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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 25 March 2012: you make it sound like she had no choice.... sounds to me like you couldn't deal with her being comfortable with her sexuality. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 14 February 2012: worried about 2 particular guys or worried about 2 guys at once...
either way it's her past... why is this such a huge problem for you is she not supposed to have a past?... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 12 February 2012: Ok so you know momma will say the same thing..
let's see if we can help you get past him
you miss him so much...
exactly what do you miss about him?
do you miss the fighting?
do you miss him pressuring you for sex?
do you miss him... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 11 February 2012: so when he's pushing YOU to do things you don't want is that when he is sweet?
ask mom what she thinks...... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 11 February 2012: he is a sexual predator and he is using you.
STAY away from him!... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 11 February 2012: ok let me get this straight
you are no more than 17
you give this person hand jobs
this person is your neighbor
you are not getting any sexual pleasure from this relationship
he's demanding more sexual behavior from you
how old is this... (read in full...)
Is our relationship worth salvaging?
Q. My girlfriend and I got in a fight about a month ago. Things haven't been working too well for about 6 weeks prior, so I told her I wanted to take a break. She asked me why, I said that the relationship was hurting me and I needed some space. S...
A. 11 February 2012: OP it's always hard to realize that the one we want does not want us...
sometimes when relationships are fun and SO good at the beginning we go too fast and we don't see the big bad things till later on... and that makes it harder to get out of w... (read in full...)
Why on earth would my partner keep a bottle of 'Dick Lick' from a previous liaison. Eugghhh!
Q. I have struggled with trust with my new partner for some time. We managed to put to bed the things that were troubling me (and they were NOT small I can tell you). All has been good but I have now discovered two more things that are making me ...
A. 10 February 2012: OP have you considered ASKING her what's going on?... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with my ex, but I need help understanding his behaviour. Why couldnt he stop going onto online dating sites? Why did he lie so much?
Q. I write in a midst of confusion. I have ended a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend due to his do or die determination in dating site memberships. It has been a constant cycle of him getting caught, lying, convincing me I am seeing things, then ...
A. 10 February 2012: he needs the ego stroke. my ex husband did this to me he could NOT accept that only one woman was enough to love him.
I gave him a taste of his own medicine and added a "friend" to our "open" marriage and discovered that it was only open for him ... (read in full...)
Bad boys seem to be more popular with the girls than someone like me, will my time ever come? Is this situation uncommon?
Q. I'm 19 and I've never had a girlfriend put simply. This isn't to say I'm still a virgin; sex and relationships are two quite different things as far as I'm concerned. I suppose you could consider me a late bloomer, I didn't really develop a vested ...
A. 10 February 2012: my younger son is 25 now. he was a late bloomer... not a date to be had in high school and well into college and his 20s before he started dating... a couple of short term (under a year) serious girlfriends but nothing major.
He's tall (6'3") a... (read in full...)
She's in a relationship but I'm sure she is attracted to me, however I cant stand her flirting with all the men in the office!
Q. Hi I have a question that i hoped someone might be able to help with. My problem is that I work with a lady who I usually get along with quite well, and I am attracted to her and I believe that she has some attraction towards me. We will often sa...
A. 10 February 2012: Wow she sounds just like me. I joke and flirt and even occasionally will hug my co-workers. I am an IT specialist and there are many men I work with. I am in a committed monogamous relationship and I love my partner and would never consider ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex? I still miss him and can't get closure
Q. Should I call or send a text to my ex bf. I miss Him so much. He ended it almost 3 months ago and I still don't know y. He said I was being to needy bt I was js showing concern for him and his family. I cry all the time cz I really love him. I want ...
A. 10 February 2012: He ended it because you were too needy… there’s your closure. You were too demanding and in his face…
You say you really love him… so what you do is you write….
Dear xxxxx,
I really love you because… and list all the things you really reall... (read in full...)
My friend has messages on her phone from the guy that I like that say "I love you". She says its just a joke. Should I believe it?
Q. hi!just want to ask for some piece of advice..the situation goes like this: I have a guy friend let's just call him RC and a girl friend by the name of MAE. the three of us are very close friends.we use to hang-out during our free time or after our ...
A. 10 February 2012: my EX husband used to do this and his explanation was "i love her like a friend" Yeah right.....
sorry if you are in a committed relationship you should not be telling other people you love them...... (read in full...)
Make-up ideas...
Q. ok so i really like wearing makeup but my mom dosnt really like me wearing lots so i just put on eyeshadow and sometimes some eyeliner with it can u guys tell me whats the most important things when wearing makeup like to make your eyes pop but not ...
A. 10 February 2012: a bit of lip balm and a touch of brown mascara is more than enough for you.
it should look like you are NOT wearing any makeup
... (read in full...)
B/f dumped me out of the blue and now he wants to be friends. I don't know what to do here!
Q. heyy guys okay soo my boyfriend just dumped me..not really giving me a legit reason..things were PERFECT then one day he lied to me and said that he was grounded and he couldnt see me but he ended up hanging out with another girl and her ...
A. 10 February 2012: personally I have never been able to be friends long term with ex boyfriends... maybe for a little bit...
return his jacket...
be civil and social....
and just let him gradually fade from your life.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 10 February 2012: the question is not IS she.... because that's a judgment.
she was honest with you and told you the truth
the question is what do YOU wish to do about it.
if you can't cope then you end it. and it sounds to me like you think less of her be... (read in full...)
Is he a player? Should I stay with him? Or am I just one of many?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in a really confusing situation right now, but I need to make a decision soon and I hope that I will get some good advice from here. I have been in a relationship with this guy since a year - last February, we are going to complet...
A. 10 February 2012: you check his email
you check his phone
will you ever trust him?
I ended a marriage because I could never trust my husband. he had lied to me about his online friendships and his flirtations with other women...
where there is not trust there... (read in full...)
The sex law does not stop any teenager from having sex, why is it always slammed in our faces that we're underage?
Q. Hi, i am not looking to have sex. But i have questions on the sex law. It doesn't stop anyone! I know a pregnant 8th grader! On secret life of the american teenager, amy got pregnant at 15! But why when girls my age (15) ask to go on the pill, its ...
A. 10 February 2012: My daughter came to me at 15 and asked to go on the pill... I happily complied.
I was on the pill at 14...
so I guess it's just YOUR house that works this way
and guess what... take your underage tushy down to planned parenthood if you fe... (read in full...)
My G/f doesn't want a child, yet is against any form of birth control apart from me using a condom. She says if the condom rips then we can just put the baby up for adoption!!
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years she is 20 i am 23 we have been having sex for around 2 months, she was a virgin and wanted to wait, but a conversation we had the other day has confused me slightly. She says to me that ...
A. 10 February 2012: Maybe if you are this concerned you should discuss NOT having sex with her.
Perhaps she does not want hormones in her system as they can mess with your libido and moods....
... (read in full...)
As a virgin, how can I stop myself from getting so horny over him?
Q. I'm 19, been seeing this guy who's 23 for 6 months now.. Things may not be official between us yet but I've known him for over a year, we get on extremely well, always communicate, etc. Now I'm a virgin, and he's extremely experienced......
A. 10 February 2012: yep the horniness is NORMAL....
you can't really stop yourself but you can masturbate more often to help with that feeling...
and at nearly 20 unless it's against your religion or morals you may want to consider taking that next step with a... (read in full...)
Should my mother allow me to spend the night with my boyfriend?
Q. Okay so I wanted to know that if your 16 years old and your boyfriend is 17, and you guys have been together for a year and seven months but have known each other for three years. Should you be able to stay the night with him. My boyfriend lives an ...
A. 10 February 2012: When I was 19 and had moved back home after a year away at college and went to see my boyfriend who my parents had met and knew I said I was going to spend the night and my parents who’s home I Lived in said NO it’s not proper for a young lady to ... (read in full...)
When I asked my FWB partner not to have sex with her disgusting ex because I don't want to end up contracting a disease, she thought I was accusing her. Did I do the right thing?
Q. So I had a fwb thing with going on with someone and she said how much she hated her ex and what not and her ex did act like a complete dick. He even at one point seemed to be bragging to her how he's having sex with so many women and doing meth (I ...
A. 10 February 2012: Nope you did not do the right thing. She’s a FWB you have NO say in what she does or who she does it with.
If you are that concerned then don’t’ sleep with her.
And if you have NO feelings for her why even consider it.
At least my FWB cared... (read in full...)
I'm married and she has a boyfriend but I cannot ignore my attraction to her, how do I ask her out?
Q. There is a new lady in office. She is 38 and I am 26. She is really very cute and hot at the same time...rare combination but yes she is. I have been wondering how to ask her out and what subjects could I talk to her on to attract her towards me. ...
A. 10 February 2012: To piggyback on what Cindy said:
I'm nearly 52, I love younger men my fiancé is a whopping 38n yrs young and I'm an outrageous flirt... but that's it.. I just FLIRT... if a man (married, single, engaged or otherwise) actually asked me out, I w... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 10 February 2012: If you feel nothing when you are close to him then maybe he’s not the right fella for you…. Why would you want to pleasure him if he can’t pleasure you?... (read in full...)
I don't see a very strong connection between us, but am I reading too much into this at an early stage?
Q. I've become quite skeptical as far as relationships go. I recently just met a guy. I've actually known him for years but we never connected before. He's about 5 years older than me, I'm not used to dating older men. He's extremely kind a...
A. 10 February 2012: Ah thanks so much for the update! It helps me see things more clearly and I still stand totally by my feelings… Sounds like you should just go slow and get to know him and see what happens… what is it they say “opposites attract”
IF you are used... (read in full...)
Why on earth would my partner keep a bottle of 'Dick Lick' from a previous liaison. Eugghhh!
Q. I have struggled with trust with my new partner for some time. We managed to put to bed the things that were troubling me (and they were NOT small I can tell you). All has been good but I have now discovered two more things that are making me ...
A. 10 February 2012: I could just quote Cindy's last two posts...
OP you are STRONGLY over reacting to this situation...... (read in full...)
How woulda guy react to this news?
Q. How can I tell someone that I've only dated a few months and had s?? with only once (recently) that I've been diagnosed mild dyskaryosis? I've been seeing him 6 months. It takes me ages to trust and get to know someone before I get intimate with ...
A. 10 February 2012: Ah yes I get that computers would be stupid… Understood.. apology extended to you.
HPV is SO COMMON that I can’t even imagine he would think bad of it… I swear it’s like the common cold of STDs. In fact, I personally have a hard time thinking... (read in full...)
Where can I meet someone special?
Q. Hi everyone I have just broke ot off with my fwb I was sleeping with him for almost a year I now know why I satyed with him so long he treated me horribly I think it was because I'm so lonely I'm only 25 and I'm a single mum to a 4 year old son I ...
A. 9 February 2012: do you work, go to school, or have hobbies that take you places where you could meet folks?
what about a religious organization like a church or synagogue?
... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he contact me if he loves me?
Q. my ex left 2 month ago. he said he loved me and that would never change. he has not been in contact for 5 weeks now, no phone call or text message. why does he do this if he says he loves me....
A. 9 February 2012: if he loves you why is he an ex?
I love my ex husband but I'm not in love with him and I don't want contact with him...... (read in full...)
Could I be the father of my wife's baby?
Q. me and my wife didnt see each other since december 2011 and last january 2012 i went to her place and we got sex and now feb 2012 she was saying that she's 7 weeks pregnant.. can you please tell me if i am the father of that child on her womb?...
A. 9 February 2012: when was the last time you had relations?... (read in full...)
Is our relationship worth salvaging?
Q. My girlfriend and I got in a fight about a month ago. Things haven't been working too well for about 6 weeks prior, so I told her I wanted to take a break. She asked me why, I said that the relationship was hurting me and I needed some space. S...
A. 9 February 2012: Sorry it sounds to me like it's not worth the effort to try to fix something that's so very broken twice already.... (read in full...)
Help ladies please! I'm petrified about my first smear test and need support please?
Q. I am 23 and I am having my first smear test Thursday, I am absolutely petrified, im shaking thinking about it, can anyone give me advice I hope im not the only one that feels like this?...
A. 9 February 2012: It's thursday and I'm thinking of you...
and glitter... EWO I love that story!... (read in full...)
Why on earth would my partner keep a bottle of 'Dick Lick' from a previous liaison. Eugghhh!
Q. I have struggled with trust with my new partner for some time. We managed to put to bed the things that were troubling me (and they were NOT small I can tell you). All has been good but I have now discovered two more things that are making me ...
A. 9 February 2012: Why does she still have them?
Maybe because she forgot about them? Maybe they don’t really mean anything to her and you are making a BFD about nothing?? Maybe she likes the stuff… I DOUBT it’s because it was from her prior partner and she ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the guy I've been seeing I met someone else and gave my number to him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy not too long ago...He is Asian/chinese and I am a Latin/south american. He is younger for 8 yrs. Our schedules are very different..I work nights and he days, we see each other everytime we can make it..can be like 2 o 3 ti...
A. 9 February 2012: I agree with Chigirl... the relationship with the Chinese guy sounds casual not serious and you don't need to feel guilty about having other friends... and you don't need to "out yourself" and tell him you met someone else and gave him your number ... (read in full...)
Is making love different from other sex?
Q. Tonight I met my lover, who is a married woman. We have been together 2.5 years. I am not married and she has told me in the past that she does not plan to leave her husband. She seemed very eager to see me. She gave me a very thorough and nau...
A. 9 February 2012: Agreed with all the wise uncles and aunts before me.
my man loves me to death... truly would take a bullet for me or kill anyone who hurt me... we have sex we rarely make love... it's just not his style... but I know that this man loves me more ... (read in full...)
I don't see a very strong connection between us, but am I reading too much into this at an early stage?
Q. I've become quite skeptical as far as relationships go. I recently just met a guy. I've actually known him for years but we never connected before. He's about 5 years older than me, I'm not used to dating older men. He's extremely kind a...
A. 9 February 2012: He's kind
He's consistent
you have known him for years
he's attentive (sends messages and has daily contact)
goes out of his way to see you
respectful of your physical boundaries (not made a move on you in two dates)
you do not feel threa... (read in full...)
He's twice my age, has children and has asked me out. I've accepted but where do I go from here?
Q. Oh my gosh. So today at work I was talking to the man who is twice my age and who I am interested in and he has admitted to being attracted to me as well...., and he asked me on a date!! (Reminder: he has been married for 18 years and currentl...
A. 9 February 2012: you tell him upfront on the first date that you are not interested in any thing serious with him... that for right now you wish to remain casual friends.... do not lead him on...
just because he's older and divorcing (are you sure he's living a... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 9 February 2012: do you WANT to please him?
if so and you are comfortable with it you could give him an hand job or a blow job.. but then he should return the favor to you if you want...
but do not do it unless YOU WANT to... do not be forced into it... there... (read in full...)
Useful advice needed on this age difference!
Q. okay so this is confusing some people may think its absurd others may think its okay, but basically in 2009 i was in year eleven and i was going out with a year eight BUT his birthday was right by the dead line of the year thing, i cant remember ...
A. 9 February 2012: I don’t get what year 11 vs year 8 means I need ages
And at 17 and 15 you should be friends not dating… because it’s a huge difference but as you age you are right it gets to be less and less of an issue.
Where he is in school is not the mark ... (read in full...)
I'm going to meet my girlfriend's parents but I cant tell them that I met my G/f online! What do I say?
Q. Hi, basically I have been with my gf for 2 years, and I'm ready to meet her parents. However the main thing is to explain how we met. It's complicated, becuz we met online and that's not cool for her parents, so I need an idea on how we met. She ...
A. 9 February 2012: Don't lie.
My goodness it's been two years... they will have to accept that many people meet online now... folks used to use personal ads in papers to meet before the internet.
I have to remember that I did NOT meet my current partner online b... (read in full...)
I wish he came with me to see my doctor!
Q. I am probably being really selfish but tomorrow I have got to see my cardiologist (had heart surgery when I was 5)and my boyfriend goes to judo like every Wednesday on the dot! I am happy if he enjoys it and it doesnt bother me at all usually but ...
A. 9 February 2012: IF you don't ask him to go how will he know you want him to go???
skipping one week will not kill him but it may mess up his routine and if not asked to go he may make the choice not to skip it.
he's not a mind reader... if you don't tell him y... (read in full...)
How woulda guy react to this news?
Q. How can I tell someone that I've only dated a few months and had s?? with only once (recently) that I've been diagnosed mild dyskaryosis? I've been seeing him 6 months. It takes me ages to trust and get to know someone before I get intimate with ...
A. 9 February 2012: I am assuming that the LLETZ is similar to our LEEP procedure where they burn the abnormal (consistent with HPV) cells off the cervix… I’ve had this TWICE.. the first time I was around your age… it’s pretty unnerving but it’s a good thing that it ... (read in full...)
Is the fact that she's pretty a good enough reason to ask her out?
Q. Ok so there's this girl i like and want to ask out but i dont know if i should. The only reason i want to ask her out is because she's gorgeous, i dont really know much about her. We see each other once a week due to work, and because we are working ...
A. 9 February 2012: It's a perfectly good start...... (read in full...)
Should an ex still be attending family functions?
Q. Is it proper for My Husbands Ex to attend his neices Quinceanera (Sweet 15)? They have a 12 year Son together and he will be in the party? (kinda like a groomsmen) They were only married 1 year and we have been together 13 years (married 9). We have ...
A. 9 February 2012: She clearly has ties to the family. She divorced HIM not his family... so yes it's proper....
I am still close to my ex MIL and SIL and even my ex step daughter...
Stop being so threatened by this woman... (read in full...)
My crush didn't bother wishing me on my birthday today and neither did he take me bowling like he had said. Should I text him and ask if the plan's still on or just not go?
Q. Okay so my birthday was today and my my crush didn't say happy birthdaydidn't text call or anything. He and I have been talking for over a long time. He knew it was today because he even suggested to take me bowl but I am sad because my day ended ...
A. 9 February 2012: Happy Birthday...
He's YOUR crush you are NOT his... his knowing it was your birthday and not saying anything may or may not mean much but to YOU it means the world. It sadly says where you fit in his life to him... NOT important...
You cou... (read in full...)
I had sex with him, now we're thousands of miles away and I cant get him out of my head!
Q. I went to one of my friend's birthday party and there was a guy that I had a thing with. We don't really know each other but had a few talk at couple of parties. He was actually one of the guys who threw the party. Anyways, that was actually my ...
A. 9 February 2012: I'm so sorry you are in this situation.
I think the best thing to do is chalk it up to experience and move on with your life.
He will be in your head forever but over time it will fade to a soft memory.... not something that is plaguing you 24/... (read in full...)
I'm married and she has a boyfriend but I cannot ignore my attraction to her, how do I ask her out?
Q. There is a new lady in office. She is 38 and I am 26. She is really very cute and hot at the same time...rare combination but yes she is. I have been wondering how to ask her out and what subjects could I talk to her on to attract her towards me. ...
A. 9 February 2012: why not ask your wife what to do?... (read in full...)
Why on earth would my partner keep a bottle of 'Dick Lick' from a previous liaison. Eugghhh!
Q. I have struggled with trust with my new partner for some time. We managed to put to bed the things that were troubling me (and they were NOT small I can tell you). All has been good but I have now discovered two more things that are making me ...
A. 9 February 2012: I kept lube and toys I liked between partners.. It did NOT remind me of the partners nor did it mean I wanted them back.. I also have the same shampoo etc… my current partner keeps a butter dish from his last serious girlfriend… and he tells me it’s ... (read in full...)
Why was my partner checking the text messages on my mobile phone? She has no reason to doubt me!
Q. Well I guess this is a common issue and has been answered many times before but here it goes.. Last night I found my partner going through my mobile phone text messages. Well I found that my phone light was on and it was clear she had just put it ...
A. 9 February 2012: I agree with Cerberus that she's projecting her behaviors on to you... that she's the one with stuff to hide...
After 7 years you don't know much about her daily routines?
I'd say you don't have much of a relationship with her and I'd strongly... (read in full...)
Help ladies please! I'm petrified about my first smear test and need support please?
Q. I am 23 and I am having my first smear test Thursday, I am absolutely petrified, im shaking thinking about it, can anyone give me advice I hope im not the only one that feels like this?...
A. 8 February 2012: It’s scary the first time… ask the nurse to hold your hand. TELL the doctor you are scared and tense. It’s NORMAL to be that way. I’ve been having pap smears since I was 14 years old (I had terrible PMS and needed to be on hormones so paps were ... (read in full...)
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