I've fallen for a married man. How can I move on?
Q. I just feel lost. Past year in my life had been so hard, last day of uni, my mother got ill. i was sole carer for my mother and brother, had just ended my long term r.ship with my b.f etc. Now uni is over, i've actually got a job. Mum is ok, we ge...
A. 14 December 2012: When I was interested in a married ring wearing person I would look at that ring to deter my thoughts from going any further into fantasy land. If I get to fantasy land about them and me in special circumstance and special scenes I finish then go ... (read in full...)
I gave him my number, didn't hear from him. He said I gave him the wrong number and now I'm not hearing from him again.
Q. I just started a new job where the building was having major renovations and met one of the guys doing it - he will not be working with me permanently. He is extremely attractive so naturally spent lots of time ogling him! Which seemed to be a ...
A. 12 December 2012: Since when did giving out numbers mean or required asking anybody out. It's communication we do over the phone. I wouldnt say I havent but I don't believe that people ask people out on the phone. I thought they asked in person you know face to face ... (read in full...)
He says he's using porn to remind himself of me
Q. My ex boyfriend and i fell out over his porn use. He claimed he looked at women who look like me to recreate the joy he had from the night before, he was a virgin and claimed it left him buzzing. However he didn't say he often used to it to think ...
A. 12 December 2012: He must not be having you if he is watching porn somewhere the pleasure is not being met but in porn it stimulated and pleasure is met. You broke it off so why stress over it.... (read in full...)
I feel bad about my sex appeal knowing mean watch much better on a porn movie. Am I second best in a guy's estimation if he watches porn?
Q. I know there are many questions about porn, but plese bear with me. So when men watch porn, do they watch it for the women's bodies? Especially girl on girl, or girls masturbating, or stripping, ie. porn that doesn't involve men at all (so it's not...
A. 12 December 2012: Honestly I learned and experience that the ladies that are so attractive to most men have real bad attitudes causd they get treated not so good by these men. They are very catty and some are very gross and out of pocket. Then they can be very mean ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to deal with this love triangle. Do I compromise love for comfort?
Q. I need help!! I dont know how to deal with this love triangle. About six month ago I left my fiance of 11 years for many reasons. 1. I felt in love with a woman 2. he lied to me and was cheating on me. Although I never saw him cheating; but I ...
A. 11 December 2012: I would stick with you 1st choice whatever that is. Have children get married raise kids. Thats the way of life. He may or may not cheat but aleast you know what you are getting up front with dealing with him. It will be embarrasing when people find ... (read in full...)
My cheating ex says I am not a "Good Person" because, I refuse to take him back.
Q. An ex that I dated about three or four years ago, says that I am not being "Christian" because, I refuse to take him back, because, I refuse to call and talk to him and because, I refuse to go out with him and pretend like we are "friends." I have ...
A. 11 December 2012: Sounds like my old relationship plus or minus a few details. Once people realize they can use or man handle manipulate you,,, you become unchristian which I enjoy being now. Being unchrist like and not being there or some ones flunky means your mean ... (read in full...)
Is it best to just forget this guy? I know I deserve better
Q. I am legally separated from my husband and will be going to be divorced soon. I have made plenty of friends online for the last 3 years. One of them, a guy and I have become quite close. We have been chatting on skype for 2 weeks. There was a l...
A. 9 December 2012: You made alot of online friends so why is he so special than the others. You dont know him and he dont know you. Why are you so hooked on him when he chats with other online women. Why do you care. He dont care he tells you to chat with the guys. ... (read in full...)
Am I being used? I want more than to just be his FWB
Q. So there's this guy I've known since high school. We are the same age. Both came out of really bad relationships. We are friends. I went over to his house one day we ended up doing things. Then afterwards, he says "I'm not sure what this means ...
A. 9 December 2012: Yeah I had a Carlito like this he wanted sex I did too but he wanted fwb or something else he didnt want relationship. I did I just stop sleeping with him he found others. I really really liked him but not enough cause some thingd he wanted I wasnt ... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to break up with him. But am I right to wait until after Christmas? Should I return his Christmas presents after we break up?
Q. Something has snapped in me this week and I have finally decided, after a lot of heartache, that I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is no longer making any effort with me, and despite me bringing it up several times and him prom...
A. 9 December 2012: You actually answered your own question. If not think about how would you want him or anyone else to do you in this scenario. It will make since.... (read in full...)
Scared I'll miss him if we break-up. But I feel neglected and second best. Any advice on how to manage this situation?
Q. I think I should leave my boyfriend of 3 years but I'm scared to because I know I'm going to miss him so much. Can anyone give me some advice on whether this is normal or if it means I shouldn't do it? Here is some background on the reasons I have ...
A. 9 December 2012: Lonely is what its call you will be able to replace like the song mentioned your irreplaceable I can have another you in a minute and he will be here in a minute. You and him are breaking up. You dont get along really. Gifts or not candy bar or not ... (read in full...)
Should I try to develop a relationship with her? I don't want to cause an office drama
Q. I am madly infatuated with my female coworker. Sometimes, I get the impression that she is just a player. She is my office girl, who helps out with my paperwork. I had asked her out for lunch once before, and she said her car had to go in for repa...
A. 9 December 2012: I would go for it. But I wouldn't let nobody know cause they may try to break you all up. Drama just ask her whats up then go from there she did bring a date to make you jealous and make her desired more. She likes you based on all this flirting and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my mistress, but can't divorce my wife.
Q. Hi all. I just registered to this forum after googling to see if I'm alone. I am in the same situation as many of you and I'm completely devastated. I have been married for six years and have two wonderful kids with my wife. over the past six yea...
A. 5 December 2012: Ok let's reevaluate in my scenario I had a husband that acted like a wife most times.I was involved with mystress causer and reliever who acted like my mother/ Daughter. I have children too. My cchildren are top of list. I dont carry about anyone ... (read in full...)
I need help getting back to normal life after a traumatic experience
Q. Ok a long time (few years) ago I made out and got intimate (no oral/vaginal sex) with what I thought was a women but it was a mtf transsexual with full surgery. That was a traumatic experience for me and I have been depressed about it ever since. I ...
A. 5 December 2012: We all make mistakes you didnt know or did you it would be best to get therapy if you feel crossed about situation. I understand The issue of am I gay or bi or str8 cause it was same sex. Even though it was tampered with genAtilia. ... (read in full...)
How do I get b/f to perform anal sex again?
Q. Had anal sex for the first time loved it want to do it again but not sure my boyfriend is into this how can I get him to be for it. ...
A. 4 December 2012: Tell him you enjoy it and want him to do it also mention he has the keys to the back door lol it's a entrance and exit. If its a issue of him not liking it just seduce him. You did it before you can di it again.... (read in full...)
Would you commit to someone who treated you like this?
Q. Hello -- I've been with a girl (30) for 15 months now. Initially everything was great, but as the months wore on, some issues have came to light. She's pushing hard for commitment; living together, marriage, kids eventually, etc, and is threatening ...
A. 3 December 2012: She wants to control you build you up after breaking you down my mom did that type of abuse of the name calling hanging up the calling back crying I would run change number find other women date around to you find a sane one... (read in full...)
She is a weak woman who thinks with her heart and not her head. what is wrong with her?
Q. hi i got myself into a tissy and i my conscious is getting the best of me. sometime ago i connected with a woman on a dating site. i didnt tell her i was bi and not divorced and occassionally sleeping with my husband and my man boss. she thinks...
A. 1 December 2012: So let me understand she was sensitive naive fool you turned hard now. You dont like plus you want to keep her weak sensitive harden self lol. She suppose to continue in this sadist maschism game you play. Find somebody that likes pain that flows ... (read in full...)
I have so many questions and so many concerns about whether or not I can trust him.
Q. part of my boyfriends job is to drag women into traps. he makes them think he loves them so they fall in his love and then he tests their real emotions towards some stuff. he promised to stop this job in a week, after the last file he is deali...
A. 29 November 2012: What a mystery trap and so forth call sherlock Holmes... (read in full...)
I showed my online boyfriend a fake picture. Now I'm afraid he wont accept the real me.
Q. 3 years back i met this sweet guy through online.Hes very sweet, after 3 years of chatting i never expect i will fall in love with him and he told me he fall for me too. he always say im the sweetest gal he ever met he has my number and we talk and ...
A. 28 November 2012: If you have seen him and he didnt see you show him. Maybe he dont want to see you. Like the others mentioned you both in a fantasy online love. You lied we all lie but if the pictures way off from your true identity. He wont really know until and if ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me that my significant other will not buy me lingerie
Q. My fiance MO use to be to buy his ex girlfriends flowers, lingerie and a card I found out. He has never done this with me. Victoria's Secret catalog arrived in the mail and he said look it's Victoria's Secret. I said and so what you going to buy me. ...
A. 21 November 2012: lol ha ha ha motives and modes of operations of myself don't forget the chocolate to and maybe some shoes too. they might not want to buy it that's all hint or not. Go get it together thats what my ex did she bought some then I bought some I would ... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to be in a relationship and signed up to online dating sites?
Q. I have noticed this kind of question comes up a lot on this website. Is it very common for people to be signed up to dating websites whilst in a relationship. I have found my boyfriend to be doing it and lying about it. when he is not able to lie, ...
A. 21 November 2012: let's not focus on the actions so much as the solution. I notice a lot of times people post there side of story and it's a different deal you may be in long time relationship but he may not want to be because you are not compatible. it could b... (read in full...)
He will not be intimate with me re the little things...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years(I don't know how), because he will not be intimate with me like take my hand or touch me kiss me anything!!!! We have 2 children so sex isn't a problem obviously, but it's straight and to the point. ...
A. 20 November 2012: I don't know I may not be exact but he may not know of or about foreplay spontaneous love touches spicing up. Some don't do public display of affection either cause they raised that way to be affectionate at all. He may be blocking feelings and ... (read in full...)
What to do when someone likes you and is attracted to you (and you are to them) but they don't completely understand you?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now and we like each other and he's made it quite clear he's attracted to me (and I am to him but I've made it less clear). Part of me would like to develop the relantionship into romantic direction but he ...
A. 19 November 2012: He may not be stubborn and seems he don't want a real an ship lol relationship either. It's a agree to disagree situation. And he is sitting with his decision not being stubborn. That one aspect appears to be deal breaker for you. Find someone ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else been in a trouble relationship with a bipolar person?
Q. Hey everyone, Call me stupid but I was in a relationship with a man who was bipolar and I dint realise it until late.. But one night he wwas furious cause I got home late(we stay together)and he was like where have you been,can't u answer your phon...
A. 18 November 2012: yes mother daughter me being daughter
snake Eve relationship ship being bruised in the head included with mother daughter relationship also ex husband also I'm so over it and them. Also a aunt That lives in another state. A couple of ex lovers as w... (read in full...)
How do you go from a drug fueled intense relationship to something normal? Am I weird for still wanting my ex?
Q. My life is going a bit out of control. My ex got me into taking drugs. When we took this we had such incredible sex, sometimes for 8 hours. I'm not saying its his fault that I took them because everyone can make up their minds about taking things. I ...
A. 17 November 2012: Well you answered your own question by mentioning how good you and him felt before the drugs. You most and likely had very very Berry good chemistry in that area with or without drugs. you will find someone with that or perhaps you and ex will get ... (read in full...)
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
Q. What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
A. 3 November 2012: Awesome I like this mask article mask review I wore a mask on Halloween too this year And last year.... (read in full...)
I've been crushing on him for years and I find out he's gay?
Q. So for about 5 years I have liked this guy. I have really strong feelings for him. I thought he liked me to the way he used to look at me. We used to be really good friends until we started hanging out with other people. Now he's popular and hangs ...
A. 25 October 2012: I would think he is always go cheat with men, because tha'ts supposed to be superior to having sex with women. But I would be his friend. I have liked a lot of bi or gay men and they like me because I'm very aggressive and tom boyish. Dont have ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 13 October 2012: Of course some people do because there relationship was built on lies anyway so why not throw out trash. A place for everthing and everything in its place. Now if you with someone of quality and of substance you don't even entertain online avartars ... (read in full...)
He's too "nice" for me and it's a turn off.
Q. I have been seeing this really nice guy for the past 4 months. His "niceness" is starting to bother me, in that I find him to be not as masculine as I'd like him to be. He is the type who always has a smile on his face, who is always polite, ...
A. 9 October 2012: Protection is important find a body guard like Whitney Houston. If you like tough you want really like Mr nice guy get guy you desire and feel comfortable with.... (read in full...)
What causes him to act this way? He's my friend one minute then snapping at me the next.
Q. Hi agony aunts i'm soo confused! I got really good friends at University, the one friend is a guy we get along sometimes other times he's soo spiteful towards me and i've no idea why. Back in the first year he lost his mum and because i was young ...
A. 8 October 2012: He might need assessment by a Doctor for a mental illness. He is taking something out on you not sure why or for what reason exactly. I do that from time to time I hate when it happens. Innocent people get hurt cause I'm angry at other things.... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 8 October 2012: I have a homeboy like this of this persuasion. He doesnt want relationship but wants a friend with benefits. He wants to use for sex and to be his backbone when the other women toss them to the side. He wants all the benefits of girlfriend lover and ... (read in full...)
Am I just in Rebound territory? I like the geeky gym instructor who flirts with me, and he is a good kisser
Q. Ok for the last few months I've been going to the gym. My fitness instructor and I get along really well and I got to know him more and more with every session. I know for a fact that he doesn't chat that much with any of the other girls like the...
A. 7 October 2012: He may not mind being used rebound material. He may want something real too. That wont develop until later also. Of course he is rebound but he may not be hurt if you move on. Sometimes people are in your life for a season and reason. Some are there ... (read in full...)
Ok, I REALLY fancy him! He does like me, right? What can I do to make this work?
Q. Tuesday: I met this guy in a party and we had a lot of eye contact and by the end of the party, we talked a lot. He walked me to a taxi station and before we said bye, he asked me for my number. I texted him my number when I got back and he replied ...
A. 6 October 2012: Yes he likes you and he already cares about your safety which is a point for him. what you can do be nice show your interested like asking him how are things with him. Smile when he is with you or around you. Get to know him ask questions he will ... (read in full...)
What is the best thing to do after you tell a guy you like them
Q. I ask this question because I'm kind of all over the plave right now, I don't really know what to do and am in need of guidance. You see, this guy knows I like him, right? Now the way he found out, I pretty much was upfront with him about it, saying ...
A. 4 October 2012: I see this scenario as he is not sure of your small crush so he doesn't want to be hurt too. He may feel you just want sex or friends with benefits and he wants more. You and him should communicate if you plan on just letting whatever happen ... (read in full...)
I don't like sex. Anyone else?
Q. I just wonder why people can't accept that i dont like sex. Ive never been raped, abused or anything like that, i just dont ever feel the need for it. All my hormone levels r ok. I can watch it on tv, if a sexy scene on a programme comes up but that ...
A. 1 October 2012: I understand but I haven't met many people like this. Even virgins want it but with that special someone. Well aleast you know so you can inform others. We accept it. ... (read in full...)
She is very down and I worry about her, should I tell her?
Q. Hi. I have a female friend who has recently separated from her husband. I have made it clear that I am here for her if she needs me to be but have tried not to smother her. She has other close friends. The problem is that she will send me a message ...
A. 1 October 2012: Tell her your worried about her. You are there for her but not to be used either for convinence. Let her know what your there for to be a friend lover sex buddy that would clarify things a little.... (read in full...)
I didn't give him my phone number when he wanted it, but now I like him!
Q. Okay so theres this guy that i like.Last year he asked for my number through my friend. i was not intrestrd at the time but now i am i find that hes so adorable. so should i try and talk to him and aplogize for being rude or should i just leave him ...
A. 30 September 2012: Tell him you are interested now. Who cares about the past timing just wasn't right. Didn't you already leave him alone the first time. Now is not the time to leave alone.... (read in full...)
Does he want more than FWB?
Q. About a year ago I started uni and met a whole lot of new people, I got in an awesome friend group and everything was good. One of the guys from the group was a bit of a slag and hooked up with tonnes of girls, but he was still a great guy. After ...
A. 30 September 2012: If he does want more like commitment and future goals with you it doesnt matter really. You don't want that so he will just be a friend with a sexual benefit. If he knows that you don't want more he may be cool with that or move on to someone who ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's brother, but should I tell him?
Q. Okay so my best friends brother is amazingly cute and I sadly like him alot and he works down the street from my job and with out fail he comes and visits me at least to 4 times a week with out fail . He doesn't even work.on saturdays and he'll ...
A. 30 September 2012: Yes you should tell him. That's if you want to have relations with him. He probably wants you to but waiting on you to make a move. This indicates there's a chance in hell for him and you to be a item. Tell him text him call him right him ... (read in full...)
He isn't ready for a relationship, but I really like him!
Q. I need help or advice .There's this guy in my English class that i really like .he already knows that i like him and he told me that he just wasn't ready for a relationship just yet due to past ones ,and that he just wanted to be friends. we are ...
A. 30 September 2012: You don't have to be desperate cause you want to show you have interest. He most and likely doesn't want a relationship because he didn't know you did. Which could change how he feels about relationships and exclusively being in committed ... (read in full...)
Have I been friend zoned?
Q. What could it mean when a guy treats you differently than he does other girls or his other friends? Like he may hug/flirt with other girls but he doesn't ever do that to you. Like, this is my situation, but what is confusing is like, we are in the ...
A. 30 September 2012: I don't feel you have been friend zoned exactly. If you haved expressed your interest but not to the point that you may want to date or more. He may not see that as far as other girls. They may just be Flirty so he doesn't have to hug them they hug ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Do you wear stockings underneath your clothing?
Q. Just a quick question to all those ladies out there. Does anyone actually ever wear stockings underneath their clothes (like on t.v and in movies) or do people just wear leggings? The reason I ask is because if true then... ;-). But anyone I've ever ...
A. 30 September 2012: I wear net stockings or decorative stockings with dress pants slacks because with my shoes it looks nice to see the pattern of the net or designer stockings I do so if it cold too. I also do tights all year round with ling shirts skirts and under ... (read in full...)
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