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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 20 February 2012: he's moving in with another woman.. he does not want to make it work with you but is being kind due to the impending birth of your child.
he wants a relationship with his son and the only way he can have one easily is keeping on your good side... ... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 8 February 2012: I get where you stand. I just think you are being unrealistic. I thought about your reply in the car this morning driving to work and I hate being the fly in the ointment so to speak but here’s my take on it…. And please forgive me for overstepping ... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 7 February 2012: So you haven’t talked to him in nearly a month other than two “housekeeping” texts…
I hate to tell you this but it’s over dear one. He’s going to make kind gestures to keep you on the hook and make himself feel better about this impendin... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 7 February 2012: I just ended an LDR.
I get exactly what you are saying.
We hated being apart so he gave up his apartment, his job, all his friends and family and moved 2 hours away to be with me.... I get that a man SHOWS YOU WHEN HE LOVES YOU.
So here ... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 6 February 2012: “I plan on going on until April” does he know this? DOES HE plan on going on until April? Does he know he’s being tested???... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 1 February 2012: I doubt you do everything wrong. Does HE make you feel this way or is this your own brain? In my relationship I THINK I do everything wrong but it’s just how my partner responds to things… we are in counseling to work on our commination issues ... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 31 January 2012: YOU apologized to him for what????
“I asked if he would give me another chance” WHY ARE YOU BEGGING HIM???? (And yes it’s begging)
And he said “we will see” that, my dear, is STRINGING YOU ALONG and is BS! It’s the proverbial c... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 31 January 2012: I think he wants to be friends with you and is trying to ease his mind that he has hurt you so badly and you feel more for him than he feels for you.
stop rowing this relationship boat.
he said NOT tonight maybe tomorrow... do not text him ... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 31 January 2012: If it grosses you out then you don't do anything and he has to learn to respect it.
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My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: An hour apart? that's it? look back at the last year. how often did you see each other? how often did he initiate the contact or come to you? how BALANCED was the relationship....
Let me tell you my LDR story: I'm 13 years older than my fianc... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: it's fine but hon, it's FRIENDS zone.
you are LDR... when do you have the chance to not be LDR with him if it works out?... (read in full...)
Age difference and a dying girl
Q. Now, I'm not the type of girl to fall head over heels for anyone! In fact, I'm a junior in high school and I've never dated before. I'm really happy about this too. Not just proud but happy. I love being by myself and see no use for high school ...
A. 30 January 2012: just go and have fun with him... 70-80% is a high chance...
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I like a much younger guy, and now he is flirting with me!
Q. I need advice on something. I told one of my friends that I liked a guy in our college class. The thing is that I'm 23 and he is 17...I told her I was embarrassed about it and that I couldn't help how I felt. I had to tell someone so I chose he...
A. 30 January 2012: he's 17 and you are 23
here that would be illegal...at least till he was 18
truth is, 17 yr old boys want very different things most of the time than 23 yr old women....
there's a chance but it will take time to see if it will work out. ... (read in full...)
How to keep it in the family!
Q. i am in love with my dads cousin he is married n has kids but still loves me more thn anhything he recently proposed to me n i really wnt to marry him but if my family found out then it would be disaster his family is not a problem. how should i...
A. 30 January 2012: why not let HIM deal with it?... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: I want to be wealthy and retired... I'm not going to get that either.
IF you WANT you don't always GET...
it's over and done.... LDRs are very very hard... let him go.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to whiten badly discoloured teeth?
Q. I hate my smile. I dont naturally smile with my teeth anyway, but if I laugh you can see them. My face looks horrible when I smile/laugh but looks fine when I haven't got any expression. My teeth are horrible, they are yellow and discoloured, my ...
A. 30 January 2012: I don't know what you have over there but here my dentist recommended Crest White Strips.... (read in full...)
Three times I have declined my boyfriend's request for an open relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for roughly 10 months. A while ago, maybe 4 or 5 months ago, he brought up the subject of an open relationship. This isn't something that I feel comfortable with, which I expressed to him. He brought it ...
A. 30 January 2012: Good for you for standing your ground.
Let me tell you about MY open marriage...
we were a couple
we opted based on MY suggestion to open the relationship about a year in (2003)
a year later we got married (late 2004)
we were swingers ... (read in full...)
Is he sincere about being okay with 'friends without benefits'?
Q. This guy said he wanted to be fwb, but when i told him that i'm not comfortable with that, he said he is ok with being just friends (without the benefits). Do you think he's just pretending that he's ok with that though, and that he'll still ke...
A. 30 January 2012: what do YOU think? cause to be honest YOU have a better idea of him than WE do....
the best way to figure it out is to spend time with him and if he keeps trying to have sex with you then you'll know he's a douche bag (my new favorite term fro... (read in full...)
Which plans should I cancel; those with my mum or my date?
Q. What should i do? It's my mum's birthday tomorrow, and we are supposed to be going shopping in the afternoon, and the cinema at night, but this guy i am dating said he wants to meet tomorrow too. Should i go to the cinema with my mum in the afte...
A. 30 January 2012: you cancel with him telling him you would love to but it's your mum's birthday and you've had plans with her to celebrate for a while and you don't want to cancel on her...
IF he blows a fit he's not worth it in the long run anyway.
Any man... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 30 January 2012: you move on and live well and raise your son to the best of your ability.
do not discount that in a few years you may meet someone who does not mind parenting another man's child. They are usually good guys too.
best of luck.... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 30 January 2012: if you need it for a few days a month how expensive is that?
figure you aren't up to anything on day one anyway and by day 5 or 6 you should be light enough that it's not an issue
you're looking at day 2, day 3, day 4 and maybe day 5
m... (read in full...)
Insecure in this LDR
Q. I am in a long distance relationship for about 2 months. My boyfriend went away a month ago to study at university,so we only spent the last month together. Since he's been gone we have communication and trust problems as i don't feel i can trust ...
A. 30 January 2012: You cannot have any relationship with insecurity and jealousy. Having an LDR is impossible to do. IF you can't trust him and feel secure in what he says then you should probably end the relationship till he is back with you.... (read in full...)
Circumcized or uncircumsized? Which do females prefer?
Q. Hi, I want to know if girls like penis uncircumcised or cirmcumcised? I'm french and in my country we are all uncut. It's about religion and culture, what is it in your country (well about muslim and jew I know) but for others country pls let ...
A. 30 January 2012: I've only ever been with cut men... truth is i don't care as long as they are clean and they have skills...... (read in full...)
I can't get past his cheating ways..what should I do?
Q. Hi am miss caribbean. I am in a relationship over eight Years and I hate the way my boyfriend treats me. he cheat on me for two years and I stayed with him but I can't get over it. it hurts what should I do it makes me cry in the nite his family ...
A. 30 January 2012: If you hate the way he treats you, and he cheats on you and you are hurting an crying why are you staying?
if his family lies for him (my ex husband's family did this) this means they condone his lies and when someone has approval to do somethin... (read in full...)
He is like a light switch
Q. I have been married to a guy who is like a light switch what I mean is one day he will say I love you but the next day he says he doesn't like or love me. When we fight he take the easy way out by taking off for days and then come back and tells me ...
A. 30 January 2012: Running away and not telling your partner where you are is wrong.
Personally I would tell him this: THE NEXT TIME YOU LEAVE pack enough for a good long stay as I will be changing the locks and you will not be permitted back in our home till you... (read in full...)
My gf is really 21 but looks 14!! Is it wrong to date her?
Q. i am 29 girlfriend is 21 but she looks about 13 or 14. is it wrong to be going out with her?...
A. 30 January 2012: how old she looks has no bearing on if you date her.
... (read in full...)
A cycle 18 days long?
Q. Hi guys,Is it normal to have an eighteen day menstrual cycle?Its January and i am having my second period this month.Thanks!...
A. 30 January 2012: It happens. But it's still a great idea to see a gyn for a checkup if you are worried.... (read in full...)
Are all FWB relationships conducted, in this way?
Q. Hi everyone this question is for people who are in a fwb arrangement. how well do they treat you. I am in one. have been for 11 months now. he never comes round apart from the obvious when he is horny. he is not speaking to me at the moment because ...
A. 30 January 2012: Why would you ask him what HE wanted? Doesn't what YOU want matter? What do YOU want?
He's not a friend he's a fuck buddy. And he's not a very good one...
I'd delete him and move on...
FWB means sex with no strings attached. it do... (read in full...)
Which woman do I pick? My long term gf or the new woman, I feel sexually attracted to?
Q. hi im 32 im a gay woman and been with my girlfriend over a year. dont live together yet but we are engaged. thing is we had some ups and downs and i just no longer fancy her and lost my sex drive months ago. i love her so much and enjoy her company ...
A. 30 January 2012: If you are at the "who do I choose stage" then you need to end the engagement first of all. Secondly you owe your soon to be ex fiance the truth... just what you told us here...
you don't CHOOSE... you end the engagement and you see both... ... (read in full...)
Asked her out on a 2nd date by text and there was no reply! Feeling a bit awkward, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I went on a date with a girl from work. I liked her and I text her the day after asking for a second date. I have recieved no reply over a week later. I can take this and i know it happens. the problem is that im likely to see her at work. we...
A. 30 January 2012: Never ask IMPORTANT questions via text. DO NOT try to have a relationship via text message. It's possible she never got the message... Texts are a very low priority on the networks and are carried as extra packets on the important data... they ... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 30 January 2012: “we can be cuddly and fond of one another when we do meet”…
So after you’ve got him all worked up with cuddly kisses and such what will you do when he expects and wants sex? If your love for him is shaky why do you even want to be cuddly a... (read in full...)
Wife prefers for us to take care of our own needs rather than have sex
Q. Hi everybody. Wife and I are both around 50 with 4 kids. The youngest is 17. Our sex life is very hit and miss and has been all through our marriage. Her sex drive is low but she masturbates regularly, though she denies that she does it as much as ...
A. 30 January 2012: does she truly orgasm when you have sex? ARE YOU SURE? I have something LIKE an orgasm when I have sex with my partner but the truly satisfying orgasm are had my masturbation only. we have a lot of cuddles and affection and we do have se... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm controlling? Am I? He's lied and I have trust issues!
Q. My guy and I have been dating about 8 months and the last couple have been a bit intense with disagreements. I'm 38 and hes 45. We both have been married before and its just some things at his age I think he should know by now. If I don'...
A. 29 January 2012: As a woman who has been with a liar I can tell you that you will NEVER trust him. I never could trust my now ex husband because he lied over and over and over again... even after he tried to stop for a while he still could not be trusted... and it ... (read in full...)
Wife Always Walks Ahead of Me...Far Ahead
Q. This is a puzzling thing for me. About 10 years into my marriage I noticed that my wife would immediately walk ahead of me when going places. She doesn't slow down, just keeps walking. She is not more attractive for a woman than I am for a man, ...
A. 29 January 2012: Everything Marieclaire said! just the next time she starts try this "hey honey I would really like to walk with you can you wait up for me please" ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in 'soul mates'?
Q. Do you believe in soulmates? I'm curious to know what you think. And by the way, i heard this the other day and thought it was adorable, and wanted to share it with you: In greek mythology, humans were born with 4 eyes, 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 mouths, ...
A. 29 January 2012: in Jewish lore it's called Bershert and it means the one that G-D chose for you. I wish it were true... I don't believe it... I'm sorry. Cause if it's true I'm still looking... and i'm too old to keep looking... (read in full...)
His friend gave him an ultimatum, me or the friend!
Q. hey, i was talking about a younger boy, in my previous question. well now his friend which is my ex, has told him that he needs to choose between me or him. does anyone know what i should do or say?...
A. 29 January 2012: you do nothing. as an ADULT... when I had a friend who asked me to make a choice like that, I choose the OTHER person because no one has the right to tell me who I can and cannot be friend with.... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: my husband....dating....
NOT harmless fun
Does his profile say MARRIED????
DID he tell you he joined or did you discover this on your own?
It's not a good sign at all...... (read in full...)
Discharge days after sex
Q. Since I've started having sex a few months ago I occasionally get a thin cloudy discharge. To describe it as discharge would be misleading as I can feel it come out and a lot comes out, like I have to run to the bathroom immediately to ensure it ...
A. 28 January 2012: It's probably nothing but an exam with the gyn is a good idea.
wear a panty liner if you are concerned about that much discharge.
women's discharge is tied to your menstrual cycle and is heaver around ovulation.... (read in full...)
Is there a way of asking a guy if he's tested and free of all those things?
Q. Sort of embarrassed to ask this, but has been on my mind. So months ago I signed up on a site where I met a man from another country. We have skyped before and talk virtually everyday Now he's told me, he and his boyfriend have an open relationship ...
A. 28 January 2012: IT is NOT rude to say "have you had blood work?" and add 'btw you will need to have it if you haven't had it done."
I did it with the man I'm with now... and I had it done for him. In fact, we had it done twice once in the beginning and then... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 28 January 2012: "Theres nothing he can do to fix this. I won't let him. I'm just going to be wrong and sad for the rest of my life. Somethings in life you just don't get a re-do. This was one of them."
OH dear OP,
I"m so so sorry you feel this way. I know tha... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 28 January 2012: if you TELL him why you are not having sex and it's an effort by both of you to work on the relationship it's not game playing.
IF you DO NOT tell him WHY you are refusing sex and just withhold sex from him in an effort to see what he does tha... (read in full...)
What would make a man in love still want to talk to other girls?
Q. I am in a LDR of 11/2 months. When we met my boyfriend started talking about serious plans for our future like marriage and kids but he wanted to get his financial situation together. Two months down the line, I found out he was still talking to...
A. 27 January 2012: my now ex husband could not keep the friends with women out of his life. he had flirtations and ego stroking conversations and he needed it to make himself feel better.
I was NEVER enough no matter how much I loved and adored him and took car... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's controlling behaviour is bothering me!
Q. Hi I’m 26 years old, in December I sent a message to my friend saying I miss my ex, I did anything towards that feeling and I just said to coz I’m getting married and I was having cold feet. My bf saw this message and ever since this incident he...
A. 27 January 2012: I would postpone the marriage if I even bothered to have it.
how did he find out about the message? was he snooping then? have you ever done anything to give him reason not to trust you?
if not rethink his controlling jealous behavior... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I don't want a relationship just to make babies.
Q. Well, I am 19 years old and want a child so bad I can hardly wait. Yet I have been waiting for 2yrs now and am tired of waiting. I am mature, live on my own, have a job and everything else I need. I even have taken parenting classes and already have ...
A. 27 January 2012: Who will care for this child while you are at school and work; because at 19 you better still be in school getting a degree so you can support yourself and your child?
I realize you have had this dream for two years and I wonder a few things:
1. ... (read in full...)
Is my ex FWB (who now has a girlfriend) suggesting something? What did the kiss on my neck mean?
Q. He and i were fwb in the past but we're just friends now. I went to see him at his place because he's going away for a month and we wanted to see each other before he left. We've always been pretty flirty around each other but nothing has happened ...
A. 27 January 2012: he wants it with you when he already has a gf because he thinks he can get it...
remember the old saying "women need a reason to have sex men just need a place"... (read in full...)
My child and I want to move in with him...so will he ever do the work on his home as he promised?
Q. Not sure how to start or explain this one, been on here before and got great advice from you agony aunts and uncles, so i am hoping that you can advice me on this one. I am in LDR which been with him for nearly 3 years, we are committed loyal and ...
A. 27 January 2012: What do you mean it’s not for YOU to say? You want to LIVE with this man and you are AFRAID to discuss these issues with him?
He just finished the kitchen HE wanted. He says that the room for your child is too small and he wants her to have more... (read in full...)
Strange phone call!
Q. What does it mean when a lady calls you and doesnt say hello back but stays on the phone...
A. 27 January 2012: butt dialed.. I've sadly done it to many folks even with a locking phone... did it once to my now fiance when we were dating early on... he heard me telling my friend I didn't want to call him and bother him while he was on the phone trying to get ... (read in full...)
She broke off with me but wants me to wait....I am not sure what to do here!
Q. Me and my girlfriend recently broke up, as she wanted more time to spend with her friends and a break from me. We had been arguing for a week or two about stupid things. She said she loves me a lot and that one day she hopes we can be together one ...
A. 27 January 2012: She's trying to be gentle with you and end it with you slowly... that's my take on it... I would leave her be and go and about your business... make the assumption she is gone forever... she may change her mind and try to come back but by then you ... (read in full...)
Is he using me or...?
Q. I have been dating a younger man for approximately 6 months. He seems to be crazy about me and treats me like a queen around the house. His situation is as follows: he had a break-down approximately 1 year ago after he broke up with the mother ...
A. 27 January 2012: I'm in agreement that at this early stage in the relationship if he's not pulling his fair share in any way it's a big red flag... he's not pulling his weight financially.
You are resentful and angry and have no respect for him...
what do... (read in full...)
I constantly worry that my loved ones are going to die.
Q. I constantly worry that my loved ones are going to die. For instance, if I have not heard from them, I worry that something bad has happened to them. Or, if they have to fly somewhere, I worry so much about their safety. This stressful, obsessive ...
A. 27 January 2012: IF you worry too much it could be medical and you may have Obsessive Compulsive disorder (OCD like marieclaire suggested) and that can be fixed with medication.
WE all worry when folks fly… I just gave a person a dollar to make a charity dona... (read in full...)
His ex's home and mobile numbers were back on his phone!
Q. I was looking through my boyfriends phone contacts and realized that the mobile and home number of his ex girlfriend who he was with for years was back on his phone (new phone and sim card from old phone had number on it). I waited to see if he ...
A. 27 January 2012: What was your reaction? did you blow up at him? did you accuse him of cheating? did you say it bothered you? did you ask him why he kept it?
why does it bother you?... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: "WE shopped for rings"
Did you give him an idea of what you wanted or did you expect him to read your mind? At first you didn’t care but now you do? I get that.
When my mother got engaged they went and picked out the stone at the diamo... (read in full...)
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