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writes:Right, so i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past 5 weeks on and off. Stupid, i know, but we got lazy with the condoms and haven't been worrying about it. I have never skipped a period in my life and my period was due eight days ago and still hasn't happened. I've been having all the pregnancy symptoms, and given the skipped period i gathered i must be pregnant. I went to get tested at my local brook centre, waited and worried for two hours before i was seen, did the test and the result came back negative. I was happy, and thought i'd gotten away with it. But then the nurse said she believes i am pregnant and i have to go back in a week if my period still hasn't happened. She mentioned that because i've been having unprotected sex right up until now over a period of a few weeks, it could have happened at any time and is too early for the test to pick up. This confused me, most people just get a straightforward negative or positive, typical of me to get a complicated answer! Does anyone have any advice? Does it sound like i am? Has anyone been through the same? I really need some help!!
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reader, pebble +, writes (24 May 2009):
 A girl I work with has only just found out she's pregnant - at 26 weeks!! To be honest, we all knew anyway because she has a massive belly but we thought she was just keeping from us because she didn't want anyone to know. It was a huge shock when we found out she didn't actually know herself. But anyway... I digress.I don't think you can mistake that intuition. Especially if you weren't planning to get pregnant. It can't even be put down to wishful thinking. I think it's just down to waiting until your body decides to play ball. I have a lot of respect for you hun, I'd be tearing my hair out with impatience by now lol.Good luck to ya :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i have all the symptoms of pregnancy. I have every single one, the only thing i dont have is swollen or tender breasts but they have increased in size and got softer... I still havent had a period, three weeks since missed period. Ive done three tests now, all negative. Some friends of mine said the same happened to them and ive been reading online how some womens HCG levels were too low til 20 weeks for a test to pick up. My mum had a complicated pregnancy with me as well, didnt know she was pregnant til about 4 months because her periods seemed to carry on as normal... I know that i am pregnant, i have the bond, weird things are going on in my body and i know that its not stress or anything like that. I've been depressed before and never skipped a period! Coincidental how the one i skip is after lots of unprotected sex! My bf refuses to believe it til its slapped in his face that i am, but i just know it. He doesnt want it and i do but hes sworn to stick with me all the same.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (14 May 2009):
 I still think you should follow the nurses advice, but if it keeps coming up negative you could be that 0.01% or your not pregnant and all these symptoms are down to stress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs expected, i got another negative. I am confused still. I know the nurse said to wait a week, but shouldn't it show up? If pregnancy tests are 99% effective, surely i cant be that 1% thats not? And i got one thats supposed to show up before your periods even happened, my period was due eleven days ago and still hasn't happened! Has anyone else been through this before? All the symptoms, skipped period but negative results? xxx
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reader, pebble +, writes (13 May 2009):
Do the test but don't take a negative as certain, especially if your period still hasn't arrived. I can see why you'd be a bit impatient, a week is long time to wait for something so huge. An extra few days might be what your body needed to give you an accurate result.
If you get a negative, try not to take it too seriously until you've been back to the nurse. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy boyfriend now knows and wants to do tests, but will a clear blue digital give me an accurate answer yet when the nurse told me to wait a week?? I dont know whether to do one now, and one next week to be certain??
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 May 2009):
Maybe you should go to your Mum, she'll lecture you, but will also help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't ask to be bloody lectured, if i'd wanted that i'd have gone to my mum! I wanted some help and advice. I know i've made my mistakes and been silly, and obviously i dont think im always right else i wouldnt be on a website asking for help! Sorry i got the wrong idea of agony aunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): yep sounds like your preg. Doing it that many times w/out protection there is really no doubt there. If you aren't you learned your lesson huh? get birthcontrol.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (12 May 2009):
Follow the Nurses advice, I understand it's something your not good at, like the advise to use PROTECTION, but this may come as a surprise.... You DON'T always know best!
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (12 May 2009):
did you not expect to get pregnant from unprotected sex? it only takes once & it only takes one sperm
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reader, pebble +, writes (12 May 2009):
It sounds very much like you're pregnant. Many people who get a straight answer from the test get one because they ony had unprotected sex maybe once or twice, so it was pretty easy to say when baby was concieved.
You've been doing it for 5 weeks, you could have been pregnant for 2 and half of them and it wouldn't show up on the test because there aren't enough hormones in your blood or urine (whichever kind of test you did). Those tests aren't always completely accurate. Even if you got pregnant the very first time you did it, 5 weeks is still very early and might not show up.
Do what the nurse said and wait maybe a week or so before doing another one. Then see what that says. But to me, lots of unprotected plus a missed period seems highly likely that you're pregnant.
If by any chance you're not, you and him need a very serious chat about contraception, otherwise you might end up having these scares every 5 weeks and your nerves will be shot to pieces. Good luck and I hope you get the answer you want.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (12 May 2009):
 It is definately still possible that you could be pregnant - the nurse is right in what she said. If you have still been having sex right up until (and maybe through?) the time when you period was due, then it is too early for any pregnancy test to pick it up.
I would trust what the nurse said - she is the professional in this situation therefore you just have to wait. There is not a lot else you can do here, if you have been having symptoms and missed a period then the chances are you are pregnant. I suggest you start thinking what you are going to do if the next test does come out positive and make some plans. And also make arrangments to get an STI check too.
Laziness is not an excuse to be so reckless - this is a human life we are talking about here. I hope whatever the outcome you will have learnt your lesson and use both condoms and birth control next time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Get tested again and seriously cop on.
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