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writes:At 21, after 1 serious relationship, I think I have a little idea on what kind of man I would want to date. I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him. There are so much more about him that are attractive to me. The only question now is that I feel that he's a 10 and I'm a 3. What do I do about it? How do I want to tell him how I feel in the midst of insecurity? I feel so undeserving of him. I know he must feel very flattered that someone thinks of him every day and has such a crush on him. What if things don't turn out what I want them to be? We have the same circle of friends and it will be very awkward then =(
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (10 March 2012):
 WHAT is your criterion such that HE is a "10" and YOU are a "3"??????
Is it because HE can type 40 words per minute, and you can only type 16? Is it because HE can hold his breath underwater for almost 5 minutes and YOU can hold your's only for 1-1/2?????
CRIPES... DON'T tell me that he's this gorgeous ADONNIS (is handsome) and YOU are not quite a runway model.... so you're willing to put yourself down for something as fleeting as APPEARANCES???????
I hope you put this behind you and spend lot's more time understanding just what makes YOU special.... aaaaannnndd, forget about what YOU think makes OTHER people special!!!
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 March 2012):
 Maybe he sees you as a 10? Maybe he loves you for YOU?
It's a relationship you are both equal (or should be). It's not a competition.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 March 2012):
 I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him.
If this is his character, then he will find it uncomfortable to be worshipped, he will want a woman who isn't scared of him and who is proud of herself. Take a deep breathe, go take a piss... he is human, he does these things as well. Then think about asking him to go somewhere, he can only say no, and if he's the way you say he is, he won't be rude, he won't laugh, if he's not interested he'll tell you in a kind and gentle way.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (10 March 2012):
Hey please, stop putting this guy on a pedestal - you are equal and you really should not be putting yourself down like this.
Besides, from what I know of men, they don't like women to talk in this manner, a lot of men find women who are confident within themselves rather attractive.
The worsed thing you can do is start off on this foot so my advice to you is STOP RIGHT NOW! You don't necessarily have to jump in there feet first and tell him how you feel - instead, ask him if he fancies going out for a drink or going out for a meal. Men aren't slow at coming forward, he will know that you obviously like him if you are suggesting meeting up!
Good luck and give yourself a 10 girl!!!
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reader, Deagan +, writes (10 March 2012):
 Don't try and rate yourself or compare yourself using numbers to rate the outside. Beauty comes from the inside! That cliche phrase is so true! Also, beauty has to do with the eyes of the beholder, remember? And you never know, it might be vise-versa, he might not think he's a 10!If you're worried about making things awkward around your circle of friends if you tell him you like him, then don't tell him until you're a little more sure that he reciprocates the feelings. Ask yourself this, he is very attentive to you? Looks at you/focuses on you when you're talking? Goes out of his way to run into you? Only has eyes for you?They sound cheesy but it might help determining if he likes you back. One more thing however, the way you worded this makes me think you don't know him that well. You say "I know of this guy who is extremely funny and he's so easy going that everyone enjoys being around him." Have you been able to personally see that he's funny and easy going? Do you know anything else about him other than he's funny? Maybe you should get to know him better/talk to him more to figure out if you two mesh well?
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