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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Can pre-cum make her pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend says she thinks she is pregnant and she is have all symtoms in after two days it that possible? i didnt cum in her but precumed in her can someone get preg from that? Moderators note - Have re written the question as the spelling...
A. 14 June 2009: To anonymous, what kind of silly thing is it to say someone is too young to ask these questions? Seriously, when should sex education start?
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Can pre-cum make her pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend says she thinks she is pregnant and she is have all symtoms in after two days it that possible? i didnt cum in her but precumed in her can someone get preg from that? Moderators note - Have re written the question as the spelling...
A. 14 June 2009: Well this is one those questions where science and evidence contradict each other...
Science: there has been lots of research done in labs accross the world and the result is that pre-cum (the clear sticky fluid) cannot cause pregnancy unless, ... (read in full...)
He covers my mouth and talks about other women during sex!
Q. Self Centered In Bed My boyfriend of 9 yrs is 16 yrs older than me. Im 25, he is 42. Throughout the 9 years, 90% of what he does in bed is cover my face with a pillow and have sex with my mouth taking about other women. The othe...
A. 13 June 2009: Yes of course you should leave him!!... (read in full...)
Mom's boyfriend came into my room and played with me..how do I tell my mom?
Q. okay, last night my mom had to work (as usual). her boyfriend just moved in last week, so he is around when she's not. last night before I fell asleep, he came in my room and sat on my bed. he talked to me about boys and how now i was old enough to ...
A. 13 June 2009: You need to tell your Mum and the Police as soon as possible, how many other girls do you think he has sexually assaulted?
Do you really want your mum dating a paedophile?
This is not in anyway your fault, he is in the wrong here and must be... (read in full...)
Wants a threesome as a birthday present!
Q. Hey Its my girlfriends birthday soon and she says she would love too try a threesome with another girl she said she has no feelings for the girl its just something too try, but i dont know if am comfortable with this do you think i should s...
A. 12 June 2009: You're 13! NO of course you shouldn't! ... (read in full...)
On the pill & used condom..pregnant?
Q. okay. I had sex for the first time today and I'm worried. He used a condom, I've been taking the pill regularly for a couple months (haven't missed one yet) and he didnt cum inside of me. Is there a chance I'm pregnant or am I just overreacting ...
A. 12 June 2009: You are over reacting! There is probably a 0.0000001% chance that you are pregnant but to be fair, if you are a guy with wings called Gabrielle will be coming to see you very soon!
Don't panic, but the only way to 100% guarantee not to get preg... (read in full...)
Does the condom fully protect her?
Q. If I cum inside my girlfriend while I'm wearing a condom, does any semen leak into her vagina? Because I'm really just cumming into the condom but I don't know if it like overflowed or something. Thanks....
A. 12 June 2009: The only thing condoms don't protect against are skin infections and lice (Crabs), but if you are worried maybe she should consider going on the pill.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html... (read in full...)
I'm sore and itchy down below. Could it be a disease?
Q. i've been using my finger to wiggle around down there is it possible that i could have got a disease because it's sore and it itches very bad but when i itch it it hurts or burns...
A. 12 June 2009: It could be a simple yeast infection or possibly an STI you should go and talk to your doctor
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pushing me away because he is joining the Air Force?
Q. I'm not really sure what to do about my boyfriend of over 2 years. Were both young, I'm 17 and he's a few months younger. To begin with, we were ace, we'd been best friends always, and although I had a bit of a rocky past, he took me regardless an...
A. 11 June 2009: He's being a tool now, maybe it is time for you to say enough is enough and actually dump him! Tell him when he is trained and wants to act like a grown up you will consider taking him back.
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I get wet dreams and I want this to stop!
Q. hey im 13 and male i keep having wet dreams and sometimes the dreams have nothing to do with sex and i still have one and today i woke up den went back 2 sleep for ten minutes and it happened. i dont like it because i wake up feeling wet and dirty ...
A. 10 June 2009: Do you actually masturbate before going to sleep? If not I suggest trying that, and maybe increase the amount you masturbate.
Don't look at porn before going to bed as that will stimulate your dreams, in fact try reading about something very non... (read in full...)
16 and pregnant, and I can't get the morning after pill!
Q. BIG BIG BIG problen im 16 and pregnant with my 19 year old cousins baby i know some people think its gross but get over it i cant take the morning after pill and i live in ireland so if i am going to have an abortion i have to travel know one knows ...
A. 10 June 2009: I think lecturing us on what we may or may not deem gross isn't going to get people to want to help you.
You can't take the morning after pill more than 72 hours after sex, your only option is to go to a doctor and find out what other forms of... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of love or lust?
Q. so me and this guy have just recently been talking well actually more weve been on 2 dates already[they were back to back] and he wants to hang out again today:] on the 2d date he kissed me like 9 times for our first kiss i was walking in fron...
A. 10 June 2009: Lust, enjoy it!... (read in full...)
He kept looking at me...was he interested?
Q. Hi i'm a bit clueless when it comes to guys. so i was just out at lunch with my sister we were at a bar and this guy was sat there so we sat down and he kept looking at me. he was on his laptop and he kept looking over at me i caught him ...
A. 10 June 2009: He probably liked the look of you, but obviously didn't have the balls to talk to you, or he spends every lunch time in there checking out girls.
Unless you see him there often I wouldn't worry about it. But if you do see him again say Hi. You ... (read in full...)
Why does my stomach hurt after first time sex?
Q. Okay, so i had sex for the first time yesterday. It was great and all and it didnt hurt when we did, but later on that day and today my stomach started hurting. Im just wondering if thats normal, since it was my fist time....
A. 10 June 2009: Stomach ache and cramps are common in girls just after losing their virginity, this is mainly down to the fact that you have just done an intense work out for the first time.
Imagine running a marathon with no training! You will ache for a few da... (read in full...)
Can taking the pill erratically delay periods?
Q. Hi DearCupid, do you know if taking a contraceptive pill erraticaly (i.e. not rigidly every 24 hours) can delay a period? I've not had sex this month with ejaculation, and it's always been with a condom so I'm ruling out pregnancy. I know I've been ...
A. 10 June 2009: As long as you haven't been erratic with the condoms too, you should be fine, but you are messing your hormones around a lot by not taking your pill properly, so that can delay your period and so can stress.... (read in full...)
So am I bi or gay...?
Q. Hi I am a girl who needs help to figure things out for herself. I am not sure if I am gay or bi, can you give me your opinion on how it sounds? Sexually I am attracted more to women and I find the sex better with women. I find people of both ...
A. 10 June 2009: Bi with more lesbian tendencies. But why label yourself, why not do what ever makes you happy with who ever makes you happy.
It's 2009 we really don't need to pin labels on everything. We are all human, and all have sexual needs. By labellin... (read in full...)
I'm so scared about my skin cancer!
Q. hey .. im a 15 year old girl and i need sum advice .. i am a carer of my mum who has skin cancer and i found out i do to .. and she is always in hospital .. and wen she 1st started gettin it she had a lump (sist) on the inside of her mouth ... an...
A. 9 June 2009: We have given you lots of answers on this on your last two posts:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-mom-has-skin-cancer-so-do-i.html
Have you spoken to a Macmillan nurse yet?... (read in full...)
Diet pills that burn fat?
Q. hey does anyone know of any diet pills that work and actually burn fat? or know anyone that has used some sort of diet pill that has really worked for them? i'm doing a diet but i want the extra push. ...
A. 9 June 2009: It works, but then so does bulimia.
It's dodgy! anything that gives you spontaneous diarrhoea, will make you lose weight, but it will also effect you chemical balance, and dehydrate you. Which in the long run can cause fainting, cardiac arrhythm... (read in full...)
Medication to make pimple go away faster?
Q. Well, this isn't really a relationship question but anyway, I have a pimple right above my lip. It's touching a little part of my lip but it's not all the way on it. I don't want to pop it but I'm going to see my boyfriend tomorrow and I don't want ...
A. 9 June 2009: I still suggest sticking to the simple stuff, anything that contains salicylic acid can cause drying out, inflammation and other side effects, which you don't want this close to a date.
On the other hand it is a fantastic drug also know as Aspir... (read in full...)
Diet pills that burn fat?
Q. hey does anyone know of any diet pills that work and actually burn fat? or know anyone that has used some sort of diet pill that has really worked for them? i'm doing a diet but i want the extra push. ...
A. 9 June 2009: Cool, I always worry about people asking for diet pills some are so dangerous!... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of the professor--she's a hottie!
Q. I'm currently enrolled in a Summer class that lasts 8.5 weeks and in a rather short period of time, I managed to get to know a guy who is painfully gorgeous, intelligent, hilarious, and he's MY age. He's a little on the chubby side, but fuck, ...
A. 9 June 2009: So you aren't dating this guy? Why not ask him out if you like him so much! As for your professor, she's hot so all the guys will eye her up and I think you are being a little bit clingy and mental about this.... (read in full...)
Medication to make pimple go away faster?
Q. Well, this isn't really a relationship question but anyway, I have a pimple right above my lip. It's touching a little part of my lip but it's not all the way on it. I don't want to pop it but I'm going to see my boyfriend tomorrow and I don't want ...
A. 9 June 2009: Medication won't really work, but try a steam bath, that will open your pores and draw the puss out without casing scaring.... (read in full...)
Diet pills that burn fat?
Q. hey does anyone know of any diet pills that work and actually burn fat? or know anyone that has used some sort of diet pill that has really worked for them? i'm doing a diet but i want the extra push. ...
A. 9 June 2009: There are some really good ones available on the NHS speak to your doctor and he will prescribe them for you! ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and not sure who is the daddy..maybe the old flame?
Q. Im in a huge dilemna, I am currently 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant (tomorrow will be 7 weeks). I got my period April 22, 2009. I went on vacation from April 26-May 3rd 2009. On that trip, I ran into an old flame and slept with him every night from ...
A. 9 June 2009: Get a paternity test when your child is born. But to be honest what made you think having unprotected sex was a good idea in the first place?... (read in full...)
How do I avoid impure sexual relationships?
Q. I have a strong faith in Jesus Christ..but it just is getting harder and harder to stay away from sexual-like relationships that are impure. what to do??...
A. 9 June 2009: Religion vs Nature!
This will be a true test of your faith to fight the years of evolution that make you crave sex! This craving isn't the Devils work it's hormones and all part of becoming a woman, don't feel dirty or wrong for having these fe... (read in full...)
White and dry vaginal opening, what could be the cause?
Q. My bf and I have been together and having sex for about 5 months now. We go between using condoms, and not (we have both been checked). I am not on birth control. And we use lamb skin condoms. We dont have crazy rough sex or anything. But, just the ...
A. 9 June 2009: I think you need to go and see your doctor about this, it doesn't sound like something I have treated before, so I think you need to have a proper examination.
Stay off the sex till you have been checked over, and consider some kind of birth co... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get an STI from someone who doesn't have one?
Q. Dear Cupid, Is it possible to get an STI off somone who doesnt have one?...
A. 9 June 2009: Please check out this link for a bit of education on STIs http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html... (read in full...)
Hymen problems...
Q. Dear Cupid, After a bit of reasearch, i found out that i have a septate hymen, which is really rare. While i attempted sexual intercourse, i started to bleed, but my hymen didnt break at all! What does this mean, am i not a virgin? Can i not have...
A. 9 June 2009: You probably need surgery but you are no longer a virgin!... (read in full...)
Am I stilla virgin? How do I know if my hymen broke?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had vaginal sex a good few months ago but it did not go so well, i started to bleed heavily but i stopped after a few minutes. Iv been afraid to try it since. Am i still a virgin since it only lasted less than a minute? And how ...
A. 9 June 2009: I think the bleeding may suggest your hymen is broken!
And as you have had sex whether it is for 2 seconds or 2 hours, you are no longer a virgin!
But do check out Satin's links below!... (read in full...)
I'm only used to him but he loves me, what should I do?
Q. I told a guy that I don't love him but he keep saying he'll keep loving me even if I don't do.I asked him to find another girl that might be suitable for him I don't have any feeling toward him he is a friend he said okay we are friends ...
A. 9 June 2009: Go to the Police... (read in full...)
Am I too you to propose marriage?
Q. I want to propose to my gf but i think i mite be too young im 19 and my girlfriend is to.i totally love her.I've just got 2 questions to ask. 1.Am I too young to propose? 2.How could I do it ?...
A. 9 June 2009: You are not too young, but can you afford a nice ring (£600-£1000) a wedding(£10,000+), and a place for you both to live (£90,000+ or £350-£900 per month)?
If your answer is: I want a long engagement or I don't want to get married yet, don't pr... (read in full...)
I haven't snogged a boy, should I do it when I'm drunk so there's less pressure?
Q. Hi my names Leigh im 15 and i havent yet snogged a boy. im too worried ill do it wrong. so many boys have wanted to go out with me but i always say no because im too scared about snogging them. i always get drunk on the weekend, should i just snog ...
A. 8 June 2009: Yes do it when you are drunk.... When you are 18 and legally allowed to drink! ;p... (read in full...)
Wanted to talk to girl at club, she wouldn't after talking with her friends, why are women so insecure?
Q. i approached a girl at a club and i asked if i could have a chat with her. enthusiastically she said "yea why not, but leme talk to my friends first cuz we're leavin soon, so i'l be back". after a couple of minutes i noticed she was around me with ...
A. 8 June 2009: I think you are the insecure one here! Why are you having to find a lone girl to chat up are you too insecure to ask her and her friends if they'd like a drink?
I always found that if you are charming to her friends you will have a much higher c... (read in full...)
I am using Slim Fast,, along with limited food intake to lose weight , any suggestions to lose weight faster?
Q. helloo everyone, im currently trying a slim-fast diet but i dont know if its going to work or not? at the moment im having a slim fast milkshake for breakfast, and apple and another milkshake for lunch and vegetables and fruit and salad for dinner, ...
A. 8 June 2009: Unfortunately exercise and healthy eating is your only option other than speaking to a doctor!... (read in full...)
How to tell my mother that I'm an atheist?
Q. It's no so much of a question that requires an answer, more of a comment with follow-ups I'm an atheist the reason i don't believe in god is because the world is jacked up. I really don't believe in religion because of what it has done for the wor...
A. 8 June 2009: Don't tell her, religious views are a very personal thing and if you want to be atheist, then that is your choice. If you do need to tell her, maybe tell her you are joining a suicide cult then when she freaks out tell her you are atheist it will be ... (read in full...)
Still confused..do I give him my virginity?
Q. i have wrote a series of questions about this boy but im still caught up with it :( i am 15 and i like this 16 yr old boy and im still a virgin and he isnt. i have known him for about a year now and i still want to lose my virginity to him...
A. 8 June 2009: It really is up to you, but please make sure when you are making it special don't forget the condom! Because I really don't think pregnancy and AIDS or some other STI are in your top 10 things to get out of loosing your virginity.... (read in full...)
What are these white bits in my virgina?
Q. hi, im 18 and recently ive started to get white bits in my vagina, they look almost tissue like. i havent a clue what it might be, any ideas? thanks...
A. 8 June 2009: Just to be a real geek here:
You will get antifungals, not antibiotics, as thrush is a fungal infection, and most antibiotics are made from mould (a fungus) and therefore would make thrush much worse.
The drug of choice is normally Canista... (read in full...)
Is this a huge breach of trust?
Q. Teacher/inmate relationship. Hi I would like some advice if anyone can help! I am writing about a teacher-student relationship but before I begin - the student(and teacher) are both adults over 21. The student is no longer at the institut...
A. 8 June 2009: Yeah I think the rules in the States and UK do differ on this one, it is more about professional conduct than a legal issue here, but you guys do give a very good point and I think we are all in agreement that this is WRONG!... (read in full...)
I want to harden the skin on my penis how could I do this?
Q. I want to harden the skin on my penis how could i do this? I've heard that surgical spirit is really good at hardening skin would it be okay to put some on a piece of cotton wool and rub it into my penis head?...
A. 7 June 2009: Yeah do it and give it a rub with sand paper too!
Ha ha IDIOT!... (read in full...)
Need some help picking a pill
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months and have both been tested for STDs recently (negative tests). We have been using condoms, but I want to try a different method of birth control and was thinking of going on the pill. I was on ...
A. 7 June 2009: As someone who has had medical training I totally agree with Ted-ster! This is an issue you need to talk to YOUR doctor about, not a bunch of anonymous faces who will tell you all kinds of crap about herbal remedies, and what helped them.
You n... (read in full...)
Is this a huge breach of trust?
Q. Teacher/inmate relationship. Hi I would like some advice if anyone can help! I am writing about a teacher-student relationship but before I begin - the student(and teacher) are both adults over 21. The student is no longer at the institut...
A. 7 June 2009: NO. The teacher was in a position of trust with a vulnerable adult and has abused that trust, so it is not acceptable morally, even though legally it is fine!
If you thought this was acceptable you wouldn't be asking the question would you? It ... (read in full...)
I keep cheating on him when I'm drunk, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with the best boyfriend ever. He would do anything for me and we love each other dearly. He's three years older than me, and works full time, whereas i am a student at university. Truthfully he's my first love, i have nev...
A. 7 June 2009: STOP DRINKING, if you do love him that will stop the problem and if you don't want to stop, you have to dump him because you are being selfish.... (read in full...)
I'm only used to him but he loves me, what should I do?
Q. I told a guy that I don't love him but he keep saying he'll keep loving me even if I don't do.I asked him to find another girl that might be suitable for him I don't have any feeling toward him he is a friend he said okay we are friends ...
A. 7 June 2009: You have two options: Let him make a fool of himself and continue calling him and seeing him or you could be brave and tell him, no more contact because you are finding it creepy and you don't want to hurt him.... (read in full...)
What are these white bits in my virgina?
Q. hi, im 18 and recently ive started to get white bits in my vagina, they look almost tissue like. i havent a clue what it might be, any ideas? thanks...
A. 4 June 2009: It sounds like thrush! You should really go and see your doctor if this is the first time it has happened.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pushing me away because he is joining the Air Force?
Q. I'm not really sure what to do about my boyfriend of over 2 years. Were both young, I'm 17 and he's a few months younger. To begin with, we were ace, we'd been best friends always, and although I had a bit of a rocky past, he took me regardless an...
A. 3 May 2009: This is a phase all potential recruits go through and I was no different. Once you decide to join the forces, you think that you are going away and never coming back, once he gets that train to RAF Holton he thinks that, he'll never see his friends ... (read in full...)
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