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Am I wrong to refuse to meet him at a hotel?

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Question - (8 June 2022) 3 Answers - (Newest, 8 June 2022)
A female Cameroon age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Dear Agony Aunts,

Ive been with this guy for 2 months now. Since we met, we always saw each other at my place. Since he doesn't live alone, it was convenient for both of us because of privacy.

7 days ago, we got into a heated argument that made me chase him out of my apartment at 3 am. He came back the next day to my apartment trying to talk but i didn¿t want to see him so, i asked him to go.

He has been asking me for fogiveness every day and asking to see me so we can talk this through.

When i finally agreed that we talk, he said he is never going to set feet in my apartment again because i drove him out at 3 am.

He said he would instead get an airbnb or a hotel so we meet and discuss our issues there, which i refused.

He blamed me for chasing him out at 3 am and said my pride will be the cause of the end of our relationship.

I'm i wrong in refusing to meet him at a hotel or airbnb knowing that he is the one who is at fault in this issue?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2022):

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Hi HoneyPie,

thanks for your input. We go into an argument because he was cheating on me.

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A female reader, RitaBrown United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2022):

Sorry, did I miss something because I can't see how this is all his fault. You don't say what the argument was about but I'd be pretty pissed off with someone who threw me out at 3am.

If you really want this relationship to work I think you should go and talk to him at his hotel. You don't have to go into his room. Or perhaps both of you should meet at an entirely different venue. How about a quiet restaurant or the park? You'll both probably talk much more civilly if other people are in the vicinity. And privicy for sex should not be necessary as you need to resolve your differences first - you can always go somewhere else if you do decide to kiss and make up.

But, since this relationship is only 2 months old, why not break up... you're obviously not well suited if you've had such a humdinger of an argument this early on.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 June 2022):

Honeypie agony auntTalk in a public place, not a private AirBnB or hotel room.

Also, if he finds you SO prideful why does he want to try and work it out?

Can you elaborate on the topic you fought over at 3 am? Because I think THAT is a vital part of the issue.

Also, you write, he doesn't live alone, so who does he live with? A wife? His parents? A roommate?

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