Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?
Q. Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only ques...
A. 30 December 2013: I dont remember to many questions really. I guess go I go in there full throttle telling them everything lol so they have accurate statics too. I know in other institutions I was asked questions about sexuality and partners which was relevant being ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 30 December 2013: I feel the same as brown wolf Im spending money only on people who love me. I have spent money on guys and girls for dates and movies and what not. I have also but rarely barely had dates or acquaintances spend money on me and when I did I wasn't ... (read in full...)
How can I be myself when I have no confidence?
Q. I am a 36 year old man. I Have no confidence when it comes to chatting to ladies. People always tell me to just be myself but that seems to me like i am not good enough. Any advice would be very appreciated. ...
A. 30 December 2013: Well depending on the lady some like nice guys so like bad boys. I like a genuine mixture of both to settle for it I had to choose. Its best to be yourself most women have a sensory of intuition and are able to read you before you say anything. I ... (read in full...)
A stupid throw away comment may have ruined my marriage
Q. I'm 42 and my wife is 30. We've been together 5 yrs and married the last 2. We knew when we got together that due to the age gap, we'd have to compromise on expectations around the timing of kids. I didn't want to be a really old dad, and she wanted ...
A. 30 December 2013: I know the mouth can damage relationships based off my mouth. I know that in time things can work out but there will be trust issues to be dealt with. Alot of people have a hard time communicating men are from mars destroyed planet and women are ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my wife's sordid sexual past
Q. I am dealing with some issues with my wife's sexual past, I dont know how many she was with but I know it was between 15 and 25. She lied about being with my friend when I asked her about a month after we started dating. She later told me they were ...
A. 25 December 2013: I know that it could be hard to deal with. Its the past it's past experience. If your not a virgin this shouldn't be a issue really. Which means you have a future sex life. She has to accept also. If you cant deal with its recommended that you seek ... (read in full...)
I've always wanted to be with her but now she is damaged goods
Q. Hi, ive been trying to see some one, but she's working alot of over time right now, so thats her excuse for not calling or texting. We gone out a couple times in the last two months, we were talking alot, an texting, but not now, ive been trying ...
A. 23 December 2013: Thats my issues Im damaged mean and not at this time to interested in a relationship so Im selfish. Why is it someone wants to be involved deeply with me at this time. Im not doing much calling or texting and nobody is to me that ckearly shows Im ... (read in full...)
My husband has told me he is gay!
Q. Last night my husband admitted to me he was gay. He said he didn't want to have these feelings and won't follow up on them, he wants to stay married to me and have sex with me. He said he does like women, but only certain select women, has never had ...
A. 23 December 2013: Im at a lost about if he never been with any men how does he know if he likes them or not that doesnt add up really. But moving on to the issue of marriage or divorce or waiting it out. To me it would be best to work on what you have now and focus ... (read in full...)
How do I inform my friends and family that I'm now a vegan?
Q. Basically I converted to veganism 2 months ago because i nolonger want to contribute to the violence towards animals, with the bonus of improving my health and being one step closer to saving the planet. Now i've keep this a secret from ever...
A. 23 December 2013: You should mention it so people can prepare you non meat dishes. I tried vegan on numerous occasions cause of health issues. It was good for me. Then I researched it and studied it to the Bible all the to Cain and Able to better understand. The ... (read in full...)
I like a coworker but she is taken and her boyfriend could be abusive. What's my next step?
Q. to cut a long story short, shes Polish came over here with her boyfriend 4 years ago 3 years ago she started at my work not long after she started we got on really well spending time together etc, it came to the point were we had to do something ...
A. 22 December 2013: Dont even get deep into it. The reason cause you don't want it to play out her with her significant other. Its just best you be a friend dont try to pry you way in or take her she has to be ready and leave him freely on her own accord. The best I w... (read in full...)
He loves me but crushes on her!
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend for a few months. Before we got into the relationship, I knew about the fact that he had a crush on another girl for quite some time before he fell in love with me and decided to confess. Even now, he still has feelings ...
A. 21 December 2013: He probaly like her more. Its probable he finds her more attractive to. If given a chance he most likely will date her. If you knew he had a crush on her why you with him. You didnt want him with her it seems like your were blocking maybe. Its no ... (read in full...)
I want to send my friend a letter
Q. Hi guys im really confused and in a place where i require some sort of guidance at the moment, I'm thinking of sending this to a friend who lives in Victoria (I live in Western Australia) and we've known each other for six years whereas she hasn't ...
A. 21 December 2013: It appears to be a underlying motive to the letter. You appear upset about her choosing her relationship over friends. Its well known some time friends break break up relationships even yous know that. Im sure you are aware if that also. My advise ... (read in full...)
He was still trying to see me while he has a girlfriend!
Q. I was dating my ex for 3 months, I broke it off with him. While I was being completely honest, faithful and trustworthy in the relationship he was not, he lied to me about not having social media sites and I basically caught him lying, not to ...
A. 21 December 2013: I have caused heartbreak it's not a good feeling I have felt it still to the day that person dont talk to me only says bye. I apologize it can't change the past. If you want to call ir text I don't see how it would harn anything they would probably ... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!
Q. I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...
A. 20 December 2013: I agree with fatherly advice his comment is totally exactly correct true and right. I couldn't have wrote it better myself. If its over its over. She just can.move on easier with other men and friends than you. Its been a not so good relationship ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend mentioned my ex's name.
Q. This morning i asked my bf if he liked that i said his name during sex and he said he did. That it was much better then saying ( ex name) or something else. I thought it was super weird that he said my ex name since ive never mentioned it to him. ...
A. 17 December 2013: I thought my lover mentioned he hate chu or heart u couldnt quite make it out in the breathing reps of it while in the act I clearly heard it took it as a warning for future reference. ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex with my girlfriend to be boring for her!
Q. I try to mix things up sexually with my gf but new things don't seem to work. I try to give oral sex but once she finishes from that she doesn't want to continue. Same every time she orgasms, she cannot continue. I don't mind this and am happy th...
A. 17 December 2013: Okay Ive been researching about that womens version of cant perform after orgasm its no answer. It can be worked on like you said talk about. I would feel at times like darn it takes alot of energy for me to get there and I just tap out at times ... (read in full...)
How do I diplomatically bring up the issue of her lying?
Q. hello. can anyone give me advice on how to deal with my lying girlfriend? we've been together for over a year now and she's never been the lying type, but i've got some proof that recently, she's been lying to me about something (not too major)....
A. 17 December 2013: Just talk to her about the deception if you find she is not agreeing that she was honest. Its a reason why she feels the need not to be upfront if you lied to her then its tit for tact. She may not trust you and probably has lied cause you lied its ... (read in full...)
I asked my girlfriend not to drink so much when out with friends but she did so anyways!
Q. Ok so tonight my girlfriend went and hung out with one of her girl friends and said they were gonna go for happy hour and get a drink and some food. So I said don't drink too much please and she said she wouldn't but her friend messages me and said ...
A. 16 December 2013: Jealously about will she cheats is a problem she can cheat sober or not. I go out drink sometimes over drink thank God I made it home on a wing and a prayer. Been to rehab all that I am fully aware of my limitations with bar hoping safe sex and ... (read in full...)
I envy my friend for being confident with boys
Q. Hiya! Recently, I have realised that my best friend is a 'Guy Magnet' (sounds really strange I know, but its the only way I could think to describe it!) She is naturally pretty and she's a tomboy so its not hard to guess that is another reason w...
A. 15 December 2013: All I can say is nobody is totally confident. We all at times have insecurities. I was told if you hang around a person you will pick up there ways. Its a issue of you being comfortable in your skin. She may be comfortable in her skin looking ... (read in full...)
She is always in the same clothes! I'm getting fed up!
Q. I have been in an relationship for 8minths going strong but I am getting fed up about certain things. My girlfriend lives with her mum and doesn't have much money. She has two outfits, and all she has worn since we been together. I offered to b...
A. 12 December 2013: I would go out with her take her shopping. Also go to the store and by the clothes. I would definitely go shopping if money is forced in my hands. What type of style do you like bring it to her tell her you like it. Then she will have more ... (read in full...)
Should I continue or not? He swears they are just friends, now. But will his wandering eyes cause me a broken heart?
Q. I am 63 and have been in a committed relationship since May, 2013. We've had a lot of fun together, get along pretty good, and have even talked about the possibility of moving in together. I lost my husband 4 years ago and he has lost his wife 3 ...
A. 11 December 2013: I'm not understanding how he is upset that you have been or had a relationship before him something sound wrong about that.You lost your husband he lost his wife. If thats the case this relationship will not work properly ever. You mentioned a ... (read in full...)
I really like him. What is the best thing to do now? Is it best to just be casual and get to know him slowly, and later on see if anything develops?
Q. I met a guy last week and invited him to a music jam night. He came along, and that was great, but by the time he arrived I was already talking to s group of guys and he then got cornered by a woman, who then asked 'is that your girlfriend? ' and he ...
A. 11 December 2013: What the rush whats the hurry if you already been mingling go for it dont miss out on someone you like trying to be cautious and fearful. Of the.timing and chemistry is right the best thing going is move it up a notch.and start a relationship ... (read in full...)
Please help - I found dodgy photos on my boyfriend's computer.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a bit confused and any insight would be appreciated as I can't talk to anyone else about this. My boyfriend is a sweet guy, I always knew he had a Pervy side but all guys do and that didn't really bother me.... Until I found pic...
A. 10 December 2013: Hacking pictures of ex sleeping with new boyfriend is over the top he must just be with you. Power for what he is invading privacy he must still want her or the boyfriend.... (read in full...)
He's been there and done that, but I haven't!
Q. My husband has a wild sexual past. I don't. Our sex life is as vanilla as it gets. I don't mind being vanilla, but I'm hurt that he doesn't want to try anything even remotely kinky with me. Unfortunately, he was way too open when we met. He...
A. 10 December 2013: I feel he may not know ir think.your into kinky. Especially if you dont really communicate it fully. I would.suggest which is known in the life there are boundaries and alot of discussion like making a porn movies. You have a.script before the ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my wife and my children?
Q. Dear Cupid, How can I leave my wife and two kids? I know these columns are normally reserved for women , but being a man with out any one to talk to and with a story I want to share with you I feel, I can tell no one else in the world, not my br...
A. 10 December 2013: All I can advise based off experience it wont last in a marriage that you don't want to be in you most likely will cheat again. I want to leave mines early but was trying to do what other people wanted and follow the bible. That was a grave mistake ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested in me? How can I get him to step up his game?
Q. I'm interested in this guy but I don't think he is as interested in me. My gut instincts and his actions (to me) suggest that he doesn't reciprocate my enthusiasm. Back story: I'm in university and he used to go to my university two years ago bu...
A. 23 November 2013: If he not to your standards you already wasting your time. Pancakes are good you only need water or milk eggs butter and pancake mix. bowl and spoons if it's at your house you can by the ingredients. He might not be that into you so stepping ... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 23 November 2013: The mom don't want you together. She wants better for her daughter and apparently the ring pop and phony diplomas and license is not enough. She dont want her daughter shacking up. Do you want yours shacking up. The playing house before the wedding ... (read in full...)
Slept with a married work colleague
Q. I have worked with this man for a year. We flirt all day everyday and for as long as I've known him iv been attracted to him, hes also attracted to me but hes married. On friday we had a work party and i stayed in his hotel room and we had sex. Ther ...
A. 19 November 2013: All that I can say is from what I read he is unhappily married. If he was happily married he wouldn't sleep with you. People do stay for the children I did but I still ended up leaving. I was sick to I past up a best choice for some trash and a ... (read in full...)
He was the right person at the wrong time! I want him back!
Q. 4 years ago, I met this awesome man, who's all loving and caring, but the problem is, he came in the wrong time. At that time i was already with another man, I had to choose between him and the man i was currently with. Unfortunately, i made the ...
A. 17 November 2013: He possibly is with someone else and when you call or text he was at the movies seeing the best man. I just saying it's a thought. I feel like you can get back in there if you get his attention again you know attract him if thats what you did in t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of a year and a half looks up pictures of half naked girls online.
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half looks up pictures of half naked girls online. I found out through his Facebook page, because he left it open once and every page he had been on was like all pictures of sexy half naked women. My boyfriend loves me ...
A. 16 November 2013: Well I look most men look it call fantasy thats all If he has pictures of you he will use those also. its a different feeling or vibe with the person you dating compared to a fantasy man or women. I tend to look at porn and pictures cause Im not ... (read in full...)
Is he or is he not interested in me?
Q. Hi all, I have written on here before and I got really good advice from you all. Very good. I have met someone who I've seen around for more than a year now but have only spoken twice before he found me on Facebook and started chatting. He ask...
A. 16 November 2013: In review if your post it appears based off the information is that he is unaware that you are interested. I know alot of times a guy will read vibes and sum up she may not be that into me. He is shy so he may never make another move unless you ... (read in full...)
Sex is the best ever but boyfriend is treating me badly! Do I leave or stay for the sex?
Q. Hello everyone. I am in a really hard situation and it is eating away at me emotionally. I am in a relationship with a guy who I care about very much. The relationship is 6 months old although I had known him for a year before that. He has s...
A. 15 November 2013: I would suggest a long serious talk about where the relationship is and to where you would like it to go.beyond love making. To me in my relationship if the love making is great what else could be wrong really. I on the other hand dont understand ... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: It dont sound right at all. Just meet up unless your planning on sexual activities theres no need for a room. Even though it is more personable and it is more private Lol. I would let him get the room all of it if he cant afford it keep it moving. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to whether or not he likes me as more than a friend?
Q. So confused. A co-worker who transferred from one of our global and I have become very good friends over the past year. His wife was supposed to transfer as well to the us but they ultimately separated and are in the process of divorcing. A mo...
A. 9 November 2013: I have taking dating to another level after my divorce so a relationship would not be to good with me. A person came to me we met through some other mutual friends then we exchanged numbers. She had a motive of money sex for money I had a motive for ... (read in full...)
Disastrous haircut! How do I deal with it?
Q. I know this may seem the silliest of issues and I feel very stupid asking for help over such trivial matter. So, I've had my hair cut super super super short yesterday. I thought I'd look good but... I don't!!! I look awful!!! Even my colleagues and ...
A. 6 November 2013: I too cut my hair like a boys cut my rx said he liked it go figure cause I look like TEENAGE BOY UUGGGH PEOPLE was laughing at me to at work cause I have a male pattern baldness spot caused by severe head trauma injury. I would say if you want get a ... (read in full...)
I feel so inferior when I hear the word "porn"
Q. I have a fear of porn, whenever I hear the word I immediately think of better looking women who are good at sex and it makes feel small. I've always had problems, my first boyfriend was a porn addict ever since then I always had it in mind that ...
A. 4 November 2013: I am a person that enjoys porn. Porn is self aid plus entertainment. I feel you shouldn't worry about your person cheating on you with porn actors. ... (read in full...)
Do I put up with the pain? See a Dr? Need advice on how to stop sex hurting so much
Q. Hello just needed some sexual health advice My ex boyfriend and I have just got back together. Completely in love with him and we have tried sex in the past but never been able to do it properly as it hurts me too much. I really want to do it...
A. 8 October 2013: From a women's perspective I experienced this also. Lack of experience was a issue and insensitive husband to coach me through the pleasure pain. I would suggest lubes answer stimulation is key. I would also recommend love making karma sutra books ... (read in full...)
Should I date this older woman?
Q. Dear all, I am really torn about this and need some objective advice (besides I am too ashamed to ask any of my friends). I will start with a quick summary about myself: I am 30 years old and had only had one relationship in my whole life. I...
A. 17 September 2013: Seven years is not a lot of age. If you like her then go for it, if not don't play with her or yourself. Age would not be a issue for me, more so her attitude and personality is what's the most important part that makes a relationship dynamic. Al... (read in full...)
I have trust issues and my b/f is flirty! How do I handle this?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm in a new relationship and I'm very desperate for help. My boyfriend and I have been together for only a couple of months but we were 'talking' for a long time before we got together. Everything has been perfect except for the f...
A. 16 September 2013: I want say I had this issue before but I experienced being on both ends flirty one and insecure one. I would use affirmations about him being with you. The flirt may be seen as flirting bit really it's not. Other women to may want to date him and ... (read in full...)
I want to score with this girl but cant get her attention!
Q. I really like this girl. I met her at work. she's beautiful, sexy and smart. She is oozing with breath taking sex appeal. she knows how to dress well and very down to earth. The problem is, I learned that she is older than me by 7 years. I didn't ...
A. 7 September 2013: Okay you have a women that only likes providers. Lessons teach you this all men want sex not love not providing not dating sex. She knows this we know this. She much probaly rather have been dating or asked out to a movie. But she could be a gold ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend acts more sexual than she is!
Q. One of my girlfriend's friends is the type of person that likes to sleep around a lot. Every weekend she usually hooks up with someone. When I hear my girlfriend talk to her about it, my gf always seems so happy/proud of her and that it is a normal ...
A. 7 September 2013: Just mention to her how you feel that way you can communicate well. She will understand and not have a problem with the issues. Just talk it out. She might want the total package not just oral. I know I like it all like most people and it is normal... (read in full...)
Used to like this guy, and now we are great friends, does girl/boy friendship exist? Advice
Q. Hi, There is this guy i used to like 3 year ago. We got together, as in kissed, and later on we realised there is no point and honestly i do not think he liked me enough. So, we didnt speak for few months i would say and then we started hanging out ...
A. 7 September 2013: Anything is possible in a world of possibilities... (read in full...)
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