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writes:When I'm drunk, I'm always nasty to my boyfriend. I say awful things and tell him I don't want to be with him. At the time, I genuinely feel that way, I'm not just doing it to upset him then when I sober up, I'm fine again. I think you only do stuff you secretly want to do when you're sober when you've had a drink, do you think I don't want to be with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): I don't think you should necessarily act on how you feel when you're drunk!
But, I do think there is something in this that you obviously need more time to think about.
Alcohol is a depressant, it stops you from thinking clearly and can easily turn your state of mind towards the negative depressed/angry states - ie someone with depressive thoughts can get really depressed when drinking.
This is vague but I think you are showing anger towards your boyfriend [and perhaps any one else you are really close to?] because something is bothering you that you haven't been able to express, like are you the kind of person that can express their emotions and feelings well, maybe not?
If your boyfriend is actually annoying you when you're drunk, or you have relationship problems, then I would say the anger is a sign of resentment towards him. But, if your relationship is otherwise good, and healthy, I would say the anger is a sign of resentment towards YOURSELF and you are taking it out on him.
I think ultimately though - this is something you are going to have to solve yourself [or with a professional] - it's one of those questions where we really need to know much, much more about you, your background, your boyfriend and your relationship.
I'm sure you'll figure it out. Maybe if you have been with your boyfriend a while, and he knows you well, he might be able to tell you why you do it?
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (13 August 2006):
 Please don't drink anymore my best friend ued to treat me nasty too when seh drank and tried to be nice for a time but is hard for people who love you to stay by your side as you may say things that can really hurt other people's feelings, stop or you'll end up alone or with a person who treats you nasty too, is it what you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2006): Alcohol is not meant for the body. That people get drunk from alcohol is in fact an allergic reaction. Alcohol has the power to change people on a chemical level and that is why it is considered an addictive substance.
I think your reaction is a violent one and if you are aware of this; obstain from drinking. I also suggest some addictions prevention is in order as well.
It is unfortunate that people will drink to gain "courage" and this is an indicator of some serious issues.
Please get some individual therapy started to address those feelings of anger and hurt inside of you that would make you want to lash out at someone you are supposed to love.
I also suggest that your boyfriend take some counselling as well as you are an emotionally abusive partner and please address this relationship blocker ASAP.
Best of wishes.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 August 2006):
 I think too much drink can turn anyone from Jekyll into Hyde. You are not thinking straight and lose impulse control - most adults drink socially to lose their inhibitions. If you turn nasty when you have had a few drinks just keep your alcohol level down - there is no point in getting wasted as you just get a hangover. You can only really decide if you want to be with your man when you are thinking straight, and not half way down a bottle of vodka.
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