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anonymous
writes:hey everyone,my girlfriend is a model and shes doin nightwear stuff like dresses for party and stuff like that. and sometimes she has to do photos with guys. im a model too but i hate it when my gf is doing stuff with other male models. i only do tv commercials so thats okay coz i dont get thaaat close with girls but when it comes to photos then yes u get really close. i asked her to stop doing it but she doesnt care. i do love her and i know that she loves me too. she tells me that its her ambition and she doesnt even care about her parents who also hate the fact that shes a model. anyway , i dont know how to convince her coz she gets upset whenever i bring this up !! and its pissin me off coz i cant stop thinkin about it !! i dont know what i should do. we're not meant to finish coz we really do love eashother, i know that nothing happens. its just photos but stilli dnt want my girl toget close to other guys in such positions and touchin her !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Again, what are you afraid of? Are you afraid of losing her to another guy? Cause if it's not the model she's working with, it could be someone on the set, it could be a fan, it could be anyone. You are afraid of something. You need to face it. It's not about who's touching her or who's in bed with her. It's about you losing her to someone that's pretending to be intimate with her. What is it that you are afraid of? You are afraid that she'll take it too personally and leave you for whoever it is that's with her at that moment. You are afraid of something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): But it's ok for you to touch other women? I'm sorry but if you trust her then it shouldn't be bothering you this much. You knew what she did before you started dating her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 It's just a job.
If she were a doctor or a nurse, she would get to touch and handle men even in their most private parts. Would you be upset about that too ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not a trust issue nor insecurity. its just the fact that i dont want her to be touched by other guys while doing photos in bed and stuff!!
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 You seem to either be insecure in yourself or have trust issues with your gf. Whichever it is, you need to work on overcoming it. If you don't, you stand a possibility of her leaving you.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (4 March 2011):
 if u continue being insecure like this ur gonna lose her. its just her job.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Hey man, she's a model and that's her job. You are asking her to not be a model. If she was an actress, she'd have to kiss the actor playing her husband. It's not an option, it's the job.
You have to find a way to deal with this. You should not stand in between your lady and her career.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): What are you afraid of? Are you afraid she'll leave you for another model?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): so its alright for you to model but not your girlfriend? what ur doing here is called double standards and its not fair. either you learn to trust her or get out of the relationship coz ur obviously not happy and I doubt ur making her happy eithr acting in this way
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (3 March 2011):
Mmmm you sound very much like my first love... I am now in my 40s, but started modelling when I was 15, my boyfriend came along when I was 16... he hated it too and used to get extremely jealous. But like I said to him, and I will say the same to you, it is just a job - yes a little bit different to the average job, but believe me, that is all it is.
You also must understand that she was doing this before she met you, and you were aware of it from the start. If you had said she was making porn movies, then yes, I could understand.
I am afraid if she is so passionate about doing this line of work, nothing will stop her and you are either going to have to accept it or go your separate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): If you knew your girlfriend was a model before you started dating then i'm sorry but you can't do much about it. It's a job at the end of the day and it's not like she's a porn star and having sex with them.
You say you don't get "that" close to other girls but you still get close to them right? But it's part of your job so it's just how it is.
If you trust your girlfriend and realise it's just part of her job then you should be able to handle it. It's more about your insecurities then her actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): Get over it. Don't expect her to sacrifice her career (and it might well come to that seeing how competitive modelling is) for you. That's selfish, if you loved her you wouldn't ask that as you yourself said 'it's just photos'. If you're 'not meant to finish' and you love her, then you should trust her.
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