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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 21 October 2012: just in case what?
if you are TRULY not interested in dating, then you won't need to know what the subtle signs are as you won't even notice them...
me thinks you are interested.... and that you think pretending you are not is the way to go... (read in full...)
He is looking to move out behind my back and I'm afraid he's cheating on me again!
Q. My (gay) boyfriend and I have dated for more than a year and have been living together for one. Last month I found out accidentally that he has been looking for a room (he wanted to move out). I actually found that he has been looking for a room ...
A. 18 September 2012: oh Jason yes it hurts...
and it will hurt for a few weeks
then you get on with life and it hurts a little less every day you put one foot in front of the other and keep on moving.
Hugs to you for being brave enough to confront him and... (read in full...)
We had a threesome and my husband completely ignored me! I feel our marriage is over...
Q. I am married for 5 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have useId talking about a 3some several times during sex for excitement. Me being bi. But he has always said he doesn't really wanna do it. But the opportunity presented itself. And he asked and asked if ...
A. 14 September 2012: you don't look like an idiot.
he fucking played you
he wanted to bang her with permission that you would not have given if you were not invited to the "threesome"
I strongly urge some personal counseling and then you can figure out if y... (read in full...)
We had a threesome and my husband completely ignored me! I feel our marriage is over...
Q. I am married for 5 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have useId talking about a 3some several times during sex for excitement. Me being bi. But he has always said he doesn't really wanna do it. But the opportunity presented itself. And he asked and asked if ...
A. 14 September 2012: Bond Girl, with all due respect… I see your point truly… but having been a member of the lifestyle and having done threesomes and gang bangs etc with my then husband I can tell you that her husband was WRONG and he handled this badly….
Yes s... (read in full...)
Should I send him a 'goodbye' letter after he broke up with me?
Q. He broke up with me more than a week ago. We were together for one and half years, spending the first six months together and another one year long distance. He's european, I'm asian. He's 22. I'm 29. Not the easiest situation huh. He tol...
A. 14 September 2012: sweetie, i know you are hurting badly...
time will heal you.... you just have to be open to being healed...... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 14 September 2012: I don't judge folks who don't have kids.
And I'm sorry you are feeling so hammered but I sense that you are bringing some of it on yourself...... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 14 September 2012: Well then see it's all good honey.. he was just trying to avoid being the center of attention....
best of luck to you
we get married October 6th..... enjoy a nice Fall wedding...
lovely time later on for a nice get away weekend.... (read in full...)
I no longer desire sex with my wife but I do desire other women. It's consuming me, help!
Q. Ok,i'm married,and have lost my desire for sex with my wife,but have a desire to have sex with almost every female i come across! When i meet another woman,even for just a minute,i'm wondering what it would be like to have her! It's consuming ...
A. 14 September 2012: I want to have sex with my partner and still wonder about sex with other people...
if you do not want sex with your wife you need to figure out if your wife is ok with that. I suggest asking her if she's ok with a sexless marriage... if she i... (read in full...)
We had a threesome and my husband completely ignored me! I feel our marriage is over...
Q. I am married for 5 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have useId talking about a 3some several times during sex for excitement. Me being bi. But he has always said he doesn't really wanna do it. But the opportunity presented itself. And he asked and asked if ...
A. 14 September 2012: When I first read this it made me angry... I've had threesomes... both MMF and FMF.... and I am bi.... so I can easily understand the scene.
Then I read Cerberus' reply and I started thinking a bit more about this...
If you are asking if yo... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 13 September 2012: Thank you for the update… see it’s less than a week and you are starting to feel a bit better… I promised you time would help… don’t push yourself too hard too fast… with permission to mourn it takes some of the sting out… glad we could help!
... (read in full...)
What can I change so I am no longer embarrassed by my loud, outspoken father?
Q. Dear Cupid My father is a very loud person. He rises his voice when he speaks, especially when he s in a conflict. He s so straight forward when he talks and i think that s why he s always in a conflicts. Mostly he s too proud of himself even if ...
A. 13 September 2012: You can accept that all teens (even Donald Trumps kids) are embarrassed by their parents..
it's almost a parent's job to embarrass their kids...
... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'd let it go... really
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I'm a lesbian and I'm attracted to my dad's ex wife!
Q. I'm 16 and I'm a lesbian. My parents have been married my whole life, but before my dad met my mom he was married once before for less than a year. I recently came across his ex wife and I'm extremely attracted to her, which I feel like is very ...
A. 13 September 2012: stop beating yourself up... you have a crush... lesbian or not... even straight girls get girl crushes...
and she's your dad's ex wife but you don't know her and never knew her growing up... so it's not like your crushing on a family membe... (read in full...)
He's using his visitation time with my daughter to try to get back together with me.
Q. Modnote: I assume you meant 2 year old girl? I have a 22 year old little girl and her father and I are not together anymore due to him putting other things before our baby. I now recieve child support and he gets supervised visitations every ot...
A. 13 September 2012: if his visits are supervised have someone else supervise them NOT at your home... what about you mom or dad?... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he asked me for a threesome. Should I still do on a date with him anyway?
Q. Hi, I need some honest answer! This guy I kinda like... asked me for a threesome..( two guys and me!) Yes, I was hurt by this proposal and really offended. I thought he might like me as well... but I guess it's not. But still I desperate...
A. 13 September 2012: oh honey he sounds like such a keeper...
he wants sex
you mean NOTHING TO HIM... if he has not even met you and asked for a threesome you are nothing but a sex object.
... (read in full...)
How do we deal with our different schedules?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for almost two years. Over the past year, our visits have become significantly less frequent and shorter. His work schedule if completely opposite mine. I work 9-5 Monday through Friday, and he is 2-11 ...
A. 13 September 2012: I just finished an LDR in January… we were two hours apart by car… to me we just wanted to be together so even if he had work I might be there for when he got home.
My FIRST thought for you when I read this a few days ago (and I’m sorry for the ... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but also wants to be with his ex. He says its to help her move on. What?
Q. ok, so… I'm starting a relationship with this guy we've been friends for almost 2 and a half years. He has this huge amount of trust with me which makes me feel kind of guilty because I'm not that kind of people who talk about themselves a lot. A...
A. 13 September 2012: why can't you just date and not be committed to each other...
he's not ready to be serious with you but he likes you... that's pretty normal at your age...
no one is ready to settle down...
he wants you and her
that's fine
advi... (read in full...)
My husband no longer loves me or wants to live with me. I still want to be together even with him feeling this way. Is it worse to live with us both unhappy or to lose the love of my life?
Q. Here's the situation. I'm totally in love with my husband and I'm desperate for us to get back together. He has fallen out of love with me and cannot bring himself to be with me sexually. We're still friends and see each other nearly everyday. We ...
A. 13 September 2012: I think it's more painful to sit around and hope he will fall back in love with you and put your life on hold waiting for him.
I think it will be more painful to pretend all is well and watch him carry on without you.
I think the short ter... (read in full...)
My neighbor told me he saw my girlfriend sneaking around with my friend. They said no way. Who do I believe?
Q. A neighbour/casual friend of mine has told me that my girlfriend has cheated on me with one of our good friends. He said he saw him leave the house one day when i was out, and that the guy also told him he had slept with her a while back and that ...
A. 13 September 2012: what benefit would your neighbor gain from having you and the GF fighting or breaking up?
I can't imagine that seeing him leave the house is enough to make you wonder...
what motive would the neighbor have?
... (read in full...)
Does anyone else really like feet?
Q. It may sound like a random question, but does anybody have an attraction to feet? I have liked them since childhood. I'm not into sucking toes or anything (not knocking it, it's just not my thing). I like touching female feet, massaging them, and ...
A. 13 September 2012: lots of folks. Me.. I'm not one of them... I like kissing shoulders....... (read in full...)
An old friend is back in town and I'm feeling something for him, but I'm in a relationship. Is this infatuation or something more?
Q. Hi there, this is my first time writing here- and this has been bothering me for a while. I have been living with my boyfriend for quite a long time, but for the past three months, an old friend of ours began to spend time with us again because ...
A. 13 September 2012: it may be a crush and go away
but the question is...are you 100% happy at home?
is there something anything that is missing?
... (read in full...)
Should I send him a 'goodbye' letter after he broke up with me?
Q. He broke up with me more than a week ago. We were together for one and half years, spending the first six months together and another one year long distance. He's european, I'm asian. He's 22. I'm 29. Not the easiest situation huh. He tol...
A. 13 September 2012: if you already have told him about your neediness... telling him again just proves your neediness.
if you need to write him a letter AND BURN IT do so... but do NOT send it to him.... (read in full...)
He is looking to move out behind my back and I'm afraid he's cheating on me again!
Q. My (gay) boyfriend and I have dated for more than a year and have been living together for one. Last month I found out accidentally that he has been looking for a room (he wanted to move out). I actually found that he has been looking for a room ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this man is using you...
He is looking for a room
he's looking for other partners
he's cheated on you before
you are filler till something better comes along.
It sucks honey and I'm sorry.
... (read in full...)
Why do people always say its good to be a virgin? what's so great about it?
Q. Im an 18yr old guy, just out of school, and I'm still a virgin...I don't understand why it's so hard...why I dislike it so much...I feel like I'm missing out...like everyone else is in on something that I'm not a part of. Then people say its a good ...
A. 13 September 2012: Therapy will help with the self-hatred. Therapy will help you get over your fear of female naughty bits…
There really is someone out there for you… but you are so full of self-loathing you can’t see it.
Listen to me… I’m 52. My back is cripp... (read in full...)
He always looks at me in class. Does this mean he likes me or is it in my head?
Q. Hello am 17 and never had a boyfriend and i recently just started college and i have been attending for 5 days now and since day 1 of college i have noticed this guy staring at at me at he is tall tan and i think he is shy and pretty fit. Our ...
A. 13 September 2012: he likes you
and it's all in your head.
honey there is no way we know what he is thinking...
you will need to be brave and smile at him and say "hi"
and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing him. My boyfriend is unhappy but why does he stay?
Q. My boyfriend and me have been together almost a year and a half, of course at the beginning things were great. We had a period where we broke up for a couple months because of all the arguing. I can be somewhat insecure, overbearing and controll...
A. 13 September 2012: I agree with Cerberus... you guys are just together cause there's no one else or no where else to be....
When I'm feeling insecure about where my relationship stands I ask "how are WE?"
I may be sick as a dog,
he's in pain with something ... (read in full...)
Doesn't want to hurt me. Kissed me. Now what?
Q. Long story short... Met a guy. Been hanging out as friends for 4 months. Really like him. He said he just wanted to be friends. Nothing happened. Stopped hanging out with him for like a month. Finally hung out with him again tonight. And he kissed ...
A. 13 September 2012: he had told you what you want to hear.
he's also told you what you need to hear
he's a player
he wants to have sex
but he's never going to commit...
... (read in full...)
A bitter-sweet relationship...do I have to look back on the past?
Q. I have a special friend, I call him special because he is my boyfriend, he was also my childhood friend...then when we reach our high school years, we need to separate our ways because he attended in different school. But during our college years we ...
A. 13 September 2012: You do not need to seem him.
I think what you can do to help him is say "I forgive you for all your bad behavior and I wish you all the best"
and move on....... (read in full...)
Should I send him a 'goodbye' letter after he broke up with me?
Q. He broke up with me more than a week ago. We were together for one and half years, spending the first six months together and another one year long distance. He's european, I'm asian. He's 22. I'm 29. Not the easiest situation huh. He tol...
A. 13 September 2012: It's over and done...
do not write a letter.
just move on and keep the good memories..
... (read in full...)
My teen son is using my lingerie items when he masturbates. How should I handle this delicate situaiton?
Q. I am a single mom and my 13yr old is using my unwashed lingerie items to "help himself" while he masturbates. I found of my personal lingerie items under his bed and it is clear what he is doing with them. We have alwways been open with one ano...
A. 13 September 2012: Using the lingerie is not the issue.. using YOURS is the issue...
I would not freak out
I would not say he's wrong or bad for wanting lingerie.. just having MOM's is gross...
so my advice.....
sit him down and tell him you know about... (read in full...)
What do others know about a Court Approved Marriage in India? How can one arrange one?
Q. I am a 20 year old guy born in June 1992 and i am in love with a girl age 17 years old who was born in June 1995. I live in India. Does anyone who the rules about marriage? i want to court approved marriage with her in july 2013 so can that mar...
A. 13 September 2012: I know NOTHING of this so I googled it for you:
http://courtmarriage.net/... (read in full...)
His jealousy is starting to put a damper on our physical relationship. And now a new guy is showing interest. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I really really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. When we first met I lived in a different city. After I finished my degree we decided to be together, so I moved to be with him (I do have family here as well)In ...
A. 13 September 2012: Clearly you want out of your relationship now. IF you did not you would not be asking what to do...
And do not tell me that it's because he wants to be friends.... YOU KNOW you are thinking... "what if...."
best advice I can give you is this... (read in full...)
I may have miscarried recently. It's made me want a baby. Should I wait like my Bf says? I worry waiting could destroy our relationship.
Q. I'm 18 and going to be turning 19 in 3 weeks. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 5 years and he is turning 20 in 2 months. He was the person I lost my virginity to and we have only slept with each other. I started taking the pill as soon ...
A. 13 September 2012:
If you are on the pill and taking it properly and still got pregnant you need to talk to your doctor ASAP about other methods of BC.
did you take antibiotics or antacids at any time in the month prior to getting pregnant?
The first thing y... (read in full...)
How can I help her with her anger issues? We used to have such a good relationship. Now things are different.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for roughly a year and a half we have broken up once and dated other people but gotten back together. We do love each other. She has cheated on me twice and I have had the feeling of cheating on her but I have n...
A. 13 September 2012: Is the age right? You are 17? You’ve been together since you were 15?
She’s cheated on you twice already. In a year and half she’s cheated twice. You have forgiven her but don’t trust her… so what do you think will happen when you are apar... (read in full...)
She sees no problem being flirty with guys, should I even bother trying to get back with her?
Q. Basically my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me last week because I kept giving her a hard time about her guy friends, they openly flirt with her and she spends more time texting them when shes with me and does not seem to speak to me. She wants ...
A. 13 September 2012: I'm a huge flirt.
I asked my fiance once how he felt about my flirting... and his comment was very telling "you breathe you flirt"
he knows I flirt, I do it in front of him....
I know he looks at younger pretty girls and he does it in ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't it be a given that he would give his life for me, as I would for him?
Q. We dated for 1 year and then have been engaged for 3 years. The other day we were having a conversation about life and my fiance turned to me and said to me "I love you so much, that I think I may even die for you." Maybe I am being over ana...
A. 13 September 2012: I asked my mother once if she was in a row boat with my dad and my brother and me and it over turned who would she save....
I was around 13/14.... imagine my shock (and dismay) when she said "daddy, there's only one of him I can always have ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: I don't know what ALL the girls will do
will the tall girls feel that way or just the tall redheads...
the ones that understand will understand
the ones that think you are blowing them off will think you are blowing them off.
but t... (read in full...)
How do I let my wife know I found her vibrators without it looking like I was snooping?
Q. Hi Married for 10 yrs, wife and I have great sex, when we have it. Over the last 6 mth or so, we only have sex when she drinks, which is maybe once a month. I heard all the excuses...You smell like choclate, you smell like garlic, you are ...
A. 13 September 2012: I think not.
How about you take her out to a lovely dinner and DISCUSS with her that you would like to improve your sex life and then ask her if she has any suggestions....
if she does not then you could suggest it....
do not just "spring... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he doesn't involve me in his life? Or does he just need time alone with his family?
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years now and at first there were alot of arguments. It has been a long distance relationship until now that we are on the same town . I feel we should spend alot of quality time together do we can rekindle ...
A. 12 September 2012: I'm sorry but if you are supposedly in a serious relationship YOU are his family... and you should be included in church and family events.
if he says no... or blows you off... then perhaps you are more invested in the relationship than he is.
... (read in full...)
Debate: Can a guy and girl really be just friends? All responses welcome guys and girls!
Q. Simple question. Its something I've pondered for a while now. Can a guy and girl really be just friends? So many times you hear about friends getting together after a long time. I have a particular guy friend, who in my mind I'm just friends ...
A. 12 September 2012: Not reading the other answers... here's my take on it
I'm taken so I can be "friends" with men.... I don't view them as anything other than friends... does not mean I do not find them attractive.... just that I'm not interested in dating them.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wouldn't go out of his way to protect me! Should I get rid of him?
Q. this is probably really stupid but i was talking to my bf and before we hit the city, was joking about getting mugged and asked if he'd protect me. he said he wasn't going to go out of his way if it'd put himself in danger. i was like, so you'd ...
A. 12 September 2012: Well I have mixed feelings about this....
1. "like a man should" is a crock honey... if you want to be paid "like a man should", if you want to be respected for your brain "like a man should" then you better damn well learn to protect your... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 12 September 2012: Again OP if you don't know you really have to ASK HIM....
and if you are AFRAID to ask him what's going on, then you have to question if you are ready to marry a man whom you can't ask why.....
It may not be that he cheated on you... why in... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 12 September 2012: Well we don't know what he's thinking but I can kind of understand it... He's told the family, and you've told close friends... you have a date set and finalized plans... so it sounds to me like he just likes to keep work as separate from home as ... (read in full...)
Does checking how I 'feel' indicate my Bf loves me? Nine months of dating and still he hasn't said he loves me:(
Q. Dear all, After dating my boyfriend for 9 months I still haven't heard from him that he loves me. I told him at the 6 months make and he said he wasn't there yet but cared for me I agreed and told him that I probably didnt love him yet eithe...
A. 12 September 2012: I tell my fiance I love him all the time... I told him last night in a therapy session and I hate doing it because he never says he loves me... if i ask him he does.. but he just does not like to say it... I think in nearly 2 years I've heard it 3 ... (read in full...)
My Co-worker has a Gf but keeps on winking at me. I'm interested, but how should I indicate that? Or could I be mistaking his intentions?
Q. I have a coworker that has been winking at me for sometime. I didnt really pay it any attention at first because I thought that he was just friendly. However,I really noticed it this last time when he winked really slow and pointed his finger at me ...
A. 12 September 2012: my first thought was that maybe he has tourettes syndrome.... the wink and all...
how flattered you must feel that a younger taken man is going after you.... don't be. many men that are aggressive towards older women (and you are quite yo... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 11 September 2012: yeah if it's just family that's all you have to say...
I think SageOldguy was trying to be funny....
as for your fiance... if he has a valid (in his mind) reason... i"m not sure you can force him to do it...
october is only a... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 11 September 2012: I'm getting married in 3 1/2 weeks and my fiance has STILL not told his family..... (they are not invited to our wedding)
maybe he's just not telling folks because he does not see the need if they are not coming to the wedding and he does not want... (read in full...)
Why do people always say its good to be a virgin? what's so great about it?
Q. Im an 18yr old guy, just out of school, and I'm still a virgin...I don't understand why it's so hard...why I dislike it so much...I feel like I'm missing out...like everyone else is in on something that I'm not a part of. Then people say its a good ...
A. 11 September 2012: OP what you said in your follow up speaks volumes: “but I am ultimately what I hate. “
You said what the core issue is… YOU HATE YOURSELF… virgin or not you will HATE yourself without some strong therapy to work on this issue.
I have to ... (read in full...)
How do I let my wife know I found her vibrators without it looking like I was snooping?
Q. Hi Married for 10 yrs, wife and I have great sex, when we have it. Over the last 6 mth or so, we only have sex when she drinks, which is maybe once a month. I heard all the excuses...You smell like choclate, you smell like garlic, you are ...
A. 10 September 2012: I asked my fiance the other day how come he never masturbates in front of me and his comment was 'it's private"
perhaps that's how your wife feels about HER masturbation... it's HER TIME... and NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...
why is she keepin... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: Why does it matter if they want you... if you are not interested you are not interested and what THEY want is not an issue.
see to me, what that tells me is you WANT them to want you so you figure if you play it cool they will.... what's up wi... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: well have women changed so much in 30 years that they are asking men out?
if they aren't asking you out then what's the problem?
if they are asking you out, then all you do is say
"I'm sorry I'm not dating right"
however the... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 9 September 2012: Something is going on with you personally that is causing everyone to ask about pregnancy and a man... seriously... maybe someone at work would inquire once in a while... I Know I used to tease one of the girls I work with that it was "time for a ... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 8 September 2012: we always give ourselves 6 weeks to mourn and feel lousy and eat ice cream and cry and watch old movies and obsess about him...
after 6 weeks we have to pull up our big girl panties and go on with life.
It will come very very slowly and grad... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 7 September 2012: I'm so sorry OP.... it sucks...
remember: LIVING WELL is the BEST revenge... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 6 September 2012: 040392611401
You give it as long as you are willing to wait. A week? 2 Weeks.
IF I was supposedly SERIOUS with a guy and I didn’t call him and he didn’t’ call to check on me after 3 days I’d figure I was not that important to him. But tha... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 6 September 2012: LISTEN TO HIS ACTIONS not his words.
words mean NOTHING.
I have a fiance who NEVER says "I love you" but his actions tell me he loves me more than any man who has ever said it to me over and over.
if he does not contact you... end it...... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 5 September 2012: Honey if you are not happy with how things are you have to make the changes... IF you want him to call you more than you have to let him call you, that means not calling.
DO NOT be sitting around waiting for him to call however, get out and ... (read in full...)
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