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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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30 September 2011: Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
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I haven't felt this sad or hurt in ages and I just don't know what to do. He was so nice and now he just seems to have run away!
Q. I'm 49 and I can't believe I've allowed myself to be put in this position. I've been seeing a guy and it's been like fireworks. Thrilling every time. Now, after telling me he loves getting my messages and texts (some quite racy)...he hasn't replied ...
A. 9 November 2012: POO is right OP…. “we had a great time” does that mean “we had sex”? because if you had sex with him, you are in for the roller coaster ride of a lifetime. As my husband said to me 2 years ago when I offered him a NSA/FWB relationship “why ... (read in full...)
Halloween anniversary. But will we still be together by then? Help
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for three years this halloween. When we first hung out, it was absolutely fun, it came to the point he was calling his mother to see what to do about falling in love with me. We both have been through some horr...
A. 7 November 2012: thanks for the update I hope it works out... counseling is a big help and his actions are saying good things...
best of luck.... (read in full...)
I'm jealous that his 16 year old daughter is pregnant!
Q. Ok I know this is going to generate negative responses but here goes. My longtime baby daddy just informed me that his 16 yr old is 5 months pregnant. One, I can't shake off that he waited 5 months to tell me and second, I can't help but to feel ...
A. 23 October 2012: I always love questions that start with “I know this is going to generate negative responses” or even better “please don’t flame me”.
If a person knows that it’s a BAD thing, I wonder what they are seeking from us…
IT sounds like this is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is mean and pressuring me for sex. Should I break up with him?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 5 months dearly, but i'm still not ready for sex and he pressures me sometimes. We have different religious views and his parents don't want to meet me,and on top of that he can be soo mean to me. But he can also be soo sweet. ...
A. 23 October 2012: you need to break up with your boyfriend before you go to the beach alone with this other guy... or else you need to ask your boyfriend permission to do so.... I vote for breaking up
dating for the most part is about meeting the person you want... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a male engagement ring to show that the man is betrothed?
Q. what do guys think about wearing an engagement ring? my bf of 2 years proposed to me out of the blue 6 weeks ago. i was shocked, happy and said yes! when we talked about marriage months ago, i recall he said he thought a man should do the prop...
A. 23 October 2012: when we got serious with each other my husband wanted to learn to wear a ring... we got him a lovely band.. (he picked it out) it did not have diamonds or stones... at first he wore it on his right hand... then as we got more serious and we got ... (read in full...)
Relationship falling apart but I can`t let him go
Q. Hello Agonies. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 3 years and 8 months. I can admit to me not knowing who i wanted at the beginning of our relationship but i've learned from that and haven't made that mistake again. During our ...
A. 23 October 2012: Honey you need to get some self-esteem and self-respect so you can stop loving a man that
cheats on you repeatedly
lies to you repeatedly
mistreats you
uses you for sex (I'm betting that's all this is about)
ignores you
makes you miserable... (read in full...)
14 going out with a 12 year old?
Q. hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and just yesterday, I was asked out by a 12 year old boy that I liked. I'm really scared that people will make judgements about the age difference and my mum fears I will get bullied for it. He is really sweet and caring ...
A. 23 October 2012: You are 14! TOO YOUNG TO DATE... but old enough to have FRIENDS!
you told your mom and her only fear is that you will be bullied? what about the fear that you will be labeled CHEAP EASY and a slut for dating at such a young age?
you say... (read in full...)
When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?
Q. Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree... there is NO dominance in romance... or love
it's partnerships.
do you mean assertive or aggressive moves so that you know a woman in interested?... (read in full...)
Is my ex putting me on the back-burner in case her new Bf does not work out?
Q. My ex and I had a good 4yr relationship and was going to marry in the future but broke up because she said I didn't give her enough attention which really wasn't true. She found someone else a few months after the break but we're still friends and ...
A. 22 October 2012: Yeah.. this is why EX partners can't be friends.
I see my ex and we are FRIENDLY but NOT friends... we chat and talk when we run into each other but that's it...
don't read anything into it....... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 22 October 2012: So him going down on another woman is just oral sex and is ok in your book?
IF so, then you guys have an open relationship with some rules..(for example Oral is ok but no kissing and no intercourse)….
If it works for you GREAT.
... (read in full...)
He does not want to be exclusive. I do want to be exclusive. Shall I wait until he is ready?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks. I really like him and we have fun together. The thing is, we've done some sexual stuff and I sort of feel weird that I did that with someone who isn't my boyfriend. He just got out of a long-term relati...
A. 22 October 2012: I would not wait around for him to want to be exclusive.
date others
don't be sexual beyond your comfort level till you get a commitment. USE protection if you do.. including for oral sex...
... (read in full...)
Our daughter has admitted she's marrying for money and we are very upset!
Q. I have issues with my daughter marrying. Not her partner, but her motivations for marrying him. Our daughter's 19, and her boyfriend's 22, she told us she's fairly wealthy - we had no idea when we met him, in fact he lives in a fairly normal...
A. 22 October 2012: it's true EWO... my parents were very specific with my first husband about the lack of access to the trust funds... which BTW they did not tell him about till he wanted to marry me...
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She doesn't like vibrators what else can she do?
Q. My girlfriend likes to masturbate by rubbing her clit through her panties. I was wondering if any women who also like to orgasm like that have any suggestions on other things she might like? BTW she doesn't really like vibrators. Oh yeah, ...
A. 22 October 2012: why would she need other things if she has a method that works?
it's not like she's a young girl experimenting.
FWIW I like a lovely hand held shower massage too...
... (read in full...)
Our daughter has admitted she's marrying for money and we are very upset!
Q. I have issues with my daughter marrying. Not her partner, but her motivations for marrying him. Our daughter's 19, and her boyfriend's 22, she told us she's fairly wealthy - we had no idea when we met him, in fact he lives in a fairly normal...
A. 22 October 2012: She's 19 he's 22. I assume it's FAMILY money...
it's simple... have him make sure if he marries before the age of 30 his parents disown him. OR at least make sure that your daughter knows that there are no family funds available to her if she m... (read in full...)
Should I take what he says when he's drunk seriously?
Q. hi im 27 his 41 i love him so much he once told me that he wants to marry me but he was drunk when he told me. his a person who live a private life. i dont know if i should trust him on that i got one kid and his got six not seing the mommys ...
A. 22 October 2012: if he hardly drinks and only talks when he's drunk then there's not a lot of conversation going on....
whatever the case, never believe what they say when not fully in control.
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His Russian friend is very interested in him. Am I wasting my time with him?
Q. I've been seeing a guy since March. He's 33 and I'm 20. He's a master student and is going to graduate this semester and go back to his country. Unless he gets a job here. Our relationship is private as we agreed since the beginning, and we start...
A. 22 October 2012: Honey either you are seeing him and dating him and in a relationship with him or you are FWB.
The truth is you are going to get hurt. He is just not as into you as you are into him… clearly.
It’s NOT a relationship if it’s just FWB.. just ... (read in full...)
Should I take what he says when he's drunk seriously?
Q. hi im 27 his 41 i love him so much he once told me that he wants to marry me but he was drunk when he told me. his a person who live a private life. i dont know if i should trust him on that i got one kid and his got six not seing the mommys ...
A. 22 October 2012: How often is he drunk? if it's regularly, then I'd avoid the situation all together.. if it was a one time thing he probably doesn't remember and I would discount it.
My husband drinks... and when he's drunk, he often does not remember what he ... (read in full...)
I cry every day. It's getting me down. What can I do to deal with my problem?
Q. I have quite a few things troubling me however i'm the sort of person who keeps things to myself, and bottles it up. I don't like telling people as i feel like they will think i am seeking attention, or they won't be interested. It's got to the ...
A. 22 October 2012: you need to go to your parents and ask them to help you find a good doctor. crying every day is not normal.
being depressed is not normal and it's fixable.
you need to seek a counselor and medical intervention.... (read in full...)
How do you people handle loved ones with OCD?? It's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a live in relationship for the past 2 years. He is a kind,loving man but I have major issues with his OCD and its driving me nuts. 1)We are not allowed to have house parties because he doesn't want the place to get...
A. 22 October 2012: My husband has OCD… and I have ADHD… NOT a good mix…
No pets they are messy… ok I can cope…
No plants they are messy.. ok I’ll get silk ones…
These things I can live with… as for parties… I would tell him we are having one… and I will hand... (read in full...)
My married lover is putting up barriers to me seeing her. And she wants to hide me from her children when her divorce goes through. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm going to give the whole story of my situation. I know it's morally wrong but no one is perfect. So please don't respond if you want to talk about morals. I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationshi...
A. 22 October 2012: I think that until you have worked out your divorce and are living alone that you should not contact her.
I've been divorced several times. I'm the one with the money... it was never that hard. I wanted out.. I got out...
you say we don't'... (read in full...)
B/f accuses me of cheating on him but I didnt do anything wrong!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. We live together and have never been apart more than a day. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and doesn't trust me at all. (He is 40 and I'm 27 by the way) Every single girl he has ever ...
A. 22 October 2012: Do you know how I define cheating?
ANYTHING you can't won't or don't tell your partner.
YOU didn't tell him you were doing something with someone... that's cheating in my book... you cheated him out of the right to know what you were doing... (read in full...)
I haven't felt this sad or hurt in ages and I just don't know what to do. He was so nice and now he just seems to have run away!
Q. I'm 49 and I can't believe I've allowed myself to be put in this position. I've been seeing a guy and it's been like fireworks. Thrilling every time. Now, after telling me he loves getting my messages and texts (some quite racy)...he hasn't replied ...
A. 22 October 2012: people do not like ending things.... they feel like failures.
truth is you are not a victim here nor are you at his whim.
You can take control. YOU can end it. and then block him and be done with it... and move on...
we as women tend ... (read in full...)
Why does someone dump you and then come back acting like he wants my attention?
Q. I dated a guy for six months. We were really close--I thought. He told me he loved me AND cared about me-- AND showed it as well. Two months ago he told me I was beautiful, intelligent, AND perfect for him but something was "missing" AND ...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree that he's just being nice... and friendly without sending mixed messages.
the OUCH is because he knows he's a jerk that lost out on you...
personally I would block him on facebook if it' bothers you so much and then it forces his h... (read in full...)
She is 'too busy for me' so I'm going to break up with her. Is there a RIGHT way to break-up?
Q. I have recently decided to break up with my girlfriend. We have been going out for about 1 year and a few months. I am breaking up with her because she is too busy for me or just doesn't feel the same about me anymore. I don't want to hurt her or d...
A. 22 October 2012: Ya know this should be easy... if she already does not have time for you, then stop rowing the relationship boat...
stop asking her out... stop calling...
in a few days she will call and you can tell her then that you think it's time that y... (read in full...)
Is my ex putting me on the back-burner in case her new Bf does not work out?
Q. My ex and I had a good 4yr relationship and was going to marry in the future but broke up because she said I didn't give her enough attention which really wasn't true. She found someone else a few months after the break but we're still friends and ...
A. 22 October 2012: did you or did you not tell her to contact you to go to bible study?
if you did, and she's doing just what you asked why is this suspect?
you offered... why did you offer?... (read in full...)
Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?
Q. Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday...
A. 22 October 2012: They might. I'm a woman and I do... sometimes...
is your partner telling you he's doing this? ... (read in full...)
We've been fighting every day for months. Is it any wonder I have trust issues over her sexting etc
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and we've been fighting nearly everyday for the past few months. We have sat down and talked about this and the arguments stopped for about a week. Now it's the same old arguments. Heres the tricky p...
A. 22 October 2012: she cheated early on in the relationship..and she sexted as well... both are bad.
but both were a while back.
IF you are fighting because in a year she's done nothing to cause you not to trust her, then this is old trust issues but I can tell y... (read in full...)
If I marry her will I have to help out her family too?
Q. i have a Filipino girlfriend who's about 13 years younger here in the US. very worried about if i marry her , will her family also expect me to help them out financially? I've read thing that Filipino love to "show off" material things and such. a...
A. 22 October 2012: IF you are skeptical about continuing the relationship, then don’t.
If she is complaining about your disability I’d kick her to the curb to be honest. I’m disabled. I became disabled after we got together but it’s permanent and limiting... (read in full...)
I haven't felt this sad or hurt in ages and I just don't know what to do. He was so nice and now he just seems to have run away!
Q. I'm 49 and I can't believe I've allowed myself to be put in this position. I've been seeing a guy and it's been like fireworks. Thrilling every time. Now, after telling me he loves getting my messages and texts (some quite racy)...he hasn't replied ...
A. 22 October 2012: Ah I see from your follow up you are fine with him being gone you just don't like the "not knowing"
well you know.... his actions are telling you.
over and done...
treat it that way... but then when he does come back to you you must n... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to clean up after himself?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I live by myself and he still lives with his mom. He comes and stays from Fri-Sun/Mon. Before he comes over, i usually give the house a bit of a clean if it is messy. WHen he leaves, it is like a bomb that ...
A. 22 October 2012: how about the next time he wants to come over you tell him
"i'm sorry I can't manage it this week I'm still having to clean up from your visit last week"?
I mean seriously at this point he has NO consequences for his actions.... ... (read in full...)
How to stop Boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Lately, i've been feeling like my boyfriend is taking advantage. He never seems to give me any notice for anything - always assumes i am free and just demands it instead of asking. If he wants to stay over mine on a friday night (he doesn't alwa...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree he's getting away with it because you permit it.
After 3 years, I'm sorry but it should be beyond dating at your age and his... I don't believe in long term dating for adults... either they are the right person to commence spending... (read in full...)
But which one? The guy who drinks a lot and is cheating on me versus the nice good looking guy? And why do I still feel so much for the first guy?
Q. I am confused, i am in a good relationship with a great guy, who loves me and the sex is great. however he's in a relationship with the mother of his daughter.(they stay in the same house, she doesn't have anywhere else to go, plus he loves th...
A. 22 October 2012: Guy number one “the great guy”
Lives with another woman
Has a child
Does not tell anyone about you
Drinks to excess
Is not good looking in your eyes…
You say you love him and he has good manners… really? Good manners… he gives you the LI... (read in full...)
Halloween anniversary. But will we still be together by then? Help
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for three years this halloween. When we first hung out, it was absolutely fun, it came to the point he was calling his mother to see what to do about falling in love with me. We both have been through some horr...
A. 22 October 2012: I’m so sorry you are in love with a cheating lying man. I know you want to fix it before it’s too late but honey it’s already too late… He’s lied. He’s cheated. He’s disrespected you. He abuses you. Is this the kind of relationship you want to ... (read in full...)
Really confused right now. I could really use some advice on dating, please?
Q. I've been dating this girl for about three weeks now. We initially met online and have been chatting and SMS-ing since about June. However due to illness and busy work schedules, we weren't able to meet up until earlier this month. She was the on...
A. 22 October 2012: She was open and honest with you and that's good!
she's done three dates with you and that's GOOD
on date three she made out with you a lot and that's GOOD
I also am old fashioned and would prefer a man chase me.
Asking her out fo... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and I don't understand why I can't find someone to to be my partner. Can you give me some tips on how to find the ONE?.
Q. hi i am a 19 old guy who has a lot of love to give but hard to find someone. looking back on my life i had many crushes but they all had someone. i have tried everything from putting myself out there to lowering my standards and i don't like tha...
A. 22 October 2012: Sadly the best thing to do is STOP LOOKING.
it's hard to believe this but when "the one" or "the one for now" falls into your lap it will be when you least expect it.
people are able to sense desperation and that's what you exude when you a... (read in full...)
What was this guy's intention? Does he think he is entitled in some way to treat me so poorly?
Q. i met this guy at the club he invited me to come over his friends' birthday party. I thought I was his date but he ditched me as soon as I got there. there were all complete strangers and I didn't know what to do. so I said I have to go hom...
A. 22 October 2012: you met a guy and he said "come to a party now?"
or was this "come to a party next week?"
either way it's not a good start.
I'm learning over and over, that meeting a man and doing something casual and being "easy" about it means he won... (read in full...)
I haven't felt this sad or hurt in ages and I just don't know what to do. He was so nice and now he just seems to have run away!
Q. I'm 49 and I can't believe I've allowed myself to be put in this position. I've been seeing a guy and it's been like fireworks. Thrilling every time. Now, after telling me he loves getting my messages and texts (some quite racy)...he hasn't replied ...
A. 22 October 2012: How long have you been seeing this guy? Because if it’s only been a short time, you are experiencing the flash, crash and burn syndrome. So often men (more so than women) start out like GANGBUSTERS… and go a few weeks or even a few months all ... (read in full...)
I try my hardest to be both mum and dad for my son but I'm finding it so hard, and I feel so guilty that his dad isn't there for him
Q. Hi everyone I need some advice regarding my son. He is 6 and he's very bright. His dad has never been present in his life, he's never met him. He decided when I was pregnant that he had no interest and has remained the same, despite all m...
A. 22 October 2012: Where is your dad? Do you have any brothers or uncles that could be the male role?
IF not, well then here we have something called Big Brothers and Big Sisters... they are organizations that pair an adult with a child of the same sex for role mod... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 21 October 2012: just in case what?
if you are TRULY not interested in dating, then you won't need to know what the subtle signs are as you won't even notice them...
me thinks you are interested.... and that you think pretending you are not is the way to go... (read in full...)
When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?
Q. Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...
A. 21 October 2012: she's not being dominant. she's being flirty and playful
the message is "fool ask me out"... (read in full...)
In Love with a boy I can't have help me!
Q. Here goes i was talking to this amazing lad for about a year on facebook yesterday we met uo for about 5 minutes and i felt something ive never felt with anyone else before and i know i love him its not lust etc, and i know he doesnt feel the same, ...
A. 21 October 2012: Ok let's try to bring you back to reality without being too "mean"
1. you have met him IRL for 5 minutes... after a year...
how far apart do you two live in the first place? if it's less than an hour and it took a year for him to meet you ... (read in full...)
Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?
Q. I had a passionate love story with a girl for 3 months. Infact 2 months where great but the last I could feel things where slowing down. She started witholding sex which made me really angry so I asked her if she wanted to break up or continue ...
A. 21 October 2012: three months is not a long time together...
if you are having problems and trust issues at 3 months it is not a good sign...
you walked out on her... you are both playing games.
if you want a drama filled life then stay with her but if you... (read in full...)
I'm worried about making noise during sex
Q. Now that Ive got used to a condom since 1st time sex I'm finding intercourse with my boyfriend more and more enjoyable.I think I'm now ready to go a bit vocal with the pleasure but I'm young and a bit nervous about starting.It's so quiet in the ...
A. 21 October 2012: are you thinking about this? planning noise?
what i have found is that for some folks noise is involuntary... for others they are silent..
I seriously doubt if you are enjoying yourself and let your self go that you will have much control.
... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: OP you really need to work on what you define as a relationship. In my relationships ANYTHING you can't won't or don't tell your partner is cheating... IF you and your bf had an agreement to be monogamous and you gave another random guy a bl... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: I don't know what ALL the girls will do
will the tall girls feel that way or just the tall redheads...
the ones that understand will understand
the ones that think you are blowing them off will think you are blowing them off.
but t... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: Why does it matter if they want you... if you are not interested you are not interested and what THEY want is not an issue.
see to me, what that tells me is you WANT them to want you so you figure if you play it cool they will.... what's up wi... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 10 September 2012: well have women changed so much in 30 years that they are asking men out?
if they aren't asking you out then what's the problem?
if they are asking you out, then all you do is say
"I'm sorry I'm not dating right"
however the... (read in full...)
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