Since I found out about her history I'd like her to get tested
Q. Hello all! I come with a questions and concern. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it's been great, I know I love her and I know I will spend the rest of my life with her. The problem is, I knew her back in grade sch...
A. 21 February 2013: I told Roddie last night about my 80 and he was like replused lmao. Im like this includes every single person including forced and unforced. If its a high number oh well. I dont like him anyway he can judge me and say he dont like that. Its not alot ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make things better with a guy I really like?
Q. I've been in love with a guy during like my whole entire life. I've started loving him since I'm three years old, I know it's really early but I couldn't control it. Now, twelve years later, I still love him but he never knew it. I tried getting ...
A. 20 February 2013: Since you 3 huuummm really. Its obvious really why type on here this stuff. Now its 3 things thats possible for a 15 year old from when you was 3 1. You move on replace find better 2. reconcile mediators and counseling 3. Dont love ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family hates me and are constantly putting me down. I don't know what to do...
Q. My boyfriend's family are very judgmental and take any benign and often positive information they can dig about me and put a negative spin on it. They twist reality in such a way so that nothing I say or do is good enough. If they hear anything ...
A. 18 February 2013: Well aleast you are positive and don't plan on letting there negative bitterness and or jealousy interfere with you. If you foresee a problem with this you already know that dont want you together and want you broken up. Like its a classic Romeo and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ditching me for work and I'm having a hard time dealing with it
Q. To start, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. From the beginning he's been the type who's needed his space, and isn't much for daily communication. I could accept that, in the beginning. Recently he's come in to more work, and I've...
A. 18 February 2013: The odd thing about this is I notice with me dealing with men or women dating and relationships. If you tend to be under the women you a mamas boy or user. Its like a old saying there lazy or using you if they dont get out and work to provide cause ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't know I'm cheating on her with men. I don't want to upset her OR live a lie!
Q. Hi I am married in a straight relationship and have always been curious of being at least bisexual. About a year after we got married I had a affair with a guy I loved everything about our relationship but upset of being married. I now find ...
A. 17 February 2013: She most likely knows you are just wants to pretend like you do. Most men are into that now its not a surprise just take care of the children most importantly. In society plenty of married gay men plus women are acting str8. Its just coming out now. ... (read in full...)
Co-worker does not speak after sex
Q. Ok so, this guy started working with my company about six months ago. Very cute I'm very attracted to him and he is also younger then I am, I'm 38 and he is 26. We would see each other but not talk, Im shy I'm not sure if he is the same way. One ...
A. 17 February 2013: Because of issues with work and age. Its spoken and rumored that's what happen with younger and older couples period. I would communicate with him find out what is the deal. Unless you talk you will think negative instead of positive.... (read in full...)
He tells me it is my fault that he abuses me. What causes people to become abusive? And is the receiver of the abuse to blame?
Q. Dear Cupid Why do people become abusive after being few years in a relationship. Is this abuser's fault? Or the fault of the person being abused? My bf of 3 years was good to me for 2 years but now has become so emotionally abusive. I cry m...
A. 16 February 2013: Yeah Im being told this too. I should believe that I suppose to be verbally emotional and physical abused as well as denied housing and other things do to control. Its a good thing I cant do better because of the constant oppression which enemies ... (read in full...)
Why don't men realise they are being disrespectful when they use porn in a relationship?
Q. Why don't men realise they are being disrespectful when they use porn in a relationship? My ex just says I think it matters more how I treat you when we're together, I don't understand what he means because the way I see he's still in a relationship ...
A. 16 February 2013: Lol the same reason women like me don't see it as a disrespect. It can be compared to a comedy to make you laugh. An action movie to thrill the inner gang-star or bad guy good guy. lets mention a thriller horror movie to scare you. Entertainme... (read in full...)
Mother issues. Do I seek a Mediator? Or remain distant from her while this detachment eats away at me?
Q. Recently my mom and I got into a hostile disagreement because I would not allow her to do something to help me. I wouldn't allow it because I knew it would hurt her financially and she turned on me over that. We have always had a volatile rel...
A. 16 February 2013: People tend to want what they want. MY mom is this way Im this way. At this point in the game none of the people that are lurking in my life have my best interest in mind cause I wouldn't be homeless sleeping at shelters this notion took a long tim... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't satisfy me sexually and I feel insecure about him looking at female celebs.....
Q. Hope you chaps can help me, i got into my relationship 9 months ago and i am deeply in love with my boyfriend, we have sex fairly regularly, but when we do he nearly always stops everything as soon as he has jizzed, like that's it he just tells me ...
A. 16 February 2013: If he is with you why worry. the issue with the breast is not a issue cause he likes yours. As for the not paying attention to you sexual needs and pleasing you needs to be worked on. communication is important and both parties being satisfied also... (read in full...)
Got involved with married woman.... Big mistake!
Q. Dear Cupid, Aunties and Uncles! Please help?! I imagine this will be quite a lengthy question so please be patient with me. I am looking for some serious, honest advise. This will sound like something out of a movie but what I'm about to tell...
A. 13 February 2013: So they get a thrill making your life miserable for what. I'm sure they could be doing more important things than wasting time and energy and money on a side piece. You should find out from them whats the deal, what is it they do or don't want so ... (read in full...)
I've cut off my jealous relatives because they bad talked about me and my parents. Why are they like this?
Q. Hey everyone, HATE is strong word but here I want to use this word and say I absolutely HaTe my relatives! They want everyone to act like their slaves, for 15 years I didn't say anything they would trash talk my dad soo much, my family put us do...
A. 10 February 2013: Yes I'm experiencing it now first-hand every day now. It’s a trip to lie after lie if you not being obedient and work or cleaning slave they try to make you so needy upon them. They went way out of their way to make me homeless with children. T... (read in full...)
How can I be so very upset about our breakup? The breakup was OK and he was OK as a BF.
Q. Hi. I don't understand why I am upset over my break up with my boyfriend a week ago when I am the one that broke up with him, I didn't get dumped after all. We were together for 4 years. Started off OK but some issues like money and marriage and...
A. 10 February 2013: Apparently something is missing out of this post. The information provided doesn't add up to a reason really so as I stated before you not telling all sides of the story fully. There's the true version then theres a lie version then theres the his ... (read in full...)
He's 12 years older and divorced. He was my lecturer. Could we make this work?
Q. Hi, thanks for those who answer my question in advance. Following is the brief intro about the man with whom i have affair. currently i am doing MBA. i met this guy during my year, because he is my lecturer.he taught me one subject,and i ...
A. 10 February 2013: Dont think he is not still interested. Like you mentioned he is busy you are as well. Confess the positive see the positive and it will happen. Picuture you and him married and happy. Dont think and picture he is with someone else or cheating cause ... (read in full...)
Why does this man adhere to what his Mommy says, always? Why is my mother in law so resistant to allowing her son to grow up?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am love with this guy that I have known for many years. We have a daughter together. I broke the relationship off and moved to another state. We talk to one another on the phone from time to time and every time I hear his voice it mak...
A. 10 February 2013: I acknowledge my mom combination dad because she has great advise she knows when people aren't treating me right. Simply because she didnt treat me right so she knows first hand about abuse of all kind so I listen. What better way to know if ... (read in full...)
How does a teacher ask out a single parent?
Q. I am a teacher in a primary school, and one of the single mothers has caught my attention for a long time, I do not teach her son and won’t be teaching him. She has a great personality what I like about her is that she talks to anyone and everyone; ...
A. 9 February 2013: Since your the shy guy you could send the message with telepathy. Meaning believe you and her are a item picture this often meditate on it. Be yourself around her be sure she knows your single also. Just start chatting talking making light ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for someone straight to like gay porn?
Q. Hey, this is really embarrassing but I was wondering if anyone else had this problem: I'm 19 and I'm completely straight, like I've never been "confused" or anything like that, but from the age of about 15 I've only liked gay (guy on guy) porn, an...
A. 7 February 2013: Who cares if you like it watch it. Actually its no different than a str8 man watching lesbian sitah 2 sistah porn. I watch it I watch all type of porn thats why they make it for entertainment Its yout business whos judging you. No telling what they ... (read in full...)
I'm gay but afraid to come out about it. How long will it take me to accept this about myself?
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman for my first time. To make the story short, I broke up my engagement with my 8 year fiance not only because he was cheating but also because I felt l for this girl. We've been dating for about 4 months now. I ...
A. 5 February 2013: I am going through this I am a women lover. Not really scared but my family is not with this decision. I dont want anybody hurt. I want to marry a women and live happily ever after. Men have hurt me used me abused me. It's a hard choice I w... (read in full...)
I'm almost certain my partner is planning to leave me and our son, how do I get him to come clean about his intentions?
Q. All I want is the truth I'm almost certain my partner is planning on leaving me and our son. He has left before 4 years ago and is starting to act in the same manner he did the last time. Clothing/belongings have started to depl...
A. 4 February 2013: Ask him if you are so reasonable why would he leave. If there is a problem why is he acting is there an award that he wants to win. As far a the child is concerned that should be your first priority as it is his. Stop assuming and ask questions ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be more of a man. How do I do this?
Q. Well, me and my bf had been together for 4 years and he's so good to me. We are 23.Problem is, sometimes I feel down when seeing him talking and acting like a girl. When he's talking, he often uses the voice like how a girl laugh. Oh I don't know ...
A. 4 February 2013: I wouldnt change Im not changing. Accept people how they are. If all fails find someone that fits the bill completely without change. You dont like him cause you wouldnt want to change him if so. I could see if you wanted to change drug habit ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend drunk said "you are too good to me" What did he mean?
Q. I went drinking with my boyfriend (of nearly 2 months) and his friends. He got drunk and I had to take care of him and get him home safe and tuck him in bed. Before he passed out he said "You are too good to me. You know what that means?" I said ...
A. 27 January 2013: When I say things of this line I would mean you are being a friend or lover. Past experience people wasnt good to me while I was drunk. So it meant they appreciate what you did for them wholeheartly.... (read in full...)
I want a man who doesn't cheat or look at pornography. Does he exist?
Q. I want a man like this does this even exist? Basically i'm after a man who does not engage in any kind of cheating at all (glances at swimsuit pics mildly acceptable.) but no porn, no talking dirty to others, little female friends, no strip clubs. ...
A. 27 January 2013: Well there are men around like this. Go out date more you will stomp or run across some I sure with that controlling insecurity you have. But on a positive note just cause past lovers did alk these things listed dont me all do. Plus I here 2 out of ... (read in full...)
What does friends with benefits mean to you?
Q. I have a question for you lovely people.. Me and my ex stopped talking for a long time all of a sudden he missed me ( so he says) he asked me did I wanna be friends with benefits and told me I can't sleep with nobody but him... What is friends with ...
A. 26 January 2013: Its about sex I had a fwb but he couldn't keep up with my drive so I blow him off. So he could be on the same speed with the other chicks fwb. Cause I was benefiting slightly not fully like I wanted and he didn't give me oral sex plus he was messy ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my Boyfriend that his smoking weed is a deal breaker for me?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. When we first met i didnt know he smoked weed, but as time went on he seemed to smoke more and more to the point where i said it was bothering me. His personality has changed and the smell drives me ...
A. 25 January 2013: Damn I know people who chose crack over anybody anything. Maryjane is illegal plus the reeking smell. I choose to be drug free for now.... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to change her Facebook status to 'in a relationship'....
Q. Im in a ldr with a wonderful girl for about 8 months, i've been introduced to her friends and family, in fact we spend christmas and new years together. i have pictures on my fb showing us together and she has shown me in other ways she cares about ...
A. 25 January 2013: My toughts is why does it matter that facebook knows. Are you a girl this seems like some thing a girl would post of her boyfriend. She might not want people to know not cause she ashame but that could be a reason. She might not want to compete... (read in full...)
After 40 years of being married to an alcoholic, I am leaving him. People tell me not to, why not?
Q. I have been married for 40 years to an alcoholic, He quit for 12 years and started drinking again, and he has gotten worse. I should have left him years ago,but I like so many others stayed for my two kids. THis was a bad decision, because for ...
A. 24 January 2013: Darn right forget these drunks and drug addicts in my case. I gotta be quiet, be secrective, be miserable, for them to get their rocks off not anymore. I must battle to I win. You're awesome to stand up for yourself and thats a lot of self resp... (read in full...)
Shall I stay or go?
Q. I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year now, I stay in his home about 5 days a week, sometimes 6. Everything is going so well. He has hinted about me officially moving in but today I asked him if we could talk about it (seriously) he ...
A. 23 January 2013: I'm doing this and suggest it to anybody anyone. Date but dont live together. Have you own safe house and they have there own safe house.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me, yet no one else can have me...Why?
Q. Hi everyone. So in a nutshell, I've been in love with my childhood sweetheart and now best friend for 14 years. Over these 14 years we have been drawn to each other like magnets after many failed relationships with others. I have always been v...
A. 14 January 2013: Sounds like easy sex without the commitment and other things that go with that. I would move on find a person that is ready. Why be on hold for a unappreciative person thats not ready. I hope the people Im not ready for dont wait on me cause I got ... (read in full...)
My mother doesn't like my choice. How do I deal with this situation? I am extremely stressed!
Q. I find myself in a very stressful situation. I habve found the guy of my dreams. He is caring, respectful, and loves me to death. We've talked about a future together and what not. But the thing is that my mom doesnt exactly aprove. She thinks he's ...
A. 1 January 2013: Ask her why compare all the reasons pros and cons. If there real concerns outway the pros and cons go from there. If it's about looks that's shallow really. It's hopefully she don't find him to be able to provide the best for you, but if that's not ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend only wants material things from me
Q. I've been w my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I made the mistake in spoiling him and now I feel like the only thing he wants from me is material things. We haven't been intimate in over a year and I'm lucky enough to see him once a month. I love ...
A. 30 December 2012: What kind.of relationship is this. Its one sided.I call it buying but there's no sex. Some facts are left out apparently. Does he know you two are even dating in a relationship. If not that explains it all. Let him know tonight and post back in here ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend is he was/is a ladykiller?
Q. My brothers friend and i have recently began a relationship after a few months of fwb. We really like each other and have talked about moving in together in march after my lease is up on my own flat. My brother however has put serious doubt in...
A. 30 December 2012: If you want to make a choice you can live with. Think very hard and seriously. Risk or caution which direction do you want to take. I would forget about the past, start fresh 2013. Ask him what the deal is with you, is it for real or just to have ... (read in full...)
Was I justified to walk away from a man who would not commit? I'm finding it hard to move on.
Q. Hi all. Just two weeks ago I ended a relationship with a man I had deep feelings for. He was not willing to commit to me. He and I were seeing each other for a year but he broke it off and started seeing someone else. All the while, he contin...
A. 29 December 2012: Its to shall pass. When I was in this situation it was the same he wants commitment he plays the dog. Some time timing is wrong even when both people love each other you just wont will not and can't be together. There could be so many issues fears ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my alcoholic father?
Q. I'm having a crisis of loyalty. I'm 20 years old and for the past 10 years i've been aware that my dad has had a drinking problem - my parents separated soon before this realisation. Throughout the years there have been many instances where ...
A. 27 December 2012: Well just like my mommy dearest you mom she acts like Joan Crawford in the movie totally. Or the way Judy Garland was as a mother. Not really a supportive relationship. It's more like Dr. Jekel Mr. Hyde type personality with her. To the point w... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure about my body to get physically intimate with my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
Q. So, I'm really insecure about my body to the point where I mostly wear dark colours, slouchy materials in clothing etc. I have my moments when I wear form fitting pieces and I get a lot of compliments but I never take it seriously. Anyway, back on ...
A. 26 December 2012: I would focus on him. Actions in love making. He can already imagine what you look like with clothes off. Really and he is cool with it.. So dont.stress or worry its just nudity. ... (read in full...)
How can I break this cycle?
Q. i have double standards about girls. i've been in love a couple of times and been cheated, while i'm in a relationship im always faithful but i think i have some misogyny problems too. long story short i come from a very dysfunctional family, my ...
A. 21 December 2012: Almost same story here except I should be stripping or a porn star by now based of my dysfunctional family upbringing training program next to that would be a profession as a nun lol. Seriously decide if you want that girl, love of your life, to... (read in full...)
I admitted I was bi-curious, now she wants to date me...But I prefer men!
Q. I'm in trouble. One of my closer girlfriends would like to date me but I don't think I should date her at all. I admitted that I was bi-curious but honestly, I've never acted on it and I don't believe that it changes that much about me. After she ...
A. 20 December 2012: I prefer either or but If I were you I would.flat out tell her exactly what you put on this site. Im sure she would understand this to the fullest. Communicate it. ... (read in full...)
I just caught my husband wearing my knickers!!
Q. My question is really two fold and I would like to hear from the other ladies. It was a shock to come home unexpectedly early and catch my husband in bra and panties. Things that he apparently has purchased but says this is really his first time ...
A. 18 December 2012: This is not a topic many discuss so before you do I would find out if she's into things like this firstly. Well if he wants to wear them you can't stop him. He probably look good in them so make the most of it. Find out if he is go turn gay or ... (read in full...)
Is my ex-bf gay, bi or curious? He has never seemed gay earlier and we had a good sex life together.
Q. Ok so I know no one on here would be able to give me a perfect answer without knowing my ex-bf, lets call him David, but I would just like to know what other people might think about this. So David and I have been dating for 3 years. We both f...
A. 16 December 2012: He is gay back in the past he was bi or bi.curious. Lol I can tell plus I think know and feel most are gay or bi anyway secrectly. I was shock when I found out but not really cause Im bi leaning more toward the same sex also. Its not un normal for ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? He knows my attitude to sex.
Q. My ex and I were dating for about a month and made it offical as boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 weeks. I wouldn't have sex with him yet since I thought it was too soon. So he opted to just completely ignore me and he left me for another girl. (who's ...
A. 16 December 2012: He think he can since the other guy didn't. If you want to know keep dating him you will find out if ... Plus most people want love making duh thats why there is physical attraction in the first place and if you want to keep your goodies in a jar. ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to ask for sex and can't even touch him.
Q. I'm too shy to communicate with my partner about everything, I can't open up, I'm always quite,even when I want sex is not easy to ask him, worse part of it I can't even touch him,and it really make me sad, what must I do ? ...
A. 14 December 2012: Just do it whats the worst that could happen. Most people dont turn down love making. Just do don't think about it do try to reinact it in your mind. That takes up valuable time.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a married man. How can I move on?
Q. I just feel lost. Past year in my life had been so hard, last day of uni, my mother got ill. i was sole carer for my mother and brother, had just ended my long term r.ship with my b.f etc. Now uni is over, i've actually got a job. Mum is ok, we ge...
A. 14 December 2012: When I was interested in a married ring wearing person I would look at that ring to deter my thoughts from going any further into fantasy land. If I get to fantasy land about them and me in special circumstance and special scenes I finish then go ... (read in full...)
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