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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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How do I move on when he's a part of my life every day?
Q. I have asked for help on my failing relationship several times before, with the conclusion always being that I need to move on and get over my current boyfriend. If it was that easy, I would have done it months ago. How do I move on when he'...
A. 4 February 2011: He is a habit... its like any habit, it takes a while to adjust and get over it. Time is the only healer unfortunately.
Try and fill your time with hobbies, meeting up with friends... anything... and with time you will get over him.
You can... (read in full...)
I want to explore having sex with a man but my girlfriend won't allow it
Q. Dear cupid. I am 24 year old and am currently in a relationship with a woman. we have a pretty healthy sex life and love each other like crazy. i've never had sex with men in my whole life, and im certain that i won't feel for men. i knew i'm gay ...
A. 4 February 2011:
You are in a relationship with this woman, which is no different to being in any other loving relationship, so I totally understand your girlfriend not being happy with you wanted sex with someone else, even if it is of the opposite sex.
I f... (read in full...)
She says the sex with another man is just for relief, nothing else
Q. i met a girl 4 months ago at a friends birthday,shes amazingly attractive and fun to be with,after a few dates we started having sex and is really good sex full of passion and shes very open minded,shes 27 im 29. she told me from the start about he...
A. 4 February 2011:
Do you really really want to be with someone sooooo cheap!! Sorry, but this thread as really wound me up!
She may be attractive, fun and have a good job but she is seriously lacking class!
I suggest you stay away from her. If she can be ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is obsessed with my ex!
Q. My girlfriend is obsessed with an ex of mine. Shes friends with her and they get along fine when they see each other but shes always comparing herself to her. Last night they ran into each other while out with friends and from 10pm to 3am, i'v...
A. 4 February 2011:
It sounds like she is lacking in confidence and doesn't like herself very much.
With all the will in the world, you can tell someone a 1000 times a day you think they are beautiful, but they just will not accept it if they don't love themsel... (read in full...)
My man is very selfish in the bedroom
Q. Ok? Another question. My man is very selfish in the bedroom. He never touches me in any place. He doesnt do anything dirty. He doesnt do oral, only like once a week and i have to beg for that. He never touches my vagina in any way. LIke he thinks ...
A. 4 February 2011:
I suggest you move on from him, you are flogging a dead horse.. You have discussed it with him but he still isn't willing to change.
If a guy is really in to you, he wants to please you, especially in the bedroom! His exs are probably exs... (read in full...)
I dreamed I'm going off my boyfriend. Does that mean that I really am?
Q. Last week I dreamt that me and my boyfriend was shopping for food and in my dream he started to try and kiss me, i felt sick and tried to pull away as if i was repulsed by the thought...i am worried it's a sign i'm going off my boyfriend but when i ...
A. 4 February 2011:
I don't feel that you have a need to worry at all... it was just a dream, and I have never known any of my dreams come true. I have been dreaming for a nice kind man for years now but I still haven't found him!
It was simply just a dream m'dear... (read in full...)
I still like him but it didn't work out because of the distance. Do we try again?
Q. I had a long distance relationship and I still like him. We both found people that we like in our own states, but nobody I have dated ever treated me like him(even though long distance.) I found out that he still ikes me, but last time we dated it ...
A. 4 February 2011:
I guess it can work if you really want it to, so long as you are both happy with not seeing each other everyday or week and of course trust plays a huge part in a LDR too.
I have tried long distance but it has unfortunately left a bitter taste... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say when he's back and forth, yet as his friend, I feel like I've got to say something.
Q. A friend who's getting divorced told me that his wife (who he does not have any kids with) will still come around because "that's just what we do." (they've been married less than 10 years, but been off and on for over 20 years. Is it weird fo...
A. 3 February 2011:
Are you sure this guy isn't more than just a friend of yours in that you have feelings for him?
The reason for me asking, is that I know if any close friend of mine was going through the same as he is going through, I would be able to just ask ... (read in full...)
My best friend took me in, and helped me escape an abusive relationship. Now I'm having feelings for her. Do I tell her?
Q. I have a friend I've known for a little over 4 months now. She insisted I move in with her, so I could get away from my abusive soon to be ex husband. She has slowly become my best friend as I learn to trust more and more. I trust her pretty much ...
A. 3 February 2011:
I may be wrong here, but I sense that you are starting to have these strong feelings for your friend because she has been kind and showed you some genuine "friendship" love. Its obvious that you haven't had any kind of love for sometime if you ... (read in full...)
What do I do about him blowing hot and cold all the time?
Q. i need help. A man i work with is showing a lot of interest in me and i am unsure of his motives. we are both devorsed and have children but he is eight years younger than me. we have kissed and he has sent me flowers but we dont move on from the...
A. 3 February 2011: Flowers is always a good sign that a man is interested in you and he is being thoughtful! I feel that you need to be a little patient here... what is the rush, why do you feel the need to jump into a full blown relationship with him straight awa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I broke up, and he got involved with my sister. We're back together, but they are still talking!
Q. Hi, I'm sorry if this goes on for a bit, I just don't really know where to start. I was seeing this guy for 9 months and we were forever splitting up and getting back together. We had a massive row and spilt up. He was forever telling me he wanted ...
A. 3 February 2011:
He certainly likes to keep it in the family doesn't he!
Ok, I do think your sister was wrong for choosing to date him after you split, and also your mother was wrong for getting stuck in the middle and keeping their relationship from you.
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How can I get my cheating husband back?
Q. How can I in back my husband if he still cheats on me for almost 10 years. He give more time and even spend most of his life with his high school buddies. Actually he had an illicit affair with his Highschool girlfriend until now. And he even had ...
A. 3 February 2011:
For me your title says it all... "my cheating husband"! That is what he is, and doubt he will ever change... if he geninuely loved you he would never have cheated on your once, never mind several times.
If you seriously want to make a go of... (read in full...)
My partner is jealous of me learning to dance.
Q. My partner of three years doesn't want me to go to dancing lessons because they change partners every few minutes. It is quite a common way for dancing classes to be, by changing partners. I have just started lessons but my partner can't go ...
A. 3 February 2011: It is purely dancing for goodness sake, not speed dating... Plus you are going with your parents!
What does he think you are going to be doing.... having sex on the dance floor!
I think he needs to sort out his insecurities here and stop be... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what is going on with this man? I'm so confused!
Q. This man that I see everyday flirts with me and touches me in friendly gestures. He said we needed to talk soon about me liking him. He watches me and sometimes walks back and forth to his office when he knows I’m in the hallway and he makes sure he ...
A. 3 February 2011:
Alarm bells are ringing for me. He loves the attention he gets from women, he loves the responses he gets following a little flirting.
Men like him just purely get a kick out of it and it is good for the old ego!
He didn't exactly show ... (read in full...)
Why did he stop running back to me?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend and now he has a gilfriend. I'm fuming because she's prettier and nicer then me. All of our mutual friends adore her. She's nice to me to and that pisses me off. How could my boyfriend move on from me so fast?!!! He ...
A. 3 February 2011:
What a pleasant lady you sound... NOT! He obviously got sick and tired of chasing your farts, so chose to move on!
You sound extremely bitter... why are you taking it out on this girl, calling her a bitch and hating the fact she is beautiful an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me, now I don't trust him! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me we've been together for two years and i found out he slept with the girl he said that he realize he wants me but the trust is gone i thought he was a good guy what do I do?...
A. 3 February 2011:
Sorry to hear your boyfriend has cheated on you, its a horrible feeling isn't it!
I personally think it may be a good idea to have time away from him and gather your thoughts. It is extremely difficult to forget something like this, even i... (read in full...)
I have reason to believe my dad is cheating on my mom!!
Q. I am 20 years old my parents were married before I was born I am one of three siblings. I always thought my parents were having a happy marriage until one day I went into my fathers work bag and found condoms!!. I asked my mom if they used comdoms ...
A. 3 February 2011:
I was in a very similar position to you many many years ago when I was 17. I loved both my parents dearly... and although I knew it was wrong of my father, there was no way I could tell my mother... it would have broken her heart. I knew it wasn... (read in full...)
Blind dates: How long to wait after the day of the date to realize nothing is going to happen and to just move on?
Q. How do you know if a guy wants to see you again at the end of a blind date? What does he say or do? And how long to wait after the day of the date to realize nothing is going to happen and to just move on?...
A. 3 February 2011:
Mmmmm I guess it depends on the individual, its hard to say really. I know whenever I have gone on a blind date, a couple hours later I normally get a text saying what a nice time they had and then the contact continues from there.
Give it a... (read in full...)
I liked him less when he admitted having dated someone my mother's age
Q. This guy that I'm dating has dated a much older woman in the past. I don't usually bring up past relationships for this very reason but it somehow came out and never did I think he would have dated 25 years older than him.(he's 25). I tried ...
A. 2 February 2011:
I think it was just a phase he was going through. Some guys, for one reason or another, have this fantasy about dating an older woman... so what, he tried it! He isn't the first guy to try it out and most certainly won't be the last.
That is t... (read in full...)
I'm acting on my fetish with other women -- should I keep it a secret?
Q. I am a male in my 40,s with a foot fetish. I am becoming more obsessed with this and now even pay local ladies to enjoy their feet. I do this even though i have an understanding fiance who lets me enjoy and play with her feet. It is somewhat ...
A. 2 February 2011:
It is an addiction you have, and if you don't tell your partner, not only will it get out of hand, but it will become an extremely expensive habit... like a drug!
I also feel that you need to seek professional help. Some people may think th... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied to my second text of the morning
Q. Hi all, i need advice really, about something thats worryin me a little....... On new years eve I met a guy and had a one night stand with him. He was amazing. I really fell for him but was too shy to ask for his number, the next day he left, and I ...
A. 2 February 2011:
Please don't ring him or text him again, let him do a little bit of the chasing here.
If he is genuinely interested in you he will reply to your text, it may be that he has been extremely busy all day.
However, it may be that you were jus... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 2 February 2011:
I am so sorry!
You know the saying...We can lead a horse to water but we can't make them drink. You did the best you could for this woman, but I sense that she isn't strong enough to leave him.
There will come a time (I hope) that she do... (read in full...)
My boy friend has started being aggressive to me. Is dumping him the best idea?
Q. My boyfriend was great when we were friends but when we started going out he. Since then he's changed. He's started acting more aggresive, controlling, rude, ect. and when I wanted to talk to him about it, he broke up with me on Facebook and then ...
A. 2 February 2011:
What concerns me is that he is behaving like this at such a young age and it could get worse as he gets older if you allow it to continue.
People who control, are rude and aggressive, in my eyes have an issue that needs addressing. ... (read in full...)
What's the right thing to do? Tell someone I think I might be depressed? Or keep it a secret. I keep wanting to sleep all the time.
Q. I have begun to sleep all of the time. I wake up at 8 and then go to school. I come back home, and go to sleep around 4 and wake up at 8 and over and over and over again. Also I started to stop eating very much. it's not like i just want to los...
A. 2 February 2011:
I am sorry you are feeling like you do. You must talk to someone about it... if you can't speak to your mum, then is there someone else that you could talk to. In England, children have School Nurses, do you have something like that where you ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my ex boyfriend without looking like a creepy stalker?
Q. About 3 months ago I moved into a new apartment. Turns out a guy I slept with a year ago lives in this same apartment building, and I had no idea until I saw him. He didn't see me, and that I know of, he still hasn't. I'm too embarrassed to admit ...
A. 1 February 2011:
I agree... don't seek him out, and no doubt eventually, at some point you will pass each other. Just say hi and see if he actually remembers you! He may have a girlfriend anyhow, you just don't know, since you know very little about him. ... (read in full...)
Is it hard for beautiful women to form good relationships?
Q. Hi All, I am just wondering what it is like to be beautiful and if it is hard to meet quality people? Beautiful women are always getting chatted up for dates, hit on for their looks, even propositioned for sex. It is no wonder then that many of ...
A. 1 February 2011:
People who know me consider me a beautiful woman, but I am very modest and disagree. I am told I am like a light bulb, I light up a room when I walk in and when I go out with friends they joke that I am a man magnet. However I wish men woul... (read in full...)
Is this age gap too big?
Q. how big an age gap is too big? the guy i like is 24, and i'm 17. that's quite a big gap, but i was just wondering if it's too huge or if it's acceptable because my opinion is just what i want to hear so i wanted to know other opinions....
A. 1 February 2011:
I think it depends how mature you are for your age. I recall dating a guy when I was 19 and he was 9 years older than me and it lasted over 12 months. If you are the kind of girl that giggles and constantly texting her mates and isn't able to h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not kiss me!
Q. hey, i need help! my boyfriend and i are still in our hugging phase but i want to kiss him. im scared if he doesnt want to, and i dont want to make the first move! help! :|...
A. 1 February 2011:
Awwww I remember a time going through something similar when I was your age.
Perhaps break the ice a little and use a little humour... pretend you have something in your eye and ask him to look... then quickly plant a cheeky little peck on his ... (read in full...)
I've received messages from my boyfriend's ex. Is he lying to me?
Q. My boyfriend went to visit his hometown a few weeks ago for a week after we had had a huge bust up and I thought we had finished until a few days after he left I spoke to him and we were ok. Since he's been back our relationship has been brilliant ...
A. 1 February 2011:
I am afraid to say it, but I agree with everyone else!
I believe he did get up to something with his ex, and he has come back all nicey nice to try and cover up what he has done should the S*** hit the fan! I don't feel for one minute that ... (read in full...)
Recently reconnected after 20 yrs. Should I give up on this relationship?
Q. I am in need of some advice. I recently got back in touch with my first love through facebook and we spent hours talking and texting. I am in the very beginning stages of a divorce and and he is completely single. This is a long distance relation...
A. 31 January 2011:
What is the rush in getting into a relationship with him... you have both gone 20 years without each other. Spend time out on yourself and I think he needs the same too but there is nothing stopping you be friends and building something up in the ... (read in full...)
How do I persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me?
Q. How do i convince or persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me,i have talked about it a couple of times but he said that he is not comfortable with it.What else do i do cause i really enjoy oral,moreover he doesnt last long during sex and i ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Has he actually said why he doesnt feel comfortable about doing it? Like someone else has already asked... do you shave? Do you consider having a strong odour down there (and I mean that in the nicest possible way) because some women, desp... (read in full...)
I know its wrong for me to snoop on him, but its wrong for him to be talking to other girls this way! Should I confront him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. It has always been an issue for me to trust people. I have been trying very hard to trust him, but he talks to a lot of girls because he is in the entertainment business. Once he left his ...
A. 31 January 2011:
If you haven't got trust in a relationship, you have nothing!
I suggest you be the bigger person here... and walk out of this relationship with your head held high. As hard as it is going to be, tell him that you want out, the relationship... (read in full...)
How do you cope with a break-up?
Q. hi all, i need advice on break up. i want to stay healthy and strong. my girlfriend has recently dumped me and i feel devastated. how to cope? thanks....
A. 31 January 2011:
Try and keep your mind active, don't sit around with your phone glued to your hand in the hope that she may text or call. Consider it a new start and try and remain positive.
It is tough, but you will get through, and as each day passes your ... (read in full...)
Receiving a blowjob from my girlfriend does not feel good to me! Why?
Q. Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been going out for three months. We have a history together and I love her with all of my heart. There's just one problem. To me, it doesn't feel good when she gives me head. She's gotten me off from her hand every ...
A. 30 January 2011: Mmmmm, 9 times out of 10 men do cum from receiving a blowjob... its just something most if not all men love a woman to do. Can you describe how she actually performs the BJ? Is she gripping it enough with her mouth and has a good rhythm going?... (read in full...)
He won't like it that I went out to the club -- should I tell him?
Q. So my frineds and I go Out To eat And after That they want To go To the club of course I'm the driver for tonight I'm engaged and I know if I tell him that we when to the club he is going to flip but I'm not drinking nor am i dancing with any guys ...
A. 30 January 2011:
If you don't tell him and he then finds out, he will then think you got up to something and it will make future outings more difficult....plus he will loose all trust in you whether you have done something or not!
I sense he has a trust or con... (read in full...)
When I try to leave he tells me I'm being selfish and to think of the kids!
Q. i have been in a relationship with this guy who is 19 yrs older than me for three years now and we have two small children together and we live together. he doesn't want to take me anywhere. he always have an excuse on why he don't take me anywhere ...
A. 30 January 2011:
Your partner is using the children as a tool... I am speaking from experience!
We have one chance in life, it isn't a rehersal, do you really want to be old and about to take your last breath and think, oh dear what a waste, I stayed purel... (read in full...)
I can't think straight when it comes to him but I don't think this is the way things should be
Q. Hi I am with my bf for an year. At first he was very nice, considerate and we talk almost daily in phone. For the past few months i am seeing some changes in him, like 1. He often says i am stupid, idoitic, crazy, psycho.. 2. He never apo...
A. 29 January 2011:
I always believe, people only get away with what we allow them to get away with.... and despite you saying he doesn't phyiscally abuse you, what you haven't grasped yet is that he is actually mentally abusing you, which in my eyes is just as seri... (read in full...)
Time of the month she turns into someone else.
Q. Hey everybody, Really need your help so here goes. Thanks in advance. I've been dating this girl for a couple of months now and everything was going well up until a week ago. It's the time of the month and I don't want to sound like just a ...
A. 29 January 2011:
Oh dear... the dreaded PMT! Don't take it personal, the way she is behaving towards you is how a lot of women behave prior to a period... and to be honest, the older you get the worse your periods get and you do get stroppy, tired and your horm... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if he came but I didn't?
Q. Is it possible that I can get pregnant if my boyfriend came in me but I never came? And I start around the 5th of every month?...
A. 29 January 2011: Of course you can! How many days ago did this happen? You have up to 72 hours to take the morning after pill, but it obviously isn't 100% success.
I suggest, if you aren't trying for a baby to either go on the pill or use condems, and to be ho... (read in full...)
Is my wife still sexually attracted to me?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 13 years, and I love her with all of my heart. I'm more attracked to her now than when we first got married. However, I don't think that she's all that attracked to me anymore. Our sex life sucks. I want it al...
A. 29 January 2011:
More often than not, some couples who have been in a long term relationship/marriage, become a little lazy, and as much as they probably think about having sex, they then think... Oh I can't be arsed, I just want to go to sleep when I get to bed!... (read in full...)
Would I be crazy to take my ex back?
Q. Would I be crazy to take an ex back? It was a LDR, he broke up with me (amicably) a few weeks back and I guessed he was getting cold feet, scared of commitment or whatever as I was looking to re-locate in the next few months to be closer to him. ...
A. 29 January 2011:
You state that you "guess" he had cold feet... have you actually asked him and talked to him to find out where the problem lies? Although to a degree I sense you may be right.
Alarm bells ring for me... You say you are prepared to move locatio... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 27 January 2011: Be careful here, you could end up getting very hurt because you have feelings for her. She is on the rebound and has lots of things to sort before she should even be considering a new relationship. If her ex doesn't co-operate, this could go on... (read in full...)
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