Am I overreacting to my boyfriend spending so much time taking care of his parents?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. We are both adults. We both love each other and he has given me a ring. I have not met his parents yet, but I have met two of his siblings and his family is aware of our relation...
A. 29 September 2012: I agree that you are in a terrible position here. I am assuming that you are working so much because you need the money to pay bills and you are basically living paycheck to paycheck is this correct?
Does your boyfriend understand that you need... (read in full...)
I have an athletic body, but no boobs. Are my friends right about the comments, I'm now self conscious guys will be put off!!?
Q. I feel really self conscious about my body after the comments from people I live with at uni, now I think they're right that a guy wont like my body or maybe I should get surgery, or gain weight, anything to change myself. I'm not that tall, only ...
A. 29 September 2012: If you love athletics, stick with athletics. Having a boob job will change your body in such a way that you may not be able to perform the same athletically. Larger breasts can tear ligaments in the chest when you run. They can also cause you ... (read in full...)
Is our "sex talk" just healthy acting out, or is it going a little too far?
Q. My wife and I have enjoyed a fantastic relationship for the past 15 years. The problem is, we have been together for 17. The past couple years has been a little more up and down, but hopefully not something that we can't work through. It could be t...
A. 29 September 2012: Did you ask this question as well? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-wonder-how-someone-who-says-they-love.html... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my boyfriend spending so much time taking care of his parents?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. We are both adults. We both love each other and he has given me a ring. I have not met his parents yet, but I have met two of his siblings and his family is aware of our relation...
A. 29 September 2012: Does your boyfriend work, or are you and/or his parents supporting him?
Is there any way you could arrange your schedule or trade shifts so that you have two days off at the end of one work week and the first two days off on the next work week so ... (read in full...)
How do I get this balance right between wanting to be myself and neither be a doormat or too much like his ex? I want to be appropriately assertive.
Q. Hello Everyone, I've asked for help before about a relatively new relationship and it was so helpful - but I have another question please... my confidence is still a bit low in regard to relationships because I had a very difficult one for a ver...
A. 29 September 2012: In the past you have been so willing to put others before you that it compromised your happiness and your relationship.
The only way you will be happy in this new relationship is if you find your self and value this self. You need to know who... (read in full...)
I have concerns about returning to my FWB. What should I do though? He wants to resume, but his past actions concern me
Q. Hi I realise there is a lot of questions asked about this thank you for any answers in advance I just need some opinions on this situation I have been in a FWB for 18 months now he asked me if it could just be me and him sleeping together and not ...
A. 29 September 2012: Ok, FWB stands for "FRIENDS With Benefits." This man isn't even treating you like you are his friend. After making demands that you have sex with no one but him, you complied. In return, he told you he didn't trust you, accused you of sleeping ... (read in full...)
My g/f isn't "the one" -- but her best friend might be
Q. so ive got myself in a bit of a jam. im 25 and have dated around a lot trying to find exactly what im looking for. I started dating a new girl about 3 months ago and a few red flags are up...I know she's not the girl for me. The problem becomes ...
A. 29 September 2012: So, the best friend is a lot more attractive than your girlfriend?
It seems like this weird friendship dynamic between the two of them has been going on for awhile. Your girlfriend gets a boyfriend, who then ends up smitten with her best friend. ... (read in full...)
He played me and tore out my heart. How could he do this to a good hearted person?
Q. Hello everyone. I hope you can help me because I have never felt more down or heartbroken in my life. I have been married for ten years and my husband left me about a year ago. I do not have a lot of experience with men. I have only had my hus...
A. 28 September 2012: When a man is friends with a woman, touches her, and tells her she is attractive AND has a girlfriend already he is almost certainly looking for a 'bit on the side.'
You already know what it is like to be taken advantage of by a man who liked hi... (read in full...)
Does the love for a previous partner fade away in time, or is there always something there?
Q. This question is directed mainly at the guys, but ladies please feel free to answer too :) My current boyfriend is my first for everything, and hopefully he'll be my last! We're a long distance couple, have been together for two years now and I ...
A. 28 September 2012: Sometimes a platonic sort of love can exist between two people who were once romantically involved. Sometimes it is just friendship. Sometimes you don't like them at all as a person and don't talk to them ever again. Some people even still love ... (read in full...)
We're getting married in a few weeks and something seems off with my fiance. What should I do?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks. Everything's been great, until a couple weeks ago. I started sensing something was off with him, so I brought it up. He explained everything's fine and normal, but my instinct is feeling like he's ...
A. 28 September 2012: I use an ipod touch for everything I do online.
After awhile, i've noticed that if I do not clear the history, the cookies and cache under Safari's settings AND the website data (under the advanced tab), Safari will crash more and more frequent... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my boyfriend spending so much time taking care of his parents?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. We are both adults. We both love each other and he has given me a ring. I have not met his parents yet, but I have met two of his siblings and his family is aware of our relation...
A. 28 September 2012: If his parents are approaching 80 years old, there is a good possibility that they are 'old fashioned.' They may not believe in living/sleeping together before marriage. They may be concerned that their youngest son and caretaker will abandon them ... (read in full...)
A girl I had sex with is pregnant.
Q. Girl i know is pregnant? well there is this girl that i slept with on aug 27, i(A) did not ejactulate in her at all, she told me that she slept with another guy (B) in the same week which was on august 29 and 30, comes to find out on that she is p...
A. 27 September 2012: A pregnancy happens after a sperm from a man combines with an egg from the woman and cell division then uterine implantation occurs.
Sperm is mostly in the ejaculatory fluid. If you did not ejaculate inside her, it is probably not yours; HOWEVER,... (read in full...)
I found out recently that my ex cheated on me far more than I realized. Should I talk to him?
Q. So I was with this guy for 5 years; we didn't work out for certain reasons. And I've moved on, I'm dating someone else who I deeply care about. Recently i hung out with me and my ex's mutual friend and he confided in me that the entire time me and ...
A. 27 September 2012: Your feelings of anger are completely understandable, but I do not feel you will get the closure you desire from confronting him about his numerous infidelities. I think you want to talk to him to find out why he cheated so much. There is really ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about my boyfriend hanging out with this certain girl?
Q. My boyfriend and I have argued about this girl he talks to before. She sent him a text a while back asking him to call her before he goes to sleep so she 'can give him something good to dream about' he never called her and when i confronted him he ...
A. 27 September 2012: What reasons could you possibly have to continue a relationship when things are obviously stressful, you can't trust him, he is constantly talking to other women and posting one-sided status updates in an attempt to turn other people against you? ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about my boyfriend hanging out with this certain girl?
Q. My boyfriend and I have argued about this girl he talks to before. She sent him a text a while back asking him to call her before he goes to sleep so she 'can give him something good to dream about' he never called her and when i confronted him he ...
A. 25 September 2012: Have you tried calmly explaining to him that continuing to stay in contact with this woman is disrespectful to you? Have you (again calmly, you do not want this to be an argument...he will not listen if it is an argument) asked him how he would ... (read in full...)
I want to be less overbearing, less insecure, and more easy going with my girlfriend
Q. Kudos to those who actually read the whole thing. Any advice would be great, be as harsh as needed. I really would like to make an effort to change, and stop being an overbearing, insecure boyfriend... I feel like I may be overbearing and ...
A. 24 September 2012: Why do you feel like she needs to be the one pursuing you to spend time together?
If she is on your mind, why can't you stop by and say hello and meet her grandmother? Why can't you send a text saying you are thinking of her? Why can't you brin... (read in full...)
Should we let our friend make the same mistake or bring our concerns to her attention?
Q. My sister in law and best friend was previously married to her high school sweetheart, but she had given him an ultimatum before he proposed and he asked for a divorce eighteen months later. No one liked him, friends or family, the unanimous ...
A. 24 September 2012: My best friend was in some twisted 'friends with benefits' type relationship with an older man who used her for sex when he knew she thought they were in a relationship. He would lie to mutual friends and say she was insane and that they had ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in the middle of two amazing guys!
Q. Please help! I can't decide between these two guys and I feel just horrible. The first guy "Dan" is a laid back, more life adventurous, and spontaneous guy. We went out for almost a year and things got rocky because of our age difference and travel ...
A. 24 September 2012: What are your ultimate goals when you are in a relationship? Are you looking for the man you will eventually marry, or are you simply looking to be in a relationship with anyone who you feel you are compatible with?... (read in full...)
I feel rejected when wife turns me down for sex because I know she didn't say no to the other man
Q. Hi, I'll start this off by saying this is most likely not normal. My wife and I seperated for a couple months a few years ago. During that time she got with another man. As we were both certain we wouldn't reconcile at this time, I can't ho...
A. 24 September 2012: When a woman is in an abusive relationship, she doesn't have a choice. She could NOT say no to him because it simply wasn't an option.
She gave in to having sex with him because the alternative was worse. He was a nasty excuse for a human be... (read in full...)
She climaxed several times yet she says there is no chemistry between us
Q. I recently started going out with a woman who's quite a bit younger than me (I'm 52, she's 38). The first time we made love was in a hotel room (difficult for us to have time together at either of our houses because of our children). She orgasmed ...
A. 24 September 2012: Are you certain that she climaxed 6 times, or was she being vocal and pretending to climax in an attempt to get you to climax?... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss' wife
Q. i am a male, gemini, married but not happy after 5 years and i am in love with my boss wife who have problems with him ever so often and i think she has a crush on me and now he kind of suspects us any help ...
A. 24 September 2012: If you want to keep your job, you keep your feelings about the boss's wife to yourself.
Why are you unhappy in your marriage? If you married her, there must have been some attraction to one another in the past. What is missing in your marriage... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom has just died, would it be wrong of me to ask him to delete this girl from Facebook now?
Q. OK extension of a previous question or ongoing issue sorry so long, My BF broke up with me last Nov for 13 days started talking and befriending a new girl but they never made it on a date due to a death in her family, but he said he never really ...
A. 24 September 2012: Happy belated Birthday.
You have my sincere condolences for the loss of your dear friend.
Please, try to get some rest whenever you are able. Sleep will help curb the feelings of insecurity and anxiety you have been experiencing.
... (read in full...)
If I tell all I think he'll break up with me. Should I keep the whole truth from him forever or be honest about my earlier cheating?
Q. I've cheated on my boyfriend of 1 year 3 times, but that was when we first started seeing each other. I didn't like him that much at that time and was still quite hurt/ messed up from my last relationship, which ended 2 years ago but that was my f...
A. 22 September 2012: Had you talked with your boyfriend about being exclusive and only in a relationship with each other? If you hadn't had this chat yet, you were still DATING and not exclusively boyfriend and girlfriend. If you had not had this talk, then you did ... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of my sexual past and worried about STD's....
Q. When i was 11 years old i lost both my parents and i had to live with my granny. She waz very stingy and 2 much strict and she abused me and my little sister because she doesn't love our father's family. At the age of 15 i startf drinking alchohol ...
A. 21 September 2012: Please see a doctor and have your female exam and bloodwork done to test for STDs including HIV. You will have to request the STD testing as it is NOT part of the female exam (the PAP smear only checks the cervix for abnormal cells).
HIV infectio... (read in full...)
Should I transfer to another college to be closer to my boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and I'm in my freshman year of college. Some background information: Before I moved here I basically lived with my boyfriend over the summer, and before that we did everything together and are ...
A. 21 September 2012: Have you asked your boyfriend how he would feel about you moving closer to him?
Have you sought out your campus's counseling center to try and speak with someone about the immense stress you are under?... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 21 September 2012: You and your wife remind me of adam and eve in the garden of eden before eve gives in to the serpent's temptation and eat of the fruit from the Tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
You have everything anyone could possibly desire in a mate, yo... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my boyfriend of 2.5 years is gay
Q. I'm worried that my boyfriend may be gay. We have been together for 2.5 years. The first time he took me to his house, I thought it was odd that he had 2 teddy bears on his bed, and a large image of scooby doo in his living room. In addition, He is ...
A. 20 September 2012: A man is only gay if he is only attracted to other men. So, he is NOT gay.
Some heterosexual men like prostate stimulation and anal play but only in the confines of a relationship with a woman. It has to do with pleasure, but also with intimacy... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom has just died, would it be wrong of me to ask him to delete this girl from Facebook now?
Q. OK extension of a previous question or ongoing issue sorry so long, My BF broke up with me last Nov for 13 days started talking and befriending a new girl but they never made it on a date due to a death in her family, but he said he never really ...
A. 20 September 2012: I've read through some of your other questions to try and get a better idea of what has been bothering you about this woman who is on his darts team and is his friend.
This is what I feel you should do and why I feel this way:
You are his g... (read in full...)
How do I quit this terrible job? And should I report the company after I'm gone?
Q. How do I quit my job? I work at a very busy yet understaffed restaurant. It's run the traditional east Asian way... I'm sorry for the poor terminology. What I'm trying to say is that they're very cheap. Mangement takes some of our tip, they didn't...
A. 20 September 2012: If you are in California, the paid 10 minute break after 4 hours of work is permitted, but if you don't ask to take the 10 minute break, it doesn't count against your employer. If you ask and it isn't granted, then you may have a case.
... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the love of my life?
Q. I don't know what to do. My relationship has gone in a downward spiral from the minute it started. We met while I was visiting the East Coast from the West Coast. He moved to the West Coast for a job, and for me. We lived together in a nice little ...
A. 19 September 2012: You wouldn't be breaking up with him because he is 'dysfunctional' you would ve breaking up with him because he left almost five months ago and you have barely heard from him since then.
What about you, cottongin? Are you clean or are you still us... (read in full...)
I treated her badly but now I want her back
Q. I cheated on a woman who was madly in love with me four years ago. Not only did I cheat on her, I disrespected her, lied to her, bit her, talked bad about her behind her back to co-workers and family members. I strung her along and I put her at risk ...
A. 19 September 2012: I can assure you that she lovED (past tense) you.
I can also assure you that her behavior is completely normal.
Finally, I can assure you that she will not give you a second chance; you simply don't deserve one.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the love of my life?
Q. I don't know what to do. My relationship has gone in a downward spiral from the minute it started. We met while I was visiting the East Coast from the West Coast. He moved to the West Coast for a job, and for me. We lived together in a nice little ...
A. 18 September 2012: He isn't damaged from surgery. This is neither the hospital's or doctor's fault.
He is damaged because he chose to use HEROIN!!!
IV heroin is dangerous. It is often cut with substances that are contaminated with bacteria and not safe to inje... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: Not only did she never buy me food once to repay me for the hundreds of dollars I spent on my plan to ensure she didn't starve to death, she told me that she never had any intention of repaying my kindness. It didn't matter to her that I had to ... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: As far as the girl is considered, the next time you go together to get food, mention casually that you are a bit short on money today and ask if she can pay.
As far as the guy is concerned, he might just think, 'it is only $3.' When you see him ... (read in full...)
For the guys: Why does a perfectly nice guy stop talking to you suddenly for no reason?
Q. Hey, this is more one for the guys, as I would love to know why a perfectly (or what seems a perfectly) nice guy can just stop talking to a woman suddenly and that will be it! So the short of the suturation- met a lovely guy, in a bar about 3 we...
A. 17 September 2012: Most men don't continue the charade of being interested in someone if he is no longer interested in her and lives a long a train ride away. I think something may have happened that has prevented him from contacting you.
It is very possible... (read in full...)
Dating 2 guys but I want to stop, how do I choose which one to keep dating?
Q. I'm a complete idiot and that girl I didn't want to be. I know guys and girls do this and maybe to some it's no problem, but i'm treading very thin ice now. I met two guys who I went on a date with, only because I liked them both. That and m...
A. 17 September 2012: First, it is not wrong to date two people at once. Dating is somewhat more casual than having an official exclusive boyfriend. (That being said, IF you have told either or both guys that you are not seeing other people, that would be wrong.)
... (read in full...)
B/f doing drugs and thinks its ok as long as he treats me well
Q. so yesterday i found out my boyfriend did coke.... i had heard this from my friend and literally fought with her because i didnt believe it. then i asked my boyfriend and he told me that it was true but he would never do it again. i got very angry. ...
A. 16 September 2012: I've watched over two dozen of my friends and acquaintances choose to ruin their lives by becoming addicted to painkillers. These people all started using these drugs while in college in their late teens or early twenties. None are currently ... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: If nothing else, please purchase and use a spermicide.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's penis red and chaffed after sex. Was it just from sex?
Q. Yesterday after having sex with my boyfriend, he started to feel chafed around the head of his penis. He said it hurt a lot and I noticed it was very red. I couldn't really tell but it almost looked like he was bleeding??? We had sex even though I ...
A. 16 September 2012: Possible causes:
Friction
A fungal infection (athlete's foot and jock itch can spread to his penis if he has it, and if you have a yeast infection you can give it to him.)
It could be a STI (don't jump to this conclusion immediately u... (read in full...)
Sleepless in Canada. In the non romantic way.
Q. I've been writting about this awhile now. My marriage is in trouble and everytime I try to talk about it with her I don't get answers. This always happens when we get anyone at fighting about what it is. It always gets thrown in my face ...
A. 16 September 2012: You need to be affectionate towards her and NOT expect sex in return.
She is telling you that she wants you to prove that you live her...not just have sex with her. Whatever you have been arguing about has upset and angered her because nothing ... (read in full...)
What can I do so that he wont know I am not a virgin?
Q. Hi, m 21yr old indian girl..had been in a relationship wid a guy approx for 1yr,bt he ditched nd left me,as i trusted on him...i was in physical relationship wid him...but before 1 nd a half year... Nd now m going to marry wid anothr guy......
A. 16 September 2012: There is a cosmetic surgery procedure available in your country that can restore your hymen. Additionally, you can request blood capsules that are put inside you. This procedure and the capsules make it seem like your wedding night is your first ... (read in full...)
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