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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 10 November 2011: I agree with Honeypie.
you need to dump her and move on.
the fact that you view her as selfish and inconsiderate because she won't have sex with you says that you guys are incompatible as partners.
... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: The OP said: "The sex aside, it feels like something is missing."
THIS is a TOTALLY different statement and issue. THIS is my opinion is the crux of the problem.
I just spent a year in an LDR. We were two hours apart... we just closed the ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: You say you've been on a few dates and then you say "after so long"
there are some folks that define a few dates as a casual relationship... if you see this as more than casual and want a more serious relationship with this woman then step up ... (read in full...)
Could losing your virginity kick start your period?
Q. Hello all, I lost my virginity a few days ago to my boyfriend of 2 years (yes, we used protection), and it all went quite well. I felt no pain and had no bleeding the actual night we had sex, but the day after (yesterday) I had a fair amount o...
A. 3 November 2011: ah mid cycle... hmmm... I'm not a doctor or even a medical professional but cycles can change.... if your flow is very heavy or you are concerned or problems continue next month I would contact your doctor.... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 3 November 2011: OH trust me I know all about forgiving mistakes. And I have no problem with it. But my concerns for you are on a slightly different level.
1. you started with "my boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow" you posted as if you were both com... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes me to refer to him as daddy is this a red flag?
Q. My boyfriend sometimes likes to refer to himself or have me refer to him as "daddy". Is this a red flag that he's someone i should never have a child with, or am I overthinking this? ...
A. 2 November 2011: no it sounds to me like he's watched enough porn in his day that he thinks that it's hot to be called daddy during sex.
my boyfriend is much younger than me and he calls me baby all the time...... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating? I'm Confused and need advice about his behavioral changes, please?
Q. I have been in this relationship for 4 yrs now. Everything has been going well. But last week while doing laundry I noticed some staining if you will in my man's undies. Ok I know that doesn't mean much, it can happen. But then one of his unde...
A. 2 November 2011: I personally do not believe once a cheater always a cheater. My father cheated on my mother once. She forgave him and 9 years later she died in his arms (I was there) and the man cried for the first and only time in his life... he never cheated ... (read in full...)
Could losing your virginity kick start your period?
Q. Hello all, I lost my virginity a few days ago to my boyfriend of 2 years (yes, we used protection), and it all went quite well. I felt no pain and had no bleeding the actual night we had sex, but the day after (yesterday) I had a fair amount o...
A. 2 November 2011: hormones can cause the period to come on... how far away from your due date were you?
... (read in full...)
Does she mean she doesn't want to talk to me anymore?
Q. I met a girl about three weeks ago. I hungout with her two days after we met. Anyways, we talked alot the first week. We were both flirty and I could tell we both liked each other. She slept over the next weekend and we had a good night. The next ...
A. 2 November 2011: I agree with pink topaz.. she's being kind... "it's not you it's me" is the nice way of saying "go away"
BTW for future reference.. texting should not be used for IMPORTANT stuff... that should be done via phone at bare minimum or face to face... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my husband's cheating?
Q. Why cant I get over my husband's cheating on me and joining internet dating sites during a 5 year period? I have been to marr counselling with him and to my own counselling but this still haunts me almost everyday even though it has been 2 and h...
A. 2 November 2011: I don't get why you think you should ever HEAL from the betrayal of your spouse cheating.
There is forgive
there is forget.
I may forgive but I never forget. and that makes it hard to heal and to trust.
my mom forgave my dad an affair 25 ... (read in full...)
He's acting distant. please advise me on what to do and don't do in order for him to make our plans of reuniting come true?
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years just left a month ago for a job abroad.. i don't have complaints against him while he was still here with me because most of the time we get along so well. i always tell him that i am so happy having him..before he left, we h...
A. 2 November 2011: Oh i am not as hopeful as Aunt Honesty. I see LDRs crumble so easily...
are you both the same age range? have either of you ever been married or have children?
So the first three weeks, all was well. lots of contact and texting.. .then ... (read in full...)
How will I know which among the two women in my life is the one I love and right for me?
Q. I had been on a 9 year relationship with my girlfriend A and we were planning to get married. We were not living together, by the way. Because of this fact of getting married, I decided that I wanted to fool around with somebody else B just to expe...
A. 2 November 2011: While it may be possible for YOU to love A again, I doubt she could love you again. And you would be settling for her.
Did you fall in love with B... well the only reason you ended it with her was because your family disapproved. NOT a good r... (read in full...)
Do I get a boob job and give up sensitivity?
Q. I can't decide whether or not to have a boob job! I have really small boobs and so does everyone else in my family and there's no hope of them growing anymore (I'm a 32A/AA). For ages now I've been thinking about getting a boob job but I still don't ...
A. 2 November 2011: I had a boob job in June. I had a mastopexy without implants. (a lift) and in the lift he had to remove and reduce the areola. His biggest concern was sensation. I thought if they weren't cutting the areola then sensation may not be the issue. ... (read in full...)
I want to be the girl he fell in love with. What to do now, after messing things up completely?
Q. I am looking for some advice from all of you. So far I have used this forum quite a few times and got very sound advice. Thank you! My LD boy friend and I had a massive fall out last night. So much so that he said if I carried on it was over. ...
A. 2 November 2011: Ok i need more info...
you guys are LD...
did you meet online?
have you met in person? if so how often do you get together?
how long have you been together?
when were you planning on closing the distance?
you have sent him a tex... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating? I'm Confused and need advice about his behavioral changes, please?
Q. I have been in this relationship for 4 yrs now. Everything has been going well. But last week while doing laundry I noticed some staining if you will in my man's undies. Ok I know that doesn't mean much, it can happen. But then one of his unde...
A. 2 November 2011: Trust your gut. If you believe him to be cheating you need to talk to him about it.
Truth be told, changes in grooming patterns can indicate a new romance.
I don't know about Canadian law but here in the few states that still recognize ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 2 November 2011: THE OP SAID:
“Well my take on these ways of men is that they need time to really be committed.”
I totally disagree. Men when they are ready to be committed fall at the drop of a hat. MY LDR guy is 38, never married… never wanted to get marri... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 2 November 2011: "But he'd still love me regardless of scars...so I can still go through with it & if he can't accept me for me then he isn't the one."
OP, this is a cover. Clearly it's NOT about what any given MAN wants. This is clearly about what YOU want and... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: well Gee there's nothing left for me to say all the other uncles and aunties said it just right.
A FEW DATES does not mean a girl should have sex with you.
SEX does not define a relationship.
... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 1 November 2011: "But if a guy loves me, he'd had to love me even if I have scars..."
or larger areoleas!... (read in full...)
Early stages of ED, what can I do to combat it?
Q. for the past one week my penis doesn't get erected,i was very much worried about it,i consulted my doctor he says it is a starting stage of ED, what exercises will help me to eradicate my problem, i have discussed with my girl friend , she ...
A. 1 November 2011: oh goodness.. the extra info just reinforces that there is something wrong and a doctor is needed.
good luck.... (read in full...)
During sex, when a guy goes too deep it really hurts. Is this normal?
Q. Does anyone know what if this is normal or not? When i have sex its fine but if they push too hard or especially too deep inside me it really really hurts! i have recently had a full STI/STD screening and everything come back negative....so i dont ...
A. 1 November 2011: 5'2" here and pettie. and Yes if they "hit bottom" it HURTS
because the tip of the penis hits the cervix which moves the uterus which then shifts the fallopian tubes and jiggles the ovaries.
a man hitting bottom is likened by me to my ... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 1 November 2011: I have scars. I asked 38 yr old boyfriend last night for you and his comment was SCARS are worse than anything.
so there you go.. the scars will be a bigger turn off than the pancake areola.... (read in full...)
How is he still confused about how he feels after being with me for a year?
Q. I just want to know is it possible to be confused on if you love someone or not for almost a full year? The man I am with has been unsure about how he feels for a while. This does not make me want to leave him, but it sure makes it hard for me when ...
A. 1 November 2011: yep it sounds like he's just moving slow and has to learn how to express himself.... (read in full...)
Why does he want to have a baby with me and not get married?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for nearly a year, and living together for over 6 months. He's in his early 40's and I'm in my early 30's. We both have been divorced. He recently expressed that he wants to have a baby, and we agreed ...
A. 1 November 2011: I think that you are very justified in wanting the security.
IF he does not want to marry you can have a lawyer draw up all the papers that give you the same rights and security as a spouse.
we debated doing that vs just getting married.... (read in full...)
How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?
Q. I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or ...
A. 1 November 2011: I'm always affectionate with my mate around my friends and family.
when she starts in on you, quietly fix your gaze on her and calmly and softly say "mom, I am a grown woman, my behavior is no longer your concern. If the way we conduct ourselve... (read in full...)
I'm feeling badly because husband missed his "Friday Night Special"
Q. Hello, I am a 31 year old married woman. I have gotten great advice from this board in the past. With three kids by birth and an adoption of a 4th in process, my husband and I have to take advanages of opportunities for sex. My hubby is something ...
A. 1 November 2011: oh please emergencies happen.
4 kids and a busy life and you miss ONE friday night...
stop feeling bad.
what I feel bad about is when my fiance wakes me when he comes to bed and I'm too tired to perform... he takes that very well....
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes me to refer to him as daddy is this a red flag?
Q. My boyfriend sometimes likes to refer to himself or have me refer to him as "daddy". Is this a red flag that he's someone i should never have a child with, or am I overthinking this? ...
A. 1 November 2011: Nancy Regan called Ronnie Daddy. My grandmother sometimes called grandpa Daddy...
Did you ask him WHY he wants to be called Daddy? I think that's an important component of this.
My boyfriend and I have nicknames for each other. Mine is ... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here? Broken hearted. How long should I wait for to contact my ex?
Q. My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost the entire time, although I've bought plane tickets to visit her several times, and she came to stay with me for 8 weeks over summer where we ...
A. 1 November 2011: OUCH what a romantic gesture you made... LDRS suck...
I agree with KC... move on... do not contact her.
I have to tell you at least she broke up with you before she hooked up with this other guy... she could have just faded away. You hav... (read in full...)
Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?
Q. Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before w...
A. 1 November 2011: You are not being unreasonable. WE all need to know that the relationship we are in goes both ways.
I would stop going over there for sex (oh sorry too tired for sex)
I would stop bringing food. (oh so sorry ate before I got here)
I would sto... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister dislikes me and its getting very uncomfortable for me!
Q. I feel like hell. I've been dating this amazing guy for 4 months and its just amazing. But I don't think his sister likes me. Every time he asks me to go away with him and his youth group I decline because his sister is going to be there and she ...
A. 1 November 2011: If she's never said anything to you about disliking you, how do you know she does?
You said it yourself SHE intimidates YOU. You are giving her a lot of power. Just ignore her. Better yet, be sweet as pie to her...
... (read in full...)
I'm worried my friend might be pregnant but I cant say anything to anyone! Help!
Q. Okaay i dont know where to start! This question isnt realy about me its about my friend but i dont know what to do! So I have this friend who i will call C she has just turned 16 in the last week, she has had a boyfriend and has been with him for ...
A. 1 November 2011: THE OP said: " Im slightly worried for her and she was due her period any day which is when women are most fertile."
ummmm NO... most women get a period and then you start counting from the first day of your period. at about MIDCYCLE or ... (read in full...)
I'm worried this might have just been a one night stand to him....should I give him more time to contact me or move on?
Q. I met a guy on a quiet night out who I instantly clicked with, we spoke for hours about everything and he seemed really genuine, we took a walk after closing time (I wasnt drunk neither was he) and it was really nice, we sat on a park bench for ages ...
A. 1 November 2011: could go either way... if you haven't heard from him in another week, chalk it up to live and learn...
he did text you when he got home so maybe he's just busy right now.
sadly, many folks will say what the other person needs/wants to hear ... (read in full...)
I really regret having webcam sex, will there be any repercussions?
Q. Lately I've been feeling intense anxiety about everything bad I've done in the past. I'm cleaning up my act BIG TIME. One huge thing I regret was having webcam sex with this guy i met on the internet......so do you think there will be bad ...
A. 1 November 2011: you are not a bad person and not a slut... stop it.
will there be repercussions? we don't know. but if it was a one time isolated thing and he is long distance and you are done with him probably not.
glad you are cleaning up your act... (read in full...)
Our parents have gone back on their word and decided to stop us from having sex, now I'm worried we will be banned from seeing each other!
Q. Me and my girlfriend were all set to have sex for the first time but our parents ruined our plans at the last minute. It was made all the worse because it was meant to be a special moment at the end of a romantic night. I've just turned 16 and so...
A. 1 November 2011: Parents are human and they have the right to change their mind.
To be honest, losing your virginity on prom night is not all it's cracked up to be...
I am not sure how it is in your country but here in the USA until a child is 18 they are a pa... (read in full...)
How to get the romance back after my jealous episode?
Q. I am looking for some help in dealing with certain personal issues I have within my realtionship. I have been with this guy since March I am 31 and he 29- its LD and we meet about once a month. We have certain complications as due to financia...
A. 1 November 2011: WHY you see things the way you do is not something ANY of us can answer. You need to work one on one with a therapist to deal with those issues.
LOVE does not mean being stuck up each others butts.
I was in a very similar situation...... (read in full...)
A man she had a thing with years ago commented on her Facebook, I feel so betrayed!
Q. Yesterday i saw a post of a picture of my wife and my grandfather on facebook and saying that she feels much happy because never had a real blood grandpapa and for having a grandfather like him,etc. And everybody replied and liked it, and this guy ...
A. 1 November 2011: you think she's cheating on you because some guy posted something on a picture on facebook?
a small affair in the past before she knew you?? not even an affair a kiss? just a kiss? he WAS her boss...
sounds like he's a casual aquainten... (read in full...)
She likes me but is dating my friend, what should I do?
Q. i deeply love a girl and she is unwillingly going on with my friend..she knows that i likes her but she is not sure that she will accept me after she breaks up with her present boyfriend...she likes me.what should i do?...
A. 1 November 2011: you do NOTHING. she is with someone else.
IF she breaks up with him then you can pursue her but as of now she should be off limits to you.... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to tell someone you think they have narcissism?
Q. I have been reading some information on narcissism and am pretty sure this is what my husband has. He thinks he's better than everyone else and will only talk to people he deems good enough so can be rude to other people. He thinks only about ...
A. 1 November 2011: WEll I would not tell him. He won't hear it from you. He may hear it from a counselor but I would not hold my breath that he's going to change.
If he won't go for couseling you should go on your own to find coping strategies for living with thi... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 1 November 2011: Never felt bad about losing my virginity before marriage.
There are only a few times in my life I've regretted things and none of them are sexual.
My daughter lost her virginity to her first boyfriend when she was 15 and she loved this boy..... (read in full...)
How can I stop his friend from getting back into my boyfriend's life? He is doing so much better without them
Q. my boyfriend and i are currently doing great in our relationship , he is showing effort , and im happy to be with him now. I had told him about how his friends were all trouble , and didnt really care about him , and he finally realized it for ...
A. 1 November 2011: If a friend can ruin a relationship then the relationship is not really strong and healthy.
There is nothing you can do. You cannot tell your partner who he can and cannot be friends with. YOU can tell him how you feel about his friends but you ... (read in full...)
Tips on how to talk dirty..
Q. Me and my bf have been dating for some time, and we aren't sexually active...Well, I guess to some people we are... (Stopped at 3rd base) I'm perfectly comfortable with that kind of stuff. I enjoy it, and me and him both get pleasure from it...
A. 1 November 2011: Well do you want to talk about the things you do with him (which is important) or do you want to talk dirty and get him all worked up (which is not as important)
they are two different things.
if you can't TALK about the intimate things you ... (read in full...)
Do I like her or is she just a friend?
Q. I have known this girl for quite some time, and we were always very good friends. I'm not quite sure about how liking and loving is like, so I'm not sure if I can say that I like her or not. We talk a lot through the internet, and we also write to ...
A. 1 November 2011: I think you are friends and you are over thinking this.
... (read in full...)
Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate?
Q. Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate? In sex ed, I did hear about it, but I'm not quite sure on how enjoyable it could be. I mean, is it worth the effort? I haven't been able to ask any other people about it, so I'm pretty stumped on ...
A. 1 November 2011: If you think it's an effort then it's not worth it...
BUT, if you have not yet figured out your body (and finding out it may be worth the time) maybe some time alone exploring is a good plan... (read in full...)
How is he still confused about how he feels after being with me for a year?
Q. I just want to know is it possible to be confused on if you love someone or not for almost a full year? The man I am with has been unsure about how he feels for a while. This does not make me want to leave him, but it sure makes it hard for me when ...
A. 1 November 2011: Depends on the person. For me I usually know within a few months of spending serious time togther if I am in love with someone.
AngelD asks good questions.
are you local
are you exclusive
how often do you see each other have contact?
... (read in full...)
Should I assume that he has moved on and doesn't feel the same way about me?
Q. I am currently friends with a guy from work, and over the last 3 months it has escalated to something more. We've had a few sleep overs and gone out on dates, but never really established that the relationship was any more than two people enjoying ...
A. 1 November 2011: Is he still on vacation? if so he'll probably be in touch for a booty call when he gets back.
Sounds like a FWB situation to me.
IF you thought it was more or wanted more you may want to talk to him about it. Protect yourself if you are start... (read in full...)
He thinks I am playing games. Is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy I'm currently seeing?
Q. is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy i'm currently seeing? i just don't feel like i know him well enough yet to sleep with him, but in his mind i think he's getting frustrated because he thinks i'm just using it as an excuse and that im a...
A. 1 November 2011: If you are "withholding" because you are not ready to have intimate relations then it's not really withholding and i see nothing wrong with that. If you have had sex with him and then changed your mind to play games then that's withholding. and ... (read in full...)
Will our child miss out on so much because he will grow up without extended family? Since we don't have one
Q. Today my family had a halloween party. I was having fun until i started to notice that my cousins and their kids got along so well. I started to feel jealous of how they all were talking and hanging out and their i was just sitting down. I tried ta...
A. 1 November 2011: That was my kids... no cousins on my side and all their cousins on their dad's side out of the country. they survived nicely...
cultivate friends with kids and make them the CHOOSEN family.... (read in full...)
Technically speaking was it not cheating? since we had had a break up. Am I right in my assumption?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me and after three months she came back . We were together for 2 years before I picked up fight with her over small issue which resulted in a being dumped in the last week of July this year. During those three months, I was ...
A. 1 November 2011: agreed if you were broken up you were not cheating...
what i think you should look at, however, is the fact that, your GF came back, AFTER you went after someone else.
seems to me to be a case of She wants it so no one else can have it but... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 31 October 2011: Oh Dear OP...
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Well first of all I know he was in an hotel because I called and asked for him and he answered but I did not speak.
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what made you even bother to check to see if he was in a hotel? TRUST? do you T... (read in full...)
Early stages of ED, what can I do to combat it?
Q. for the past one week my penis doesn't get erected,i was very much worried about it,i consulted my doctor he says it is a starting stage of ED, what exercises will help me to eradicate my problem, i have discussed with my girl friend , she ...
A. 31 October 2011: do you drink alcohol or smoke? either of those things need to be stopped right away as they strongly affect your ability to get and maintain an erection.
have you been sick?
one week you are fine and now all of a sudden you have ED?
what... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 31 October 2011: did you expect him to admit to cheating?
of course he denied it.
what did you expect.
EVEN if it's NOT true, you don't believe him. YOU don't trust him... there is no relationship without trust.... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 31 October 2011: To the OP... if the point of the question was not to help you improve your body image and point out the insanity of an unnecessary surgery what was the point?
truly?
I mean we WANT to help you (and yes folks talk about this off the board too...... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 30 October 2011: I get hating your body or parts of it.. I do. BTDT.
I get being excited to be able to afford to change something you hate...
What I don't get is how maybe ONE stupid boy said something ignorant and you adopted it as your anthem.
I ask... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 29 October 2011: Chigirl took the thought from me... This is NOT a cheap surgery and insurance does not cover it.
The surgeon's fee for me was 9k. that did not cover the tests (pathology was nearly 800 dollars alone) or the hospital (another 5k) yes this sur... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 29 October 2011: I agree with what Cindy said. And I gotta tell you most men in fact ALL the men I've ever been with (and that's more than I care to admit as I was a swinger and attended orgies etc in a previous life).... had ONE reaction to breasts... large or ... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 28 October 2011: I had a reconstructive breast lift and as part of that an areola reduction in June.
HORRIBLE surgery. The areola are now misshapen (not the surgeon's fault it takes MONTHS to heal properly and reset the shape)
My boyfriend could NOT touch ... (read in full...)
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