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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Is stealing a shirt really such a horrible thing? Will this affect my job application?
Q. Hello again, I posted a question a few days ago about a test I had to take for a job. Well I passed the test, yay! But now I am into the background check and then onto a lie detector/polygraph test. I have a couple questions about this. One, has a...
A. 30 November 2012: Yay! congrats OP!... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 21 October 2012: just in case what?
if you are TRULY not interested in dating, then you won't need to know what the subtle signs are as you won't even notice them...
me thinks you are interested.... and that you think pretending you are not is the way to go... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 14 September 2012: I don't judge folks who don't have kids.
And I'm sorry you are feeling so hammered but I sense that you are bringing some of it on yourself...... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 13 September 2012: Thank you for the update… see it’s less than a week and you are starting to feel a bit better… I promised you time would help… don’t push yourself too hard too fast… with permission to mourn it takes some of the sting out… glad we could help!
... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: I don't know what ALL the girls will do
will the tall girls feel that way or just the tall redheads...
the ones that understand will understand
the ones that think you are blowing them off will think you are blowing them off.
but t... (read in full...)
This hot guy might be a player who thinks I'm easy
Q. Dear Cupid, I met this guy recently at hard rock cafe. In fact, i met this bunch of guys. Let me start from the beginning. My friend and i went to HRC on the weekend...we were just having some fun and chilling. My friend got a bit tipsy and i ...
A. 10 September 2012: well then just be yourself and if he treats you like property then don't see him again...
... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: Why does it matter if they want you... if you are not interested you are not interested and what THEY want is not an issue.
see to me, what that tells me is you WANT them to want you so you figure if you play it cool they will.... what's up wi... (read in full...)
How does one go about ending a marriage amicably?
Q. I've decided to go for a divorce with my marriage of 9 months. I can't talk to my wife and have not been laid for 3 months. This is crazy and she's driving me out of her arms. I've tried and tried to let her know that I'm not happy. I do well in ...
A. 10 September 2012: have you asked her what's going on?
for us it has come to a near complete halt because no matter what my guy does he will never satisfy me...
how old is your wife? I'm 52 now and my back is so very painful for me most of the time I just w... (read in full...)
Is my wife losing interest in me what is going on?
Q. I'm married almost a year to my wife , I am 44 and she is 21 . For the past 3 to 4 weeks I am noticing a dramatic change in her and I'm wondering is there something wrong or is she losing interest in me or what.? For the past few weeks she has been ...
A. 10 September 2012: she sounds VERY pregnant to me... has she peed on a stick?
what birth control do you two use?
... (read in full...)
I've become attached to my fiance's nephew
Q. I am 20 years old. My fiance, boyfriend, whatever you want to call him is 50. We are swingers, which means we're in an open relationship. now that the info is over, here's my story. I was driving home from my uncle's house one night and saw my...
A. 10 September 2012: Honey if you hate the lifestyle (and I’ve been a swinger in my past) then DON’T do it. IF you are unhappy then get out of the relationship…
I would get away from the whole family to be honest…
And as the older partner in my age gap re... (read in full...)
This hot guy might be a player who thinks I'm easy
Q. Dear Cupid, I met this guy recently at hard rock cafe. In fact, i met this bunch of guys. Let me start from the beginning. My friend and i went to HRC on the weekend...we were just having some fun and chilling. My friend got a bit tipsy and i ...
A. 10 September 2012: he just wants to notch his belt with a virgin...do NOT have sex with him....... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: well have women changed so much in 30 years that they are asking men out?
if they aren't asking you out then what's the problem?
if they are asking you out, then all you do is say
"I'm sorry I'm not dating right"
however the... (read in full...)
This married man suddenly ignores me
Q. HEY i feel confused i started talking to this married man and we started meeting up and he used to call and text me. the other day we were to meet up and unfortunatley he had to wait for me as i was talking to my friend because she appeard and i co...
A. 10 September 2012: maybe his WIFE found out and made him stop seeing a young thing on the side???
you delete his info from your phone
you block his email and facebook accounts
you get on with your life... NO CONTACT
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He tried to kiss me but I refused, he's apologised but should I see him again?
Q. I started to talk to a really nice lad on on fb I no him from around the village, I met up with him at about 2 in the morning with one of my other friends, and he tried to kiss me, however I felt really awkward and refused. He said 'sorry for being ...
A. 10 September 2012: of course he tried to kiss you at 2 am... only sluts and hookers go out at 2 am to meet strangers honey...
your mom let's you go out at 2 am? I'm sorry you have such a lousy mother... and if you snuck out... shame on you...
he's not ki... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is making me choose between her or my best friend!
Q. Ok so my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. About a year ago while we were still dating my best friend ( a girl) Hun out at her house and things got carried away. I touched up on her and touched her private areas a little bit. ...
A. 10 September 2012: FRIENDS I HAD made me choose... us or him (the man I am marrying)... to me it was a no brainer... you never go with the person that is making you choose.
IN your girlfriend's case, however I can see why she is making the demand.
it does NOT m... (read in full...)
How can we make time for each other in our relationship now we are in college?
Q. How can we make time for each other in our relationship? you think after 11 months we'd have this thing down but we don't. last year we saw each other every other day and were ok now we are in our junior year of college and this is a hard year f...
A. 10 September 2012: sweetie, if texting her every other day over the SUMMER is too much, she's using school as an excuse to ease out of the relationship...
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How does one go about ending a marriage amicably?
Q. I've decided to go for a divorce with my marriage of 9 months. I can't talk to my wife and have not been laid for 3 months. This is crazy and she's driving me out of her arms. I've tried and tried to let her know that I'm not happy. I do well in ...
A. 10 September 2012: have you told her you are not happy and want out of the marriage?
she may be relieved that you want to go and not sure how to tell you she's sorry too...
btw ROMANCE is not a requirement of marriage... and the comment "I have not bee... (read in full...)
Don't trust him, I'm ready to GO!
Q. I have been with my bf for five years now, and like most couples we have had to deal with various issues, in our case it is the issue of infidelity and trust, me being the one who doesn't trust him. He has stepped out on me several times, and each ...
A. 10 September 2012: I’m sorry you are hurting but to be honest you are allowing it.
You cannot end this without going No Contact. I’m sorry but you can’t WEAN away from this one. You have to have all or nothing.
He lies to you
He cheats on you (although he... (read in full...)
He says I'm a great woman, but he only wants a sexual relationship...what am I to do?
Q. He says that he doesn't see a serious relationship with me because, I'm not part of his culture and that when it comes to building a family, the way he children will look, they language they speak and the culture is very important to him, THUS he ...
A. 10 September 2012: I think he’s telling you words to make you think that he thinks highly of you.
I think he views you as a sex toy and handy penis holder nothing more nothing less
I think if you want a real relationship and a marriage and children you should leave... (read in full...)
He seemed very into me, so why did things change?
Q. A while ago i met a guy while out for a friends birthday. I started talking to this guy everyday (through text and over the phone cause we both work a lot and he lives about an hour away) he called me babe and always had nice things to ...
A. 10 September 2012: What happened was while YOU felt the connection he did not.
and he was just taking the chicken way out.
he has no clue how to be an adult and deal with conflict so he just made the choice for you.
you are better off without a man who... (read in full...)
Do I take a break from him or just keep hanging out with him and see what happens?
Q. Im falling for my best guy friend but im very confused on how he feels. See im 21 we dated on and off for two years when we were 14 it was one of those First Love type of things, and now where in are 20's we tried the FWB thing but i was confused ...
A. 10 September 2012: If you have told him how you feel and he's not stepping up to be what you want/need him to be, then he does not feel that way about you and you are better off for yourself going NO CONTACT.
you told him how you feel
he SAID he understood a... (read in full...)
What can I do about the unwanted gift my mother in law gave me? It disturbed my husband and I. What was I supposed to do?
Q. I'm in a situation that I'm not sure whether was a nice gesture or something very strange/kind of disturbing. I'm not sure how to prevent future uncomfortable incidents without hurting my mother-in-law's feelings. Some background info might be ne...
A. 9 September 2012: you did perfectly,
say thank you and when you get home toss them.
personally my bigger concern is their forcing you to participate in their chosen lifestyle and your husband permitting it. my understanding was that it was always optional.... (read in full...)
First time dildo users. How do I get over the fear of using one?
Q. I have been married for bout three years we like to try new things in bed. The topic of him using a dildo on me kind of scares me. I do not understand why i have given birth but can not for the life of explain y. How do i get over the fear of ...
A. 9 September 2012: if it scares you then don't do it.
why would you want to do something for him that scares you?
would you like to use an anal probe on him? if so how does he feel about it? would you want him to do something that scares him?... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend seems indifferent lately ...
Q. What do I do if my long distance relationship with my bf has become shaky because he doesn't seem to reply most to my messages.. Also we didn't talk for 4-5 days and when he replied he sad he had been busy.. He seems very indifferent and uncaring ...
A. 9 September 2012: If he is indifferent and busy then you need to be the same.
Have you two ever met in real life?
How long have you been a couple?
if he's not replying and he's indifferent he's probably pretty much done with the relationship and nothing you... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 9 September 2012: Something is going on with you personally that is causing everyone to ask about pregnancy and a man... seriously... maybe someone at work would inquire once in a while... I Know I used to tease one of the girls I work with that it was "time for a ... (read in full...)
He lasts for so long, and likes it so hard that I feel sore after sex. Any advice?
Q. hey, this may sound like a strange problem, as it's something many women wish their man could do. my boyfriend lasts too long in bed if you know what i mean.. if we want to have sex then we have to make sure we have atleast an hour and 1/2 fre...
A. 9 September 2012: I agree with Person12345 He probably is used to his own hand...
I've never had a guy go more than 15 minutes or so nor would I want it...
and for lube, try silicon based... it's more expensive but it doesn't need to be replenished as o... (read in full...)
We've broken up but how can we still be friends? Because I can't lose him!
Q. My boyfriend and I are broken up, but I'm so in love with him. Help me with my situation? My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. It was long distance for the last 2. He said that the situation was really hard, cause my mom made us break up, ...
A. 8 September 2012: just be there to listen to him when he contacts you...
and in the mean time you do your best to move on with you life... you have local friends and school and maybe a part time job.... these things all require attention and you should focus on... (read in full...)
I'm a plus size woman who has lost weight recently. Why has my Bf made no comments on my weight loss?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a plus sized woman with an average sized boyfriend. He makes me feel so confident with myself and always shows so much respect for me. I have been starting to lose a sigificant amount of weight, and he hasn't mentioned an...
A. 8 September 2012: Congrats on the loss....
I can tell you that my best girlfriend has been with me from size 8 to size 28 and all in between and now back to size 6 then up to 10 now... and she never said anything over the last 20 plus years...
I once a... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 8 September 2012: we always give ourselves 6 weeks to mourn and feel lousy and eat ice cream and cry and watch old movies and obsess about him...
after 6 weeks we have to pull up our big girl panties and go on with life.
It will come very very slowly and grad... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 8 September 2012: if you have been relegated to SUNDAY LUNCH... he's not as into you as he was.
I think you scared him with the comments about being long term etc..
... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 8 September 2012: I agree with Bond Girl 100%....
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What do I do about my FWB and how do I tell if he has feelings for me? Alternatively do I consider an LDR with the other guy?
Q. Hi hope you can help me with this it would be greatly appreciated I met a man who is in the army on a online dating site who is really keen and wanting a relationship with me but I am not sure how I feel about him. This is because I have h...
A. 8 September 2012: why can't you ask him face to face?
to be honest I would not give up a real life relationship for a fake online one.... and I'm sorry LDRS can work but in my experience you need to have spent time together IRL FIRST before you go to LDR.
... (read in full...)
What's going on with my FWB?
Q. Hi everyone I am in a really confusing situation at the moment I have been fwb with a man for over 2 year now I liked him in the beginning but the way he treated me my feelings for him went now I have been away abroad for two weeks and I came back ...
A. 8 September 2012: maybe it's just the way I think but to me he just wants to have an evening... i.e. sex.
the only way to know what he means is to ASK HIM... (read in full...)
Boyfriend leaving state on internship for 4 months, should I let go?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a year. We have been very happy together, rarely argue, and always have a great time in one another's company. We're both in college, and go to different colleges. We miss each other during the week, but set aside ...
A. 7 September 2012: Much ado about nothing.
FOUR MONTHS is nothing....
we rarely skyped... we emailed a lot
we talked on the phone
it's 16 weeks.. it's nothing...
my friends who are getting married next weekend... do not live in the same state... and wil... (read in full...)
After 4 years his personality has changed and we have no sexual contact. I'm so confused.
Q. I started talking to this guy in 2008 we met on myspace I was just getting out of a bad relationship when we started talking...when I first started talking to him we got along so good he was like a breathe of fresh air after my last relationship I ...
A. 7 September 2012: he does not want anything serious with you.
you really are "just some girl" he knows...
I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
Thinking about her sleeping with guys who have bigger penises than me is driving me mad!
Q. Ok so my fiancé and I had takin a break for 3 weeks about a year ago. During that she was hanging out with a guy she had texted when we had broke up for couple days a few months prior. The text were about how they wanted to hook up. But when we got ...
A. 7 September 2012: what is it with men and penis size?
y'all just don't listen to us... BIGGER IS NOT BETTER.
7 inch with girth would KILL ME... bigger I would not let touch me...
I swear if I could meet a man who had no penis but had an awesome tongue ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my daughter without pushing her away?
Q. Dear Cupid My daughter of 15 years is acting weird lately. I know she is sexually active, found used condom in her room. I want to make sure she is not pregnant. How do I bring up this subject without pushing her away from me. Already she hates me...
A. 7 September 2012: Well since you were a mere child yourself when you gave birth to her, does your mom have any influence???
why is she acting weird....
you could just buy a home pregnancy kit and leave it on her bed with a note that says "Please use this and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend was hitting on me so I told my boyfriend, he got angry saying it was my fault!
Q. i dont know if im over reacting. I used to talk to my bf's bestfriend just a conversation stuff like that than all of a sudden he starts hitting on me telling me to come visit him, have a few and mess around and telling me not to tell him about ...
A. 7 September 2012: you did nothing wrong.
I'm not sure I would stay with my BF if he didn't "take my side"
I'll tell you what happened in my life with something similar:
when my fiance and I started out we were FWB and very open about it... I'm older than... (read in full...)
I want to make him dump me so no-one blames me for ending the relationship, how do I do this?
Q. hello everyone. Its been more than a year since i have posted here.Well my life has been wonderful in the past year.The last time when i needed help it was about dating my cousin's ex and i got only one reply saying not to.But it was my bad that...
A. 7 September 2012: my now ex husband manipulated our relationship to the point that he left but he made ME look like the bad guy.... I will never forgive him.... (read in full...)
Why was my b/f having online sex chats?
Q. My bf of 12 years I caught havin online sex chats in yahoo and msn I was really pissed he thanked his lucky stars that I wasnt there in front of him when I found it he didnt come home for a week, he knew how I feel about cheaters.He also thought I ...
A. 7 September 2012: he did it because he could.
he did it because he truly did not see the harm in it
he did it because he did.
there may never be an answer you like.
I DOUBT strongly that he did it because you were not enough.
what answer do yo... (read in full...)
Friend's wife won't let him have contact with us
Q. hi actually we are a group of some friends best of buddies u would say!! now the problem lies with one of the friend he got married a year back. his wife is very much possessive of her like she has asked him not to talk to any of us speciall...
A. 7 September 2012: while his wife may be wrong... the thing is she's his WIFE and she is going to take priority over his friends....
he's made his choice clearly...
you must respect and accept that this is how THEY want to run THEIR marriage...... (read in full...)
I cant tolerate my boyfriend drinking or smoking, yet he keeps asking me if he can. What should I do?
Q. i am in a committed relationship since 38months. my bf knows that i dont like drinking.still whenever he parties with his friends he always calls and ask whether he could drink a little.i always say choose 1 and he chooses me. last month he d...
A. 7 September 2012: he asks
you say no
he does it anyway
you are fed up
he is not happy
i think it's time to consider ending the relationship as you have different fundamental beliefs about life...
you don't like drinking and smoking
and he does.
... (read in full...)
Is stealing a shirt really such a horrible thing? Will this affect my job application?
Q. Hello again, I posted a question a few days ago about a test I had to take for a job. Well I passed the test, yay! But now I am into the background check and then onto a lie detector/polygraph test. I have a couple questions about this. One, has a...
A. 7 September 2012: OP sounds perfect to me.... it may not get you the job but you now have a clear conscience.
Good Job.
... (read in full...)
I want to make him dump me so no-one blames me for ending the relationship, how do I do this?
Q. hello everyone. Its been more than a year since i have posted here.Well my life has been wonderful in the past year.The last time when i needed help it was about dating my cousin's ex and i got only one reply saying not to.But it was my bad that...
A. 7 September 2012: you can't live your life for some soon to be ex boyfriend's family...
bite the bullet and let him know that you are no longer happy.
to be honest it will hurt him no matter what... it will hurt him even if you turn in to an evil person tha... (read in full...)
We are still dating but havent called each other in months, should I just break up with him?
Q. I met this cute tall handsome looking guy at my birthday get together. Since then we had been talking and started dating shortly. I was so happy dating him cos he was everything I wanted in a man physically. I often dreamt about us having a future ...
A. 7 September 2012: "he buys his result at college" what does this mean?
you don't call each other for months but are still dating?
no you're not dating... if you get together and have sex now and then you are FWB nothing more...
if you are not attracte... (read in full...)
He is my one regret in life - should I call him even though he never answered my message on Facebook?
Q. I'm so confused. There was a guy I had been seeing a while back but I wasn't in a good place in my life and we stopped talking. We started talking again later on but I had just move over an hour away and had no car or anything so we never hung out. ...
A. 7 September 2012: you made the attempt.. he's read the message.. he knows where to find you...
let it go...
... (read in full...)
I'm a no-nonsense person, could this be mistaken for pride?
Q. I am a very proud person. I have tried therapy and combating this problem all to no avail as it often affect my relationship with other people. I remember being nice and loving when I was younger till my parents separated I became a monster. I never ...
A. 7 September 2012: I think you mis-use the word proud.
can you give me an example?
I'm proud
I'm no nonsense..
both of these are good traits..
rude is a totally different thing..
I need an example of what you mean to understand further.... (read in full...)
We both had a similar bad dream on the same night, does anyone have any ideas what this was all about?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice, or I'm not sure what I need, maybe some clue as to what this means... Alright, so last night, me and my fiance both had bad dreams, a little about us first; We've known one another for four or so years, it's been ...
A. 7 September 2012: something you two talked about triggered it...
it's just your brains trying to process stuff...
it's not that your "heart is lonely" or you are in pain....
just "cold feet" kind of stuff... I don't put much power in dreams...... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or is it all in my head?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend of one year got caught talking and seeing his ex girlfriend about a month ago I talked to Both I them and their just friends nothing happen, I told him that's fine but no more spending time with her. I should come first! But sense ...
A. 7 September 2012: do you need proof?
if his behavior is not acceptable regardless of if he is cheating or not do you need proof to end a relationship that is leaving you unhappy?
you say you love him very much... but why? what about him right now do you lov... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 7 September 2012: I'm so sorry OP.... it sucks...
remember: LIVING WELL is the BEST revenge... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 6 September 2012: 040392611401
You give it as long as you are willing to wait. A week? 2 Weeks.
IF I was supposedly SERIOUS with a guy and I didn’t call him and he didn’t’ call to check on me after 3 days I’d figure I was not that important to him. But tha... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 6 September 2012: LISTEN TO HIS ACTIONS not his words.
words mean NOTHING.
I have a fiance who NEVER says "I love you" but his actions tell me he loves me more than any man who has ever said it to me over and over.
if he does not contact you... end it...... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 5 September 2012: Honey if you are not happy with how things are you have to make the changes... IF you want him to call you more than you have to let him call you, that means not calling.
DO NOT be sitting around waiting for him to call however, get out and ... (read in full...)
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