Hes still seeing the ex and is VERY much in contact! Should I stay or walk away ?
Q. I have known my partner as a friend for 4 years. We became an item on New Years Eve then at the end of January he called it off to go back to his ex. he was back in feb and we gave it another go. We were happy and got engaged in June, then went ...
A. 16 August 2006: Do you love him? ask yourself this question then if you like him tell him you won't allow more moves with his ex and that you'll leave him next time... anyway he doesn't deserve your love and commitment but leaving him would be like surender to his ... (read in full...)
Hes still seeing the ex and is VERY much in contact! Should I stay or walk away ?
Q. I have known my partner as a friend for 4 years. We became an item on New Years Eve then at the end of January he called it off to go back to his ex. he was back in feb and we gave it another go. We were happy and got engaged in June, then went ...
A. 16 August 2006: Do you love him? ask yourself this question then if you like him tell him you won't allow more moves with his ex and that you'll leave him next time... anyway he doesn't deserve your love and commitment but leaving him would be like surender to his ... (read in full...)
My ex can't get over me...
Q. hey guys have a problem... im 16 and in a relationship with a perfect guy...but my ex is triing to split us up by making me feel bad about dumping him (for a perfectly good reason) he keeps saying that it would have been forever and that we were ...
A. 16 August 2006: You can avoid his companion, ask friends to wait for you by your door to go together to school, clubs, shopping...
Never answer the phone to him and do not text him, he'll get the idea, dont be polite to him just answer and tell him you're in a hurr... (read in full...)
Now normal is it for dad to perve at his daughters?
Q. hi, i'm 15. almost fully grown. is it normal for your own dad to look at their daughters bums or legs or boobs? cos i go and get a drink and i turn round to where my dad is, on the sofa and hes looking at my bum. i saw my mates dad look at her bum ...
A. 16 August 2006: Well dear I think this is normal and you're probably exaggerating the whole thing, maybe he looked at your bum but it is not a sexual problem, maybe he is thinking what the hell is she wearing she is teasing guys, she's getting pregnant before ... (read in full...)
She has asked for space... but I know she needs support right now... Im really worried, whats happening!?
Q. Hi. I could really do with some advice. my girl friend has said she wants some space and has removed me from her home. she was married some 4 years ago. to cut the story down, she and her first daugter ( 3 at the time of divorce) were a...
A. 16 August 2006: If you decide you love her enough to go through al shit that may come up good luck, be patient and ask her to give you the chace to be her friend and to be confident to tell you if she wants to be alone, to shout, cry or scream in front of you, ... (read in full...)
She has asked for space... but I know she needs support right now... Im really worried, whats happening!?
Q. Hi. I could really do with some advice. my girl friend has said she wants some space and has removed me from her home. she was married some 4 years ago. to cut the story down, she and her first daugter ( 3 at the time of divorce) were a...
A. 16 August 2006: Well I think she is overwhelmed by the situations she has recently gone trough and feels depressed, tired and lost, this is maybe the reason she cannot apprecite yout efforts and love, maybe she is not sure about her feelings I don't know dear but ... (read in full...)
She has asked for space... but I know she needs support right now... Im really worried, whats happening!?
Q. Hi. I could really do with some advice. my girl friend has said she wants some space and has removed me from her home. she was married some 4 years ago. to cut the story down, she and her first daugter ( 3 at the time of divorce) were a...
A. 16 August 2006: Well I think she is overwhelmed by the situations she has recently gone trough and feels depressed, tired and lost, this is maybe the reason she cannot apprecite yout efforts and love, maybe she is not sure about her feelings I don't know dear but ... (read in full...)
I feel like his mistress, but I'm stuck here! What do I do?
Q. Hi, 3 years ago I met a guy in turkey when i was doing some research there. I stayed at his house but with in a relationship at the time so nothing happened although there was an attraction. We became friends and saw each other every year when I ...
A. 16 August 2006: You are very nice and in love, try to relax and think dear... he loves sex with you maybe he loves you but he feels more responsiblr towards his family and cultural background doesnt him? Please arrange a talk with him ask him if he has talked to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I am a control-freak, but I'm only making sure she's okay!
Q. Am i being over possesive ? My Girlfriend/ ex girlfriend (current status unknown) tells me that i am a control freak and over possesive. It seams that my calling her during the day is causing this. I understand that basicly i should just stop...
A. 16 August 2006: I would like to have a boyfriend like you, you're very nice and lovely actually I think you shouldn't be so nice to her, it is her who is not behaving in a natural way maybe she has something to hide or it is just that her tamper is really bad ... (read in full...)
How many chances can one person get?
Q. How many chances should you give to someone you love? If they mess up and you forgive them, won't that teach them that their bad behavior will be forgiven? How can you let them know it's not okay without breaking up with them, and ensuring that it ...
A. 16 August 2006: I suppose that if a person loves you he or she will try not to hurt you as far as possible, apologising is ok but a change of attitude is necesasy too otherwise means cheating on you or abusing your confidence dear, how many choices to give a loved ... (read in full...)
My twins' dad lied to me about living with another woman. Now I don't trust what he says...
Q. Im v confused and not sure what to do about my problem: I have baby twins, and the dad adores them obsessively. He and I split before they were born but stayed friends. Now I want him back and want all 4 of us to be a happy little family. However....
A. 13 August 2006: I think there are 3 possible causes for his behaviour
1. He is still in love of his ex
2.He loves you both
3. He's got a psychiatric problem maybe caused by number 2, work stress, drinking or whaterver reason
Anyway your responsability n... (read in full...)
I am nasty when I drink!
Q. When I'm drunk, I'm always nasty to my boyfriend. I say awful things and tell him I don't want to be with him. At the time, I genuinely feel that way, I'm not just doing it to upset him then when I sober up, I'm fine again. I think you only do stuff ...
A. 13 August 2006: Please don't drink anymore my best friend ued to treat me nasty too when seh drank and tried to be nice for a time but is hard for people who love you to stay by your side as you may say things that can really hurt other people's feelings, stop or ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex husband treats his new gf very lovingly--did he change and I do the right thing, by leaving him?
Q. My husband and I have been separated for almost 4 years - it was an abusive relationship. Now he is with someone else who is at least 10 years older than him. He is so calm and loving and is even thinking about marrying her - by the way, they are ...
A. 12 August 2006: I suppose you may feel very stressed and down about it but remember it is the same as when you met him, if he had been abusive you wouldn't have married him honey, he's playing a game and abusing you psychologically but caring her so much in front ... (read in full...)
I don't want to meet my online man (yet)
Q. Dear cupid my problem is that i was going out with this lad i met on the net but we had never met, then last sunday we spilt up because he didn't understand whjy i was nervous about meeting him now i have a new internet boy friend but im not as ...
A. 12 August 2006: I think is normal that you feel anxious about the situation, I have dated man that I met on line a couple of times and the good thing is you get a realistic idea of how he really is and the second one is that a lot of magic suddenly disappears as ... (read in full...)
Should my abuser get away with it?
Q. Hey guys I would like to bring the man who raped and abused me 11 years ago to justice. This is the problem I found out through counselling that I was abused as a child after careful thought I have decided to bring my rapist to justice is that ...
A. 12 August 2006: I think that if you feel strong enough to go through this you must do it as you may prevent other possible victims to suffer the same thing, I suffered an attempt of sexual harrasment and I repent not telling as I sometimes think that maybe a person ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my boyfriend because I find it so hard to trust him!
Q. Plz help me! My boyfriend of nine months has just split up with. He says its because he's been unhappy for a while as I have trouble trusting him. This is due to my past relationships and his background as a cheat. I love him more than anything in ...
A. 2 August 2006: Of course go and relax you're to do it all right, c'on you can do it and please do not try to kiss him oh to get off unless he asks you, he may feel stress, good luck and love yourself more you're wonderful and special this is a temporary situation ... (read in full...)
I get nervous talking to my BF on the phone!
Q. I am 12, almost 13, and I am have been going out with my very first boyfriend for about four months now. It is summer vacation now and my boyfriend and I have been calling each other. I am not the type of person who enjoys talking on the phone, but ...
A. 1 August 2006: WOWWWWWWWWWWWWW U really like this boy, congratulations!!!...
I think you could try to sit with you your back up or even stand up without pressing the lungs area, and imagine you're not talking on the phone but face to face, try not to use time stal... (read in full...)
I get nervous talking to my BF on the phone!
Q. I am 12, almost 13, and I am have been going out with my very first boyfriend for about four months now. It is summer vacation now and my boyfriend and I have been calling each other. I am not the type of person who enjoys talking on the phone, but ...
A. 1 August 2006: WOWWWWWWWWWWWWW U really like this boy, congratulations!!!...
I think you could try to sit with you your back up or even stand up without pressing the lungs area, and imagine you're not talking on the phone but face to face, try not to use time stal... (read in full...)
I get nervous talking to my BF on the phone!
Q. I am 12, almost 13, and I am have been going out with my very first boyfriend for about four months now. It is summer vacation now and my boyfriend and I have been calling each other. I am not the type of person who enjoys talking on the phone, but ...
A. 1 August 2006: WOWWWWWWWWWWWWW U really like this boy, congratulations!!!...
I think you could try to sit with you your back up or even stand up without pressing the lungs area, and imagine you're not talking on the phone but face to face, try not to use time stal... (read in full...)
He slept with his ex.... Now she says shes pregnant!!!
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for three years now ,he loves me and i also do. Lately we have a problem which is fading my love for him but he still loves me The problem is he saw his ex girlfriend and due to lust he slept with her, and n...
A. 31 July 2006: I think that it is not fair that he slept with her but this things happen, I belive him loving you and having slept around with his ex, it is not that weird I would say is not that important. If you thing you can cope with the baby issue without ... (read in full...)
I like him, but the approval of my friends matters more
Q. Hi, please help me. recently iv got to get a know a school mate really well, i havent told anyone but ive started to grow strong feelings for him. im adicted to speaking to him and i can tell him anything because he listens to me. hes the nicest m...
A. 31 July 2006: I think friends generally try to help you by giving you their opinions however there is still the issue of slfish people who want to prevent you to get into a relationship in case they lose you as a going out device or as a 24 hour agony aunt or ... (read in full...)
She comes home from work drunk, and she's cheated on me numerous times! Should I stay or go?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. Last summer she got a new job at a bar, hoping to make some extra money. The problems in our relationship started there. She would come home drunk almost every night of the week. At ...
A. 31 July 2006: leave her she's so selfish you can get a girl who respects you... (read in full...)
My 40 year old boyfriend is obsessed with a 17-year old
Q. My loving boyfriend mentioned a week ago what a very very attractive seventeen year old had joined where he works!!! in the last week her name just constantly comes up in the evenings when we are together,i know he loves me but i think he has crush ...
A. 31 July 2006: Tell him that he should tell the girl about him as she will probably run away or tell him he's a pervert dear, he will be back to you with a depresion
love
Astrid... (read in full...)
My 40 year old boyfriend is obsessed with a 17-year old
Q. My loving boyfriend mentioned a week ago what a very very attractive seventeen year old had joined where he works!!! in the last week her name just constantly comes up in the evenings when we are together,i know he loves me but i think he has crush ...
A. 31 July 2006: Tell him that he should tell the girl abo... (read in full...)
My 40 year old boyfriend is obsessed with a 17-year old
Q. My loving boyfriend mentioned a week ago what a very very attractive seventeen year old had joined where he works!!! in the last week her name just constantly comes up in the evenings when we are together,i know he loves me but i think he has crush ...
A. 31 July 2006: Tell him that he should tell the girl abo... (read in full...)
A teacher is letting me get away with a lot of offenses. He winks and stares at me and I'm getting freaked!
Q. I am very confused by the behaviour of one of my teachers towards me. He is a very strict teacher who never smiles and always seems annoyed and a lot of people find him scary. The problem is he behaves completely differently towards me. His face lig...
A. 31 July 2006: Tell a good friend about it or you could get in trouble, please tell your parents as the will try to help you, never stay alone with him for a revision or whatever, try not to dress too sexy for class as maybe he is a chauvinist that think women who ... (read in full...)
I really want to be friends with my social group's new addition, but she treats me like I'm an old lady!
Q. I have a small group of very good friends, who I have a very strong bond with. We have been friends for years, and we are actually more like family to each other. We also have a wide circle of other friends, who we mix with either together or ...
A. 31 July 2006: DO NOT STRESS SHE'S DOING IT ON PURPOSE TO UPSET YOU AND PROVOKE AN OUTBURST ON YOUR SIDE, she is looking for power and tries to hurt you as she wants to gat closer to your friends by threatening the position of a person she thinks she can easiy ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my boyfriend because I find it so hard to trust him!
Q. Plz help me! My boyfriend of nine months has just split up with. He says its because he's been unhappy for a while as I have trouble trusting him. This is due to my past relationships and his background as a cheat. I love him more than anything in ...
A. 31 July 2006: You shoud apologise and be just be friends maybe that would leave an open door for something else in the future good luck!!!!... (read in full...)
He gets what he wants, then he's a total stranger. Are we just together for sex?
Q. Hi Lately every time I sleep with my guy, afterwards he acts like a total stranger. Then he never seems to want to hook up with me for ages afterwards. It's starting to depress me. It makes me feel cheap. Does this mean he only wants me for sex?...
A. 31 July 2006: Cheeer up! It is not that important there are many men in the world. drop him or talk to himonly if you like him very very much, if you only wanted sex you could choose a really good looking guy dear!... (read in full...)
We never spoke, but I'm sure there was love between us!
Q. Hi guys, I need help with this one. I'm 14 years old and last year I saw this guy who was in sixth form. The big problem is, is that I love him and I think he loves me too, but we have never spoken! I know it must sound stupid that I love him beca...
A. 30 July 2006: Well I think that you shouldn't worry that much, It happens to everyboody, it happened to me when I was 17, I was the whole summer staring at an idiot that used to stare at me, I even thought he could understand what I was thinking... It is cool to ... (read in full...)
Please tell me how to forgive a cad who has cheated on me three times
Q. ive been with the father of my child for three years 3 days ago i found out he cheated on me with a girl who is under age he slept with her twice we were trying to deal with it and i asked him have you ever cheated on me before and he said no then ...
A. 30 July 2006: You a re very nice but the fact is that if you don't get serious about it he will probably do it again, it is a good thing that the girls were different as it shows he was meresly looking for sexual intercourse and not for a love lasting ... (read in full...)
Ive taken two tests and they both say negative.. what should I do ?
Q. dear cupid, im having a bit of a problem,i am an female and my problem is i think i might be pregant. i have missed two periods well nearly three now. i have taken a pregancy test well two actually and both came back negative. what do ...
A. 30 July 2006: Some women stop having the period during stressful situations or their cycle simply varies, another reason is anorexia or eating disorders, maybe you shoud visit you gynecologist, actually you mey not be pregnant at all but maybe you need vitamins, ... (read in full...)
Thirteen years ago he wanted to settle down but I only find out NOW!
Q. Thirteen years ago I experienced this amazing connection with a man, overwhelminginly intense on several levels, not just sexually. We had a brief, passionate and sexually very gratifying few weeks together, but at the time, he was single guy, not ...
A. 30 July 2006: Well I think you should be friends and let things go slow maybe if you relax you won't really feel atracted to him anymore,we like thinking of film like situations like yours could get to be but reality is different, I don't really think he would ... (read in full...)
He's ready to move to be with some internet girl--isn't that just what 40 year old divorced people do?
Q. I resently logged into one of my exs profiles on the internet only to discover he’s been messaging a girl who lives almost half way across the country. I thought I was funny when he started talking about moving there to go to college. (He’s never ha...
A. 30 July 2006: Instead of taking it too seriously I suggest you have lots of fun, create a profile, send him an e-mail or include him on your messenger and make him look forward to meeting you then you decide what to do but remember it's a game...and that he is ... (read in full...)
My daughter wont talk to her father after his affair, but I want her to talk to him, how should I tackle this ?
Q. hi there please help how can i get my daughter to commuinicate with her father.? she has refused to talk to him since she was made a part of his affair againsnt me (he took her along with him while he had his last affair on me) she now feels she ow...
A. 30 July 2006: Well I think she needs time to notice that her parents are independent human beings with the right to be alone or decide to end up their affective relationships in some ways, maybe you should tell her that you are happy to be free and that it is ... (read in full...)
We are both from different backgrounds but like each other alot, should I though just stick with his friendship ?
Q. I am absolutely infatuated with my “friend” and him with me. We met while I was working abroad (for six months) and quickly formed a friendship. Three months later, we began to date, knowing too well that my time overseas was limited. Four weeks ...
A. 30 July 2006: Well I know is a complicated issue as you are to be apart at least for the moment, I think you should try to benefit from the situation as you will have time to relax and consider if you are really in love of if the pressure of your departure made ... (read in full...)
He said im a tease and asked for sex, im not ready as im not sure if I've mistaken friendship for love
Q. Sorry, so long... I have been seeing my boyfriend for four months now(Friends for 2 yrs in col before got together) and we are extremely compatible in many ways, except he has slightly different interests to me when it comes to careers, as i am...
A. 30 July 2006: I think it is normal that you are worried and stressed about your first full sexual experience and you don't seem to get enough help from your boyfriend. You should relax and think if you really feel like doing it or not, just that if you are not ... (read in full...)
How can I really stand out, he went from being really into me then all wierd!
Q. I don't understand what happened, but he seemed like he liked me lots and l liked him. We were together almost a month. Then he went away for a weekend came back and it was all weird, he said he was really busy working etc and we couldn't get ...
A. 30 July 2006: Well this happened to me a couple of years ago, I felt horrible about the situation, I was analysing the situation for ages thinking it was my fault and kept on phoning and sending sms to him. It was a loss of time, if the guy doesn't want to commit ... (read in full...)
We had sex which was great, but when she was on top it hurt her, anyone know this could happen ?
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have had sex 3 times now...the first time it hurt her, but after that it was awesome...on the third time we tried to try something new, instead of me being ontop she wanted to try being on top, but once she was on top, and ...
A. 30 July 2006: Well I think maybe she has not had sexual intercourse before or maybe she had little experience about it. I think you should talk about the issue without thinking it could be a medical problem, another idea is that maybe she was stressed about the ... (read in full...)
We crossed the line of just being roommates, she has a BF but I like her alot and think shes likes me!!
Q. ok, so i live with this girl, right? which complicates things a lot. she's a good friend of mine, but a little over a week ago we crossed over the friendship barrier and she cheated on her boyfriend with me. we decided time apart was the best ...
A. 29 July 2006: I think that's real love, I am afraid to tell you that the best thing would be to talk to her in a way that she doesn't stress as she may feel guilty beacause of her boyfriend and maybe still attached to him in some way. I think you should both ... (read in full...)
| *strid's friends
These are mutual friends, so *strid has
added them and they have added *strid!
|
