. It's making me nervo...
A. 30 November 2011: You need to see a gynecologist. Irregular periods can be a symptom of a hormonal imbalance that could affect your ability to become pregnant.
You need to keep track of your periods on a calendar. Information like what day it begins, how heavy or... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be fingered, how can I change her mind?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if anyone could help me here. So me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year and a half and naturally we are progressing sexually. The problem is, she gives me hand but I want to give her as well. She hates the id...
A. 29 November 2011: Take a look at your hands.
Is your skin especially on your fingers soft or rough? Do you have calluses? If your skin is dry and rough or you have calluses, it can be uncomfortable or even painful for a woman to be fingered.
How often do ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with an abortion at 21 weeks?
Q. im 21 weeks pregnent with no family around me they all live in australia and my partner has decided to leave me and now wants nothing to do with my child and me i dont think ii can do this whole thing on my own so have recently thought about ge...
A. 28 November 2011: In my humble opinion, the fact that you are referring to your pregnancy as a 'baby' and 'child' means you are already somewhat emotionally attached to it. I feel very strongly that if you opt to terminate at this point in your pregnancy, you could ... (read in full...)
My friends have replaced me with a girl they just met
Q. My group of 3 friends has replaced me with the new girl. I have been away sick for a few weeks and they tell me how amazing this girl is and I feel left out, then they say they are all best friends now. It makes me really sad because they have kno...
A. 28 November 2011: I think they have been talking about her to you because they want ALL of you to be friends, not because they have replaced you.
Why not get to know her and see if all of you can be friends?... (read in full...)
The man who I thought of as a father figure has started hitting on me and I think its disgusting!
Q. Hi all, I am feeling so pathetic right now. So I recently got to know this particular someone through my work. He was like a father figure as he was very helpful and I felt like he treated me like a daughter-ish or you know, like h...
A. 28 November 2011: Express to him that you see him as a father figure and that you view your relationship as that of a mentor/mentee and father/daughter. Tell him you respect him as a person, but you cannot now, nor will you ever view the relationship between the two ... (read in full...)
Was low self esteem a factor in the demise of these relationships?
Q. Hello guys :) I would really appreciate some insight on an issue! In the past 3 years (basically since I started dating), I've been badly hurt by 2 men. I was involved with each of them for around a year, so they wasn't exactly short-term r...
A. 28 November 2011: There is a difference between making someone feel special and completely compromising who you are for the sake of being in a relationship. I have a really strong feeling that you are being who the guy wants you to be instead of just being ... (read in full...)
I'm in a panic over his impotence. What would the average person do? Stay or go if their man is impotent?
Q. Would you stay with your husband, if he can't get an erection when you try to have sex, and he has no idea why? It started suddenly after a a huge argument, when he said, "I never loved you, I just stayed with you". Then 2 weeks after this, hi...
A. 28 November 2011: If I loved him, and was sure he felt the same way, I would encourage him to see and discuss the issue with his doctor so he could get a full check up. Impotence can have physical causes and his doctor could perform the necessary medical tests to ... (read in full...)
Does his comment actually mean anything because of ellipses in it
Q. I invited an old flame out for a coffee next time he was up near where I lived. I didn't get a response until he accidentially posted a comment on my status page on facebook which was meant for someone else. I private messaged him the next day to ...
A. 28 November 2011: I think he may be hoping the dialogue with you will continue, but he is uncertain what else to say...... (read in full...)
How to deal with my messy flatmates?
Q. Hey everyone, I was wondering if you could advise me how to deal with this situation. Basically, I am in first year of university, living in halls in a flat with 5 other girls. We share a kitchen/ living area. I get on with them alright, but they...
A. 28 November 2011: Keep it in your room...dishes, cola, squash (?) anything and everything you don't want them to use.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do or say that will get them to extend simple common courtesy to you.
I had to share a bathroom with tw... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon for the "L" word?
Q. I met a really great girl about 6 weeks ago. We get along great and we have been spending a lot of time together. She lives about 30 miles away from me and yet we still spend about 4 days per week together - Friday one of us goes to visit the othe...
A. 28 November 2011: You should talk to her and find out how she feels about you and whether you are in a relationship exclusively with one another. Explain to her that you see her as someone you would like to be in an exclusive relationship with, and see if she feels ... (read in full...)
If he pulls out before he comes does that reduce the chance of pregnancy?
Q. Ok me and my boyfriend was talking about if we have sex and he pulls out before the semen comes out does that reduce the possibility of me getting pregnant ? Haha sorry about how I ask the question I just really didn't know how to put it ...
A. 27 November 2011: This method didn't work for either of my brothers. I'm an auntie (twice!) because they thought they were ok if they pulled out.
If you are going to have sex, he needs to at least be wearing a condom. You should follow the instructions that com... (read in full...)
Will I be single forever? Or are some men ok with a girl being good looking?
Q. Hi this is a question for the men. All my friends amd family tell me how good looking I am, but I don't think I am. Men always seem to have a problem with my supposed good looks. Every man I've been out with has broken it off with me. What is it...
A. 27 November 2011: Are you sure it has to do with your looks? I have a strong feeling your actions play a larger part in this than your good looks.
Take a look at your actions and what you have done in the weeks leading up to the breakups. Some things you are doin... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend the condom split when we were having sex?
Q. I really need help :/ I had sex with a condom with my girlfriend but I think the condom split! She dosent know it yet, I want to tell her but its only a matter of time before she finds out anyway, its just I think I should mention it first so it ...
A. 25 November 2011: Please READ and FOLLOW all of the instructions that come with your box of condoms. These instructions tell you how to properly put on the condom, when you must remove it, how to check for breaks, and how to discard it once used.
In the future, ... (read in full...)
How can I boost my sex appeal??
Q. hi i was wondering how to boost my sex appeal. I have been with my fiance for 8 years. And i feel she know longer fancys me. She has know interest in sex and doesnt masturbate. I work out with average build. Do most me the house work and all the ...
A. 25 November 2011: If your wife doesn't have much energy and is in bed resting frequently, she needs to see her doctor.... (read in full...)
Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 25 November 2011: Perhaps you find a specific physical trait attractive, like his skin tone, eye color, or hair color/thickness...?
This sort of thing doesn't mean you are bi, it means you are human.... (read in full...)
He acts like a complete jackass towards me but I cant let him go, help!
Q. Hello. What to do when your boyfriend of almost 3 years stops having sex with you, doesn't talk to you like that anymore, ignores your calls/texts, acts like he doesn't want you around, constantly lies about little simple things, rarely spends times ...
A. 25 November 2011: He is too much of a coward to break things off with you, so he is cruelly trying to show you the relationship is over (and has been for awhile) through his actions.
Please try to find the inner strength to break up with him and move forward ... (read in full...)
His text left me confused! What do you think he meant by this?
Q. hi - it is official i hate texting !!! This guy and i went out a couple of times and we slept together. Always initiated by him. I texted him asking to go out for drinks and he replied something VERY confusing: "i have to go out with some colleg...
A. 25 November 2011: Ok. Colleagues usually means work-related folk.
Most likely, he DID want to meet up with you, but he wanted to ensure you understood that the people he was meeting for drinks didn't see any PDA between the two of you.... (read in full...)
Since he defends my honor, does that mean he likes me?
Q. Hey, I'm a gay (closeted) male in my sophomore year in high school. There is this really cute guy in my class and I think he might like me but I'm not sure. We are not the closet friends but he often tries to talk to me. On occasion he also touches ...
A. 25 November 2011: Do you like him for more than his looks, or do you perhaps feel your interest in him has been piqued by his outgoing nature? If the answer is yes to either of those, I do not think you should take action and risk outing yourself to your school ... (read in full...)
TMJ and blowjobs, is that even possible?
Q. Ok, so I was just sitting in my room, thinking about ways to please my boyfriend, when I realized that with TMJ (Temperal Mandibular Joint, pretty much the right side of my jaw is messed up and I cant open my mouth very wide), I'm pretty limited in ...
A. 23 November 2011: My TMJ kept me from opening my mouth very wide until I damage the joint to the point that part of my jaw pops out of place. :-/
An anti-inflammatory like naproxen or ibuprofen may reduce the swelling in your jaw enough to allow you to open you... (read in full...)
Career vs Love - what comes first?
Q. What's more important? • a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure. Or... • being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wag...
A. 23 November 2011: I'm currently in a loving relationship. Neither of us would give that up for an extra $10K per year even though that would almost double our current yearly income.... (read in full...)
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