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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Am I being to insecure? Do you think he is thinking of me as more like a FWB?
Q. Am I just being insecure? Been seeing a guy for a few weeks. At first I could tell he was really interested. I have known him for years as an aquaintence, through friends and always thought he is a really nice guy. I didn't know he liked me this way ...
A. 25 August 2012: So very glad for this update! thanks for letting us know. I"m glad it worked out.... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012:
those are the only terms there are. To be honest I know that you would know if you had issues that required accommodations in school. If you are not sure, ask your parents.
OP let's start with this:
how far did you get in scho... (read in full...)
Is it over or is he just sweating me?
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I Have had a very rocky relationship with my BF. We had an argument last week in which I told him he is selfish, which he is. Usually, when we fall out , things kinda get sorted wihtin 2 - 3 day, (it' usually me who init...
A. 17 August 2012: Sometimes folks can't give an answer that will make you happy and their option is using NO RESPONSE as their answer.
... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: I have asked tons of questions and NONE have been answered. Do you have a DSM diagnosis? This means you have been evaluated for emotional and mental issues such as Asperger’s Syndrome, depression, bi-polar disorder or Autism. Had dinner with ... (read in full...)
Is it over or is he just sweating me?
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I Have had a very rocky relationship with my BF. We had an argument last week in which I told him he is selfish, which he is. Usually, when we fall out , things kinda get sorted wihtin 2 - 3 day, (it' usually me who init...
A. 17 August 2012: No sweetie.. he has NOT left you in the lurch...
YOU do not have to base YOUR decisions on HIS behavior.
NO answer is an ANSWER.... what exactly are you needing and/or wanting him to say?... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: “No woman will say yes to a man who wants a wife”…. INCORRECT.
I’ve said yes. FOUR TIMES… well three if you count the fact that this time HE wanted ME to propose… but OP, why do you think he wanted to get married? WHY do you think a man who did ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 15 August 2012: OP, do you even READ what we write? I was a mother before YOU WERE BORN honey. MY BABY is older than you… I was NEVER unsure of what I wanted. I am NOT getting married AGAIN to have children. I am way past that phase of my life… my fiancé ... (read in full...)
Curious about causes for divorce. Share your stories?
Q. I have a bit of a fear of divorce. You always hear how happy a couple is yet they end up divorced years later. I think about this a lot and hear all sorts of reasons for divorce from experts, money differences etc, but I'm really curious about real ...
A. 15 August 2012: I've been divorced three times.. sadly
divorce #1: we got married very young I was 21.. he was controlling and I had no clue how to deal with it... 7 years in, I said I wanted a divorce and he did not fight me... we have two children, they are... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that b/f has stopped using pet names and just calls me by my name?
Q. Dear all, Would you be concerned if your boyfriend stopped calling you pet names and replaced with using your first name instead? I noticed my bf of 8 months as started doing this. For example instead of hello or goodnight my darling/ angel/ ...
A. 15 August 2012: ROFL at Sageoldguy... I call my fiance 'shithead boy" sometimes...
we have pet names... but we use each other's names too.
if you are concerned ask him.
maybe he called you honey sweetie or love because he had more than one GF and didn't ... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 15 August 2012: “he works hard, cooks for me, cleans and I don’t have to work”
So what are YOU bringing to this relationship other than being his handy penis holder???
IF he wanted to divorce her honey he would have done it.
I have learned in my many years... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: Chigirl made me think about this.... (doesn't she always)
we are not put OFF by skinny men although we may not find them the MOST attractive.
what's off putting is the attitude and self-esteem issues.
I'm going to scream this:
THERE I... (read in full...)
I'm angry that my partner was eyeing women in bikini's
Q. hi i want some advise bout something just want to know is it me over reacting or would you not be happy what it is myself and my partner took the kids swimming and i hate my body i am size 14-16 and i feel massive and feel like i look disgusting in ...
A. 15 August 2012: The problem is how YOU feel about yourself....
all people LOOK at other people.. it's human nature.
does he comment about them to you?
to others?
does he STARE
is he RUDE about it?
or is this just a cursory glance that you noticed?... (read in full...)
Will it work out if we start all over again on a stronger footing where I am no longer his Booty Call?
Q. Well after one year of hanging out with him, I expressed that I didn't want to be a "booty-call/fwb/F-buddy", that after all this time my emotions were involved. Here is the exact text I sent him ... "After 1year of this with you my emotions...
A. 15 August 2012: DONE... he slots you as a FWB only... if he didn't he would have made his move a year ago...... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm ready to start anything sexual with him yet, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am 14 and soon to be 15 in one month, and my boyfriend is 14 which he has just turned 14 but we are in the same year at school. We have been going out for a month on friday and it has felt like longer as we were 'seeing each other' a week ...
A. 15 August 2012: Adults do not talk about their sex life with other adults. His friend and your BF are being very immature.
YOU are not ready
YOU say NO
if your boyfriend blows a fit then you tell him goodbye (I know you won't but it's the wise thing to do... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 15 August 2012: Of course he does.
my story:
my (then) husband and I were in an "alternate lifestyle"
we had an open marriage and usually we played together. I allowed him over the years (no encouraged him) to seek other women due to his low self esteem a... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about planning an abortion?
Q. I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...
A. 15 August 2012: you should be doing what YOU need to be doing.. if it's being numb so be it.
If it's crying so be it.
if it's anger so be it.
What you FEEL is your personal business and do not let anyone tell you what you should be feeling.... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: I find very skinny men unattractive I'll be honest.
My current partner when we met was much thinner than he is now. He also preferred to shave his body hair and I found him to look prepubescent.
Once he switched to trimmed vs shaved and he... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 15 August 2012: First of all I never said you were wacko. By you saying that I said you were wacko that tells me that you think you are wacko and are looking for other wackos to validate your opinion.
I also don’t think your views of man/woman relation... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 15 August 2012: Thanks so much for the update! I’m so glad you are moving on and yet able to stay in contact with him. Interesting that his mom didn’t want him at home with her but was more than willing to use you as a care provider… Glad you got out of the ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 15 August 2012: Oh sweetie, I’m so glad you will be ok… You feel betrayed. You feel stupid. I know those feelings. Hugs to you… it will be better… I promise that.
You have my permission and encouragement to spend the next 6 weeks, crying and feeling sorr... (read in full...)
Like her personality but not fully attracted to her physically. Do I stay or move on?
Q. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now and I'll be honest when it comes to the physical attraction I just don't find her as attractive as I want to find a girl I date to be. I find myself looking at other women when...
A. 14 August 2012: If you don't find her attractive then you don't find her attractive.
I can tell you that my fiance did not like how I dressed... I've changed how I dress when I go out with him. He told me what he likes and he was told he could have say in what ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I cannot stand his personality any longer!!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but I cannot stand his personality anymore. When we first met, it was like a match made in heaven. We are so passionate with each other and I have never been in love with anyone else the way I am now with him. The problem ...
A. 14 August 2012: You will hurt him... he will make a scene and cause problems... it's the nature of breakups.
and you are wise to break up with him.
just tell him that it's not working out for you and that you feel it's time to move on
... (read in full...)
I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear.
Q. Hi guys So I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear. I am a doctor and at work I wear scrubs. He came to see me at work the other day and then said he could see my bra (the strap was showing so I pulled my top back ...
A. 14 August 2012: He's telling you his level of maturity... zip and none.
He's wrong... and it's his perception of life...
mature folks just accept that women wear things that sometimes will show a bra strap or two... and yeah if you look down a top you will see... (read in full...)
Is hubby into a threesome for us or for him?
Q. Ok so I have been with my husband 6 yrs and loving it. Well our love got a lil boring and we spiced it a lil which worked btw. We had a lil fun with another couple and I think were both ready to just do it with a. Single girl (threesome). I like her ...
A. 14 August 2012: I would tread lightly... an open marriage is what killed my last marriage... I thought we were happy... he set it up so that I had no way to make it work and he "left me" but he wanted out and was too chicken to say so.
Now I feel like the bad ... (read in full...)
Am I being to insecure? Do you think he is thinking of me as more like a FWB?
Q. Am I just being insecure? Been seeing a guy for a few weeks. At first I could tell he was really interested. I have known him for years as an aquaintence, through friends and always thought he is a really nice guy. I didn't know he liked me this way ...
A. 14 August 2012: “A FWB would just want to get down to it, no?”
NO…. FWB does not mean cold callous show up get fucked and leave…. It means you have no ongoing long term, permanent relationship. The first word in FWB is FRIENDS… friends can hang out and watc... (read in full...)
Is it over or is he just sweating me?
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I Have had a very rocky relationship with my BF. We had an argument last week in which I told him he is selfish, which he is. Usually, when we fall out , things kinda get sorted wihtin 2 - 3 day, (it' usually me who init...
A. 14 August 2012: why in the world do you need for HIM to end it? YOU can end it. In fact, you have... contact is over.
IF he contacts you, tell him "you didn't respond to me when I called or texted, I assumed it was over and moved on, now you do the same"
... (read in full...)
Preferably guys' opinions- Friendship between guys and girls, What do you think?
Q. I know a lot of experts on dearcupid.org think men normally don't befriend girls unless they want something more from the girls - either sex or romance. So what do you guys think about this?Do you agree that a lot of the time, guys and girls b...
A. 14 August 2012: In my experience, men and women CAN be friends.. but only if at least ONE of them is happily taken in a romance... it's better if both are happily married.... then it's a no brainer...... (read in full...)
Sex every other day for 2 months, but I'm not pregnant yet!
Q. Hi! I'm almost 32, my hubby is almost 34. We've been trying to have a baby for 2 months now, having sex every other day. We're both healthy and in good shape, don't smoke and don't drink alcohol. Unfortunately, after two months, I'm not pregnant and ...
A. 14 August 2012: The doctors say that after a year of trying you should speak to them but for the first year you just try.
Are you temp charting? You don't need to have sex every other day if you know when you ovulate....
it can start to be a CHORE to try to... (read in full...)
Am I being to insecure? Do you think he is thinking of me as more like a FWB?
Q. Am I just being insecure? Been seeing a guy for a few weeks. At first I could tell he was really interested. I have known him for years as an aquaintence, through friends and always thought he is a really nice guy. I didn't know he liked me this way ...
A. 13 August 2012: you are very much FWB...
... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 13 August 2012: So you don’t think that women have sexual needs or that men have emotional needs? How can a woman have a connection with a man that sees a marriage as a business deal?
You could not, in the scenario you present convince me that you could meet a w... (read in full...)
How can I make going down on my boyfriend more comfortable for myself and him?
Q. Im 18 years old and my boyfriend likes when I give him a blowjob. But he's too wide to fit in my mouth. He keeps trying to push me down farther but everytime I try my teeth hits him and I choke. So what can I do to make the situation more ...
A. 13 August 2012: when you are doing it are you putting your hand or hands on the base of his penis... it will prevent your boyfriend from pushing your head down more (I think many men try to do that)
use your hands and your mouth and your hands can be a buffer t... (read in full...)
How should I deal with online friend who proposed to me recently, but was uncomplimentary about my face? Should we break-up?
Q. My friend proposed me last week on friendship day. I'm 16 and he is 18. I accepted his proposal and we started dating. We know each other from 2-3 months. We had never met or talked before. I never showed him my pic before. I'm suffering from marf...
A. 13 August 2012: I think blocking him is the best idea... you can heal more quickly if he's not around poking "the wound"
... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love this young? Or am I just falling hard?
Q. I'm young, 15 to be exact, but there's this guy who is always on my mind. I've had feelings for him for maybe 4 months now, and I've never felt this way about anyone. He's cute, sweet, caring, so involved in his religion, though i'm not very ...
A. 13 August 2012: What do you think love means?
if it means wanting to be with someone, that's part of it.
If he came to you today and said "I like this OTHER girl and I want YOU to help me be with her" what would you do or say?
I think that you ha... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 13 August 2012: If you date someone and it doesn’t work out, you end dating them.. no marriage
If you date someone and it works out… marriage… not sure what the disconnect is for you OP…
And to be honest I Think that most of the women that answered you are marr... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a Gf to say sexy things in her sleep? Every night!
Q. My girlfriend makes sex noises in her sleep, it used to be every now and then, now its a nightly thing that wakes me up. Her history is quite promiscuious which probably adds to the paranoia, but we do keep a regular sex life. I know people can'...
A. 13 August 2012: well dreaming is normal.
making sounds is normal
the fact that you say they are sex noises concerns me...
if it was purely about lack of sleep it would not matter what she said.
but you said sex noises
and you brought up her previ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a Gf to say sexy things in her sleep? Every night!
Q. My girlfriend makes sex noises in her sleep, it used to be every now and then, now its a nightly thing that wakes me up. Her history is quite promiscuious which probably adds to the paranoia, but we do keep a regular sex life. I know people can'...
A. 13 August 2012: I think if the fact that she's making sex noises in her sleep bothers you, means you are not compatible.
If she made fighting noises in her sleep or said "must kill all humans" (something my fiance will say in his sleep).... would that be bett... (read in full...)
Can you please help me get him back and what indications would I see if he is coming back?
Q. dear all .... it was in 2009 my friend hooked me and this guy up from a site because i told her i wanted a boyfriend so then me and the guy dated and when i was 14 i didnt hear from him no more and me and the girl the one hooked me up with him we ...
A. 13 August 2012: It's three years hon, if he wanted to be with you he would.
I doubt he's coming back... it's probably time for you to move on.... (read in full...)
Why do men seem to prefer fellatio to intercourse?
Q. I would like to know one of two things. why do men get so much pleasure out of a blowjob and less out of sex? I also have a few fantasies. How to I communicate this to my boyfriend of five years? Will he think I'm weird if I want to try out som...
A. 13 August 2012: 1. SOME men prefer blow jobs to intercourse... SOME do not... I would think that blow jobs are EASIER for a man to get than to have intercourse as they tend to be the one setting the pace... and doing most of the work...
2. for fantasies, i... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a Gf to say sexy things in her sleep? Every night!
Q. My girlfriend makes sex noises in her sleep, it used to be every now and then, now its a nightly thing that wakes me up. Her history is quite promiscuious which probably adds to the paranoia, but we do keep a regular sex life. I know people can'...
A. 13 August 2012: Normal.
My fiance has whole conversations in his sleep....
are you sure they are "sex noises"
I think your paranoia and insecurity is showing...... (read in full...)
I can't be myself without losing him!
Q. A few weeks ago a lady posted the great post about not being able to be herself anymore. This is the situation with me. For about 3 years my husband has been very unhappy with me always saying that I am difficult, nasty etc etc. Because I knew he ...
A. 13 August 2012: If you are living your life pretending to be something you are not, you must be dreadfully uncomfortable and unhappy.
Is leaving the marriage an option?
I know there are TIMES when I get very quiet and hold back from discussing things w... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 13 August 2012: I have a question for you OP, why would you approach a woman you do not know and ask her to marry you?
What do you think that marriage is about?
If a man I did not know came to me and asked me to marry him citing financial security a... (read in full...)
Can a woman be impregnated by precum?
Q. hello just wanted to get a few opinions on my situation...I slept with both my bf of 3 years and some other guy around the time i got pregnant. just to be clear i hooked up with the other when i was single and we didnt use a condom he also said he ...
A. 13 August 2012: sadly yes.
you will need a DNA test for paternity... (read in full...)
How does an atheist overcome inter-faith dating challenges?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what your opinion is on inter-faith dating, specifically for atheists. How do I meet girls who are atheist or agnostic? Do you think girls care whether I’m atheist? My issue is that I really prefer to date girls who are li...
A. 13 August 2012: As a Jewish Agnostic who is partnered with an Catholic raised atheist, I can tell you that it's not as hard as you are making this out to be.
You just go out and you meet folks.. and after a few dates you will know where they stand religion... (read in full...)
Long distance stringing along?
Q. Met a guy 6 months ago, he knew I was moving West in a few months he fell in lone with me and I fell for him too. We spent 4 months together every night then I left for Nevada. We are 1700 miles apart he calls or web cam daily, says he misses me ...
A. 13 August 2012: You are 1700 miles apart...
who will be moving to end this distance gap?
if no one plans to move, why bother?... (read in full...)
I can't tell if this will work or not. Is he still interested in me since he ignored my text?
Q. I met a guy on last Wednesday at a bar. We clicked and he got my number. Texted me the next day good morning asking me to hang out. I agreed but ended up blowing him off. Made up an excuse the next morning saying my phone died. Later that day...
A. 13 August 2012: texting is no way to have a relationship.
texts get lost or forgotten.
you blew him off once.
i would contact him via phone (not a text)
and let him know you are interested but life is busy and you need to plan far enough in advance..... (read in full...)
The Ex looms large in our relationship. What can do to keep him in my life without pressuring him?
Q. I met this guy and he is amazing. We have gone on three dates and quite frankly I feel very comfortable with him. But we have one MAJOR problem. His ex gf. They dated for 5 years and broke up a month ago(he broke up with her but she's not ov...
A. 13 August 2012: I agree with HoneyPie.
if he still calls her back
if he still worries about her
and especially because they still share joint fiances, I'd be wary to get involved just yet.
He's not done with her emotionally... he needs more time.
I'd ... (read in full...)
He is 32 and I am 22. He flirts with me, a lot. Am I being played or is he trying to see what happens first?
Q. I have become attracted to someone and I know at least the physical aspect is mutual but I'm not sure of his intentions. He had a bad experience with another woman a few months ago and I just broke up with my boyfriend recently. I know neither one...
A. 13 August 2012: he told you that he is straight forward with girls when he likes them... he's not telling you that to see if you like him... sounds like he's setting boundaries.
I'd treat it as just a friendship.
do you work together? I'd be very very VERY c... (read in full...)
How should I deal with online friend who proposed to me recently, but was uncomplimentary about my face? Should we break-up?
Q. My friend proposed me last week on friendship day. I'm 16 and he is 18. I accepted his proposal and we started dating. We know each other from 2-3 months. We had never met or talked before. I never showed him my pic before. I'm suffering from marf...
A. 13 August 2012: Honey you have never met in real life. this is not a real relationship it's make believe...
you can't love someone you have not met much less not seen.
He's honest with you that your insides are beautiful but your outside surprised hi... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 20 July 2012: There is nothing I can add to what all the other wise and oh so more eloquent aunts have said. I just want to add my support to theirs and say we are all pulling for you OP
Ask your family to help you figure out how to get him out of your hou... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: If you talk to his mother she is going to lay such a massive guilt trip on you it will strip you of any strength you have gained here… WHY is this man not living with his family?
WHY are you the primary caregiver for a man you are not related to? ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: Op, your update says a lot…
He’s really very very disabled both physically and with a brain injury… You were NOT engaged but his MOTHER wanted it so that SHE would have HELP caring for this very disabled man.
I personally do not think tha... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 10 July 2012: Dear Angel90,
I realize that it’s hard to hear the truth… and I realize that kinder responses get better ratings and are received better… but to be honest I think of support much like an underwire bra… not always comfortable but often needed… ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 9 July 2012: Just because HE means more to YOU than a person you’ve never met…
Just because YOU think it’s a real relationship does not make it so.
How do you know he gets hurt if you don’t call him? Oh he tells you? And that carries so much weight… ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 9 July 2012: This is NOT a relationship.. this is you trying to build a relationship out of some bits and bytes of a computer screen...
STOP rowing your relationship boat with this man. Don't call.... get on with your life... make it a game to see how long... (read in full...)
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