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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: Butterfly, time is the only healer unfortunately which is how I am getting myself through it too right now.
Like your guy, the one I was seeing said he wasn't sure what he wanted - so he used the word "casual" instead of FWB (rather clever e... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 11 March 2012:
Basically, what he is wanting you to do is provide him with sex and keep you as a back up whilst he sources something better. I have lost count how many times I have heard a man say he isn't ready for a relationship, but happy to have sex with... (read in full...)
My parents do not approve of my LD online boyfriend and want me to break up with him
Q. Dear Aunts, I met my boyfriend on facebook like 2 years ago. We have developed feeling to each other since then and we started dating. It didnt take long for us to develop such feeling coz we have the similar interests. We live in 2 different cont...
A. 11 March 2012:
If your parents are like any normal loving parents, what they are doing is showing love and concern for you - but you don't see it like that because you are the one in the thick of it.
Have you actually met your boyfriend face to face? If no... (read in full...)
My best friend has started dating and is using the girl to avoid me
Q. I don't know what to do about my best friend. He started dating this new girl and for some reason is avoiding me. Anytime I ask him to come over he makes up a lame excuse like, "he has to take his niece to the mall." Yesterday, i had finally got him ...
A. 11 March 2012:
I hate to say it, but he is all loved up and isn't one of the lads anymore.... well, not until the first stages of the "loved up" bit is over!
Its not very nice when friends do this, but unfortunately, some do do it. Why don't you try inviting... (read in full...)
Just flirting, or is he a cheat?
Q. I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. He flirts with my best friend, he grabs her booty while hugging her, and his best friend told me hes a player. Honestly I trust my boyfriend but I just seem to have these doubts in my head. (Hearing myself ...
A. 11 March 2012:
I would tell him straight that you don't like it! Its totally unacceptable behaviour and he is showing no respect for you.
I would also listen to his best mate - I say that because, I recall being about your age at the time it happened to ... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 10 March 2012:
Oh boy do I feel for you, and know exactly what you are feeling right now and my heart goes out to you!
The best revenge I can suggest is for you to ignore her, and try and move on. Unfortunately when in this kind of situation, time is the ... (read in full...)
Is he using me for fun because he can?
Q. hey well me and my bestfriend started to have phone sex a week ago but he kinda has a gf there on and off all the time.. and well i told him i liked him ages ago but i dont know if he is using me for some fun cause he knows he can? and he says alot ...
A. 10 March 2012: Of course he is using you.... he wants his cake and eat it. Put a stop to it and retain some dignity! ... (read in full...)
I feel so undeserving of him! He's a 10 and I'm a 3. What do I do about it?
Q. At 21, after 1 serious relationship, I think I have a little idea on what kind of man I would want to date. I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him. There are so much more about him that are ...
A. 10 March 2012:
Hey please, stop putting this guy on a pedestal - you are equal and you really should not be putting yourself down like this.
Besides, from what I know of men, they don't like women to talk in this manner, a lot of men find women who are conf... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?
Q. I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...
A. 10 March 2012:
He obviously hasn't shot his load over your stomach all the time since you mention that you like the warmth and heat from his semen from coming inside of you!
A lot of men are very visual, and perhaps he just finds it extremely arousing to ... (read in full...)
I am hungry for her love and care.
Q. Its regarding my girlfriend and me. we are having long distance relation since a year. she used to be so caring and loving. we used to call each other,chat three to four hours daily,share voice recordings and photos via email.. but nowadays,its not ...
A. 10 March 2012:
The last thing you want to be doing is looking for a replacement - what you need to be doing is addressing the problem.
It sounds like you have chatted before with her about breaking up since you mention she gets upset etc and blackmails y... (read in full...)
Am I right in staying away or should I seek him out?
Q. Hi people, I need your help here. I am a 29yr old bi who is male. Guess I lean more towards male attraction than female. there's this guy I have been dating (or so I thought). We have had passionate hugs, he has sent me romantic texts and kisses me ...
A. 10 March 2012:
My advice to you is stay well away!
He sounds like a guy who either enjoys mind games, or he is extremely mixed up and doesn't know if he is straight or gay and trying to fight it.
Don't let this guy break your heart - find a guy that know... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but can't talk/text to me for 15 days? Is he ending things?
Q. This man says he loves me. This man called and said he is going to a two week study and must learn. No talk and no text for 15 days. I'm wondering if he is trying to end the relationship. He tells me he will marry me in the next few years. He also ...
A. 10 March 2012:
How long has this two week studying course been booked? Is it suddenly out of the blue that he has told you he is going on it? Is it in a different country and he won't be able to use his phone?
Some people do need to focus harder than others ... (read in full...)
Guy is sending me mixed signals and I can't tell if he's serious or not
Q. Hey agony aunts. I hav been seeing a guy for about two months. We are both 30 years old. At 1st I wasnt sure if I wanted to hang out with him but somehow, he kept on sending little messages on facebook until i gave him my number and we went out. (i ...
A. 10 March 2012:
Oh dear, I actually feel that I could have wrote this Post myself word for word!
Having been through this myself very recently (and still licking my wounds right now) all I can say to you is, don't waste your time on him. If he was really that ... (read in full...)
I never seen the break up coming and now ex texts me 5 months later to tell me about a movie? What gives?!
Q. My ex and I broke up a little over 5 months ago. It was a very painful breakup due to the fact that his decision to end our relationship was compeltly out of the blue. I didn't see it coming, neither did his family, friends or even his co-workers ...
A. 10 March 2012:
First of all, well done for remaining so strong - you may think that you haven't but believe me, you have done a fab job of controlling your emotions and not chasing him.
It really does annoy me however, how people think that they can walk in ... (read in full...)
I am hungry for her love and care.
Q. Its regarding my girlfriend and me. we are having long distance relation since a year. she used to be so caring and loving. we used to call each other,chat three to four hours daily,share voice recordings and photos via email.. but nowadays,its not ...
A. 10 March 2012:
LDR's have always left a bitter taste in my mouth, but I guess some do work out. However, it only works if both parties put equally the amount of effort it.
Having read your post, this isn't the case, it is plain to see that you are putting ... (read in full...)
I want to get a credit card ...
Q. i would like to get a credit card but i dont want my husband to know, hes a bit controling.... even though we share a bank account or at least i think we do..... would he be alerted if i got one or used it?...
A. 10 March 2012:
No he wouldnt be alerted. However, before you go out and get one, ensure you can afford to pay for it because if you are short of money now, with him being finanically controlling, how are you possibily going to find the money to pay off the card... (read in full...)
Should I take the risk and go to meet this man about a job? Parents told me not to go because it sounds dodgy
Q. A man called me about a cleaning job last week, but i missed the call, and when i called back, he said he had given the job to another lady, but he said he would call me if it didn't work out with her. I got a phone call from him again today, saying ...
A. 8 March 2012:
From what you have said, I agree with your parents in that it does all appear a little dodgy!
However, why don't you ring the Jobcentre and give them the reference number for the job in question and state that you have asked this guy for more... (read in full...)
Suggestions for spicing things up?
Q. I feel my sex life is getting a little stale. We see each other always one morning a week, same morning, same routine. The sex is amazing but we're getting in a rut. Does anyone have any suggestions for spicing it up? We can't really do a diff...
A. 7 March 2012:
Oh dear, not a good sign if you only meet once a week and its stale. However, I get your drift in that it is the same day each week so is predictable in that since.
Have you tried any roleplay? Does he always come to your home and you go strai... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to be annoyed that he'd prefer to communicate via FB than texts?
Q. Should i be mad at my boyfriend about this ?. We were supposed to meet up today. I sent him a text message , and ten minutes later, he seen me a message on facebook saying that we would have to write to each other on facebook, and not on our phones, ...
A. 7 March 2012:
Perhaps he has financial difficulties that he is too embarrassed to discuss with you, hence why he can't texted and only messaged you on FB.
You say he is unemployed and bipolar, so I do believe that he is possibly struggling financially ... (read in full...)
I kept pictures of my ex that still turn me on! Should I tell my husband?
Q. I know what I did was wrong, but don't know what to do now. I have some pictures of an ex-boyfriend. Some of them are not very appropriate, like he's naked in some, and even a close-up of his 'thing'. My husband knows about the pictures, and as...
A. 7 March 2012: Ok, lets flip the coin here - how would you feel if your husband was doing the same across you? How would you feel if he STILL had photos of an ex? I bet you wouldn't be quite so understanding!
By all means tell him - let him feel like crap, le... (read in full...)
Do I pick the one my parents want and live an okay life or pick who will make me happiest but know I will have to start all over?
Q. I have been in some real shitty relationships since I was about 17. I was always the 'untouchable' hottie who everyone thought was gorgeous but never got a chance with. I got real sick and started to finally date this older guy who at the time was ...
A. 6 March 2012:
I personally think that you need time away from men completely for a while and have some space alone.
The worst thing anyone can do is jump from one relationship to another because it puts a lot of pressure on a new relationship ie with Jame... (read in full...)
My boyfriend helps himself to the food in my home and I don't like it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I see him at weekends and he stays at my house. When we go out he pays for meals. I am also generous. However, he gets up in the night or early morning and helps himself to food in my house. This really ...
A. 6 March 2012:
I too personally think you are over reacting. If I loved someone, I would give them my last breath, never mind my last slice of bread, or last tin of beans!!
If it really bothers you that much - then when he comes to stay, go and do a food sh... (read in full...)
does deleting his texts and not telling me anything make my husband guilty off something
Q. Hi i have been married for 21 years my husband is a lorry driver,he started going into a cafe about three years ago for his breakfast and became friendly with the owners her husband knows mine through the lorrys as hes also a lorry driver,but his ...
A. 6 March 2012:
The best advise I can offer you is that you take the bull by the horns and sit him down and explain all. Explain that when you borrowed his phone, you noticed all the sent messages to that particular woman. Be prepared for him to get on the defe... (read in full...)
I am having thoughts of my girlfriend with another man and I am disgusted by this, how do I stop these thoughts?
Q. I have a girlfriend...we have been in a relationship for the past one and a half years...she's everything that I ever wanted and loves me very much...I plan on marrying her when the time is right...we haven't had a full sexual intercourse till now ...
A. 2 March 2012:
Some people do have various and unusal sexual thoughts... I know that I have had them in the past about my partner having sex with another woman. I found it odd too because it would have killed me inside if he really did have sex with someone else... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my confused feelings? I think my brother's wife fancies me and I feel the same about her.
Q. My brother's wife and I have history, we both have moved on since she married my brother but the only problem is deep down i still fancy her and deep down in her heart i know she feels the same. But she will not admit it to herself. We only see each...
A. 2 March 2012:
Stay well away - Is it really worth losing a brother and family members for a woman you desire? Because that is what will happen!
Find a lady of your own - please don't do this to your brother! Look at it another way, how would you feel if ... (read in full...)
I have a sexless marriage and my husband is a sex addict! What do I do?
Q. I desperately need help. I have no one who I can talk to about this and I'm afraid it's going to destroy me. I've been married for 26 years. There is no question it's not a perfect marriage. There are two issues that I am fighting and feel like I'm ...
A. 2 March 2012:
You really need to ask yourself why are you in this marriage! What are you actually getting out of it, other than heartache?
No one deserves to be treated in this manner - and people only get away with what we allow them to get away with. ... (read in full...)
After 10 months of being together, having sex, bf still hasn't said those 3 little words
Q. What if you and your boyfriend have been dating for 10 months then loose your virginity to each other and yet we still didn't say "I love you"? He believes to love someone you have to be with them for the rest of your life,but that was at the ...
A. 22 February 2012:
I dont mean to appear rude here, but why do you feel the need to hear him say it first? Why can't YOU say it if that is how you feel? For all you know, he could be thinking along the same lines as you!
Is it really important that you hear him... (read in full...)
What is the opinion on a 40 year old man who has never been married or engaged?
Q. I have a question for the ladies.. what do you think of 40 year old men who have never lived with a woman, been engaged, married, etc. would you question if they are boyfriend or better yet.... husband material? This conversation came up at work ...
A. 21 February 2012:
Having met someone myself of a similar age who had never been married or engaged, at first I thought... fab... no baggage!
However, I soon learnt to realise there was more to it than meets the eye. More often than not, once you dig deeper, ... (read in full...)
What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?
Q. hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...
A. 4 March 2011: Lulu....... (read in full...)
First time BJ! I might freak out!
Q. I am a virgin and i have never gone further than hand jobs with my bf. I really want to give him head but i'm scared that i'll start to and then get grossed out and offend him or something (it ISN'T gross, it's just my first time and i'm nervous)...
A. 4 March 2011: What is it that makes you think it will be gross? Just imagine that it is one of your favourite lollypops and try and chill... I think you will be fine, and you may just surprise yourself and really enjoy it!! Favoured condoms are ok, but the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't respect my hobby and career decisions...
Q. I feel my boyfriend doesn't take my passion for art or the career path I want to follow seriously. I've explained to him is part of who I am, drawing means everything to me as it's not just a hobby, it's something I hope to be into within my career ...
A. 4 March 2011: Only you can decide whether to ditch him or not.... However, what I will say is, don't let a boyfriend get in the way of your future career....something that you are so passionate about. On a personal note, I feel that I have only ever made on... (read in full...)
What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?
Q. hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...
A. 3 March 2011:
Oh I forgot... Beaver is another one!... (read in full...)
How do I get my model girlfriend to listen to me?
Q. hey everyone, my girlfriend is a model and shes doin nightwear stuff like dresses for party and stuff like that. and sometimes she has to do photos with guys. im a model too but i hate it when my gf is doing stuff with other male models. i only do ...
A. 3 March 2011:
Mmmm you sound very much like my first love... I am now in my 40s, but started modelling when I was 15, my boyfriend came along when I was 16... he hated it too and used to get extremely jealous. But like I said to him, and I will say the same... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking this?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. We live about an hour and a half apart and have been discussing moving closer together recently. I have been some what hesitant because she is allergic to cats and my parents have cats and I ...
A. 3 March 2011:
How very thoughtful of you!
Well I have cats, and one of my childs friends is allergic to cats... however, he comes to our house everyday for an hour or so, and also has sleep overs at weekends. He is fine for the hour or two, but when he stay... (read in full...)
What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?
Q. hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...
A. 3 March 2011:
Mine is my Pink Pocket! :0)... (read in full...)
How can I explain things to my wonderful supportive boyfriend and my friends so they can understand my depression has nothing to do with them?
Q. I have always suffered from depression. It's not all the time, but it is fairly severe and hard to pull out of. My wonderful supportive boyfriend and other friends don't understand it and take it personally. They get upset because they can't ma...
A. 3 March 2011:
I am assuming that you are getting professional support for this - if not, then you must go and see your GP who will put you in touch with the right people... this is something that you can't possibly fight alone.
As for your boyfriend an... (read in full...)
Ejaculation places of interest.
Q. Ejaculation Places of Interest What does it typically mean when: men have a fantasy about cuming on a woman's breasts? Why does my husband suddenly express this same fantasy? After one year of marriage do I have reason for concern? ...
A. 1 March 2011: Over here in England it is known as giving the woman a pearl necklace.
If you are happy with it, then continue, if not, then you must say so... you shouldn't do something that you are not comfortable with.
Yes, it is something that i... (read in full...)
2 months into my marriage and I'm already depressed!
Q. I'm so depressed. I'm 30years old and got married to a 65 year old 2months ago. We dated for 3years online, however i've visited and lived with him for a period of 3months condensed. This guy is weird- he has no friends at all, he doesn't watch tv ...
A. 1 March 2011:
I know that you have said, please don't ask why you married him, but I am afraid that I must ask this question! Why on earth DID you you marry him?
All these things that you say about him, being weird because he doesnt watch tv, or listen to mu... (read in full...)
I married my husband but I still think on my ex
Q. I had a boyfriend that I loved so much we were together for 6 years and I gave him my virginity. I was young but I loved him so, but he use to be so controlling and very very jealous, that even though it broke my heart I broke up him. There was not ...
A. 1 March 2011:
I personally don't think you were being unfair in marrying your husband because he was different. You obviously must have loved your husband to have married him, and of course to have lasted as long as you have.
I also think that deep down a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend helps when things are rough financially, why cant I count on my wife?
Q. I am a very frustrated husband. I may be the big reason for all of my problems because I am married and have a girlfriend that my wife does not know that I am still seeing. I met my girlfriend while driving over the road as a truck driver and she ...
A. 28 February 2011: I am really unsure what more you expect from your wife to be truthful. At least she has been loyal to you, been there as a wife, and a mother. Your mistress is being more supportive because she isnt the one in the thick of it all finanically...... (read in full...)
Married and yet falling in love with my mistress....
Q. I have been, I guess, just looking for someone I could talk to who might have experienced what I am going through. I have been married for 6 years. I always thought I was happily married, but I think I have just been content and maybe we are just...
A. 28 February 2011:
Thanks for your update....
Ok, so you have obviously made your mind up that you don't want to end this affair.... Well in that case, the least you can do is set your wife free because its really not fair. What is the point of staying toge... (read in full...)
Married and yet falling in love with my mistress....
Q. I have been, I guess, just looking for someone I could talk to who might have experienced what I am going through. I have been married for 6 years. I always thought I was happily married, but I think I have just been content and maybe we are just...
A. 27 February 2011:
Yes I think it is possible... However, before you get carried away, please rewind back to the time when you first met your wife. I am sure she made you feel like this woman is making you feel, and you must have felt something really strong t... (read in full...)
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