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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 2 February 2011:
I am so sorry!
You know the saying...We can lead a horse to water but we can't make them drink. You did the best you could for this woman, but I sense that she isn't strong enough to leave him.
There will come a time (I hope) that she do... (read in full...)
Would I be crazy to take my ex back?
Q. Would I be crazy to take an ex back? It was a LDR, he broke up with me (amicably) a few weeks back and I guessed he was getting cold feet, scared of commitment or whatever as I was looking to re-locate in the next few months to be closer to him. ...
A. 29 January 2011:
You state that you "guess" he had cold feet... have you actually asked him and talked to him to find out where the problem lies? Although to a degree I sense you may be right.
Alarm bells ring for me... You say you are prepared to move locatio... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Never kissed properly, does it come naturally?
Q. Ok, the question is simple enough and i'm really nervous about it. Does kissing like (getting off) come naturally? i get put off going out with boys because of this. i'm really self-conscious my first kiss will go wrong or something. But l...
A. 29 January 2011:
Stop panicking.... You know that saying practice makes perfect, well that is exactly what you need to do... practice! I remember being your age and my friend asking me the same question... I hadn't got a clue to be honest because at 13 I had neve... (read in full...)
The best way to please a guy?
Q. Dear readers, I want to know what is the best way to pleasure a male in bed? what would make him very happy?...
A. 29 January 2011:
The best way to please a guy? What would make him very happy?
I am assuming you are in a relationship...right? If that is the case, ask him - He is the person you should be asking because he will be able to tell you exactly what turns him on... (read in full...)
Request for any ideas on how to spice things up please?
Q. How to "Spice" it up? My boyfriend said he wanted to experiment, do new things. He is tired of the same ole same ole. We will do anything but actual full on intercourse, we are waiting on that one. Well we are kind of out of ideas. We tried the ...
A. 29 January 2011:
What about some role playing? I find this rather a turn on.. you could dress as a secretary, or he could turn up to the house as a salesman and seduces you. What about you dressing up prior to him arriving home... just leave him a note for when... (read in full...)
What's the best way to handle my 'Grumpy Old Man'?
Q. I see my boyfriend at week-ends, as he lives an hour's drive away. It annoys me because he likes to stay up until 2-3 am during the week and by Saturday is not up to much. He likes to sleep in until mid day. I like to be up and about and not to...
A. 29 January 2011: I know exactly how frustrating this is, as I was with someone for quite a few years who was the same. I never was able to alter his sleeping pattern in all that time...by god I tried hard enough believe me. I even used to put the hoover on at ... (read in full...)
I messed around with two women...now I want the second one who loved me but I ended up hurting...
Q. Before anyone starts throwing rocks at me pls hold off and hear me out. I fell in love with 2 different women (woman A and woman B). I fell in love with woman A first and boy did I fall hard. The complication was she wanted an open relations...
A. 29 January 2011: Phew, that exhausted me just reading it, so how the hell you went all that time living two lives is mind blowing! Anyway, on a more serious note... You have been a very selfish and silly man haven't you, but you already now that! Oh dear... an... (read in full...)
A third chance... or a third mistake?
Q. Hi folks, firstly let me attempt to generate a picture of my current relationship... I have been in a very tight relationship with a caring girl for the past 6 years, and I have made sure that I have spent most of my time attempting to pr...
A. 29 January 2011: This is not common behaviour when you are in love with someone!! You sound the most geninue, caring and considerate guy I have ever come across.... and do you know what, it is being taken advantage of! Your girlfriend sounds extremely selfi... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel as if I have a room mate and NOT a wife!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 4 years and I have had lost my job and we had a baby and I have noticed that lately she has lost interest in sex, she has worked a lot more hours the last few months but here lately been saying I have a headache ...
A. 29 January 2011: I think she is probably telling the truth in that she is tired and has a headache! You have a baby, which can be draining when it is your first... its a shock to the system, getting up in the night doing feeds etc and its a huge adjustment to your ... (read in full...)
My ex-wife is dating someone else....and its too hard for me to accept this
Q. I recently found out my ex wife is dating. We were separated for a year and the divorce was just finalized. It was amicable and mutual. I've been working on returning to a sense of myself, healing and planning for the future. I thought I had mo...
A. 28 January 2011: Sorry to hear you are feeling such pain.
However, what you are experiencing is completely natural and time is the only thing that will get you through this.
You are quite right, perhaps you aren't ready to meet someone to start a relation... (read in full...)
Mismatched sex drives and now she doesn't like it if I turn to porn!
Q. My girlfreind only wants sex ounce a week and never during her period but i have a very high sex drive so i want to masterbate infront of her, she used to be ok with it even give a helping hand but now she doesnt like it when i do it and hates it if ...
A. 28 January 2011: Have you tried to discuss with your partner why she is not so keen as she used to be? Is she stressed about anything? Does she have a busy job? Sometimes these things can have a huge impact on your sex drive.
As for her not wanting sex during h... (read in full...)
Should I contact her or should I let a sleeping dog lie.
Q. This is my story. About 16-17 years ago I meet a gal a terrific gal that was getting a divorce because he cheated on her. We shall call her Jill. At the same time strange as it may sound I was seeing a married gal. We shall call her Rose. Well, ...
A. 28 January 2011:
I am a little confused as to what it is you hope to achieve here. You have said that you would like to know if she is happy and now married, but if you don't include your address you are never going to know are you.??
How long did you have a r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a selfish lover. Do I give him more chances, or kick him to the wind?
Q. I've been widowed for 11 years now and haven't dated at all in all that time. My son is now in University, and my 2 daughters will be heading there in the next year. This past November, I started dating a man that I've known for many years. Afte...
A. 28 January 2011:
Mmmm unfortunately not everyone is like you and I, there are a lot of selfish lovers out there who just take take take.... but they only get away with what we allow them to get away with!
Everyone is different, but I am not afraid of stating w... (read in full...)
Online dating? Experiences and advice?
Q. I have never tried online dating. I am moving to a new city and am considering it to meet people. Like cellphones and facebook I thought I would defy the trend of online dating for a while before I join the masses... I've never met a person w...
A. 27 January 2011:
It can be like pulling teeth... but it depends what sites you go on. I am on a free site but the problem with that is you do get a lot of men and woman on there for other reasons.. wanting a bit of excitement whilst the hubby or the wife is away... (read in full...)
Why do men in porn films last so long?
Q. What do the men in sex movies do for them to keep long during sex(about an hour) before they cum? Are they real people like us?...
A. 27 January 2011:
It could be several things.... film editing, viagra, shot their load several times prior to filming... or that they aren't turned on enough because at the end of the day, they are actors! ... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing two brothers
Q. im 23y/o female and im having sex with both my bf and his brother..my bf doesnt know but his brother knows and told me not a say anything..im really having fun..should i stop seeing them both or continue having fun.....
A. 27 January 2011:
Really having fun!! Is this a wind up to get us all ranting?
I think you should split with the boyfriend because you and his brother sound like a match made in heaven...SELFISH AND HEARTLESS!!!
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Is it normal to get a sore jaw after giving bf oral?
Q. is it normal to very quickly get a sore jaw after giving my bf oral and will it go away in time? its often too painful to continue for any length of time...
A. 27 January 2011:
No pain no gain is the saying.. haha!
I suggest you perhaps slow down on the sucking.. Your jaw will improve with time ... I believe however, that it isn't just purely about sucking... men like you to use your tongue and stroke it too... grip ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mother's friend. I'm worried she will find out!
Q. Hi. So I'm a bit a stuck with a situation and I don't know how to get out! My parents are both in their mid 40s, I'm 18, and I have a 4 week old daughter. I've been through shit (I guess it's relevant to say), and my parents have recently been ...
A. 27 January 2011: Don't worry your mum isn't going to find out, unless you tell her... and I can guarantee that he won't let it out. I do feel however, that this man may have taken advantage of you a little as you appear vunerable at the moment what with all your pro... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 27 January 2011: Be careful here, you could end up getting very hurt because you have feelings for her. She is on the rebound and has lots of things to sort before she should even be considering a new relationship. If her ex doesn't co-operate, this could go on... (read in full...)
For the girls -- shaving?
Q. hey everyone ! so i have a question for the girls , do you most of you shave the hair from your vagina? most guys i know do not like hair. so i want to shave mine, but ill shave it one day it will be smooth and the next day the hair will grow ...
A. 26 January 2011: I too find that doing it as I shower everyday is the best result for me, but I guess everyone is different. I use the more expensive blades however, with the soap already attached as I found the cheaper razors cut me up.
My friend does hers dai... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 26 January 2011:
With all the will in the world, we can't make people love us... you arent alone in what you are feeling right now. I know we have been harsh with you, the truth hurts I guess... but please, please, let this go, and move on. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's chin stubble is irritating my face. Any ideas to prevent this?
Q. My boyfriend has quite a bit of stubble on his chin. I love it, but I often get rashes and wondered if there was any way to prevent them, or make them less noticeable? thanks x...
A. 25 January 2011:
Yes, you need to tell him if he would mind trimming it or shaving it off. It leaves you with a red chin and then dry skin for days..... very unattractive and sore. I am sure he will understand.
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My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 25 January 2011:
I personally think you should put your energy into finding yourself a new lady and learning from your mistakes.... you are flogging a dead horse!
How do you know this new man isn't making her happy! If I was a betting lass, if she was seriousl... (read in full...)
I do everything I can for my husband and he treats me badly in return
Q. please could someone tell me where im going wrong. for the past 3 years i have have got up with my husband every morning to make him a cup of tea and drive him to his work(only a five minute walk away). by morning i mean varies from 1.30am to 3am. ...
A. 25 January 2011:
People only get away with what we allow them to get away with! You need to stand up to this man, he is a bully... Mental abusive can just be as damaging as physical abusive. If people say things often enough to us, we start to believe it and that... (read in full...)
I really liked him until I saw his teeth!
Q. there was this guy i went to school with that i had the biggest crush on. through facebook we have been back in touch and so far he seems to be the most humble guy and i like him. i had of course not seen him in years so he came by this past ...
A. 24 January 2011: "I liked him before he opened his mouth" - so surely you have already made your mind up haven't you??
None of us are perfect, some have big ears, other have big noses, some have horrible personalities too... but why is it some people tend not to n... (read in full...)
He has lost his libido but I cant help thinking it must be to do with me.........
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 2 years and recently he's just stopped being interested in sex. I got a bit upset not because we weren't having any but because it made me feel like he'd lost attraction for me. He explained he just goes through ...
A. 24 January 2011: I agree with Honeypie... he is telling the truth. We all go through stages where sex is the last thing on our minds and there can many reasons for this. Work, stress, tiredness and also being in a long term relationship and getting in a rut. B... (read in full...)
I'd like to slow down and focus more on foreplay with my boyfriend. Any ideas?
Q. Hey, I'd love some advice from girl and guy readers on how to give my guy great foreplay, please:) We've been together 4 months, and things are great. We're very physically attracted to one another, and usually go straight from kissing to ...
A. 23 January 2011:
Give his manhood some attention... I am not going to go into great detail, but if you are unsure PM me!. They love their tool played with.. but then I enjoy giving too so we are quids in.
Try it!... (read in full...)
My married man just let me go with no reason. I'm trying to get over him
Q. help! Im still in love with my married man. How can i comlpetely forget him? We have not contacted for 2 months now.i dont know the reason why. He just let me go without saying a word. Im trying to move on. I have been dating with other guys and ...
A. 23 January 2011: I am sorry that you are feeling this way, it isn't nice when your heart as been broken, even more so when you don't know what went so wrong. I know exactly what you are feeling... they are the first thing you think about when you wake, and the ... (read in full...)
I gave him a party for his 50th... he gave me a card for mine and I'm so hurt!
Q. I gave my husband a party for his 50th birthday, he handed me a card for mine, I am hurt (we can afford a party)and I can't get over it, help? ...
A. 22 January 2011:
I too am convinced that he didn't mean to hurt you!
Men are just so so different to us women and if you approach them about it they reply with... "I just didn't think"... and the truth is, they don't!!
I used to actually buy my own cards and... (read in full...)
Homesick in Canada! How do I cope?
Q. Ok well basically im 15 nearly 16. 5 months ago i moved from england to canada. i have moved so much in my life and i finally lived somewhere where i had the most amazing friends, family and school and it all fell apart when i moved here. so my ...
A. 22 January 2011:
Five months may appear a long time to you but it isn't really, it can take quite sometime to settle in somewhere, whether it be a new country, school, even a job when you are an adult. We humans don't like change and all struggle.
I take it... (read in full...)
My best friend is in love with my boyfriend!
Q. my best friend is in love with my BF and i dont know what to do i really love him and every time we go out one of my BFFs start to like him i dont know what to do, my heart is breaking and i dont want to lose anyone ...
A. 22 January 2011: How do you know she is in love with your Boyfriend.... has she told you?
Perhaps you are a little insecure and think that everyone likes and wants him, and in fact it is you that is only feeling this.
Look at it this way, if they do like him... (read in full...)
The sweetness of first love....
Q. Stories of first loves? Did it last? How old were you? What went wrong? Do you still think of them? Are you still together? Stories, please. I'm interested :)...
A. 22 January 2011: Ahhh.... First Loves!
I was 15 when I met my first love and he was 19. We lasted 6 years believe it or not. But because we were young, we would breakup occasionally and sometimes argue.
But following the breakups and when we got back togethe... (read in full...)
Does he have a right to keep this information to himself?
Q. Hello, I have a problem with my fiance he has stomach pains so he went to the hospital for treatment, i asked him what the doctor said ! he ingorned my question and kept on saying to me to take care of my health. I dont know really i feel le...
A. 21 January 2011:
For me it wouldnt be the fact that he has left me out, it would be the fact that I would be worried that he doesn't want to tell me if it was something serious.
Perhaps he doesn't want to worry you.
Men do tend to bottle things up, which mak... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 21 January 2011:
I think on this occasion you should put your own feelings to one side.. and think of your husband, his mother and the family who loved this lady!!!!!
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I don't feel his erection through his pants, does this mean he is really small?
Q. I have recently met this guy online whom I like quite a lot. I wouldn't say I am in love with him since we have only been on four dates but we have reasonable chemistry and get along otherwise. We have made out twice already, pants on but I don't ...
A. 21 January 2011:
Perhaps he didn't get an erection and that is why! It depends where you kissed, if it was in a public place, it may be down to nerves.
Anyway, so what he if has a small one... he may have a small nail, but has a big hammer to knock it in with..... (read in full...)
She chose her husband over me, but still wants to talk! Why is this and how do I deal with it?
Q. I have been seeing a married woman for about 8 months. I’m a single male. She decided to stay with her hubby. I do love this gal and have for years before this started. I love talking with her. We have weekend places very close to each other. This ...
A. 21 January 2011: I am sorry you are feeling such pain, it isn't a nice place to be when you love someone and it doesn't work, but that is the risk you take when you are the 3rd party.
You say she chose to stay with her husband... surely that should be enough e... (read in full...)
How do I bring this idea of separation to my husband when we don't even talk anymore?
Q. Im in serious need of help. I have been married for 13 years. We have two kids-12 and 5 years. I am emtionally drained in this marriage. It has come to a point whereby I have long and seriously thought about leaving just to clear my head and think ...
A. 21 January 2011:
You have two options here;
You either MAKE him sit down and pour your heart out once and for all as difficult as it will be. You won't be the first to say "we don't talk" and you won't be the last. However, sometimes it just has to be done..... (read in full...)
This guy runs a mile everytime I see him, what have I done?
Q. Hello everyone who takes the time to read this. Im sorry it will probably be long and maybe confuss you but Ill try to keep it short and simple. Ok i go to University and I share a Maisonette with 12 people (including me) we are seperated by 2 fla...
A. 21 January 2011:
If I was a betting lass, I would say this guy does like you but he is extremely shy around you. I am a very outgoing person, but if I like someone I can sometimes become tongue tied and nerves ... I know, I know, its silly.
If you think you re... (read in full...)
She helped me get a job before we broke up, and now I feel guilty for leaving!
Q. Me and this girl dated for just over a month(but felt like a year). She was extremely verablly and emotionally abusive, and i still dont understand why she insulted me, belittled me and harassed me so much because i treated like a queen, gave her ...
A. 21 January 2011:
If she treated you in that manner, then to me that is the least she could do.
By the way, she didn't get you the job... she only referred you like she could have referred several other people. You actually got the job yourself, so I wouldn't b... (read in full...)
Is Love Enough?
Q. If you Love someone, is that enough to sustain a lifetime relationship...til death do us part? After being with someone for over 20 years with so many bumps along the way. Hurt feelings, mis-trust, doubt, anger, bitterness. How do you ignore ...
A. 21 January 2011:
I think you can actually love someone, live with them, but still feel like the loneliest and saddest person in the world. So no, I don't think love alone is enough to make a relationship/marriage last.
You obviously have some difficulties... (read in full...)
Help needed to get over an obsession with an online webcam model......
Q. well hello i found this site while in desperate need of some advice to help me with a trying situation that has literally drained me. i joined this adult website one of those solo girl websites at first it was just for entertainment then i started ...
A. 21 January 2011:
Please... please.. please.... and I mean this in the nicest possible way, take off your rose tinted glasses and find yourself a real life girl. This girl you are referring to, is doing a job, whether it is an acceptable way of earning a livi... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much for him to get in touch with me after a breakup?
Q. Ok, I put a question out here 2 weeks ago when i split up with my fella. I haven't had any contact with or from him since. I look in at his facebook page almost daily to see if he has dropped his info, relationship status etc. Which I know is ...
A. 21 January 2011:
I am sorry to hear you are still hurting!
He is either a player and just likes messing with your emotions because you have held back on contact until now.... OR.... He doesn't really know what he wants.
Either way, this is preventing you fr... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 19 January 2011: If proposing to her is something that you feel you need to do then so be it.
However, what you need to prepare yourself for, is the rejection because like we have all said, she has obviously decided to give this new relationship a go.
Prepare... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 19 January 2011:
13 years is a long time to be in a relationship so although she is with this new guy, she won't be able to just switch you off out of her head. There will be occasions when she is doing things, that will no doubt make her think of you.
How... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much for him to get in touch with me after a breakup?
Q. Ok, I put a question out here 2 weeks ago when i split up with my fella. I haven't had any contact with or from him since. I look in at his facebook page almost daily to see if he has dropped his info, relationship status etc. Which I know is ...
A. 12 January 2011: I am sorry to hear you are going through this - it really isn't nice when you put your life on hold, wondering, hoping and spending every waking hour waiting for a text or a phone call to no avail. I have been there so I know exactly how you are ... (read in full...)
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