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Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?

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Question - (10 March 2012) 11 Answers - (Newest, 27 February 2017)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ownership thing or like a dog, is he trying to mark himself and his territory? There is no need for him to worry about pregnancy as I control it very carefully. But, I would like to feel it inside me. I like the warmth and heat from his semen when he does do it inside me. I would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance!

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A male reader, Stantheman United States +, writes (27 February 2017):

I have done this a number of times but not for porn-inspired reasons, rather i pulled out and thrust against my partner's belly. The reasons are varied but once or twice the girl just didn't want me to come inside because she had a boyfriend and, bizarrely, thought that if I didn't come in her vagina, it wasn't really cheating.

The occasions when I have pulled out before coming and just come on her stomach have been some of the best orgasms I've ever had. I can't say why but think it's a combination of being with somebody you're not supposed to be with as well as the physical sensations. What do I mean by this? During vaginal sex your penis is getting full stimulation.

When you come that stimulation isn't needed as much. Sometimes you want to savour the orgasm spasm by spasm. When you thrust against your partner's stomach the greatest stimulation is of the frenulum as it slides against her stomach.

This can prolong the climax. The other hot aspect is the warm stickiness between your bellies that seems to glue you together. The downside is that it's a lot messier and the semen smell is inescapable (but that can be a turn-on too). Not for everyone I understand and not something I'd want all the time but fun nonetheless.

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (8 May 2013):

I know it's been awhile but some of these answers are just ridiculous! Guys do it because when you pull out, guess where your penis is pointing?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012):

Thank you all for your comments. You may think me naive, but I never once thought the "porn" thing as a reason for his doing it. We did have a talk last night and upon deep discussion, he says that he is "in the back of his mind" always worried about pregnancy, just like several of you suggested. I told him that I was protected from pregnancy and that I wanted him to trust in me and not worry and let himself go. It worked last night, so let's see what happens from from herein out. Thanks for your feedback!

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A female reader, MonksDaBomb United States +, writes (11 March 2012):

MonksDaBomb agony auntI think it's a combination of Hugh J and Saashiie

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A female reader, shaashiie United States +, writes (11 March 2012):

shaashiie agony auntMy boyfriend does this most of the time when he doesn't wear a condom and I've never thought of it as him marking his territory. He is just simply very cautious about not wanting me to get pregnant because neither of us are ready for that responsibility yet, and even though I am on the pill, he can't know for sure if I forgot it etc. Yes he trusts me, but he is doing his part to prevent it just like I am. He did ask me before we ever had sex if he came on me would I be offended, though, so it was something we discussed. I just figured he does it on my stomach because it's the easiest place for him to do it when he's pulling out. It has nothing to do with how much porn he watches and he's never slept with a prostitute and I really doubt he would even entertain that idea.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntSounds to me like he has been watching to many bad porns.

TALK to him. If you can have sex with him, you can talk about sex with him too.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2012):

I find it entirely degrading that he ejaculates over your stomach. He seems to be one of those who've been with a lot of prostitutes, watched a lot of dirty porn, but in all cases looks down at women.

You are a young beautiful princess, and you don't deserve this form of abuse and sexual humiliation. You may need to rethink this relationship altogether. You certainly deserve a better and more appreciating person.

Good luck xxx


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A male reader, Hugh.J United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2012):

Hugh.J agony auntDidn't you know that the standard "money shot" in porn, saved for the last few minutes, is for the bloke to do just that - pull out and cum over her?

He has been watching FAR too much porn!

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2012):

Miamine agony aunt1. He watches too much porn and thinks this is normal

2. He is very frightened about pregnancy, so is adding the withdrawal method

3. He wants to see his semen on you, harmless sign or possession, strokes his ego

4. He wants to check how much semen he has, because he's worried about all the tales of fertility problems in men.

Your main problem is however you can't seem to communicate your wishes in bed. Let him ejaculate sometimes if that's what he needs, but for the rest of the time, you tell him exactly what you told us here, "But, I would like to feel it inside me. I like the warmth and heat from his semen when he does do it inside me." That will make him feel so good, that problems 1-4 will disappear and he'll leave it inside everytime.

Don't ever be afraid to say NO, or to ask for what you want in the bedroom. If you like something, then tell him, sex is a game with 2 players and everyone should be having fun.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (10 March 2012):

person12345 agony auntSounds like either you feel like you can't request things in bed/say no to his requests or he does this without asking first, both of which are bad. If it's the first, you can talk to him and say I prefer it when you finish inside because of ____ and ____.

If it's the latter, your boyfriend needs a serious reality check. Sex outside of porn does not end in a money shot and he should know to ask permission before ejaculating in weird places or before seriously changing up what he's doing. How would he feel if you suddenly decided to give him a golden shower in the middle of sex without asking first?

Either way you need to talk to him.

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A female reader, Blonde68 United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2012):

Blonde68 agony aunt

He obviously hasn't shot his load over your stomach all the time since you mention that you like the warmth and heat from his semen from coming inside of you!

A lot of men are very visual, and perhaps he just finds it extremely arousing to see it shooting all over your body ... Perhaps he finds it dirty (in a nice way) like a porn star :-)

Why don't you talk to him - tell him that as much as you like him doing it, you do love it when he comes inside you too.

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