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writes:hey guys have a problem...im 16 and in a relationship with a perfect guy...but my ex is triing to split us up by making me feel bad about dumping him (for a perfectly good reason) he keeps saying that it would have been forever and that we were ment to be and stuff like that and its maiking me feel really really down because i love my current boyfriend and my ex can't undestand that. he still thinks i love him but i dont and he's only 14 and 3 quaters and i dont want to hurt him by saying " i just dont love you " is there any other way i can let him know? thanks in advance for the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): my ex does the same to me but i just don`t want him back. Unfortunately you have to be cruel to be kind! You have to tell him you love your new boyfriend and that you would just like to stay friends and if he can`t do that then you should break all contact with him.
Your ex will get over it hes only young but you have to tell him the truth, once he knows you are positive you won`t take him back he will realise he is wasting his time
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 You can avoid his companion, ask friends to wait for you by your door to go together to school, clubs, shopping...
Never answer the phone to him and do not text him, he'll get the idea, dont be polite to him just answer and tell him you're in a hurry if he pretends to be with you, do not sit by him at the bus even if there is a seat by him say hello and sit by another person and say just hello or bye and leave his companion, tell him you prefer to walk alone or that you find it hard to friends too shot after you splitted, you can do it with the help of your family and friends, you don't need to have a close relationship just because you're neigbourghs or school mates
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats a very good answer and thatnk you for responding quickly the only problem is that i can't break contact with him because he goes to the same school as me and the same cadet detachment as me and he lives across the street from me so i see him almost everyday.. theres no way that i can avoid him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006):
You need to tell him straight, "I don't love you any more, please leave me alone and let me get on with my life"
You say you won't say it because you don't want to hurt him but what you are doing now is hurting him more. Not only does he think there is a chance for you two, but he also knows that you are with someone else, no wonder he is still in the picture, he must be going through a pretty hard time.
Do the decent thing, tell him how it is, and allow him to move on. Once you've told him, break contact with him, it's for his own good.
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