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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 23 September 2012: hang in there OP.... it will get easier..... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 21 September 2012: NO. NO NO NO NO NO!
Sorry that was my first response…. I’m calming down now… of course he wants to “be friends”
He doesn’t want to tell you what’s going on….
You asked if he’s seeing someone and he said NO…. do you believe him? Wh... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 19 September 2012: GOOD girl.
stay strong it will pass in a few weeks.. the weekend will be hard... ... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 19 September 2012: I vote for not only ignore but block... makes it much easier...
... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the love of my life?
Q. I don't know what to do. My relationship has gone in a downward spiral from the minute it started. We met while I was visiting the East Coast from the West Coast. He moved to the West Coast for a job, and for me. We lived together in a nice little ...
A. 18 September 2012: OP,
I will tell you that right now I am getting married to a man who I love and adore...
he's got issues but he's functional.
I've got so many issues i have subscriptions... but I work and I'm functional
we both say that we are two b... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: If you feed them when they look at you with sadness and hunger they will never learn to feed themselves honey.
offer them a fry or something but not a full meal
and stop trying to save the world... the only part of the world you need to wo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is having white discharge 2 days after I fingered her.
Q. Alright so.. about 2 days, 16th September ago me and my girlfriend started to get a lil horny and after awhile i started fingering her, i think i could have precum on my fingers but i wiped it off and fingered her a few minutes after that. 18th S...
A. 18 September 2012: no she's not pregnant.
you really need to study how the human body works and how women get pregnant...
if you are concerned about her medical condition take her to a doctor..
she may have a yeast infection if there is heavy cottage ... (read in full...)
Should I make amends with my ex girlfriend who's getting married?
Q. i can't get over the fact that my first love, my college ex-girlfriend is getting married. I heard the news from my former roommate who was also a friend of hers. when she and i were together she was a bit apprehensive with the two of us having sex. ...
A. 18 September 2012: Nope... it's over and done...
the apology is to make YOU feel better not her...
she did the adult thing and ended it because at the time you were not compatible.
now you get to be an adult and stay away and out of her life...... (read in full...)
Why say you want someone then avoid seeing them?
Q. About 20 days ago i started to chat to a male i met on a dating website. We exchanged numbers and spoke spoke for a couple od days. He told me not to go back onto the website till we met and both agreed to take our photos off the site. We ...
A. 18 September 2012: “he told me not to go back onto the website and we both agreed to take our photos off the site”
THAT alone makes me call BS… It’s way too soon to know that you are not going to be wanting to see other people…. Taking your photos down was prem... (read in full...)
I feel too skinny - am I over-reacting to not having enough weight?
Q. I know that I should not care about what others think but this is coming from my neighbors, boyfriend, and friends.. I lose and gain weight really quick. I am 120 pounds and im 5'5 and I feel like I am perfectly fine. Everyone thinks I look super ...
A. 18 September 2012: you are thin but that's not the issue.
has your doctor pronounced you healthy? If so then that's all that matters.
yes men generally prefer curves... but if your body type runs slender... well then so be it.
I liked how I looked in clothe... (read in full...)
Did I push him away? 9 year age difference. How do I get things back on track? Please help!!!
Q. I think I pushed my "guy friend" away. About a week ago this guy that I have been friends with for 6 months finally admitted he was attracted to me. Since I've known him I have always been attracted to him and wanted to take it to the next level. A...
A. 18 September 2012: You did nothing wrong.
He is not that into you but if sex came up he'd not turn you down.
There is no getting things "back on track" as they never were on a track....
he's happy being single
he TOLD you he doesn't want to hurt you... (tha... (read in full...)
He is looking to move out behind my back and I'm afraid he's cheating on me again!
Q. My (gay) boyfriend and I have dated for more than a year and have been living together for one. Last month I found out accidentally that he has been looking for a room (he wanted to move out). I actually found that he has been looking for a room ...
A. 18 September 2012: oh Jason yes it hurts...
and it will hurt for a few weeks
then you get on with life and it hurts a little less every day you put one foot in front of the other and keep on moving.
Hugs to you for being brave enough to confront him and... (read in full...)
Does regular sex with a psuedo vagina have the same health benefits as any other form of sex? And is it OK to date while I am separated from my wife?
Q. My wife has recently left me, so I have been using a fake vagina for release. I was wondering if having sex with a psuedo vagina has the same health benefits as having sex with a real person? Also I was wondering if it is acceptable to have sex with...
A. 18 September 2012: OH the moral implications...
I was over and done with my marriage... we dragged it out for seven years on purpose so I would have Social Security Coverage in the event I did not remarry, or find a job that made as much money as he makes...
... (read in full...)
Proposal to share FB passwords to deal with Trust issues - too far?
Q. reached the point in our relationship where trust issues are flaring, now both trying to resolve the issues. We have come to the conclusion to share fb passwords, (have not done so yet) told her id seek help first before we do this. Just wondering ...
A. 18 September 2012: why are trust issues flaring...
at what point do trust issues flare in a relationship?
the point where someone is doing something that makes them seem not trustworthy.
sharing passwords won't do it... although in our house we know ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the love of my life?
Q. I don't know what to do. My relationship has gone in a downward spiral from the minute it started. We met while I was visiting the East Coast from the West Coast. He moved to the West Coast for a job, and for me. We lived together in a nice little ...
A. 18 September 2012: my first thought is has he applied for Social Security Disability... that takes a while to get approved but it takes some of the stress off..
as for "should I stay or should I go"
sometimes we stay as long as we can and that's too long, and... (read in full...)
Need a Older Man's Opinion
Q. I met a single man(in this 30's) last year from canada and we have been in contact for 1 year now. We only met once and had a great time and chemistry and everything(did not do anything with him at all, I'm more respectable). So, now he emails me ...
A. 18 September 2012: He's not interested in a relationship and he was forthright and honest about that.
he told you what he had in mind and it's not what you want.
accept his apology.... and move on...
what other option would you like?... (read in full...)
Don't know when or if I should tell this guy I'm a virgin.
Q. I've been reading a few questions people have asked on here about telling a guy their with that they are a virgin, well thing is i'm stuck on whether I should or even when. Because IF some guys see it as a conquest, then how do I know that he isn't ...
A. 18 September 2012: I think that if you are close enough that things are getting heated you MUST tell him before you actually go to bed...
and I agree totally with YouWish...... (read in full...)
Uncles: I need your thoughts please? He told me he didn't want a Gf but did want to hang out. Then an insulting offer. Now what? Do I accept him apology and move on?
Q. I met a single man(in this 30's) last year from Canada and we have been in contact for 1 year now. We only met once and had a great time and chemistry and everything(did not do anything with him at all, I'm more respectable). So, now he emails me t...
A. 18 September 2012: Ok apparently I’m the only aunt here that thinks like an Uncle… I can’t get the whole horror at a man that you have met, that you have been in contact with for a year now… probably having a lovely online flirtation, that you have a chemistry with ... (read in full...)
Does regular sex with a psuedo vagina have the same health benefits as any other form of sex? And is it OK to date while I am separated from my wife?
Q. My wife has recently left me, so I have been using a fake vagina for release. I was wondering if having sex with a psuedo vagina has the same health benefits as having sex with a real person? Also I was wondering if it is acceptable to have sex with...
A. 18 September 2012: I don't know that the health benefits are the same but the release of an orgasm in any way is always a pause that refreshes...
as for dating while separated... in my state there is no legal separation so you are either married or divorced... ... (read in full...)
What to do about my Bf? When we argue he completely shuts down and never has enything to say when we have issues to discuss.
Q. How do I fix our comunication problemes? My boyfriend and I are kind of stuck in a rut when we get into an argument he completly shuts down and never has enything to say. I try not to pressure him but he always seems to take serious discussions...
A. 18 September 2012: My fiance and I were LDR from December 2010 till January 2011 although after June of 2011 we were together more than we were apart.
we got in the habit early on of using email for stuff... I don't hear well on the phone and he got frustrat... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting? He thinks he may have got a girl pregnant before he me me. I don't think my heart can take.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together going on seven months now I love him and he is the best thing that has happen to me in a long time. He is as good as they come I couldnt ask for a better man. We were expecting our first child together but I mi...
A. 18 September 2012: I don't get what you are asking.
He may have fathered a child before he met you
he's being a man and stepping up to the plate with a DNA test
you are only with him seven months and have already gotten pregnant... (and I am sorry for your loss)... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: OP, I read your post yesterday and I didn't quite know what to say but after Tisha pointed out that you OFFERED I can say this.
USE it as a learning experience and stop offering.
I know you want your friends to be happy and healthy but no o... (read in full...)
I know this is not normal but...
Q. Had a few drinks but was not drunk - I was performing oral sex on my wife when things got very intense and before I knew i slipped further down. To my surpise my wife moaned in pleasure and asked for me to do it again. I accomodated and before I ...
A. 17 September 2012: analingus is lovely... I've received it and given it. and I would do it again if the situation arose....
anything done freely and lovingly between two consenting adults is not gross....... (read in full...)
Should I be talking to my husband's disrespectful family?
Q. I had to set boundary with my husbands family. They convinced my husband that our daughter was not raped when she was. On top of the rape, this was so bad!! They have been verbally abusive to my son. They have yelled at me, threatened me, and have ...
A. 17 September 2012: I would keep my boundaries from them.
I would also let your husband know that if he wishes to be in contact with his family that's his choice but that you will not be the one that endures his abuse when he's done with them.
So what I would... (read in full...)
My husband is lazy and I no longer feel compatible. How do I get him to understand it's over?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We have three children (age 13, 11 and 10). Our 10 year-old is a special needs child with autism. Before my husband and I got married we talked about a future in which I would work and he would take ...
A. 17 September 2012: would you two consider counseling? if he would make some changes would you want to stay or do you just want out?
and your husband needs to get with a job coach of some sort and help him figure out how to find some work...
if you ... (read in full...)
I am moving in with my female friend who I have deep feelings for. What can I expect to happen in this arrangement?
Q. Hey guys, I just got invited to move in with a good female friend of mine of 4 years (Which I have accepted). The thing is that I have had deep feelings for her a long time but she has said many times that nothing would ever happen between u...
A. 17 September 2012: you are not going to be happy living with a woman you want more than a friendship with..
there will be sexual tension...
if she does not see you as a sexual love interest she may not consider that running around her home in jammies or brale... (read in full...)
How do I get over my backstabbing boyfriend who cheated on me with my cousin?
Q. My question is, how do I get over the fact that my heart belongs to a lying, cheating, sneaky, manipulator bastard who had sexual intercourses with my younger cousin who is now 21 and pregnant by him supposely? I been knowing this guy for 2yrs now ...
A. 17 September 2012: you just found out last week...give yourself time to heal.
keep telling yourself what a jerk he is... what he did to you was wrong... and sadly your cousin betrayed you as well... a double whammy... ouchies...
it will take time to heal... (read in full...)
I already have trust issues. What do I do with this big lie of omission from my girlfriend?
Q. I am a middle aged man with trust issues. I have been dating a woman for over a year and the relationship has a lot of promise. When we started dating she told me that her last relationship ended "a couple of months ago" and "it was no big deal". ...
A. 17 September 2012: Everything Ciar said is correct.
her past is really not open for discussion unless she wants it to be...
but the fact that she HATES says she is not done with him.
HATE is not the opposite of love ambivalence is.... (read in full...)
He seems overly affectionate with his mom... It's a bit weird.
Q. Hi everyone! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs and lived together 2 and a half yrs! I love him very much! Im 22 hes 21 His parents live about 1/2 hour away and he sees them most weeks hes quite close to them, however recently ...
A. 17 September 2012: why shouldn't a boy compare his gf to his mom if he likes her and adores her...
I would think you would call me quite lazy now too.
I'm 52 now and my back is very severely damaged... sometimes my son's have to help me walk... so I would depen... (read in full...)
His status on Facebook is listed as single but we have been together for 5 months and he says he loves me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and it has been pretty tumultuous but I care for him and he says that he loves me. Does he mean it? That, I don't know. The one thing that is bothering me is that he has single as his status on Facebook, ...
A. 17 September 2012: words are cheap..
other than facebook does he show you he loves you?
have you asked him?
my fiance won't even have a facebook page because he does not want the drama...
if it bothers you tell him...
but you say:
"it's been... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...
A. 17 September 2012: he threatens you with it? THAT'S ABUSE
he does it without your consent? THAT'S RAPE
I'm going to assume it's anal sex as so many younger men think it's the be all to end all...
IF I'm accurate then I will suggest what you can do in lieu ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 17 September 2012: You do know that they do not have to listen to you...
if they strongly object to your behavior they can disown you and end contact with you.
better yet, be a man and tell them I'm an adult and I'm doing what I want... then do it... an... (read in full...)
How can I handle this awkward situation? met on X-box. She's 22 with a baby. I'm 16
Q. Hell. Ok so here is my story, i met this great person on a game on xbox live, a few months ago. we talked for a little while and added each other on facebook and have talked on there. By the way im a 16 year old guy and she is 22 (not sure if this ...
A. 17 September 2012: I wish I was 32 and my back wasn't so broken...
if wishes were horses, beggars would ride.... as the saying goes.
OF course you can remain friends... BE advised that any woman with a child who wants to be friends with a 16 yr old boy is pro... (read in full...)
How can I handle this awkward situation? met on X-box. She's 22 with a baby. I'm 16
Q. Hell. Ok so here is my story, i met this great person on a game on xbox live, a few months ago. we talked for a little while and added each other on facebook and have talked on there. By the way im a 16 year old guy and she is 22 (not sure if this ...
A. 17 September 2012: NO... she's too old and in a totally different place from where you are.
you are game friends that's all.
... (read in full...)
Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?
Q. Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months ...
A. 17 September 2012: Every time I was CLOSE so very CLOSE to finally letting my guard down and trusting my now ex husband he would do something stupid again to stroke his fragile ego...
so if you go a year or two and he does nothing, you may find that it was a "one o... (read in full...)
Is there any way to see how a man feels for you through the way you have sex?
Q. This might sound a bit random. But, is there any way to see how a man feels for you through the way you have sex? the reason i ask is that when me any my boyfriend first started having sex he would do it quite rough and fast.. but as the times ...
A. 17 September 2012: nope... men that have not loved me have been tender and wonderful lovers.
and my current partner... loves me more than anyone ever has but is the least tender or gentle lover I've ever had... no romance... no finese... all slam bam thank you ma... (read in full...)
What does he mean by sending me this message after he broke up with me over a month ago?
Q. My ex-boyfriend has not initiated sending me a personal message in the month since he decided his feelings for me were "complicated" and sent me a breakup e-mail (referenced in the link to my previous post below). He has forwarded me a few ...
A. 17 September 2012: send him a message saying I'm glad you are sorry. Can I come by and get my stuff on xx/xx/xx at 12;12 or what ever time you want...
and once you get your stuff go NO CONTACT
not replying to messages is not no contact.
NO CON... (read in full...)
She filed for divorce claiming I verbally abuse her, how do I save this marriage?
Q. So, here goes nothing. I have never posted anything like this before but an looking for unbiased opinions. I am married to someone that I truly care deeply for and we have been in a relationship for over two years. She recently filed for divorce and ...
A. 17 September 2012: she wants kids
you don't
you are bothered by her past
you say you are together for over two years
and married... how long are you married... how soon after you met did you two marry?
you called her a whore and you can't deal with her past... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that when I finish university I want to take up the guitar professionally? They will have to pay $40,000 a year for me to do so.....
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play ...
A. 17 September 2012: I agree that if it's your passion that you should get a part time job and you should pay the expense... that it will mean more to you...
my father put my brother through culinary school (yes he's a certified chef but not using that skill) and Lab... (read in full...)
Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?
Q. Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months ...
A. 17 September 2012: Well there is an old saying "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me"
and there is also the "three strikes and your out" rule
personally for me.... if i was married and had small babies and I loved my spouse I would probab... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to take responsibility for what he did?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago because he got violent and went for me repeatadly. now hes claiming that i attacked him....i was sober as a judge and remember everything, he was drunk and admits it though says if i fight like a man ...
A. 17 September 2012: he was drunk
he was violent
he blacked out
he DEMANDS you apologize for something he does not remember?
if you will not take him back after what he did why does it matter that he admit what he did?
just because the drink made him do it... (read in full...)
The proposal - Advice please ladies!
Q. Hi all, I have been in a loving relationship with my girlfriend for a number of years now and wish to make a marriage proposal.. I just wish to make this as special for her as possible, because she deserves it! I intend on proposing to her w...
A. 17 September 2012: well i'm torn too... you sound like a delight.
you can never go wrong with a simple solitare... but she may like something more detailed.
my engagement ring is so over the top my fiance just rolls his eyes but it was what i wanted... we had ... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 17 September 2012: Ah you have your closure.
mourn the loss of what might have been had he been a different person.... and then get on with life...
... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get, or is she not interested? Should I ask her out again anyway?
Q. I met a girl (a friend of a friend) on a night out the other day. We got talking and things got intimate pretty quickly. To cut a long story short we spent the whole night together and it was probably one of the best nights I've ever had. I don't ...
A. 17 September 2012: why did you hint about wanting to see her?
why not just come right out and ask?
sounds like you are both playing games
call her up and ask her out for one night this weekend...
look either she's interested or she's not.
you wo... (read in full...)
I cant stay over with the guy I'm seeing because I'm scared of him seeing me without make up! Help!
Q. so i've been seeing this guy and I can't stay the night with him because i'm worried about the morning after. I'm not naturally pretty, he always goes on about how beautiful and gorgeous I am... which just makes me insecure about wearing no to ...
A. 17 September 2012: I bet if you tell him this he will tell you that you are beautiful anyway you are...
I'm old honey and i look ten times better with makeup... but there are just times i can't do it.
Katy Perry had a song on that the line was
"you think i... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents I'm gay together, or individually?
Q. Quick question. Should I come out to my parents together or one at a time? What are the pros/cons? Thanks....
A. 17 September 2012: Well in our house...
brother told me when he was 13
he told mom when he was 16
MOM told dad when he was about 19/20
mom took it ok
dad did not take it so well at first (but it was also a different time the late 70s before HIV was kno... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to move back to my country, or move on with other guys?
Q. Hy. I met an awesome guy on the net. He s 5years older than i am. We have been exchanging texts for a year now. His parents currently live in my country but he moved to another country(continent) with his god parents because of education etc(well ...
A. 17 September 2012: MOVE ON honey...
two things
1. you are let's say 17 so you were 16 when you met he's now 22 so he was 21 when you met..
21 year old MEN should NOT be interested in 16 year old girls...if they are they are not mature enough for when you w... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 17 September 2012: I may be a stupid American but at 52 I know that had I lived my life to please my parents I'd be miserable and my mom would still be gone and not having any say any more anyway...
I just think that if you are going to live your life to please yo... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 16 September 2012: GUYS.... listen to me... did you all see this:
".. I'm working my mess out with family that i will marry her nobody else ...."
I THINK (and maybe I'm wrong) that the OP is not the one with the issue... that maybe his family is... and may... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 15 September 2012: YOU need to relax. I remember my first have no feelings for him one way or the other as it was nearly 40 years ago...
relax she does not pine for what's past... she is with you now.... (read in full...)
He is looking to move out behind my back and I'm afraid he's cheating on me again!
Q. My (gay) boyfriend and I have dated for more than a year and have been living together for one. Last month I found out accidentally that he has been looking for a room (he wanted to move out). I actually found that he has been looking for a room ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this man is using you...
He is looking for a room
he's looking for other partners
he's cheated on you before
you are filler till something better comes along.
It sucks honey and I'm sorry.
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