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writes:I am in a bad marriage and recently met this single guy and we have become "friends". We seem to be drawn to each other.He always praises me to my colleagues and we talk a lot. Recently we went to a business meeting and afterwards we sat in our car and talked but when I suggested we go for coffee he refused but continued to talk. I found this strange and could not figure out why he did that as if we are just friends it should not matter, Confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (27 September 2008):
 I can see why you're confused. The answer is in you though. You're not just "friends". You're looking for something else. And when you're sitting in the car with him, you're not exchanging recipes and discussing needle point. You're nurturing a potential relationship. So, you need to be honest. If your marriage is bad, fix it or end it. Don't muddy the waters by becoming a cheater. It's quite possible that he has integrity and understands that in this world, we're not supposed to start relationships with other peoples spouses. Does that make sense.
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reader, NeverGoodEnough  +, writes (27 September 2008):
 But if you explain that now it might seem a bit weird, and if he didnt think that it might seem even weirder.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (27 September 2008):
 He might've just mis-read the signs and assume 'coffee' meant something 'more' - just explain to him you weren't initiating that.
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