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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend and now he has a gilfriend. I'm fuming because she's prettier and nicer then me. All of our mutual friends adore her. She's nice to me to and that pisses me off. How could my boyfriend move on from me so fast?!!! He always came running back to me no matter what. What does she have that I don't? He doesn't make me feel loved and special like he used to. He's always running behind that bitch and catching her farts. I'm pissed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): It's probably because her farts smell like lavender, so he catches them, bottles them and sells them for a nice price.
I have a feeling this is a fake post, but I'll answer as if it's serious.
Now besides her farts having a heavenly scent, she's hotter, nicer all his friends like her and the most important one of all is she's not a bitter, immature drama queen. So even if her farts smelt like a pile of decomposing rats she'd still be a good catch because she can't possibly be as melodramatic and highly strung as you seem to be.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 February 2011):
 You answered your own question. She's nicer and prettier. Probably treats him better. He was sick of your shit, so now you can enjoy catching her farts.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Haahaha, this is hysterical. Thank you so much for posting it and giving us a good laugh.
And no, I do not consider this to be a real situation. It's far too satirical to be for real. Although, so that I am not looked down upon for posting unhelpful advice... I'll add the following:
The lesson here is that obviously, people with brains, will move on once they are treated poorly. They don't stick around. Another lesson is to remember the story about the boy who cried wolf...
However this reminds me of the situation of a friend of mine. His girlfriend doesn't want him. In fact she's not even his girlfriend. She just doesn't want HIM to date anyone else. He's not even allowed to speak to other women as she gets jealous. She however already left him once to be with another guy, then decided he wasn't what she wanted, and went back to be with my friend.
Now my friend was a gullible guy to take her back. But ok, so she says she's going to leave the country and travel, without him. And she wants him to fight for her, to beg her for relationship with her. One, which she can not even promise will last as she is going to travel overseas and be gone for a year at least.
Every fight they have she tells him she doesn't want him. And he comes begging for her. And she gracefully take him back. Only to throw him away again as soon as she thinks he's done anything she doesn't approve of. Such as texting a female friend. Or something utterly silly like that. She even went hacking into his e-mail to find "evidence" of him contacting other women. While she doesn't want to be his girlfriend... oh no... she just wants HIM to want HER and no one else.
Im waiting for the day he will open his eyes and see that yes indeed... there are better and nicer and prettier things out there.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (3 February 2011):
What a pleasant lady you sound... NOT! He obviously got sick and tired of chasing your farts, so chose to move on!
You sound extremely bitter... why are you taking it out on this girl, calling her a bitch and hating the fact she is beautiful and that his friends like her? Its not her fault or his fault that you kept dumping him.
I suggest you take a long serious look at yourself in the mirror and perhaps you may just see why he chose to stop chasing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): You don't even seem to miss this guy, though you seem to miss manipulating him.
You ask "What does she have that I don't?"
1. She appears to appreciates and she respects him.
2. She appears to have emotional maturity and intelligence. For instance, she isn't resentful of you and tries to stay on your good side.
3. She's probably positive. And that definitely makes her more attractive. Jealousy and bitterness aren't "pretty" qualities.
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reader, Liebes Kummer +, writes (3 February 2011):
When hillary Clinton forgave her husband for his philadering, factions of the Womens Lib were up in arms; 'how could she forgive him? Dump the cheating rat etc...'
Fast forward a few years and everyone is saying how wise and sensible she was to stick with him.
My point? If you really loved someone, you would not 'dump' them at the first hint of a crisis.
I agree with Sammi Star, you don't really want him, you are only mad because he has found someone else.
Having said that, i wish to make it clear that i certainly do not support cheating. What he did was clearly wrong but, you could have tried to work things out with him.
I mean, you did not say he was a serial cheater.
Maybe next time you should be a bit more patient.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Did you dump him to have him run back to you so you could get an ego stroke that he still wanted you? Cause that's what it sounds like.
You dumped him, he moved on and stopped playing your game. I guess he didn't know the rules.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Catching her farts?
Quite the lady are we not?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 February 2011):
 It's okay to be pissed, chalk it up as a learning experience. But quite honestly I think he was lucky to get away. Now you have the time to work on being nicer to people.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Is this a joke?? What's she got that you haven't? Hmm, lets see...she obviously treats him with love and respect!
You don't really want him, you just don't want anyone else to have him either.
Why would you want to be in an on/off relationship anyway? If you ever cared about him at all then let this go and be happy for him that he's found someone who's going to treat him right. Wanting to push someone time and again just to see if he'll still come running back is a mean and childish thing to do. Looks like you pushed him too far this time. Take this time by yourself to grow up before you jump into another relationship.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (3 February 2011):
 He did only what you asked. You dumped him. You told him to leave. So he left. If you wanted him to stay, you should have told him to stay. What he does (and who he dates) after you ended your relationship with him is his own business, whether she's cuter or uglier, nicer or meaner, more stable or more erratic. YOU left HIM, so he's free to find someone that won't dump him repeatedly.
If you're this upset, I'm afraid that's more an issue on your side (self esteem, anger issues, regret) than any fault of his.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 He woke up and realised he could do better than someone who constantly dumped him and made him feel unloved. I don't think it's about her looks. She makes him feel good about himself, something you didn't do.
I don't that think that you want him...you just want him to want you. It's a sign of low self-esteem and him coming back to you made you feel good about yourself.
You let him go, so you're better off moving on and working on yourself so that when the right guy crosses your path you'll be in a better position to build a proper relationship with him.
And I don't think the other girl is a bitch...he obviously sees something in her and she treats him well. Something, I'm afraid, you couldn't do. He's in a better place now...go and find your better place and leave him be.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (3 February 2011):
He found someone better. May be a girl who doesn't dump him all the time waiting for him to come back begging.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2011):
With the greatest of respect, how much longer did you think he would run around and come back no matter what? A man will run, but at some point he'll quit if he's being dumped all the time, or being treated badly. If he was running after you, and you dumped him, then he probably just had enough.
You can't expect someone to continually run after you, if you're there dumping him. You dumped him, he decided he'd had enough, he moved on. Now you'll have to move on to.
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