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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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30 September 2011: Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
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I feel guilty about this. I can't discuss this with my parents, but can I just have one 'one night stand'?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have been bought up very distant from boys and because I went to a christian primary school think that I should only have sex with another virgin and this should be who I marry if it happens before I get married. But now I am 1...
A. 20 June 2012: I’m going to pull the mom line on you “if everyone jumped off a bridge would you do that too?” Just because everyone is doing something does not make it the right thing to do.
Part of being an adult is learning to be true to yourself and your... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 19 March 2012: Yay! thanks for the GREAT update...keep on growing!... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: yes but if you want to get back at him remember that living well is the best revenge...
YOU control your own misery.....
be fabulous
be beautiful
be happy
it will so be better then.... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: I think that you are trying to punish yourself (subconsciously) and that’s a hard place to be. I get it. You are angry at yourself for using bad judgment and trusting someone who betrayed you. Now you feel like your judgment is being questioned. ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: why is the fact that he was your first so important to you that you want to keep him around?
why do you feel that you can't move on from him?... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 14 March 2012: Exactly what Cindy said.. you are not worth any effort if you are not spreading your legs for him.... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 13 March 2012: no not weird at all... perfectly normal to have mixed feelings about this.... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 13 March 2012: or he's biding his time waiting for you to assume he's gone and in a few weeks... oops a text from him....
just be very careful... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 12 March 2012: Yay! What GREAT news!... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: And that, OP is what he is counting on. he is hoping your determination to stay strong and not see him will waiver..... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: IGNORE HIM! Block him. IF YOU tell him to leave you alone he will know it bugs you and he will keep doing it.
IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE!... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Cindy is right... IGNORE him totally.... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Ignore him OP, this will stop... you know he can't be just friends... that's just a ruse to make himself feel good about himself..... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Well Done.... and continue to be strong....... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 8 March 2012: 3 years is a long time when you miss someone you want to be with... but 3 hours is doable 2 times a month easily....
do not cut off your nose to spite your face... leave the options OPEN ....... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 8 March 2012: how far apart are they?... (read in full...)
What am I missing here?
Q. I have a family picnic outing with my girlfriend and her family and also a child (11 yo) from a family friend. I was playing catch me with the same child, and while we were playing she said you are slow and fat and you can't catch me. I didn...
A. 6 March 2012: What you are missing is that YOU ARE WRONG. YOU NEVER tell a child they are fat… especially an 11 year old girl. And who her parent is has NO BEARING on the fact that you should never say things like that to a child. NOT in jest, not even if ... (read in full...)
Am I allowed to buy myself a sex toy?
Q. Am I allowed to buy a sex toy? I'm in a relationship with a man who has suffered with extreme premature ejaculation for the past two years. He has given up trying to do anything about it even though when he was on medication it was starting to ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes you are allowed. Not sure why you think you need HIS permission to buy a sex toy. Do you need his permission to have an orgasm too?
I use my shower massager… it’s perfect and I have the option every time I shower. I also have a cute lit... (read in full...)
He's bipolar and has anger issues, should I stay or leave?
Q. I know this is still a decision i need to make myself,but i really need help. This guy i have been dating for only 3 months is bipolar. When we started dating i let him know that i wasn't going to tolerate smoking and alcohol because i don't like it ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yoda says… “DO OR DO NOT there is no try….”
3 months is not a long time in a relationship. If so early on he’s already doing things that upset you, think long and hard about what you want to do.
Addictions are powerful and hard to break. ... (read in full...)
Dont want another LDR but full of doubts in case our situation changes....should I leave or stick with it?
Q. I got out of a 6 year long distance relationship because it went absolutely nowhere a few years ago and then met my current partner. We moved in together, lived together 2 years and it was great. I had no doubts, we had a great time together. He ...
A. 6 March 2012: It would be unfair and selfish of him to guilt you into staying with him too but that’s what he’s doing when he says it is unfair and selfish of you to leave him because of the situation. Folks make choices all the time based on situations. IF ... (read in full...)
Can anybody read this man's mind?
Q. I was going out with my partner for a year and a half. He always travelled with work and we always managed to make things work. But after xmas he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. When I challeneged him and said ...
A. 6 March 2012: He knows he wants to break up with you that there is not a chance you guys can make it work permanently. And he was FINE with this being HIS idea because he knew you would continue to try to make it work with him.
NOW that YOU want to break up... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Do you think that the fact that he was scum and just wanted to use you reflects ON YOU? It does not. His choice to be a scumbag is NO reflection on you. You said NO you did the right thing.
he’s the one who’s wrong and needs to reflect on his a... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex anymore, I've been so patient but I wont beg for it! Now there is another woman ready and waiting, so what should I do?
Q. Amazing girl. Energy. Youthfulness. First 18months Average sex was 2 or 3 x a DAY for first year. Next 6m was 3/4 times a week Then we broke up for a number of reasons. Some jealousy and insecurity issues for me. Some nativity and insensitive issu...
A. 6 March 2012: I will tell you like I tell everyone else. YOU CANNOT love a person’s POTENTIAL. You have to love them where they are and accept them where they are. IF they grow and mature and change, then it’s a bonus… IF YOU LOVE what you WANT or NEED them to ... (read in full...)
Went out for a drink with a male friend but didnt tell my husband the friend was a man, should I tell my husband the truth?
Q. Hi, I am in a slight dilemma over something that happened recently. I am a happily married woman with a stepson, and I have many male friends at work. They are just that, friends, and I would never think of doing anything with them that could harm ...
A. 6 March 2012: You wouldn't like it if your husband went out with a female co-worker no matter how innocent but you went out with a male co-worker and that was ok?
Double standard?
Best thing to do is do it the way I do. this was the conversation at home... (read in full...)
I figured out a way to break into her email to see if she's been lying and cheating. Should I?
Q. I know it seems like here and else where there is the thing that if you look at someones email its almost as bad as killing someone but I have never seen it like this. Sometimes there are circumstances which make it almost so pressured to find out ...
A. 6 March 2012:
So you think that reading someone’s personal email is ok. Nice. What else do you think is ok? Is reading her diary ok? Is opening her snail mail ok?
IF you are seeing a woman you feel is a fraud, why are you seeing her?
You give he... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 6 March 2012: Dads NEVER like boys that date their daughters...
glad it is working out.... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my husband
Q. i dont find my husband attractive anymore and i dont know what to do. we have been married since feb 26th 2010 and even before we got married my heart just wasnt all the way in it but i did it anyway because i didnt have anywhere else to go and i ...
A. 6 March 2012: I agree with Tisha having another baby to get about a month of good is not a good plan.
IF he says he loves you and is afraid you will leave him you need to explain to him that his fear is causing him to do the EXACT things that will push you... (read in full...)
Could a girl ever accept my love of supermodels?
Q. Ok, I like supermodels and always have. Not the big-boobed, blonde bimbos in men's magazines but the high fashion models. When magazines like Vogue or Photo have their "Top Models" issue, I get it. If there's an interview with a model I like, I'll ...
A. 6 March 2012: OF course it's possible to find. Will you flip through GQ with her and help her appreciate those chiseled ABS of the male models as well?
I always point out the beautiful thin women to my fiancé. He prefers young Asians so I even have been kn... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about this. I can't discuss this with my parents, but can I just have one 'one night stand'?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have been bought up very distant from boys and because I went to a christian primary school think that I should only have sex with another virgin and this should be who I marry if it happens before I get married. But now I am 1...
A. 6 March 2012: Dear OP,
I have no problem with teen sex or premarital sex IF the person you want to be intimate is your boyfriend and it’s been long term and you feel special about him.
I promise you that you will not be a 50 year old virgin.
I a... (read in full...)
After 1.5 year of planning trip now g/f says she wants us to go separately and she's going with a male friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been planning on hiking the appalachian trail together for the past year and a half. The departure time is getting close, so 2 weeks ago she tells me that she wants to hike the trail separately now. That consists of me going ...
A. 6 March 2012: What they all said... just total disrespect for you.
tell her to go with him and not to bother to come back to you.
I'm sorry. this sucks for you. but i guess it's better you find out now rather than have her spring it on you during the t... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 5 March 2012: start with friending him and saying HI
go from there.... (read in full...)
I'm 35, is it wrong to pursue a relationship with a 20-year-old guy?
Q. well, this is a little weird for me. telling this story. im turning 35 this guy who really likes me is turning 20 in a couple weeks.never met but we talk over the phone, facebook hotmail,and x box live. i never hit on him. but it turned out after ...
A. 5 March 2012: Wait wait wait…you have never met IRL?? And then I read this wall of text you wrote about how PERFECT it is with a man you have never met????
All bets are off honey. And the fact that you are even considering marriage at this point is INSA... (read in full...)
I really wish I hadn't flirted because now I don't know what this guy is up to
Q. So I have a situation at my new work. I have started to get feelings for one of my trainers in work. He has been flirting back (I think) and we had a conversation recently about me being newly single and that he thought I was cute etc then he...
A. 5 March 2012: of course his relationship is "unhappy"
but trust me no one stays if they are THAT unhappy
I flirt all day with guys at work.. they flirt back.. it doesn't mean anything and none of us are unhappy in our relationships....
I think that wo... (read in full...)
I miss my ex and want to be friends with him, how do I go about this?
Q. I miss my ex boyfriend. I know this is a right of passage etc, but it doesn't make it any better. We were together for 6 months in a long distance relationship and were friends before we went out. It's been 3 months since we broke up and at the mo...
A. 5 March 2012: Here is the catch-22 of this idea.
you KNOW you should not be in touch with him now but you want a plan of action for when you are ready to be in touch with him....
the problem is that when you are ready to be in touch with him you won't... (read in full...)
My ldr bf what his intentions to me. and where do we stand now?
Q. im in a ldr and my boyfriend is 15 years older than me his nice guy we had ups and down to be in this hard long distance relationship,before we been together as bf/gf we started we talk to regularly on skype everyday we have different time so ...
A. 5 March 2012: if you are just in it for right now and fun and games you don't need to prove to him that you are the right one...
if you are the right one it will magically happen.
to be honest with the distance and the age gap I don't want to see you put ... (read in full...)
How do you reject people you are not interested in?
Q. What is the best way to say no to someone? I just came from a long relationship and I'm just now setting foot in the dating arena again since a long time, so it's a bit awkward. Basically I'm having a hard time rejecting those I'm not interested in. ...
A. 5 March 2012: well yes it does but after all he's someone you might find interesting... I'm not saying to do it with guys YOU know you are not interested in but what if you are not ready to date but you see someone that if you were in a different time and place ... (read in full...)
After 1.5 year together my g/f is still waiting for the magic love button to be engaged for me, but its just not happening!
Q. I'm in this tricky and difficult situation with my girlfriend. She has a toddler to a past relationship that was very messy, We have recently been living together along with my 8yr old daughter who I have every 2nd week. My girlfriend is head over ...
A. 5 March 2012: " she still won't let me go" why is this HER choice?'
if you want to leave you leave... you don't owe her anything... you are not married... granted it will be hard and confusing to the children but the longer you linger the worse it will be.... (read in full...)
I think my husband's cheating-I need advice on hiring a private detectives!
Q. How do I find a reliable pvt detective in LA area..I suspect my husband is cheating on me.I'm a SAHM and my husband is always denying...we are in a sexless marriage since 5 months.Can cops help me find stuff like this.i really don't want to talk ...
A. 5 March 2012: So what will happen if you spend this money (btw how will you pay for it and not have him find out?) and find out he is cheating?
will you leave?
what good will the knowledge be for you?
if you don't trust him now what will finding ... (read in full...)
Sixteen and the father of my twins is rejecting them because of a lying cousin
Q. Hi, im sixteen years old and my bf is seventeen years old and we have 2 week olds twins and my bf and i lost our mothers when we was 2 years old (my bf) and 13 years old (me) but our family is happy except my bf cousin. She telling everybody im a ...
A. 5 March 2012: Honey you had twins two weeks ago.. those babies.. eat, poop and sleep right now.. they don't play...
You go to court you get a DNA test and make sure he is listed as the father so that he is financially responsible for his children.
You do ... (read in full...)
How long into a relationship before "I love you" is said?
Q. I was wondering when most people uttered those three little words? My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months (have been exclusive/in a committed relationship for almost 3), but we have not said "I love you" yet. In your opinion, how soon is ...
A. 5 March 2012: There is no timetable for when saying "I love you" is appropriate. You say it when you feel it.
When I started to feel love for my now fiancé I didn't want to say "i love you" because ours was NOT that kind of a relationship... and instead ... (read in full...)
Should I change my gender for the sake of love?
Q. The girl I love is bisexual and prefers girls. I am considering getting a sex change for her if it is what she would like. Should I do this? There's truly no one else in the world for me....
A. 5 March 2012: You have no clue what a sex change entails. And no clue who qualifies for it… The fact that you even are considering it is a major insult to the truly transgendered folks out there. Having a gender reassignment is for folks who IDENTIFY as the ... (read in full...)
He loved me and wanted me and I threw it all away.
Q. I think I've messed things up with a guy i really like and i don't know how to fix it. I met this man 9 months ago - we had a two week fling and then we didn't see each other for 4 months as he went back to live in his home country. We stayed i...
A. 5 March 2012: Known him 9 months with a 2 week fling and then a 4 month break… so you’ve known him essentially 5 months…
“It was very obvious he wanted a relationship” really? What made it obvious? His words? His Actions? How did you know he wanted a... (read in full...)
He asked if I wanted to be FWB, I really want to but I'm scared because I'm a virgin! What should I do?
Q. So I've been pretty good friends with this guy for a year. We had an instant attraction and we both have wanted to be just more than friends but he had a girl friend at the time so nothing happened but he's now single. We've been flirting and ...
A. 5 March 2012: If we change the name from Friends with benefits to FUCK BUDDIES does it make it easier to say NO?
you are a virgin you don't need an FWB...
just say NO... (read in full...)
How do you reject people you are not interested in?
Q. What is the best way to say no to someone? I just came from a long relationship and I'm just now setting foot in the dating arena again since a long time, so it's a bit awkward. Basically I'm having a hard time rejecting those I'm not interested in. ...
A. 5 March 2012: yep you say "I'm very flattered thank you for the offer but I'm not interested"
if you say you are not available he may take it as you are playing coy and actually want him to try harder...
you don't owe whole explanations to anyone you don't... (read in full...)
Not sure what to make of his feelings for his first love....
Q. my boyfriend has always told me how his first love was the best girlfriend he's had and how he would use her a signpost to compare his other girlfriends by. this bothered me alot as i felt he was always comparing what we have to what he had with ...
A. 5 March 2012: He did a very nice thing... our first love will always be remembered but it does not mean they are our best love... just first.... someone has to be first.
I have lots of pictures of my first boyfriend.. and many memories... but honey that was... (read in full...)
Went out for a drink with a male friend but didnt tell my husband the friend was a man, should I tell my husband the truth?
Q. Hi, I am in a slight dilemma over something that happened recently. I am a happily married woman with a stepson, and I have many male friends at work. They are just that, friends, and I would never think of doing anything with them that could harm ...
A. 5 March 2012: why did you feel the need to lie in the first place... that's what you have to look at.
if it was perfectly harmless you had nothing to hide.
perhaps you are attracted to this co-worker and feel that it's not right to find another man attr... (read in full...)
Can I get in trouble if I stop my son from going to his father's house? I feel uncomfortable with it because of the way he treats my son
Q. Me and my child's father split up about a year ago due to him trying to hit me and punching a door while holding my under 1 at the time son, He denies this completely and has had regular access since we split. He see's his child about 3 times a ...
A. 5 March 2012: Here in the USA child support payments have NO bearing on if a Non-custodial parent can see their child.
if they don't pay CS (even if they are supposed to) they can still see their child. If the custodial parent prevents it then they can go t... (read in full...)
I know he treats me badly, so why do I still have feelings for him and keep coming back for more?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for a year now. It has been on and off and he has gone back with his ex gf for part of it and so we weren't together then. So right now I'm laying in his bed but he's not here. He's at her house and I heard so much ...
A. 5 March 2012: You know he mistreats you and yet there you are in his bed waiting for him to return from the woman he really cares about…. YOU give him a lot of power… “he treats me like shit and makes me feel horrible” NO sweetie YOU LET HIM make you feel ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex anymore, I've been so patient but I wont beg for it! Now there is another woman ready and waiting, so what should I do?
Q. Amazing girl. Energy. Youthfulness. First 18months Average sex was 2 or 3 x a DAY for first year. Next 6m was 3/4 times a week Then we broke up for a number of reasons. Some jealousy and insecurity issues for me. Some nativity and insensitive issu...
A. 5 March 2012: stop making excuses for her because of her age... if she's not doing what you need her to be doing then end it.
... (read in full...)
I don't care about anything, is this normal?
Q. It it okay to have not care about anything? Its like i've lost interest in things over the years. It all started when I got rejected by my fist Love and ever since then I have been on a downward spiral with my inner self. At first I started to hate ...
A. 5 March 2012: Have you considered some therapy and/or counseling?
I think that you are in a vicious circle of low grade depression that feeds on itself and can easily be corrected....
are you walking through life?
work?
school?
sports?
do you ha... (read in full...)
He told me he loves me but if my income doesn't improve he is going to kick me out! Am I taking advantage of him? Or is he being unfair?
Q. I don't know where to begin. The man I'm in love with I think is bipolar. I'm in a sales job making very little money and unable to find something that pays better. I'm intelligent and have had past success but have been relatively poor and broke ...
A. 5 March 2012: You’ve tried to move out but he’s always stopped you but NOW he’s saying you have to leave if you don’t’ give him more money.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR this makes me mad. That’s BS. Totally. You give what you can towards the care and upkeep of your hom... (read in full...)
I cant talk to girls, so should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. 20 year old virgin, should i hire an escort to lose my vcard i am socially awkard and i have never spoke to a girl casually, and hardly speak to guys wither, except when im buying something or business like that.I do have an athletic body an...
A. 5 March 2012: Yep what Cindy said… you hire an escort to lose your V-card and then you are not a socially awkward virgin you are a socially awkward NON-virgin with all the same problems. IT won’t solve anything….
IF you want a “sensual massage” I am assuming... (read in full...)
My friend bullies me!
Q. This is going to be kind of long, so I apologize ahead of time. I'm 20, my friend is 22. She gets mad at me for everything and anything you can imagine. I don't hang out with her, because I know the outcome. The only way we communicate is via text, ...
A. 5 March 2012: She is not a friend.
Block her from your life. That means you call your phone company and find out how to BLOCK a number then she can't blow up your phone.
you can't just IGNORE you have to block.. she'll get the message and stop.... (read in full...)
I don't like having to play the role of Drill Sargeant!
Q. Okay, my girl and I have been together for almost 2 years. (im 26 shes 21) The relationship is good except that we argue about her taking initiative of her life...she has narcolepsy and I've read up on it, I understand its a disease thats beyond ...
A. 5 March 2012: You’ve posted before about this haven’t you? It seems very famailar…
My partner is currently unemployed and depressed about it so very little is getting done at home….and I feel angry about it… I don’t get why we have to do the household chores t... (read in full...)
Why do these men say they are not ready for a committed relationship?
Q. Can someone please give me an educated answer on this one? Preferbly a man?!! Why when you have been seeing or dating a man, spending all of your time together, getting treated like a queen, being introduced to the friends, being included...
A. 5 March 2012: I am not a man but I’ve dated LOTS of them.. and married a few too…
The problem with “I’m not ready for a long term commitment” is that it leave off the critical part “WITH YOU”.
I think that they “try you on” and see if you are a good f... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend thinking of another girl when he masturbates?
Q. I found out from a friend that my when my boyfriend masturbates he thinks of me. But he also said he thinks of someone else but that person doesnt mean anything to him and I mean more than the other person Well if that person doesnt mean anything ...
A. 5 March 2012: why is a third party passing such personal information back and forth between you guys?
FWIW I think of my man when I masturbate but i also think of other folks too... who or what you THINK of is not indicative of WHO you love... (read in full...)
I hope I am not being too hasty!
Q. I met someone from online about a month ago. He lives about 3 hours away. The date seemed to go well and we basically have either been texting or talking each day. He also has a son which takes up alot of his time which is understandable. He is a ...
A. 5 March 2012: By the illegal stuff I assume you mean marijuana not crack or meth…. Because if it was crack or meth I’d be inclined to say RUN now… those are some serious addictions…
Roommates are often JUST that…roommates.. not necessarily friends…
If you ... (read in full...)
My ldr bf what his intentions to me. and where do we stand now?
Q. im in a ldr and my boyfriend is 15 years older than me his nice guy we had ups and down to be in this hard long distance relationship,before we been together as bf/gf we started we talk to regularly on skype everyday we have different time so ...
A. 5 March 2012: Wow… where did “stupid bitch” come from? You have not said anything that indicates that he mistreats you…
How far apart are you?
How often do you see each other
What’s the plan to close the distance?
If you are LDR and have no plans to... (read in full...)
I'm 35, is it wrong to pursue a relationship with a 20-year-old guy?
Q. well, this is a little weird for me. telling this story. im turning 35 this guy who really likes me is turning 20 in a couple weeks.never met but we talk over the phone, facebook hotmail,and x box live. i never hit on him. but it turned out after ...
A. 5 March 2012: Do not live your life based on what you think OTHER People may say or think.
I am 52 and my fiancé is 38. Thankfully for us he does not want his own kids and my kids are grown so there is no real parenting for him to do.
IF he is happy and ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: I agree that you should follow the parents rules.
I also would not be thrilled with 18 wanting to date 15
bide your time... continue to be her friend as best as you can.. ask her parents if you can spend time with her IN THEIR COMPANY...... (read in full...)
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