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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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I'm trying to change myself for the better, but it is actually making me feel worse!
Q. I'm trying with my whole mind and soul to focus on learning and growing. I'm trying to let all the luxuries go and lead a simple life to pursue my dream. But I wonder why this has suddenly affected my mental health. I'm a lot grumpy. I lose m...
A. 7 February 2012: thanks for the update. glad to hear it's going well.... (read in full...)
"how do I attract boys?"
Q. (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
A. 1 February 2012: LOVE IT!... (read in full...)
Urinary incontinence during sex. Help!
Q. I have a rather embarrassing question... During an intimate lovemaking session with my fiancee, I was blindfolded, and had earmuffs on so I couldn't hear anything..this allowed me to focus only on what I was feeling...and I was lost in the sensatio...
A. 1 February 2012: if you are sure it was urine then you need to see the GYN for a work up.... (read in full...)
He's 25. I love him to bits, but how can he be so selfish? Even forgot by birthday!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year.hes my first love i love him to bits and i really cant sit here and explain just how much i love him and before anything i will not ever leave him unless he cheats on me so please do not ...
A. 1 February 2012: “I will not ever leave him unless he cheats on me” So he’s allowed to lie to you? He’s allowed to verbally abuse you? He’s allowed to BEAT you? He’s allowed to mistreat you? Take advantage of you? Rape you? Disrespect you? Do you think THAT ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to change myself for the better, but it is actually making me feel worse!
Q. I'm trying with my whole mind and soul to focus on learning and growing. I'm trying to let all the luxuries go and lead a simple life to pursue my dream. But I wonder why this has suddenly affected my mental health. I'm a lot grumpy. I lose m...
A. 1 February 2012: “I’m a lot grumpy”
“I lose my temper really fast”
“I don’t enjoy movies”
“no music entices me”
“girls fail to catch my attention”
“company…I avoid it”
Sounds to me like this “self improvement” plan has led you to depression. I suggest you s... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 1 February 2012: He thinks he can get into bed with you.
it's very very hard to go BACK to being friends after you've had sex with someone... (read in full...)
Does this happen to anyone else but me?
Q. So whenever my boyfriend and I get really frisky and have the privacy and space to have sex, we do it and what not. But after constant changing of positions (missionary, to doggie, and other variations) and anything over 15-30min, I start to get dry ...
A. 1 February 2012: ONE WORD: LUBE!
I suggest spending the extra money and going for the silicone based lubes... silky feel not slippery and they last longer.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a relationship with a man 22 years younger than me?
Q. I am in my fifties and had a boyfriend of 38 .he just dropped contact 3months ago. We saw each other occasionally.I loved him but he borriwed money and never gave it back. Is it biologically normal to have a relationship with a guy 22years younger ...
A. 1 February 2012: Well if it's a REAL relationship I hope not I'm nearly 52 and my fiancé is 38 so our gap is only 13 years. HA... ONLY THIRTEEN YEARS... that sounds so weird.
HE borrowed money
you saw him occasionally
he borrowed money and never gave it ba... (read in full...)
We cant ever get married because he is 5 years younger than me, should I give up on the relationship now or carry on with him until I meet a more suitable partner?
Q. Dear cupid, I thank you for your enormous help that you've been rendering to us, I hope that you'll also see to my problem. I have a boyfriend whom I love so much and he loves me too, but my problem now is that I'm 5 years older than him. So I'm so ...
A. 1 February 2012: Dear OP,
Let’s recap this problem:
You love your boyfriend
He loves you
The problem AS YOU SEE IT is that you are 5 years older than he is?
So that if you are 29 he’s 24.
Why are you ASHAMED of this?
WHY can’t you get married? Is ... (read in full...)
Urgent! I snooped through my boyfriend's phone and now his mother says I have to tell him right away
Q. Hello, I really need some advice/help fast my as boyfriends mom tells me Im running out of time..JOY! Ok heres what happenned, I live with my boyfriend and his mom for the last 6months. We've had our ups and downs..Im having some stuggles due to f...
A. 1 February 2012: Let me address your most recent update. Thank you for the information…
You say you love him dearly. I get that you love him but can you list for yourself what it is that he does that makes you love him? Because so often we SAY we love som... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 1 February 2012: I doubt you do everything wrong. Does HE make you feel this way or is this your own brain? In my relationship I THINK I do everything wrong but it’s just how my partner responds to things… we are in counseling to work on our commination issues ... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 1 February 2012: It’s very rare for a father to get custody of a child when the mother is fit. I would consult an attorney that specializes in family law and see what your options are. Many will give a phone consult for free.
Good Luck to you.
... (read in full...)
Unfaithful husband with problems. Should I keep trying to fix our marriage or just call it a lost cause?
Q. I have been married for 4 year with a beautiful son. I have found out my husband was having a affair with his ex friend's girlfriend and that he was using again. So christmas eve of 2010 he had broke up with me and for the past year we had argu...
A. 1 February 2012: Only YOU can decide if you want to give him another chance… Counseling can help you make that decision. Meanwhile while you are working on it I would suggest no dating for you.... (read in full...)
I have trouble with listening and comprehension...what should I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a question. I've always struggled with hearing and paying attention to people. When strangers talk to me, I freeze and have trouble understanding what they're saying when I feel nervous. I have to ask people to repeat themselve...
A. 1 February 2012: My younger son is ADHD primarily inattentive it means he does not have they hyperactivity aspect. Hyperactivity in adults is not all about running around and not sitting still btw... it's more of a fidgeting leg shaking kind of thing....
I str... (read in full...)
Is phone sex cheating?
Q. I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! . Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I...
A. 31 January 2012: anything you can't won't or don't tell your partner is cheating your partner and cheating on your partner
did you tell him before you did it you were doing it? NO?
yep you cheated.... (read in full...)
I have trouble with listening and comprehension...what should I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a question. I've always struggled with hearing and paying attention to people. When strangers talk to me, I freeze and have trouble understanding what they're saying when I feel nervous. I have to ask people to repeat themselve...
A. 31 January 2012: Do you have ADHD or anything that would explain why you don't listen or hear them? I have a hard time hearing things and find that Email works better for me when discussing things for the household with my fiance.
With my PDD son I would grab his... (read in full...)
We are friends, but now..he wants to have sex! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, So my friend and I have known each other for about 2 years now and we hang out a lot. Our relationship kinda swerves from being platonic to romantic(in a silly way)frequently but I never really thought much of it. Until last week whe...
A. 31 January 2012: do you think that if you don't sleep with him he won't be your friend?
do you think that's a very good friend?
if you don't know what to do err on the side of better judgment and do nothing.... (read in full...)
Urgent! I snooped through my boyfriend's phone and now his mother says I have to tell him right away
Q. Hello, I really need some advice/help fast my as boyfriends mom tells me Im running out of time..JOY! Ok heres what happenned, I live with my boyfriend and his mom for the last 6months. We've had our ups and downs..Im having some stuggles due to f...
A. 31 January 2012: You’re right if it’s only 5 months (and you are already living together) and he’s not touching you then perhaps there is a problem. For sure things settle down after a while and after you move in but I can say that we’ve been living together ... (read in full...)
Husband lost his job, plays PS all day, too tired for sex. Is it me?
Q. Okay so my husband and I have been married about 3 months but have been together for 13 years.... I feel we have a great relationship but lately he's been really confusing me and making me wonder about things..... He loves our kids and does ...
A. 31 January 2012: oh dear what a sad update. I'm so sorry.... (read in full...)
We have two children together. He's my fiance. Should I forgive him for kissing my younger sister?
Q. so my younger sister confessed to me that my fiance kissed her!! she seemed pretty upset and she didn't know how to tell me she said she pushed him away and told him that was wrong and was freaking out. he told me he didn't know what he was th...
A. 31 January 2012: I wouldn't forgive him... and i'm a very very very forgiving person. truly I take crap that most of the aunties here wouldn't ever DREAM of accepting.
He kissed a MINOR. she's 15 he's 20? with two children already?
was he drunk?
... (read in full...)
How do women do it all? Work, cook, clean.... I'm exhausted!
Q. How do you women do it all? I have highly stressful job. When I get home I am exhausted. I have no energy to do anything else but lay down on the coach and watch TV. My fiance lives with me and he is constantly pushing me to do more. He wants me ...
A. 31 January 2012: he's working and your working... can you hire a maid or cleaning service?
I cook a few times a week
I clean bare minimum
he does the trash
i wash the laundry he helps fold and put away
but i have to admit that at night when I get home from wor... (read in full...)
Dating 3 months, no sex. Shall I leave?
Q. I need some imput. I have a new girlfriend and everything is good except for us not having sex yet. When we started to go out we both agreed that we were going to take things slow, and we have been to this point but Im a man that has needs and I ...
A. 31 January 2012: have you asked her what her time frames are?
you can't just SPRING it on her and expect good results.
have you TALKED to her about it?... (read in full...)
Urgent! I snooped through my boyfriend's phone and now his mother says I have to tell him right away
Q. Hello, I really need some advice/help fast my as boyfriends mom tells me Im running out of time..JOY! Ok heres what happenned, I live with my boyfriend and his mom for the last 6months. We've had our ups and downs..Im having some stuggles due to f...
A. 31 January 2012: Wait wait wait… this is all about the fact that he doesn’t call you as often…. And changes his underwear often??? Wait wait WAIT. He doesn’ t have to call you all the time YOU LIVE TOGETHER….
And as for the underwear… I put clean ones on a... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 31 January 2012: YOU apologized to him for what????
“I asked if he would give me another chance” WHY ARE YOU BEGGING HIM???? (And yes it’s begging)
And he said “we will see” that, my dear, is STRINGING YOU ALONG and is BS! It’s the proverbial c... (read in full...)
Do I have an anger problem or are my reasons rational?
Q. So me and my gf have been dating for like a year and 2 months. Lately i have been getting kinda impatient with things that happen. It is pretty much simple small thing like not talking to me over the phone, acting a bit foolish, and little things of ...
A. 31 January 2012: If you are getting frustrated with small things that’s a symptom that bigger things are the problem…
If she is not talking to you on the phone you are feeling neglected and possibly jealous and insecure. If she’s acting foolish is she embarras... (read in full...)
Hopelessly in love and I might just be a hook-up to him.
Q. In may of last year i started to see this guy Ashton. it Started out just friends with benefits and then on june 18th we started officially dating. He broke up with me 2 weeks later and then we got back together and i broke up with him on july 17th ...
A. 31 January 2012: yes dear give up on him. ... (read in full...)
Meeting a guy I've only talked to online soon, any tips on how to be less shy?
Q. I've been talking to this boy online who is the same age as me (16) and he is good friends with my best friend. He wants to meet up in a few weeks, but i'm so shy around new people and never know what to say or how to start conversations and always ...
A. 31 January 2012: He's a good friend of your best friend and you haven't met IRL over the years.....
where are you going to meet? make it public and meet him there... no getting in a car with someone you don't know...
start with HELLO
and you can even ... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 31 January 2012: Ok let me get this straight, your boyfriend’s EX girlfriend had him kidnapped… and then he was in a car accident AND got Shot…
Then when that happed your grandpa was in the hospital dying….(I’m sorry for your loss) and you are an orphan beca... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth salvaging or should I just walk away?
Q. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago in college and we started living together within six months of dating. I believe we moved way too fast with this relationship and thus we didn’t get to really know each other. The result of our moving too fast ...
A. 31 January 2012: The definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results...
if she makes no changes it won't change and it's not worth it.
if you don't hear from her, do not contact her, when she does call, don't take... (read in full...)
He's 50, fit, separated and I want it to work. BUT? Can this relationship work better? How?
Q. This is long, so thank you to whoever is reading this… I’ve been in a relationship with a truly wonderful man for just over 3 years. I am now 26 and he is 50. Fortunately he has aged well and he keeps fit. I met him when he supposedly was separa...
A. 31 January 2012: Well some states do allow you to live under the same roof in separate rooms and consider it a legal separation. Where I live you cannot reside under the same roof (not even the same room but in the same HOUSE) even ONE night and be considered ... (read in full...)
Urgent! I snooped through my boyfriend's phone and now his mother says I have to tell him right away
Q. Hello, I really need some advice/help fast my as boyfriends mom tells me Im running out of time..JOY! Ok heres what happenned, I live with my boyfriend and his mom for the last 6months. We've had our ups and downs..Im having some stuggles due to f...
A. 31 January 2012: I agree with Anonymous 123, you must tell him and take your lumps but the bigger question is WHY are you with a man you don’t trust? And why is this family so enmeshed? You are in your 30s I assume your BF is as well WHY ARE YOU BOTH LIVING WITH ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 31 January 2012: Well congrats on the engagement first of all.
IT appears from the first post that she was THINKING of going to the gym… but did not…. Is that what happened…s o you were worrying about something that had not even happened yet??? And now she’s ga... (read in full...)
Should I Travel Other Places in a LDR?
Q. If you are in a Long Distance Relationship, should you travel anywhere unless it's to see your partner? I am having a difficult time and need some advice. I have a LD BF and we are new to the LDR. He moved away for school in September and I made a ...
A. 31 January 2012: I just came out of an LDR (we now live together) and we traveled with friends without each other... I think it's perfectly fine. And Healthy.... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 31 January 2012: I think he wants to be friends with you and is trying to ease his mind that he has hurt you so badly and you feel more for him than he feels for you.
stop rowing this relationship boat.
he said NOT tonight maybe tomorrow... do not text him ... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 31 January 2012: If it grosses you out then you don't do anything and he has to learn to respect it.
... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: An hour apart? that's it? look back at the last year. how often did you see each other? how often did he initiate the contact or come to you? how BALANCED was the relationship....
Let me tell you my LDR story: I'm 13 years older than my fianc... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: it's fine but hon, it's FRIENDS zone.
you are LDR... when do you have the chance to not be LDR with him if it works out?... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I'm going to date the boy who used to bully me?
Q. hey, i like this guy, and i am going to try it out with him. except a month ago this boy was bullying me only because he was with this new girl who did not like me, he was only doing it cause he was under peer pressure. he has loved me for lik...
A. 30 January 2012: I would not be so quick to trust him or forgive him for his prior bad behavior... this could just be a trick to be honest...... (read in full...)
My husband accused me of cheating and won't allow me to leave the house
Q. i am deeply in love with my husband but he doesn't trust me. he treat me like a cheat and calls me a liar. i can't even go and visit my mum for just a few minutes. i am in my mum's house now, he will send call back or call me to come home. i don'...
A. 30 January 2012: have you asked him why he does not trust you?... (read in full...)
Should I try and work this out or just move on?
Q. hello good people. this is my situation. ive been dating a guy for 8 months now. he's in the army and got deployed a month after we started dating. Our relationship had such strong chemistry that i decided to wait on him till h comes bak in june. ...
A. 30 January 2012: I think I would consider giving him a second chance... maybe he felt you would not be interested in him if he had baggage of an ex wife and adopted kids...... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm dating a woman 28 years older than me?
Q. Hope someone can help, I got talking to someone on a internet chatroom and we have a lot in common. After chatting for a while we both wanted to meet each other and we did and got on really well together, only thing is that she's 55 and i...
A. 30 January 2012: why do you have to tell them so soon?... (read in full...)
Age difference and a dying girl
Q. Now, I'm not the type of girl to fall head over heels for anyone! In fact, I'm a junior in high school and I've never dated before. I'm really happy about this too. Not just proud but happy. I love being by myself and see no use for high school ...
A. 30 January 2012: just go and have fun with him... 70-80% is a high chance...
... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: I want to be wealthy and retired... I'm not going to get that either.
IF you WANT you don't always GET...
it's over and done.... LDRs are very very hard... let him go.... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 30 January 2012: if you need it for a few days a month how expensive is that?
figure you aren't up to anything on day one anyway and by day 5 or 6 you should be light enough that it's not an issue
you're looking at day 2, day 3, day 4 and maybe day 5
m... (read in full...)
Husband lost his job, plays PS all day, too tired for sex. Is it me?
Q. Okay so my husband and I have been married about 3 months but have been together for 13 years.... I feel we have a great relationship but lately he's been really confusing me and making me wonder about things..... He loves our kids and does ...
A. 10 January 2012: I think it’s awesome that you guys are together and committed to each other…. Again Losing a JOB is a major thing for a man especially one who has a large family to support…. FWIW my fiancé is THIRTEEN YEARS younger than I am so I don’t’ see 4 ... (read in full...)
Husband lost his job, plays PS all day, too tired for sex. Is it me?
Q. Okay so my husband and I have been married about 3 months but have been together for 13 years.... I feel we have a great relationship but lately he's been really confusing me and making me wonder about things..... He loves our kids and does ...
A. 9 January 2012: You are together 13 years but just got married? I have to ask why did you finally get married???
Men are very tied to their jobs emotionally and being the provider is a big deal for them…
Have you told him you miss him and want him?
T... (read in full...)
Unfaithful husband with problems. Should I keep trying to fix our marriage or just call it a lost cause?
Q. I have been married for 4 year with a beautiful son. I have found out my husband was having a affair with his ex friend's girlfriend and that he was using again. So christmas eve of 2010 he had broke up with me and for the past year we had argu...
A. 8 January 2012: he hasn't even been clean 6 months... but if he's truly clean and working his program and you are in counseling that is a good sign...
reminders of our past are good they remind us to strive to improve... none of us is perfect and we have to ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 22 December 2011: I would strongly caution as a short woman that BMI is not a great way to determine what we should weigh. IN addition if she has ALWAYS been heavy many bariatric surgeons (those that focus on helping obese people lose weight) do not want us to get ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 20 December 2011: there are no exercises that will keep or destroy breast tissue. Fat will be lost but breast tissue will remain. The only thing she can do is keep her pec muscles strong....
skin at her age will probably rebound nicely...she needs to eat well... (read in full...)
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