Like what
she writes?
... Add *o_Very_Confused to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *o_Very_Confused a private message | | *o_Very_Confused's Ratings | |
| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
Do as I say not as I do |
|
| Latest articles: How to get many answers to your question.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
25 November 2012: So many times folks submit good questions but, get few answers. It's very frustrating to have an important topic you need advice on and not be able to get it. While talking with friends is easy to get to what you need, asking in written form can...
Am I Co-Dependent?
No replies yet... 24 October 2012: So often folks will ask "am I co-dependent" or will label someone "co-dependent" There was a period of time that it was the "popular" diagnosis of mental health disorders. I often wondered if I myself was co-dependent. I read many books ...
Is my Long Distance Relationship worth it?
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
6 December 2011: Being in a relationship where you have regular face to face contact is difficult enough. Being in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) is more difficult. Local Relationships (LRs) require a few things; Honesty, Trust, Commitment, and ...
How you can tell someone loves you
This question has 3 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
23 November 2011: So many times we see folks here saying "I know he loves me he tells me he does all the time" “But” I want to scream, “but how does he SHOW you he loves you” because I learned that WORDS without ACTIONS are meaningless. A partner that says “I lo...
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
This question has 24 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
30 September 2011: Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
|
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 13 May 2012: My first husband's proposal was "if i don't commit to you I will lose you".... I stupidly married him.
I loved him and wanted him to want me... I just went on my way and lived my life I did not give him "the talk" or ask about our future..... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont let me speak to any guys, not even to help out my friends!
Q. Hiii dear cupid..my question is why boyfriends are so possessive..im in a relationship..my bf is kind such a lovely guy..we met online on facebook..he doesnt allow me to talk with any boy..i accept this but there was a friend of mine who want my ...
A. 10 May 2012: "he doesn't allow me"
no you let him make the rules.
HE does NOT own you... he does not have the right to "allow" you to have friends or not.
either you tell him to suck it up and deal or you accept that he is going to keep you in a box and... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 10 May 2012: well that means he is 24-29 and to be honest at low end of the range (24) he may not not for sure... (to give him the benefit of the doubt) but I have found that even when young men when they KNOW, they know and they act...
does not mean it won't... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 10 May 2012: Ah so it is psychological... you are able to get erect...
that does make a difference...
you still need to talk to her and tell her exactly what you told us that you are not happy about it and that you still want her... "the spirit is willin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont let me speak to any guys, not even to help out my friends!
Q. Hiii dear cupid..my question is why boyfriends are so possessive..im in a relationship..my bf is kind such a lovely guy..we met online on facebook..he doesnt allow me to talk with any boy..i accept this but there was a friend of mine who want my ...
A. 10 May 2012: I agree with Tisha he does NOT trust you. His behavior is NOT healthy.
And why is it ok for him to be angry with others? He takes his anger with YOU out on them? This is NOT right.
This is NOT a healthy relationship... you are not a po... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: oh and you should know that my grandfather and grandmother had an active sex life well into their 80s so ED is not necessarily part and parcel of aging..
I agree a second opinion and workout are called for.... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: Again OP do you ever get an erection in the middle of the night or in the morning????
if the function to get the erection is there (as evidenced by the morning glory) that says one thing..
IF YOU DO NOT EVER get any erections then would you d... (read in full...)
What can I do to save my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have three beautiful children together. Over the years we've had ups and downs like most couples but recently its been getting worse. I have gained wait since the birth of our last child who is about ...
A. 9 May 2012: Ok… I’m much more comfortable with you wanting to lose a bit for you. At 5’3” 130 may be too low for you… it depends on your musculature, your bone density and how you carry the weight. At 5’2” I am skeletal at 135 pounds.. but my bones and ... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 9 May 2012: ah so he led you on...
that's sad.
I'd like to advise you to end it with him (easier said than done I know).... it's only going to cause you pain if you have feelings for him.... (read in full...)
I know I am the only woman he is seeing but I cant stand his online flirting! What should I do?
Q. What do I do been with this guy for 16 months friends with benefits, I have feelings for him but not in love with him, I cannot get him to show affection, he wants a relationship wants me to act as a normal friend should and wants no committal, he ...
A. 9 May 2012: What do you do?
Well you have feelings for him but he’s not meeting your needs because while you say you don’t love him you would like him to be affectionate with you and he is not. He wants to sleep with you but not commit to you. What do ... (read in full...)
My friends and family always seem to call me when I'm with my boyfriend! Is it rude to tell them not to call me when I'm away with him this weekend?
Q. It seems like everytime I hangout with my boyfriend my friends and family all seem to call and text me. Sometimes it is just a weird coincidence. My one friend likes to call me a lot. I plan on staying with my boyfriend this weekend. My question is, ...
A. 9 May 2012: just don't answer the texts that are not emergencies and put the phone on vibrate if you are afraid of missing calls that don't leave messages and then check your phone every few hours... leave it in your purse.
we do not have to jump every t... (read in full...)
Would it be okay to ask my boyfriend who's texting him so late at night, or is it none of my business?
Q. sometimes really late at night (2-4 am) I can hear my boyfriend's phone go off (text message sound on an iphone). this has only happened a few times, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. would it be okay for me to ask who is texting him so l...
A. 9 May 2012: my phone gets texts when facebook updates no matter what tie of day or night.. also auto texts from dentists and doctors and my calendar reminders...
but if you are close enough that you are sleeping together by all means ASK.
just be prepa... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 9 May 2012: oh and if ALL the guys you meet are like this, sit back and take a look at what you are contributing to this?
are you being physical with them too soon?... (read in full...)
Is he just missing what he had, or does he really think we can try again?
Q. Does he just think we can.get back.together forget the past and play happy family's? My.ex and I broke up 6 mths ago. It was I who ended.it as he hadn't treated me very well during our 8 yr relationship. To cut a long story.short, we had 2 kids. He ...
A. 9 May 2012: he probably misses what you had
he wants to try again
BUT he's probably not going to change... I'd be very wary of letting him back in..... (read in full...)
I'm dating 3 guys and having sex with them all!
Q. well im currently dating 3 guys and have sex with all, im not proud of it , but i was the average good girl who loved a guy with my all, and in return he cheated and caused lots of heart aches,anyhow i started of as friends with all and well, i feel ...
A. 9 May 2012: if you are dating three i hope you are honest with all three.
if none of them stick out enough to be THE ONE for right now... then keep looking for someone.
the right one will come along
but the key is you must NOT lie to anyone about it.... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 9 May 2012: While men are tied to their jobs, most men I know just want to be working and contributing, they don’t’ need to be the one making more which is good cause it’s kind of hard to top my salary. I will always make more than my partner. He wants to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont let me speak to any guys, not even to help out my friends!
Q. Hiii dear cupid..my question is why boyfriends are so possessive..im in a relationship..my bf is kind such a lovely guy..we met online on facebook..he doesnt allow me to talk with any boy..i accept this but there was a friend of mine who want my ...
A. 9 May 2012: Not all boyfriends are possessive. Those with self-esteem and trust are not possessive.
How is not allowing you to talk to your other friends lovely?
Why do you accept this controlling possessiveness?
Why does he have your facebook pas... (read in full...)
Do most relationships end when one of you goes to college/university?
Q. I met a wonderful girl though a friend 4 months ago, and that was it. We see eachother most nights and all weekend and it's just great. I'm really fussy but she is just perfect and she tells me i am the perfect guy that every girl dreams of. Her ...
A. 9 May 2012: You're jumping the gun. So she's going to uni. it's a 20 minute drive and you have a car...
how about you wait and see what happens?
After all Lou is not your ex....... (read in full...)
I'm concerned over boyfriend's behavior when he knew I was grieving
Q. Dear all, Last week I returned home and dicovered my beloved cat had died in his sleep. I was heartbroken and still am but was also upset was my boyfriends reaction. I texted him to let him know and all he replied was I'm sorry hope you're ok. ...
A. 9 May 2012: I am so sorry for the loss of your cat. It's always sad to lose a pet.
I am a bit pragmatic about it.
You sent a text. HE replied with the same. IF you wanted him to call you, you needed to say "could you call me I'm very upset"... you c... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 9 May 2012: Congrats to you for entering a new stage. Thanks for the update...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ready to lose his virginity to me, but I'm not ready! What am I supposed to do?
Q. I'm a virgin and a teenager. My boyfriend is also a virgin but he's ready to lose his virginity to me. But Im not ready. And he gets sexually frustrated. What Am I suppose to do?...
A. 9 May 2012: JUST SAY NO
and if he can't respect that and he bagers you then you need to consider ending it...
if you are not ready and you know it (and BTW GOOD FOR YOU!) and he can't respect that then he's not ready for a relationship.... r... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 9 May 2012: it's easy to have sex with someone and not have to lay out money or spend time or make an effort...
in other words you are good enough to fuck but not good enough for mom, or friends...
... (read in full...)
LDR not working and I've met someone closer. Do I end things?
Q. Hey im 20 yrs old,,im in this dilemma,i have been dating my guy for the past one year but it doesnt seem to work due to the long distance,we rarely meet,like twice in a year,i met this guy in the city i live,i liked him and i decided to give it a ...
A. 9 May 2012: You are hurting him by cheating on him and lying to him. IF you want to wait to work it out with him in September you can end it with the local guy now. EITHER way you have to be honest with BOTH of them and let them know that they are not the ... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: A tankini with a thong bottom and a low cut top to cover her tummy? so she's got tons of cleavage and butt cheeks ok?
OP you need to chill... it's NOT a reflection on YOU if your mom is hot enough to wear a bikini... heck I wish I had the nerv... (read in full...)
Have you ever wished your girl would ask you certain questions?
Q. Hi guys, I am currently dating a middle-aged man (he is 55 and I'm 34) and I would like to know how to make our conversations interesting, especially to him. For men who are in the same age bracket as him, what topics would you be interested to ...
A. 9 May 2012: Perhaps you should stop thinking of it as MEN want and figure out what HE wants as a person… I’m one of those folks that will respond to questions but often do not know what to say free-form…
Also being interested in someone is fine… but CHEMISTR... (read in full...)
Self esteem problems, especially around my fiance's thin, beautiful friends!
Q. I have some big problems with self esteem. I am 20y/o and engaged to a lovely young man who I love dearly. We have a fantastic relationship. My problem is about his female friends. He's the sort of guy who has primarily lady friends but never dates ...
A. 9 May 2012: 1. Let go of the guilt and the shame. Yes you are responsible but we all make mistakes. Just learn from it and work your hardest to be as healthy as you can be. This is not about being beautiful or thin… it’s about being healthy.. And carrying ... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: Dorothy Dix is correct. Smoking, drinking and excess weight can affect erections. IF you smoke you need to quit… same with drinking. Several things I can think of:
Have you tried Viagra and Cialis?
Do you wake up with an erection? ... (read in full...)
This is my second marriage, what's the right way to go about it? Is it inappropriate to make a registry,have the shower, get the big dress, have the ceremony with attendants, and the traditional reception?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married. We are so excited!!! The problem is. This will be my 2nd marriage and his first. I don't know how to approach the planning process. My fiance and his family want to experience all the joys of a first time ...
A. 9 May 2012: I personally say GO FOR IT. I would make sure that folks who gave to the first wedding are aware that you don’t expect gifts from THEM again… it’s not right to ask for gifts from folks more than once for a bride. But the groom has all new folks so ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 9 May 2012: If you want marriage and family and he is still not sure after 18 months of being together then I think you were right to ask. There really is no right and wrong. It's what works for you. Clearly you needed to know so for YOU it was the right ... (read in full...)
What can I do to save my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have three beautiful children together. Over the years we've had ups and downs like most couples but recently its been getting worse. I have gained wait since the birth of our last child who is about ...
A. 9 May 2012: yep you should weigh and measure food
and cheese is high in calories so it adds up fast...
low fat string cheese is good but only once maybe twice a day
focus on lean protein (fish and poultry) fruits and veggies.
make sure your g... (read in full...)
Which is worse, snooping or flirting?
Q. This is a bit of a weird question so I apologise in advance... My husband is a mechanic and works in a small village where everyone knows each other well and everyone is friends with everyone. However I am what's called a city slicker and have a few ...
A. 9 May 2012: Snooping 100% is way worse than flirting.
I flirt. Constantly. My fiance knows this and likens it to my breathing...
BUT my flirts are all INNUENDO.
My flirts are always with friends who know me... and flirt back usually
MY flirt... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 9 May 2012: we BOTH pay for everything.... that's how I was raised.
both paychecks go into a joint account
all bills are paid out of this account
each person is given a certain amount of spending money (in our house we go on an as needed basis because ... (read in full...)
What can I do to save my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have three beautiful children together. Over the years we've had ups and downs like most couples but recently its been getting worse. I have gained wait since the birth of our last child who is about ...
A. 8 May 2012: Eating more frequently would help you. How overweight are you? Is he being unreasonable? Personally I would not tolerate a man who was that picky about my weight…
If you don’t’ eat frequently enough your body thinks you are in a famine a... (read in full...)
Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?
Q. I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one ...
A. 8 May 2012: I have two tatts and I don't regret them.
one on my thigh and one on my shoulder
I wouldn't get one on my butt...
and I didn't get them till I was well over 40.. my body had sagged about all it was going to sag in those locations....
I ... (read in full...)
Reconnecting with a lost half brother isn't going as I expected
Q. I located my half brother we share a mother. He is 4 yrs older than me we have been exchanging emails now that he is back from afghan and deployment. We have never met he hasnt seen our mom in 20 years. I have been filling in the gaps for him and ...
A. 8 May 2012: did he even know he had a half sister?
why hasn't he seen your mom?
hes' polite and replies but he may not want more....
he may not want to stir up something he did not know about...... (read in full...)
My friend wants to leave his controlling wife but now she is pregnant
Q. My best friend marriage is a disaster, he always loved another women but still married his current wife. She know about his feelings and was sure that he will get over it. But last year it was very hard so he was going to break up with her and get ...
A. 8 May 2012: the best way to help your friend is to listen to him when he wants to vent about it.
DO NOTHING.
SAY NOTHING
JUST LISTEN
when he asks for advice you shrug your shoulders and say "I got nuthin... you have to figure this out for yourself... (read in full...)
Connection with fiance is lost and now I've slept with his friend
Q. hi everyone this gets really complicated! a previous question i asked helps to explain the background of our relationship. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/amnesia-stole-four-years-of-my-life-and.html i am supposed to be getting married t...
A. 8 May 2012: There is always a way out
Marrying for the child is not a good idea.
YOU are not happy. Do not marry him. My cousin canceled her wedding THREE WEEKS before the huge event. She never regretted it.
You feel trapped. this is not the feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to spend time alone with me
Q. I can't tell if my boyfriend wants to hang out with me or not. Pretty much weve been together for almost a year, and until now we were both at diffrent colleges two hour driving distance away; so this is the first time we are together in the same ...
A. 8 May 2012: I agree with YouWish... it sounds very much like he's not as into you as you are into him.
While this will be painful I suggest you stop rowing your relationship boat. Stop making the effort to plan things. Stop contacting him. Yes you run ... (read in full...)
Have you ever wished your girl would ask you certain questions?
Q. Hi guys, I am currently dating a middle-aged man (he is 55 and I'm 34) and I would like to know how to make our conversations interesting, especially to him. For men who are in the same age bracket as him, what topics would you be interested to ...
A. 8 May 2012: Read-the-Signs gave excellent information... if you have to WORK at conversation then there is something not quite right..... (read in full...)
Have you ever wished your girl would ask you certain questions?
Q. Hi guys, I am currently dating a middle-aged man (he is 55 and I'm 34) and I would like to know how to make our conversations interesting, especially to him. For men who are in the same age bracket as him, what topics would you be interested to ...
A. 8 May 2012: Honey I'm 52 my fiance is 38... we talk about what interests us. I am betting that what interests your man now is the same stuff that interested him at your age...
... (read in full...)
Things were going great with my MM until he separated?
Q. Have been having a relationship with my married boss for the past 4 years. It's a long story how it came about, but short version is it wasn't planned. We just got along well and he persued me first then we slept together and it went on from ...
A. 7 May 2012: You were his gateway to getting out of a marriage. He just needed to know that he was desired by someone other than the woman he was married to.
You do not wait
you do not confront (you have nothing to confront him about)
I would strongl... (read in full...)
No sex drive since the baby arrived -- should I tell him to get his needs met elsewhere?
Q. Ok so I had a little baby girl about 9 months ago. And since then Ive had about zero sex drive. I get horny occasionally but im just not in the mood. This has put a serious strain on my relationship with my fiance. I know he has liked our mutual ...
A. 7 May 2012: NO! just NO... it will ruin the friendship and your relationship.
have you talked to your GYN about this because it's NOT normal to go from 60-0
yes you will have a bit of a decreased drive due to exhaustion and hormones but by 9 mo... (read in full...)
Why does this girl think I'm ugly?
Q. So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my ...
A. 7 May 2012: depends on the mustache.
if it's fully formed (not thin and wispy) and you keep it neatly trimmed it's fine.
if it's a "teenaged boy" mustache... then shave.
hair... long or short I don't care as long as it's well kept. trimmed and clean... (read in full...)
LDR not working and I've met someone closer. Do I end things?
Q. Hey im 20 yrs old,,im in this dilemma,i have been dating my guy for the past one year but it doesnt seem to work due to the long distance,we rarely meet,like twice in a year,i met this guy in the city i live,i liked him and i decided to give it a ...
A. 7 May 2012: have you told him you are in love with someone else?
very long distance only meeting every 6 months is no way to have a relationship?
who's planning on moving and ending the distance gap? and when?
... (read in full...)
Do women like rough skinned hands?
Q. Hi guys,I would like to be consulted about this thing. Recently, I'm into workout with the technique, bar pull-ups. My palms and fingers seems very roughen, coarser with some rash and blister, totally very rough. But I really like my palm like that ...
A. 7 May 2012: I would not want rough hands on my partner.
if you have to have rough hands due to your workout regime or your job, i suggest weekly manicures to keep your nails as clean and smooth as possible.
also lotion several times a day...
ther... (read in full...)
LDR not working and I've met someone closer. Do I end things?
Q. Hey im 20 yrs old,,im in this dilemma,i have been dating my guy for the past one year but it doesnt seem to work due to the long distance,we rarely meet,like twice in a year,i met this guy in the city i live,i liked him and i decided to give it a ...
A. 7 May 2012: you need to break up with your LDR guy ... (read in full...)
Do other people masturbate weekly? Use lubricant?
Q. im only thirteen but i masturbate up to 14 times a week usualy to the point of an orgasam and i often use lubricant to help prevent friction. I would like to know how much other people masturbate weekly, dose it end in an orgasam every time, do you ...
A. 6 May 2012: I agree with Person12345
lube is fine
if you are doing it say to wake up and to go to sleep
it sounds perfectly normal to me...
if you give up activities to stay home and masturbate, then it's too much
and yes you are a bit young ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is marriage material yet I feel threatened by his intelligence and lash out at him
Q. My boyfriend is exceptionally intelligent. I'm a neuroscience major (4th year), and worked in a lab doing research in the summer of my second year. The study was related to IQ -- regardless, it required each participant take a standardize 30 m...
A. 6 May 2012: I have to admit that MOST of the very intelligent people I know have LOUSY social skills....
honey you have him on a pedestal and when he falls off it then you can start having a real relationship with him.
He's not magic... and trust m... (read in full...)
She wants to move her dog in!
Q. my girlfriend moved in with me 5 months ago now she wants to move her dog in i think its a bad ideal dogs need to be kept outdoors or atleast thats how i feel about it help...
A. 5 May 2012: dogs belong on the bed not outside.
if you don't like her dog then end it if she's not willing to give him up.
I gave up my dogs for various reasons but they are with folks that i see so I see the pets and it's better for them....
you ca... (read in full...)
What can I do to save my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have three beautiful children together. Over the years we've had ups and downs like most couples but recently its been getting worse. I have gained wait since the birth of our last child who is about ...
A. 5 May 2012: You can't really do anything to save it.
The fact that you are doing everything you can to reclaim a body that produced three children in 6 years should be more than enough.
the fact that you gave him three children and he's complaining abou... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 15 January 2012: DO NOT GIVE HIM YOUR SOCIAL!
do not make any legal commitments with him.
honey he's not worth the air he breathes.... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 4 January 2012: Six months after you asked you are still at it with him… it’s so hard to do what we know is right isn’t it?
I get it. I do. My heart aches for you that you are so torn and think so little of yourself that you feel you are worth this lousy be... (read in full...)
I thought he was the perfect guy but all his excuses are making me doubt that.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3yrs., we met on a dating site, he lives about 3hrs., away from me. The question is 1. He always has an excuses for not visiting on holidays(says he dosen't like to drive on holidays, its too ...
A. 22 June 2011: Umm... this is NOT a relationship.... you are rowing a boat that's sinking...
you saw him over a year ago... he's ONLY 3 hours away?
Hon my boyfriend lives 2 hours away by car if it's not rush hour... it took me nearly 3 hours to get to him ye... (read in full...)
| *o_Very_Confused's friends
These are mutual friends, so *o_Very_Confused has
added them and they have added *o_Very_Confused!
|
