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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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Married and yet falling in love with my mistress....
Q. I have been, I guess, just looking for someone I could talk to who might have experienced what I am going through. I have been married for 6 years. I always thought I was happily married, but I think I have just been content and maybe we are just...
A. 28 February 2011:
Thanks for your update....
Ok, so you have obviously made your mind up that you don't want to end this affair.... Well in that case, the least you can do is set your wife free because its really not fair. What is the point of staying toge... (read in full...)
Married and yet falling in love with my mistress....
Q. I have been, I guess, just looking for someone I could talk to who might have experienced what I am going through. I have been married for 6 years. I always thought I was happily married, but I think I have just been content and maybe we are just...
A. 27 February 2011:
Yes I think it is possible... However, before you get carried away, please rewind back to the time when you first met your wife. I am sure she made you feel like this woman is making you feel, and you must have felt something really strong t... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my friend that I wet the bed at their house!
Q. This is so embarrassing but I need to find out and didn't know where else to ask. Last night, after a night out, I slept at a friends house in their bed. They took the couch. When I woke in the middle of the night, I'd wet the bed. I was mo...
A. 27 February 2011:
Oh hun, try not to beat yourself up about it. I am sure you aren't the first person this has happened to, and certainly won't be the last. It sometimes can happen to people if they are in a deep sleep, or if they have drank too much.
You did w... (read in full...)
Did my cheating partner stay with me for me? or for the kids?
Q. I have recently found out that my partner had an affair for several months. My partner said that during this affair, they still loved me and always has and always will. The affair ended because the other person wanted a committment and my partner ...
A. 27 February 2011:
I guess this is a question you need to ask him. No doubt whatever he replies with, you will decide for yourself what you want to believe.... he could tell you a 1000 times a day he stayed because of you, but whether you choose to believe him is a... (read in full...)
I am so beautiful. Are my friends all just jealous of me?
Q. I am so beautiful. I have a really nice body and i have double D's. Flirting comes naturally to me. I can honestly say that a lot of people like me and just want to be me. I'm really popular and i have a lot of experience. All my close friends are ...
A. 27 February 2011:
So you believe, if you have got it flaunt it! Well in actual fact, true beauty doesn't have to be flaunted, it shines naturally.
I don't think your friends are jealous, perhaps they just think you are a little full of yourself. Yes confidence i... (read in full...)
How do I show this married lady that I am interested in her?
Q. My neighbour lady(36) is my relative and has 2 childrens. Her husband is abroad. She has some problems with her husband. She shares every matters with me and warned me to don't tell anyone. Every times she will show her cleavage to me by ...
A. 27 February 2011:
"How do I show this married lady that I am interested in her?" YOU DON'T is my answer!!
Why I hear you ask... because she is married, has children and is a relative and you could question the age gap too.
Seriously, stay well away, you ... (read in full...)
I'm 34 years old and feel like such a disappointment! Help!
Q. I am so baffled, depressed and confused. My parents have been married for 40 years, my younger brother has been married 15 years. I am 34 and nothing in sight....Am I disappointment? I have a Masters degree, tons of friends, and I flunk in the love ...
A. 25 February 2011:
He was a very greedy man, that is what was wrong hun! Please don't beat yourself up about it and don't change the way you are.
Sounds like you had a lucky escape because he obviously wanted his cake and eat it.
There will come a day when... (read in full...)
She hasn't talked to me in 2 days, was I out of line?
Q. So I have been dating this for a bit over 2 months now and everything has been great. We see each other usually each weekend and whenever possible a time or 2 during the week. The other day we had a bit of a spat, it really wasn't huge, just about ...
A. 25 February 2011:
Yes I agree you need to tell us a little bit more about what you said to her, or what the spat was about so that we can advise you better.
However, epending on what was said, perhaps she is feeling very upset and her way of dealing with such th... (read in full...)
I can't take the word "no".
Q. it's killing me Ive seen this new girl in my univercity and I really like her.I asked her to be my girl friend.she said no at firt but eventually we spoke a nice deal,she said that we can friends .Unfortunatly things gor so bad and she kept say...
A. 24 February 2011:
Unfortunately you are going to have to learn to accept the word no.... you are pushing her further away and she won't have any respect or time for you.
People always want what they can't have and this is wanting is happening to you right now.
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Why does my partner sleep with my clothing that I accidentally left at his place?
Q. hey guys just a curious question i left a shirt of mine in my partners car for quite some time, and today when i went to his new place, he kept it in his bed under his pillow. would anyone know why he does it? Occasionaly i forget to take things w...
A. 24 February 2011:
Awwww I think that is lovely.... In fact you brought it back to mind when I was your age and with my first boyfriend... I remember him having an item of clothing of mine and doing the same, and I used to have a scarf of his.
It makes him fe... (read in full...)
I'm uncertain about a LDR!
Q. Help! I'm really new to my relationship with my boyfriend... We've known each other for three years now and we became a couple about 9 months ago. My concern is that I'm afraid of letting him go. By that I mean him going off to a different school, ...
A. 24 February 2011:
Its doesn't mean you aren't mature at all...because even us mature folk struggle with LDR... believe me.
LDR have left a bitter taste in my mouth for one reason or another... firstly you have to trust each other, secondly you have to accept th... (read in full...)
She wants a two week break, what do I do?
Q. I am 45 year old male, I've being dating a woman the same age, last week she told me she wants two weeks space. Does this mean she wants a clean break, I like her a lot and she says she likes me to but I'm confused. She won't answer my texts so what ...
A. 19 February 2011:
I really hate it when people say they want a break... it leaves everything up in the air, and you wondering "are we together, or are we not"!.
I take it there has been some issues within the relationship that you haven't shared with us, beca... (read in full...)
I don't want to become a homewrecker so what do I do?
Q. I'm in love and it's for the first time. and to make matters worse, he is in a relationship with a friend of mine, and it gets worse he told me that he's in love with my to, but all so with his girlfriend. I don't what to be come a homewrec...
A. 19 February 2011:
Hi there...
Hope all went as well as can be expected!
Blonde68 x... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My boyfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining he liked giving me oral. At the begining he gave me oral everytime ...
A. 18 February 2011:
He sounds extremely selfish to be truthful. We had a similar discussion on here a few weeks ago actually... and I do find it extremely hard to get my head around people who do it at first and love it, then they stop doing it altogether. Ther... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the pain of a broken heart?
Q. My boyfriends of a year just broke up with me. We were not working, my heart knew that. Please someone advice me with how I deal with this, I'm so heart broken I don't know what to do with myself. Does time really heel? How can I make the pain go ...
A. 18 February 2011:
I am so sorry to hear you are feeling this way... it really isn't nice is it.
Time is the only healer... It won't happen overnight, you will go through a grieving process which is natural.
All I can say is, eventually you WILL heal... but... (read in full...)
My wife never initiates sex with me. How can I fix this?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 9 yrs and she is not happy with her body and I have never given her any reason to think I agree with what she thinks I have actually told her and showed her I love the way she looks but even with all my effort ...
A. 18 February 2011: Unfortunately this is common behaviour with not only women who don't find themselves attractive but for some who have been married for the length of time you have.
There is very little you can actually do to convince her that you find her body att... (read in full...)
I think his plan is crazy. What do YOU think?
Q. i have another problem my mate wants to undergo this plan but i don't know what to do. the plan is for him to go out with my girlfriend for a day and if she likes it they go out and she dumps me but if not it stays the same as it was help, what ...
A. 18 February 2011:
My goodness, I have heard it all now! Young man, retain some dignity and let her go and dump your mate... he most certainly isn't a true mate, as true mates wouldn't be behaving like this. I bet your girlfriend is loving the attention (two mate... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to wait for him?
Q. Okay guys. I'm absolutely, ardently in love with this guy, let's call him Brian. I would do anything for him. He and I are really good friends and incredibly close. We do like eachother, the feeling is mutual, but he has a fiance. I love this man ...
A. 18 February 2011: The question is, are you prepared to put your life on hold for a man who is spoken for? You could be waiting a hell of a long time, Perhaps years, and for what.... for him to marry the person he obviously loves and is engaged to... by god that ... (read in full...)
Do I respond? Or is silence golden, in the circumstances?
Q. How should i respond to a text from my ex who has come into town. i had texted him, telling him, "we shouldn't see each other, when he's in town". he replied with "ok bye." then two hours later he texted me with a booty call text basicall...
A. 18 February 2011:
Also, like all the aunts have advised in your other post...("Should I reject a text from my ex"), just ignore him!... (read in full...)
Do I respond? Or is silence golden, in the circumstances?
Q. How should i respond to a text from my ex who has come into town. i had texted him, telling him, "we shouldn't see each other, when he's in town". he replied with "ok bye." then two hours later he texted me with a booty call text basicall...
A. 18 February 2011:
Well you have already stated that you texted him to say that you shouldn't meet up... so you now need to stick by your word if you want to be taken seriously.
However, I get the impression that you and him have been in regular contact desp... (read in full...)
Why does he ask "are you finished?"
Q. what does it mean when a guy asks "are u finished" when dry humping?...
A. 17 February 2011:
Oh dear its a bit of a passion killer isn't it!
Perhaps he is asking you because he wants to ensure you are fullfilled and doesn't want to stop until you have orgasmed.
With time you will get to know each other well enough and he won't ... (read in full...)
I don't want to become a homewrecker so what do I do?
Q. I'm in love and it's for the first time. and to make matters worse, he is in a relationship with a friend of mine, and it gets worse he told me that he's in love with my to, but all so with his girlfriend. I don't what to be come a homewrec...
A. 17 February 2011:
So what do I do?? You walk away, well actually no, you run as fast as you can and don't look back.
You say he is dating a friend of yours..... In my eyes, no man would ever come between friendship, I cherish my friends, and if you can't do it ... (read in full...)
Why am I so tired and lack energy?
Q. I am always tired and lack the energy to do anything, even basic household chores or exercise! I wake up in the morning tired and can't wait to get back home and sleep, I spend all day in week struggling to stay awake (and I find myself nodding off ...
A. 17 February 2011:
I was like this too a few years ago, I just couldn't stay awake, and was nodding off at work and eventually it got so bad that I was doing the same whilst driving so I went to my GP and they did several blood tests, and it turned out that I w... (read in full...)
I would have left this married man if I could!
Q. I am a 23 year old girl madly and helplessly in love with a 35 year old man who has a 3 year old daughter and an 8 year old son from a 9 year marriage with a 34 year old woman he dated for 5 years before marrying her. i liked him at the word go ...
A. 17 February 2011:
"I would have left this man if I could" - well let me just say, you can do anything if you put your mind to it!!
You have been seeing this man for 10 months, he has told you he won't ever leave his wife and children - isn't that enough evide... (read in full...)
How can I find out if boyfriend is watching porn?
Q. Other than the history, how can you find out if porn is being viewed on the internet? or webcams being viewed? boyfriend vows that he hasn't been watching it anymore, but how can I be sure? He lives with me and uses my computers, I have thought ...
A. 17 February 2011:
Instead of having these thoughts about putting a tracker on your computer with the hope of catching your boyfriend out, I would seriously suggest you look at trying to sort out the problem by talking to him and telling him how you are feel... (read in full...)
He is back on the dating site, where we met, and he won't add me on Facebook. Is he taking me for a fool, or am I reading too much into this?
Q. Help needed please, I'm going insane here - been seeing this guy for 6 months he lives an hour away from me and works afternoon shifts so I only see him once a week - sometimes twice, he texts nearly every day, says he is very comfy and happy with ...
A. 16 February 2011:
If I was a betting lass I would say that you are being taken for a ride.
You are probably one of many of his many female friends, however, the others obviously don't want anything serious where as you perhaps do. If these so called "friends" of... (read in full...)
Will disowning a daughter from a previous relationship waiver my child support payments?
Q. Will disowning a daughter from a previous relationship waiver my child support payments? I'm currently paying for a child my ex partner refuses to let me see. I'm not a monster and this wasn't an easy decision to make but i've finally got to the ...
A. 15 February 2011:
No it won't, you will still have to pay eventually, including back pay too no doubt.
Please don't give up on your daughter... My father abandoned me when I was 4 years old, not because my mother didn't allow him to see me, but because he s... (read in full...)
I'm not sure why my girlfriend won't swallow!
Q. My girlfriend won't swallow during oral sex, yet she has in previous relationships, in fact she said she used to like it. I'd really like her to do it to me. Why won't she? Can she really like it with past partners? Can I make it taste better?...
A. 13 February 2011:
Has she swallowed for you before? If so, I can only assume she doesn't like the taste.. Or it may be that yours is rather thick in texture, or the quantity that you produce is too much for one sitting!
Have you asked her why she doesn't like... (read in full...)
How can I stay strong and not fall back when he sobers up and wants me again?
Q. Any advice welcome. I have been seeing a man for a year now and it has been one heck of a ride. Love is not the question here, we are both very much in love. Except the man I get to spend time is only on this planet about 50% of the time because ...
A. 13 February 2011:
I really do feel for you, and I know exactly what you are going through. I too always knew when mine had been drinking because he would go quiet for a few days and totally ignore my calls/texts.. It didn't help matters that I would flip and tell... (read in full...)
I've become very withdrawn after breaking off contact with her. Is this normal??
Q. Hi, I am the same poster who wrote this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-kniow-she-is-bad-for-me-but.html I have actually broken off contact with her for several weeks now. For those who need background, it was a girl who I knew for...
A. 13 February 2011:
I suggest you block her completely from your phone and emails etc... because no doubt just as you are starting to feel a little better and move on, you get a message and then the feelings start rushing back. I know you say you don't read the mess... (read in full...)
I told her that I had fallen in love with her, but she said she doesn't feel the same way... what should I do now??
Q. Ok, so there is this girl in college, and we have been friends for a long time. Recently I started to fall in love with her and started doing things out of the way for her. Then when I was sure that it was love and not just an attraction, I told h...
A. 13 February 2011:
Unfortunately there is nothing that you can do if she doesn't feel the same. We can't force people to love us.
I guess you will have to continue loving her from afar and just remain friends if you can. However, one day you will meet someone... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I are always arguing about my son!
Q. Allways end up arguing with my gf about my son. It's not that she doesn't want me to see him, it's more the fact that I want us all to get along togeather. We meet about 4 years ago I lived alone my son ame to visit me every other weekend. Then I m...
A. 13 February 2011: You are not being unreasonable at all! He is your son, you came as a package and she knew this from the start.
I am surprised she is behaving like this since she has a daughter of her own, its normally people who have never had children that str... (read in full...)
Does having a baby really hurt ?
Q. I heard having a baby really hurts . I'm excited about having my baby buy I'm scared too I'm afraid to push the baby out I don't enjoy pain very much and I'm also worried my boyfriend won't be there because he goes to work during the day and comes ...
A. 13 February 2011:
Having given birth once myself, and a real true wimp when it comes to pay, I chose to tick every single box of the offering of pain relief. I had an epidural and it was the best decision I made so I would seriously reccomend one. As for the pain... (read in full...)
I am ashamed of my living condition, and now my friend wants to come visit!
Q. help ! i really need advice. im friends with a guy-just friends ! and recently hes been asking to come to my house. im ashamed of the condition its in-it needs a lot of decorating and some of the floors are bare ! also i havent been totally straight ...
A. 12 February 2011:
The thing to do hun is be honest with this guy... if he likes you that much the condition of your house, so long as it is clean, should not matter at all.
Tell him, like you have told us, about your circumstances and I am sure he will underst... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't let me date anyone except my boss and I don't want to go out with him!
Q. How to begin... Im 25 and living at home with my parents. Im going to school (graduating in May) so i havent moved out bc my parents are helping pay for school and i pay no rent or anything. Bc of this tho, my mother whom is very strict will bar...
A. 12 February 2011: You seriously need to have an adult conversation with your mother and tell her that you have your own mind.. Is your father like this too?? Could you not talk to him?
People will try and control us if we allow them too... I had a similar suitatio... (read in full...)
How can I change my self image, so that I can find a girlfriend?
Q. Hello dear cupid, i just found this site by accident. I figure since im here i can give it a try. you all seem to be fairly good and answering questions. I am a 22 year old guy. i am single, and have been for going on 5 years. people always te...
A. 12 February 2011:
I am sorry to hear that you feel this way about yourself and I hope that you get some good advice.
You ask "how can I change my self image, so that I can find a girlfriend"? I personally don't think it is your self image that needs changing at ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I need to finish it face to face for closure!
Q. I broke up with my ex 9 months ago because i found out he had cheated a few times and just generally flirted with everyone. We were in a LDR between the UK and the USA. I split up with him over the phone when i returned home but I cant stop thinking ...
A. 12 February 2011:
Sorry to hear you are feeling such pain, it isn't nice is it..
I personally don't think meeting up face to face will do you any good, or give you closure or even resolve anything. Also, do you really want to be in a relationship with someone... (read in full...)
How do I know if my boss likes me?
Q. My boss and I flirt on a day to day basis. Sometimes, the flirting is just fun, but other times, it is what I would consider more than flirting because of the gestures and body language he uses. He will cup my shoulders when walking past me, fidget ...
A. 11 February 2011: More to the point.... are you comfortable with his behaviour, and if you are not is there someone you could report him to... I will not tolerate people who abuse their authority, so if this is the case then I suggest you speak to someone about it.
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I don't like him using pornography and he thinks I am controlling him
Q. i need some advice... i don't know if i have the right to be insecure about this subject or if i am just crazy,here is the situation. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now, we are living together and are very happy.i have just one...
A. 11 February 2011:
You don't actually mention what your own sex life with him is like... but to be truthful, it doesn't really matter if you said you were at it like rabbits 4 times a day, or whether you said you only did it once a month.... Most men just seem... (read in full...)
Hundreds of porn sites in one week on his computer!
Q. I posted earlier but cannot find where it went. I couldn't help myself, after seeing just a few porn websites on my boyfriends history, I searched through the rest of his history and there are literally hundreds of porn sites and google searches ...
A. 11 February 2011:
He is just purely filling his time hun whilst being at home... bored is what it is called... where as women will clean the house again etc whilst bored, men just tend to think of the first thing that comes to mind.... sex..
If it worries you,... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011:
If I were a betting lass, I would say she has just become lazy... lie back and think of england.. well united states on this occasion. She used to do it without a problem so why not now.. laziness and lack of interest is all I can think of.
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Trouble with flatmates - how to say NO?
Q. Hi i've been at uni for a year and lived in halls which wasn't a problem. I'm now living in a flat that my parents bought for me to live in while i do my 2nd and 3rd years. I live with my boyfriend who doesn't annoy me at all and another couple (Dan ...
A. 11 February 2011:
No one likes to say no, and no one likes confrontation.. however, this is getting to you, so you have got to sort it whether you like it or not!
Why don't you suggest that you all need to have a re-look at the weekly food budget since you ha... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011:
I am with you on this one Dirtball! It can't be all take, take, take!... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 11 February 2011:
Sorry for such personal questions... but do you shower daily? Are you smelling nice down there? Do you force her head down on you so that she is deep throating (which some women find hard and don't enjoy)?, Do you taste nice, (pre cum)? Thes... (read in full...)
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