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I fancy my mum's boyfriend's son?

Q.   ok heres the problem My mum is going out wiv this guy she has been wiv for 8 years and he has this son called sean, and ive started having strong feelings for him, sometimes i just feel like kissing him He has a girl friend and i hav a boy frie...

A.   26 September 2008: Your parents might think it's a bit 'odd' - but it really isn't. You're not related in any way - you should tell your mum that. She'll be fine.... (read in full...)

I fancy my mum's boyfriend's son?

Q.   ok heres the problem My mum is going out wiv this guy she has been wiv for 8 years and he has this son called sean, and ive started having strong feelings for him, sometimes i just feel like kissing him He has a girl friend and i hav a boy frie...

A.   25 September 2008: Just take his word for it. Or talk to him about it.... (read in full...)

Can she still get pregnant or is her period just coming slow?

Q.   Hi everyone, i have a question and i need some answers here...My girlfriend and i had sex last month 4 days before her period(28 day cycle) but she had a NORMAL period and then she ovulated again this month around the 11th(her period was the whole ...

A.   25 September 2008: If she had sex, then recieved her period - she shouldn't be pregnant. It's possible to have a delayed period. But, no matter what anyone tells you. I don't think your fears would disappear. Just get tested.... (read in full...)

Unsafe sex 12 days before my period, can I be pregnant?

Q.   I had unsafe sex 12 days before my period,can i be pregnant...

A.   25 September 2008: YES.... (read in full...)

If a guy likes both men and women, but likes men more, is he confused?

Q.   I am just wondering.. if a guy came out as gay..then realised he liked women as well but is more on the gay side...then comes out as "bisexual" do you think he is confused?the guy i am talking about used to be gay but now he is bi.. he seems to...

A.   25 September 2008: It is possible to 'be like that'. There's nothing wrong with it. He just has a preference.... (read in full...)

I fancy her but she has a boyfriend, what should I do?

Q.   I really like a girl who's the same age as me and she is going out with a kid who is 17 and has been for about 7 months. I like her a lot but what should I do?...

A.   25 September 2008: Seven months sounds like a long time for someone of her age. I think you should respect her happiness and keep quiet.... (read in full...)

What emotional and common level would a 40ish man and 19 year old girl have?

Q.   why would a 40ish male want a 19ish girl and visa versa. on what emotional and common level would they be. alot of people say go for it...

A.   24 September 2008: I can't vouch for other people. But when I was 17, a 39 year old man who'd been an immense friend of the family for quite some time confessed to me he found me attractive. Explaining, that he knew it was 'wrong' but he was unsure what to do. We he... (read in full...)

I wish I'd waited. Am I wrong for feeling guilty?

Q.   hello. my boyfriend and i have been dating for six months now and in the last month, we've had sex 4 times. he says he's perfectly content with what he have done and does not take it back, although i know that deep down he wishes he hadn't done ...

A.   24 September 2008: Not at all, your feelings can't ever be wrong. How do you 'know' that he wishes he'd've waited? You can't 'know' if he hasn't told you.... (read in full...)

We used a condom, but I haven't had my period for nearly 2 months. What do I do?

Q.   I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and we used a condom but i havent had my period for nearly 2 months. what do i do?...

A.   24 September 2008: Definately take a pregnancy test and go from there. Periods should every every 28 days, give or take a few.... (read in full...)

I can't even afford to eat a cookie, and he's brought up the subject of getting me plastic surgery for my stomach and breasts!!

Q.   My husband stood me up while i was in labor. I'm still really upset about it. When I was in the early stage of labor (when you're just waiting for the contractions to come closer together) my husband left me alone to go out drinking with his ...

A.   22 September 2008: Your mum could surely help you out with that? A friend? A relative? I think anyone would be willing to put you up for a while.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is masturbating to little girls and no longer seems interested in sex. I fear he's not attracted to me, what do I do?

Q.   Hi im 23 and my boyfriend is 26 we have a son that is 7 months old and we had a few up's and downs in the beginning of our relationship, he messed me around with a 16year old girl that was in april 2007 and i forgived him for it and things where ...

A.   21 September 2008: I don't think you should feel as though you are the problem. Especially not to the extent where you're close to a nervous breakdown. Keep calm. You're a mum now and need to stay well for him. Your partner has issues at the moment which he needs to... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't believe I lost my virginity to him and thinks I've deceived him all this time. How can I convince him?

Q.   My boyfriend doesn't believe that I lost my virginity to him. But I did. One, he knows that I gave oral sex to a friend (no longer a friend actually) years ago. Two, I lied to him about this. But of course I came clean, that's why he knows. But th...

A.   20 September 2008: You boyfriend doesn't value you, no matter how much you persist you were a virgin when you had sex with him. I don't think you should spend excessive amounts of time convincing him. He should trust you. After all, you did come clean about the oral ... (read in full...)

I can't even afford to eat a cookie, and he's brought up the subject of getting me plastic surgery for my stomach and breasts!!

Q.   My husband stood me up while i was in labor. I'm still really upset about it. When I was in the early stage of labor (when you're just waiting for the contractions to come closer together) my husband left me alone to go out drinking with his ...

A.   19 September 2008: What an idle, ignorant, selfish, pathetic little man you have for a husband! I swear, nothing more than your description of this rat has outraged me merely today. It's awful and my heart is with you. What does your mum think? I'd totally will you... (read in full...)

Will they ever let me out agaiiin?

Q.   Im 16 years old and 2daii my mom just found out that I am takin birthcontrol pills so she figuered im havin sex...she told my dad and I don't want to go to my house what do you think I should do im scared there not gunna let me outside aniimore and ...

A.   19 September 2008: Calm down. It's only natural for your mum to over react after finding out her daughter is on birth control - which, for the curious mind will ring alarm bells telling her that her baby daughter is having sex! You need to take control of this ... (read in full...)

Does a person's forehead change over time?

Q.   A girl the other week said to me and i quote "my god you have a horribly massive forehead" lol. this took me by surprise and ever since i have been paranoid about it. subsequent comments have also been made so i looked at pictures of when i was 18 ...

A.   19 September 2008: Faces do manipulate over time, but not significantly enough at your age for people to notice. Maybe it is just your hair receeding - which is fine. Take no notice, although I can sympathise.... (read in full...)

Was she just testing me about saying she wasn't a virgin to see if I love her?

Q.   i belong to muslim family i was going to marry afther 3 month with my gf .i did not sex with my gf.i knew her 8 months ago she never told me about her past but before one month she told me she is not virgin becouse she raped.i was mad at her why ...

A.   19 September 2008: It's a really odd thing for your girlfriend to do. If she wasn't a virgin because indeed she was raped, i'd understand her hurt reaction towards you after calling her a liar. It's a hard thing to say. But to make up that story on top of it, ju... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Call for new volunteer moderators (please read carefully)

Q.   Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING! Moderators approve new questions, think up of interesting and accurate titles and approve/reject a...

A.   19 September 2008: Hopefully this discussion isn't yet 'closed'. I'd like to be a moderator, *waves*! I'm always sensible I am. :D.... (read in full...)

Everytime he looks at me, my thoughts turn to mush! What do I do next?

Q.   Ok. So there is this guy, called *Rob. We were introduced through a good friend of ours. This is in January. Anyway, we didn't really get the chance to talk or anything until a month later on msn. Soon, these conversations came every other day, and ...

A.   19 September 2008: A guy has done that before to me as well. That 'test' they do on girls, which does indeed make you think 'ego much?!'. You say you've fallen for him. But you've also said he has had 6 girlfriends in the summer. Okay? If you get with him, that's a... (read in full...)

What is an appropriate way to find out if your girlfriend has feelings for an other guy?...

Q.   I have been talking to me girlfriend about some things refering if she liked somebody else. I have a big feeling that she is either cheating on me, or having other feelings with other guys. She has always been saying that she loves me deeply, we've ...

A.   19 September 2008: All girls talk about boys they fancy, ie. Chris Brown and the like! That's completely normal - and shouldn't be an inclination that she is cheating on you. I think you're overreacting. As you say, she's an honest and trustworthy person. Leave it... (read in full...)

How do I choose between two girls that like me without hurting anyone?

Q.   See, well I liked this girl(C) and she liked me back. But after a while we grew apart but I still have feelings for her. And there's this other girl who I kinda like as well (I)she likes me back too. But I the first girl wants me back and I cant ...

A.   19 September 2008: If you feel like you can't choose - choose neither. That way, neither girl will feel like they're in competition with the other and neither of them will be hurt, well, not as much as they would be if you chose one of them. But, would choosing... (read in full...)

I don't know why I am obsessing over a small sex party? About threesomes and exchanges of partners?

Q.   i am a male 19 yr old. i find it weird that i want to do 3 somes with other guys to have sex with my gf with another guy. or possibly just have sex with my gf and have my friend with his gf have sex in the same place as us after we toke up get ...

A.   19 September 2008: Yeah, exactly what UP said. You're not married with kids, so the worst possible scenario isn't too tragic. The entire thing sounds like a lot of fun but you have to make sure all parties are willing, and lay some rules down.... (read in full...)

HOw do I fall out of love with the man I am having an affair with?

Q.   Hi, I'm having an affair with a married man....yes i'm married too. we're friends and about two years ago we stepped over that line. .....I've always thought that people who have affairs are cold people only thinking of themselves and vowed...

A.   19 September 2008: pashanoodle gives a really good answer. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

Do women find genuine compliments addictive from those they are not in a relationship with?

Q.   Hello. We all know women love compliments - especially if they are from a man they find attractive (even if they are not dating him as such). My question is: do women find such compliments addictive i.e. will they start pursuing the attracti...

A.   19 September 2008: I understand what you're saying. And yes, I think it can be 'addictive' if they're given that often! But I mean, really often. My best friend is a very giving person, and he constantly (and I mean constantly) showers me with how ... (read in full...)

Why do I still have feelings for an old teacher, even though I know I have no chance?

Q.   I just transfered to a new school. I kind of like it, but it's more strict there. I'll admit, I do miss my old school at times. Mostly because I left someone who I loved there. That person was my teacher. He was 45, married, with a son who is now ...

A.   19 September 2008: It's entirely natural to have a crush on your teacher. In your case, after spending three years seeing him every day - it's turned in to something of a love interest! Don't worry. It's still only the begining of the academic year. Give it some tim... (read in full...)

He said he only "liked" me, but would wait for me, and then he cheated. Should I take him back?

Q.   Ok. There is a guy that I have had a thing with for a while. We decided not to start dating yet and to wait about a month or two. He told me he only liked me and would wait as long as it took, and everything always seemed fine between us. Well I ...

A.   19 September 2008: I think in your heart of hearts you already know the answer as you ask them in your questions. Together or not, he promised you certain things and failed to deliver. Not only that, but he lied to you about them afterwards. If you're certain ... (read in full...)

I am really shy and didn't know how to react to the closeness, no I am afraid to try again...

Q.   Ok I am a really shy female and his bloke tried to snog me and everyone says it just comes natural and you should know what to do, well I didn't and I ende up making a fool of my self and know I am scarred to try again, any advice....

A.   19 September 2008: It's understandable to be scared. Don't worry. People are right when they say it comes natural - not when they say 'you should know what to do'. When this bloke snogged you, or tried to - I imagine the experience was over very quickly as you f... (read in full...)

I just graduated and miss my friends from college, I'm very introverted and it's hard for me to make new friends, any ideas?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl who's just graduated from College. All of my friends are now in different parts of the world and I really miss them. I'm very introverted and it is very hard for me to make new friends. I have this feeling that the...

A.   19 September 2008: I'm afraid there's no painless way around it. You just have to go for it - say hi to anyone who passes, ask them how they are and what they're up to. Friends will come eventually. Just be polite at first.... (read in full...)

Will this guy ever talk to me again?

Q.   i met this guy in net chat, we got to know each other we also got each others emails and since than we always kept in touch. we became really good friends, sometimes he used to say words which made me feel he likes me more than friend. one day ther...

A.   19 September 2008: I think, he - for deleting you, and you - for reciprocating, are bothacting childishly. What's the point? You're either friends or you're not. If you're going to fall out with someone, do it properly and slam the door in their face. Don't hop on a ... (read in full...)

I'm worried that one of my friends is getting in with the wrong crowd.

Q.   My best guyfriend hanging out with losers. They do drugs and shop lift all the time. Hes actting diffendly. He never going to school anymore. Is he on drugs or I am worrying too much? ...

A.   19 September 2008: If he's hanging out with the likes that do drugs, then persistantly not coming to school - it's a possibility. You need to talk to your friend. Let him know you'll always be there, but he's changed recently - for the worst. Try not to come acr... (read in full...)

Is my husband cheating? He doesn't come home and blames our fights on me.

Q.   I been with my husband for 6 years married for 5. he got a job 2years a go as a driver. in the first couple of months it was good coming home in time then everything change he started coming home late then not coming home at all an his excuse was ...

A.   19 September 2008: It is possible. But don't make up your mind just yet! You only have sufficiant evidence to prove that he's being a grouch lately. Maybe he's having a difficult time at work which has put a lot of stress on him lately. Have you asked him? Have you... (read in full...)

I have just started college and am working at the time so I am constantly tired and feel depressed!

Q.   hey im really depressed in life at the moment i have just started college and am working so i am constantly tired. my boyfriend has just gone back to uni and i wont be seeing him in a while. also his best mate commented his facebook a coup...

A.   19 September 2008: Dazzerg is right, I think. One point in your post that struck me is that if you told your family - they'd think you were silly. I know how that feels. It's as if they'd tell you to calm down, or you're over reacting. Pft!... (read in full...)

Did I have to tell her like this, or could I have waited?

Q.   This girl I'm seeing has heard all kinds of bad things about me from my other friends, all things from my past, things that don't even pertain to her. Two of them being about my mother's true sexual orientation and the truth about how an ...

A.   19 September 2008: I think, even though she's had problems in her own life, she really doesn't have the right to make you feel guilt just so you tell her your secrets. She should trust you without a doubt - as she has no reason to. I think you should talk to her and ... (read in full...)

HOw do I fall out of love with the man I am having an affair with?

Q.   Hi, I'm having an affair with a married man....yes i'm married too. we're friends and about two years ago we stepped over that line. .....I've always thought that people who have affairs are cold people only thinking of themselves and vowed...

A.   19 September 2008: How long is a piece of string? We could volunteer a thousand answers and not one would be doable as a painless rememde. Are you in love with your friend, more so than your husband? Does he feel the same? Then, isn't it worth it to detatch from you... (read in full...)

How long should you wait before you tell someone you love them?

Q.   hello, i just have a question really as you know i havestarted seeing a lad 1 year and 37 days younger than me. my question is how long in peoples opinion should you wait before you tell someone you love them? please give me some advice on ...

A.   18 September 2008: I don't believe there is a time limit to be honest. Say it when you know you're experiencing that feeling - and are pretty sure he does too. ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant and still have your period?

Q.   i was wondering if you could be pregnant. and still have ur period?...

A.   18 September 2008: No. If you've engaged in unprotected sex or where contraception failed, but therafter have gotten your period. The egg has been released, and you are not pregnant.... (read in full...)

I've started having feelings for him - should I tell him?

Q.   well my mum has this bf and they are always and are on and off in there relationship but have been like that for 8 years and her bf has a son who ive started having feelings for he dosnt no this yet should i tell him he is my age and is not really ...

A.   18 September 2008: It wouldn't hurt. Go for it :).... (read in full...)

Men and multiple orgasms?

Q.   i have a question one of my friends claimed to have given head to some guy and got him to cum 3 times in the same session. she said she just swallows and keeps going. she told me it was longest about 50 mins. im wondering if that is possible beca...

A.   17 September 2008: I had no idea how wrong I was. Your post cleared this issue up for me! Thanks!... (read in full...)

What can I do to have my partner touch my G spot?

Q.   What can I do to have my partner hit my g spot and make me cum...

A.   14 September 2008: A woman's G spot is said to be on the front wall of the vaginal opening. To hit it directly, let your partner enter you from behind. That way, by bending right over - he has the precise angle to hit you there with his penis.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for me, as a female, to enjoy watching porn?

Q.   Hiya, I am just wondering if I am normal, or this situation is normal. Well, I have been in a relationship with my fiance for nearly three years and I have always looked at porn on the internet. He does not know this, nor will I tell him beca...

A.   14 September 2008: Noooo, not at all. It is just as 'normal' and accepted for women to watch porn as it is for men. Let your boyfriend know - really. I bet he finds it sexy.... (read in full...)

What is this brown stain in my underwear a week before my period is due?

Q.   hey guys, well friday afternoon; just as i came back from school i went to the toilet and noticed a brown stain in my underwear - ive started my period since a year and half - and im not due till about 7 days - but no brown stuff is appearing ...

A.   14 September 2008: Your body just likes to notify you. It isn't a problem.... (read in full...)

Shoud I ask her out?

Q.   Hi Dear Cupid, I feel that I am a bit lost at the moment. I met a girl at uni last year and we became really good friends, we would hang out together almost everyday and talk to each other everynight online. I became really attracted to her...

A.   14 September 2008: I think you should go for it. Imagine, the same thing happens again within the first week at uni - another guy asks her out! Grab it whilst you can! You'll regret waiting otherwise. Just let her know you like her at least!... (read in full...)

Men and multiple orgasms?

Q.   i have a question one of my friends claimed to have given head to some guy and got him to cum 3 times in the same session. she said she just swallows and keeps going. she told me it was longest about 50 mins. im wondering if that is possible beca...

A.   14 September 2008: As far as I know, men can't experience multiple orgasms. After the first time, as you say - they go soft and need a break. Within half an hour, they can go again but not as much cum is released - far less I think. Maybe your friend is exaggera... (read in full...)

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