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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 26 January 2011:
With all the will in the world, we can't make people love us... you arent alone in what you are feeling right now. I know we have been harsh with you, the truth hurts I guess... but please, please, let this go, and move on. ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 25 January 2011:
I personally think you should put your energy into finding yourself a new lady and learning from your mistakes.... you are flogging a dead horse!
How do you know this new man isn't making her happy! If I was a betting lass, if she was seriousl... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much for him to get in touch with me after a breakup?
Q. Ok, I put a question out here 2 weeks ago when i split up with my fella. I haven't had any contact with or from him since. I look in at his facebook page almost daily to see if he has dropped his info, relationship status etc. Which I know is ...
A. 21 January 2011:
I am sorry to hear you are still hurting!
He is either a player and just likes messing with your emotions because you have held back on contact until now.... OR.... He doesn't really know what he wants.
Either way, this is preventing you fr... (read in full...)
Do I really need to pretend like I'm too busy to hang out with him in order to get him interested?
Q. I like this guy and my friends all know I do. When I asked them about going to hang out with him they told me that I act too available and that I should not go. The last time we hung out was a week ago and we ended up hanging out with some of my ...
A. 20 January 2011:
No you don't need to pretend you are too busy to hang out with him because that is when all the silly mind games start and then you end up getting no where.
If he asks you out again and you do geniunely like him, then go for it. Just allow h... (read in full...)
He treats me like a princess, how do I treat him in return?
Q. well i met some one a year ago just been talkin as friends the past 3 months we have been meeting up at jungle gym with our little girls same age. Then he tells me that 5 years ago he used to see me walkin about our town and wish he had the courage ...
A. 20 January 2011:
Can I just say how lovely it is to hear that someone is soooo happy, and being treated in this manner. There is hope for me yet... Hmmmmm, does he have an older single brother by any chance. hahaha..
As for what you could buy him... that ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my friend's boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm young girl whose feels like I'm not a true friend to my friend. First of all i don't want to be judged cause I'm only human. I've been cheating with my friend's boyfriend and no i don't have a boyfriend. The thing is this guy want...
A. 20 January 2011:
What should you do?
Own up to what an awful "so called friend" you have been... how selfish of you to sleep with your friends boyfriend and not only that you did it just for your own pleasure.
I suggest you go find yourself a boyfriend... (read in full...)
I never said it was over but my girlfriend was sleeping with another man when we were supposed to be having space!
Q. Is this considered cheating? So my GF and I have been going through a very turbulent part in our relationship, and we never said it was over but I just been very distant from her due to stress, so I told her that we need to have some space so I can ...
A. 20 January 2011:
I do apologise.... my comment to your orignal post was sent before your followup came through but didnt show up until afterwards.
You state that she slept with someone after 3 weeks of your split - Well that I feel is a little too soon if she ... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of what people would think if they knew I've never had a relationship. How can I interact more successfully with guys?
Q. I'm 17 years old, turning 18 and i never had a boyfriend. I never even went out on a date or kissed a guy. A lot of guys have asked me out especially these last few months, but i always said no beacause they're just not my type, apart from one guy. ...
A. 19 January 2011:
I agree with dirtball... how do you know these guys aren't your type if you have never had a date? Or are you just going purely on looks. If the latter is the reason, then you have a big shock coming, because beauty fades very quickly!
Nex... (read in full...)
I'm married and have a strong emotional attachment to a co-worker. How do I get out of this mess?
Q. I apologize in advance for the length and breadth of this posting, as it's going to be quite a novel. I've been going through a self-inflicted emotional turmoil for about two years or so now and I've not shared it with anyone close to me because I'm ...
A. 19 January 2011:
Mmmmm, I sense because you are not that in to your husband, this man has become appealing to you whilst you have been at your lowest.
Believe me, if this coworker was interested in you, he would have made some hints about it by now. Men are not... (read in full...)
I never said it was over but my girlfriend was sleeping with another man when we were supposed to be having space!
Q. Is this considered cheating? So my GF and I have been going through a very turbulent part in our relationship, and we never said it was over but I just been very distant from her due to stress, so I told her that we need to have some space so I can ...
A. 19 January 2011:
Did you expect her to become a nun for the 2 months whilst you went in your man cave??... I am sorry, but you didn't really leave her much option but to carry on with her life... and I must say, I take my hat off to her, because there are far ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex?
Q. My Girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex? I am not sure what to take of this we have been dating over a year now. She wants me to hit her.. I dont know what to do is it normal?...
A. 19 January 2011:
Mmmmm, I always say, if you aren't comfortable about doing something sexually, then don't do it and mostly certainly don't be forced in to it.
How long have you known your girlfriend? How do you know she wouldn't have you arrested for domestic... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 19 January 2011: If proposing to her is something that you feel you need to do then so be it.
However, what you need to prepare yourself for, is the rejection because like we have all said, she has obviously decided to give this new relationship a go.
Prepare... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 19 January 2011:
How charming of her to tell you this... and how lovely he was to leave a lasting impression, even if it was an STD!
Try not to beat yourself up about it... you must be doing something right for you to still be together all these years.
I ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has a new man, how do I win her back?
Q. I am in a situation was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage, we never married it wasnt really dicussed, but we got on regardless...life was good but ...... she was always ...
A. 19 January 2011:
13 years is a long time to be in a relationship so although she is with this new guy, she won't be able to just switch you off out of her head. There will be occasions when she is doing things, that will no doubt make her think of you.
How... (read in full...)
Is this an acceptable way to dump someone?
Q. Good evening everyone, I dated my ex for a little over a year. He always had issues with communicating with me, and I too have my own issues that contributed to the fall of our relationship. He told me that he didn't know if he wanted to be wit...
A. 19 January 2011:
No it is not an acceptable way to dump someone!
He needs to grow some balls and become a man but I don't think he will because guys like that think its ok to treat women in that manner.
As hard as it is, you must move on and I also suggest y... (read in full...)
Could I really be that off about how the date went? Title
Q. So last night I had a date with a guy I met on a dating site a few days ago. He's the one who actually contacted me first and after quite a few emails we decided to meet for drinks. I thought the date went well and I found him attractive despite the ...
A. 19 January 2011:
One thing you should be grateful for, is the fact that he was honest with you and told you that there wasn't that spark there for him.
There could be a million reasons why he said this, and unfortunately you will never know. However, you... (read in full...)
The big 'O'....how hard is it to achieve one?
Q. How hard is it to Orgasm? I am 17 and my bf's cousin is one of those girls that is just filled with sex stories. She said that she had her first Orgasm at 16 ... (mind you her bf was 24) she says it's easy. But really what are your girls ...
A. 19 January 2011:
Women are all different... some can have an orgasm very easily just within a few minutes of a guy inserting her with his penis. However, MOST woman, require a lot of foreplay, and stimulation to the clitoris and still don't orgasm purely by a peni... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't what it should be!
Q. im 25 and my bf is 39 so far we have a good relantionship but im concern about our sex life hes sex drive isnt where i would like it to be i wanted to know do men at that age not geet in the mood to have sex as much...and how can i get hem to want ...
A. 19 January 2011:
I must say I was shocked that you sent him a text about this. Don't be embarrassed about discussing sex with your partner, its something that seriously needs to be address or it will have an inpact on your future with him.
Make sure there w... (read in full...)
I cannot find love! Is this only me?
Q. I can not find love, Is this Only me? i was in love very much with someone 10yrs ago, but he said me cant be together with me. After that.. for 8yrs i met many guys but never feel something special for them.. 2yrs ago i met a guy, he likes me s...
A. 18 January 2011:
You are not alone m'dear, but wouldn't you rather be happy being on your own than in a relationship that you are not 100% happy with!
For the first time since I was 16...I am now in my 40s, I am single, I have been single for nearly 3 years. Ye... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't what it should be!
Q. im 25 and my bf is 39 so far we have a good relantionship but im concern about our sex life hes sex drive isnt where i would like it to be i wanted to know do men at that age not geet in the mood to have sex as much...and how can i get hem to want ...
A. 18 January 2011:
You must talk to each other about this, and I am sure afterwards you will both feel better for it.
Has it been like this since day one, or has it only occurred recently?
I don't think its his age, as I know guys that are like stallions at 39... (read in full...)
What is wrong with him, if he wants me back, why does he keep doing this stuff in my house?
Q. Maybe I'm crazy, but I always thought there was an unwritten rule that its wrong to get with one of your ex's friends. My boyfriend and I have been broken up officially for almost a year, but after six months we got back together and were seeing ...
A. 18 January 2011:
Don't waste anymore of your time on this looser! He sounds horrible and as for your so called friends, I would dump them too for having sex with him. If you really care about someone you would not treat them in this manner, this goes for part... (read in full...)
We're attracted, she wants a relationship, and I only want sex
Q. I met a chinese girl in my seminar group at university.We are both attracted to each other.The only problem is that I think she wants a serious realtionship whereas I would like sex.I don't see a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship because we differ ...
A. 18 January 2011:
Firstly can I say how nice it is that you are thinking about her feelings in that you don't want to hurt her. More often than not, especially when someone just purely wants sex, they tend not to think of the other persons feelings and just aim ... (read in full...)
Sexual relationship with my 2nd cousin?
Q. I've been in a sexual relationship with my second cousin. Is this wrong? We are in love. Its not something we sought out. It just happened....
A. 17 January 2011:
We can't help who we fall in love with, and fortunately for you, you are not breaking the law by having a relationship with your 2nd cousin.
I know someone who did the same, they have been together 15 years, are now married and have 3 wonderful ... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 17 January 2011:
She is her daddys girl and there is nothing wrong in it at all. She is his little Princess and he is just being normal and showing her affection.
I am still my daddys girl and I am in my 40s. I used to snuggle up on the sofa with him and have... (read in full...)
I don't cook and bf said no one will want me even he is verbally abusive to me.
Q. I don't cook and my boyfriend hates it. He said he will eventually leave me because I am not good at cooking and housework. He said no one will want me. His ex cooks very well, but then he has issues with her character or looks. I feel so tired and ...
A. 17 January 2011:
Don't allow him to put you down like this hun because it will do your confidence no good at all!
If you are soooo useless, why is he still with you? Cooking isn't the be all and end all of a good relationship. Its like ironing, most men I k... (read in full...)
Attracted to blondes!
Q. alright for some reason I am really attracted to blondes. So I am at this high school dance last night and when I walk in right away I see this girl who has a smoking hot body. at first I was almost intimidated but thinking of the last girl I ...
A. 17 January 2011:
Perhaps she is trying to pluck up the courage to text you.. you mentioned that her friend said she was shy, so she may be just finding the right time to text you.
All you can do is wait, I know its frustrating, but there is little else you can... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 17 January 2011:
Silence is one of the most heartbreaking and frustrating things I think a man can do to a woman. If like me, you end up making yourself worse through it, when once again you send a further text or try to call to no avail.
As hard as it i... (read in full...)
He asked me out but didn't pay for the date?
Q. A guy that I know is interested in me (we've kissed) asked me to hang out (alone for the first time, also this is the beginning of our "friendship"), but he never paid for me even though he treated it as a date (kissed me again)...is that normal? I ...
A. 15 January 2011: Like someone else has said, at least you didn't pay for his too. I recall being asked out on a date once, and I ended up paying for the whole of the meal! However, I always feel better, especially on a first date, going halves. ... (read in full...)
Help me before I hurt the one I am with to be with the ex
Q. I am into a girl but she lied to me that she had no man in her life and I opted to end the relationship after I discovered it was a lie. She has been trying to get back by calling, coming to my Hse, she has changed her way of dressing and looks ...
A. 14 January 2011: As hard as it is, you need to move on. She has stated she just wants fun - and in England when someone says that, they mean they want a occasional relationship... no strings attached - just a F... buddy! Please don't be drawn in by her looking ... (read in full...)
No christmas or birthday card from my boyfriend, is it OK for me to be upset?
Q. I wrote on here a few weeks ago about how my boyfriend of 5 months didn't get me even a card for Christmas after I got him a $200 gift. My birthday was a week later and I did not get even a card for that either. Am I being a baby or do I have a r...
A. 14 January 2011: You most certainly have every right to be upset! For me Birthdays are personal, and we would like to think our loved ones would remember this by at least sending a card. He should be expressing his feelings for you on your special day and tre... (read in full...)
Cheated under bizarre circumstances while drunk, don't want to hurt my girlfriend.....
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. This is my first relationship, I’ve known that she was the one since I first laid eyes on her, and I plan to propose after we finish college. Last night, I cheated on her. I went over to a friend’s (w...
A. 14 January 2011:
I would normally say you made your bed, now lie in it! However, I do feel from reading your post that you are deeply upset about what you have done and you don't need me telling you how silly and foolish you have been because you already know that... (read in full...)
I cheated and don't love him anymore
Q. I been with my boyfriend for 5yeras we ahve a child together.. I been very unhappy and i cheated.. He found out but he still wants to be with me but I dont. I dont know what to do. I dont Love him anymore....
A. 14 January 2011:
You cannot stay with someone just for the sake of pleasing them. You have made it clear that you are unhappy - there really is no point in plodding along, its not good for either of you or your child.
It is very upsetting for all parties when... (read in full...)
He still checks an online dating site, I wonder if I am being played
Q. I met a man on a dating site, we have been dating a little over a month. I really like him and he said he really likes me too. He brought up deleting our accounts, I deleting mine, he said he can't figure out how to delete his. He said he is not ...
A. 14 January 2011:
The problem with dating sites, is that it can get addictive for both men and women and continue to log on despite having met someone. Why? I don't know. When it has happened to me before now, I can only assume it is in case they miss out on some... (read in full...)
My fiance is convinced I cheated on him even thought I didn't because I lied to him
Q. I'm having an issue with my fiancee and was looking for a bit of help... We've been together for almost a year, but a lot of time has been spent apart while I take care of legal issues in the state from which I moved. Over the course of that t...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess there is no way of proving to your fiance that you didnt cheat on him, he will just have to take your word for it, as I am sure he will. From the outside looking in, it would look like you are being secretative and hiding somethin... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend still a virgin, if she has been poked?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and so is my girlfriend. We have been together for just under 11 morths and are thinking about having sex. We are both virgins. But, she is worried that she isn't a virgin because one her ex boyfriends poked in a past relation...
A. 14 January 2011:
Poked?? That is a new one on me! Do you mean poked as in, he put his finger inside her? If that is what you mean, then your girlfriend is still a virgin!... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 14 January 2011:
Nothing odd about that at all! I am a mother and love my child dearly, but I have never gone ga ga either over children. I recall a rather embarrassing moment.. I went to visit a friend who had recently had a baby, and also a new puppy. It wasn... (read in full...)
Why can't my boyfriend make me orgasm???
Q. Me and my boyfriend have had sex a few times now and i was wondering Why can't he make me orgasm? We've had a lot of foreplay but he doesn't come either. I'm usually on top and we're quite rough but neither of us come! Help!...
A. 13 January 2011: Believe it or not, a lot of women don't orgasm during intercourse.
Rather than doing it all rough, like you have stated, why don't you actually take it nice and slow... enjoy the moment like you do with the foreplay - you may find that you both... (read in full...)
What does adventurous really mean? Having sex in weird places?
Q. i had been dating this lad for the past 6 months we split up in march 2010. we havent spoke since but we have recontly just got talking and we both had change, we alwasy used to argue abouot stupid things. in the time we never spoke he starting ...
A. 13 January 2011:
You say he said you weren't adventurous enough - but are you sure he was referring to sex? He could have been referring to anything!
If he was referring to sex - well adventurous doesn't necessarily mean having sex in weird places. Adv... (read in full...)
Do I follow through with my fantasy?
Q. I have been married to my wife for over 15 years now and can't stop thinking of watching her with well endowed men, especially black men. Do I follow through with this fantasy?...
A. 13 January 2011:
I agree with the other replies... some fantasies, if not all, should remain as just that!
You have been married for 15 years, and you could quite easily loose that if you carry out this fantasy. How do you know that after the event, you w... (read in full...)
Why my wife feel pain when fingered inside?
Q. My wife loves when I finger her clitoris. But when I try to finger inside she feel pain even when it was a gentle touch. Is this a common problem? Is there a way to avoid the pain? Thanks in advance....
A. 13 January 2011:
No it isn't normal to feel pain inside and she should get this checked out!
My mind is now working overtime... does she not feel the same pain when you have intercourse??
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Am I asking too much to be texted at least once a day by a guy who's supposed to be my boyfriend?
Q. My problem is with my boyfriend (at least I think he's my boyfriend). We met on an online dating site and hit it off very well. We texted every day and he even called me just to say hi. We went on a few dates and he asked to be exclusive, I said yes ...
A. 13 January 2011: Get your profile back on that dating site immediately... if you can't beat them join them! He has a cheek to ask you to remove yours if he isn't going to do the same. However, my personal opinion is that he is just dangling the carrot and ... (read in full...)
What is it with flaky women on internet dating sites?
Q. I broke up with my partner of 10 years in 2009 and last spring I felt ready to date again. As I dont really meet many people through my work or hobbies (well, I meet people, just not single women), I decided to give internet dating a go. I kn...
A. 12 January 2011:
Unfortunately we are at that age where we all have baggage!
I have been on dating sites and had guys do exactly the same so it isn't just the women. May I suggest that you state on your profile that you are looking for someone who has been sin... (read in full...)
My crazy ex is ruining my life. What do I do?!
Q. I'm really lost here people and I don't know what else to do? I've had a few difficult years of late. My Dad was diagnosed terminally ill and as a result past away a few months ago. I was with a girl who literally changed over night. Wh...
A. 12 January 2011:
What a horrible nasty evil ex girlfriend she is! She doesnt want you but she doesnt want anyone else to have you either.
In hindsight, you should have been up front with your new girlfriend and warned her. I know it is an inconvenienc... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much for him to get in touch with me after a breakup?
Q. Ok, I put a question out here 2 weeks ago when i split up with my fella. I haven't had any contact with or from him since. I look in at his facebook page almost daily to see if he has dropped his info, relationship status etc. Which I know is ...
A. 12 January 2011: I am sorry to hear you are going through this - it really isn't nice when you put your life on hold, wondering, hoping and spending every waking hour waiting for a text or a phone call to no avail. I have been there so I know exactly how you are ... (read in full...)
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