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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 13 February 2013: Trager,
Thank you for the compliment. I know most folks speak negatively of the swinger lifestyle without having had any personal experience with it… I have had a negative experience with it but I have seen LONG term positive experiences for othe... (read in full...)
I still can't forget about my lover after a year. How do I get over it?
Q. i'm married lady and had an affair with a married man for 8 months and then we got caught and we needed to end that. its been almost a year and i can't forget about him i think about him day and night miss him so much plz help me....
A. 7 February 2013: if you have no contact with him and it's been a year and you are still grieving the loss of the illicit affair you need to get some professional counseling.
if you are in contact with him and want to get over him, go NO contact, no phone, no em... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend said he was ready for responsibility but an unplanned pregnancy had him singing a different song!
Q. Please help! my boyfriend is 12 years older than i am.He is ready for any family responsibility.but when i told him i was pregnant,he told me to get and abortion because he want me to finish school.Do you guys think he loves me or was just an abuser ...
A. 7 February 2013: You are old enough to date
You are old enough to vote
You are old enough to have sex and get pregnant.
My husband is 13 years younger than I am… am I taking advantage of his youth? I don’t think so he was over 21 when I met him….
You say... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex still wants him back
Q. My boyfriends ex still contacts him saying she loves him and wants him back. it wouldn't bother me so much but she has a boyfriend, he was seeing me for a month then broke things off to make sure things were done with her. now we are back on and ...
A. 7 February 2013: YOU not feeling secure in your relationship is your issue.
If you have asked him not to be friends with her (and for the life of me I don't get why folks want to be friends with ex lovers) and he disrespects your needs and wants over hers... ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 7 February 2013: I googled “symptoms of depression” for you:
You said:
I got really moody
I got ugly (opinion)
Got depressed
I’m always tired
Bad memory
Don’t find things fun…
That’s YOUR list (I left out the got acne… that will pass and you can see... (read in full...)
He's not my Bf. So did he go too far by hugging me from behind? I feel confused by it.
Q. Guy friend hugged me from behind?? We're friends but not close have similar interests and occasionally flirt. Both in serious relationships and have no intention of leaving our partners so no affairs. It was really weird we were talking about my...
A. 7 February 2013: Ok so that changes it a bit..
if you are 18 ewwww... maybe a bit creepy
if you are 21... and he is single... not so creepy
if he's married or partnered... I would find it uncomfortable... mainly because a hug from behind gives you in gene... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 7 February 2013: OP if you feel the need to define your worth by what others think I strongly encourage you to get some therapy to work on your sense of self and how you define yourself.
Using others to define your worth is never a good plan.... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with me?
Q. well there's this guy, im in his class, but he never knew me before. I was just put in his class last week or 2 ago. He knows my name good for not hearing it before. Now he stands over me (he is much taller then me), puts his hands on my desk and ...
A. 7 February 2013: well it sounds like he's a 12 yr old boy that likes you....
so what do you want to do about it?... (read in full...)
My wife wants a divorce after rushing the marriage, was she just using me to get over her ex? What should I do now?
Q. Seven months ago, on a dating site ,I met American girl who was 16 years olders than me , means she was 46 and I was 30 then. In just matter of two months , she came to Pakistan and married me. Honestly speaking, she was doing all that too quickly ...
A. 7 February 2013: with such a short marriage (which you both made a bad choice and rushed into this) can you get an annulment?
that would mean the marriage legally never took place....
would that be better? ... (read in full...)
He's not my Bf. So did he go too far by hugging me from behind? I feel confused by it.
Q. Guy friend hugged me from behind?? We're friends but not close have similar interests and occasionally flirt. Both in serious relationships and have no intention of leaving our partners so no affairs. It was really weird we were talking about my...
A. 7 February 2013: I think you are over thinking this,... I read this last night and I thought about it from when I was about 16/17 and I was hugged from behind...
I think it means nothing serious...
I often think if we over think things our "friends" do, th... (read in full...)
Was I a fool to get involved and offer my support to him?
Q. A friend of mine was going through hell as his wife had gone off with another man, leaving him a note. He hit the drink and after a week moved into a new place he kept on drinking I stepped up and saved him and his job, Things moved on and we be...
A. 7 February 2013: oh honey how sad.
no don't write him.
in fact, you need to let him go totally.
he was married to someone and while you tried to help you got too embroiled in a situation with a legally married man who has a wife with addiction/alcohol is... (read in full...)
I'm 26 and want to know if this is a norm, for guys my age? I need to visit a prostitute every week or I get too frustrated.
Q. I feel compelled to sleep with a sex-worker at least once a week. Otherwise, my libido gets the better of me and I find it hard to focus on any task for long because of an over-active sex drive. If I go without sex for three months, I actually...
A. 7 February 2013: needing to release sexual tension is one thing. the options abound, masturbation, FWB casual flings....
needing to pay a sex worker once a week compulsively is totally another.
I agree that some intense work with a good therapist can help y... (read in full...)
Where is this relationship going? I think her feelings may be more serious than mine. Nor sure what to do?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for about 9 months now, first few months didn't really count as we started dating towards the end of the uni year, then I went travelling over summer, and we live in different areas but still spoke frequently and met up when ...
A. 7 February 2013: and taking this thing one day at a time and going with the flow is not an option because why?
you have all these reasons to break up.... seems YOU are the one afraid of getting hurt...... (read in full...)
After five months he broke up with me, for doing all the things I thought made me a perfect girl friend. What did I do wrong?
Q. Basically ever since I was younger I've always had this preconception of guys as hard and unfeeling and only wanting sex. So when I picked a boyfriend, I picked one who wouldn't be emotional or sensitive or want me to open myself up, nor one that...
A. 7 February 2013: I agree with Honeypie.
WHY ACT? DO NOT ACT BE YOURSELF.
if you are totally 100% true to yourself and do what you think is right based on how you feel (not what you read) then the man you end up with will be right for you.
ACTING is ph... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 7 February 2013: OP you asked: “How can she like me if she knows nothing about me? I'm decent looking but some ppl think im cute”
And then you say “But I notice her and I find her really attractive”
So you can think you want to get to know someone based on... (read in full...)
Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 7 February 2013: OP, you can't worry about keeping the friendship unless it's more important to you than your marriage.
Have you told your wife what he said?
IF so, what did she say?
IF not, why not?
The fact that you told him it's a major t... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: I love follow-ups! Thank you OP… more info to work with… HUGE red flags here honey…
He can’t deal with delayed gratification (spending more to keep himself happy in the short term is a sign of this) Sadly if he can’t cope with delayed gratific... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: anon e mouse,
do you really think giving someone a second date is settling?
sometimes we make mistakes and first impressions are important but also a bit of leeway is critical and if someone is in their 30s and still seeking a partner th... (read in full...)
I really care for my boyfriend's little boy, but how does he feel about me?
Q. This might seem like a strange question but here goes, I have been dating a man for nearly 7 months. I met his son more or less straight away. He is a gorgeous 10 year old boy who is polite, non-demanding, intelligent, quiet and just an all roun...
A. 6 February 2013: OP I am sure he is fond of you.
and I know that it's hard to be in a mother role and not be mother... to have to set an example for a child that is not yours...
sounds to me like everything is going to be fine...
he has a good mom
he has a g... (read in full...)
My experience of an LDR has been flawed by his need for a FWB as well. I refused the latter. Can LDR partners stay faithful?
Q. can people mix up long distance friends with benefits relationship with a committed faithful long distance relationship meaning? I was in a long distance relationship and thought he was faithful for the year prior to my trip to meet him. He ke...
A. 6 February 2013: I will answer the title question first… Of course LDRs can stay faithful. If they choose to.
He did not choose to and if I’m reading your post correctly he gave lots of signs that he did not feel the same about you as you felt about him.
If yo... (read in full...)
Why did he go out of his way to NOT mention that he has a Gf when he talked to me so often, and more recently flirted with me?
Q. I went out with my coworker two years ago. Things didn't work out between us, and we both (especially him) moved on... but lately we'e been flirting a lot again. [Please don't tell me it won't work out because we work together. If he had expresse...
A. 6 February 2013: you like this guy way too much.... it's not good for you.
... (read in full...)
My roomate is trying to sabotage my relationships!
Q. i've got a real problem with my roommate. we've been living together for quite some time now; about 4 years. and she's really caused me a lot of issues in my social and dating life. she's practically a recluse. we work together, that's how i kno...
A. 6 February 2013: can't you sub-let?... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 6 February 2013: she may like how you look and want to get to know you to see if she likes YOU
why are you overthinking this so much?... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a day when we used to have sex 6 times a day! Are we on different pages sexually?
Q. Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why ...
A. 6 February 2013: I think the frequency does slow down... 6 times a day is a bit excessive even for young horny teens not in school...
twice a day is even above the norm.
you try 2-3 times a day... so you go after him?
for men it's about being able to ... (read in full...)
My roomate is trying to sabotage my relationships!
Q. i've got a real problem with my roommate. we've been living together for quite some time now; about 4 years. and she's really caused me a lot of issues in my social and dating life. she's practically a recluse. we work together, that's how i kno...
A. 6 February 2013: get a new place... that simple.... (read in full...)
Struggling with the maintenance payments to my ex and worried about losing my girlfriend over this!
Q. Hi has anyone been in my situation? Any advice? I have been divorced 6 years and pay maintenance to ex and for 1 child, but in past 3 years changes at work meant no raise and no bonuses for that time-I've looked for another job but nothing yet. I ...
A. 6 February 2013: Step one, go to court and see if you can get your maintenance reduced. Why is it going up every year if your salary is not?
you should not be borrowing from anyone to pay support.
IF you don't have it, you can't pay it...
the court o... (read in full...)
Why did he go out of his way to NOT mention that he has a Gf when he talked to me so often, and more recently flirted with me?
Q. I went out with my coworker two years ago. Things didn't work out between us, and we both (especially him) moved on... but lately we'e been flirting a lot again. [Please don't tell me it won't work out because we work together. If he had expresse...
A. 6 February 2013: Some folks think that you have to be single to flirt... hence why he has not mentioned her. In addition, he may be grooming you for a little something on the side (if he's a dog) and you knowing he has a gf would put the kibosh on that.
fli... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: So you want to understand… you want to understand why he borrows money from his dad and buys himself stuff on your birthday? BECAUSE HE CAN!
I don’t think it’s weird.
I admit if I walk by my husband’s computer (we have our own computers in... (read in full...)
Do I break my heart and never know? Or tell my crush my feelings for him on Valentine's day?
Q. I have been stuck with this for over a year and a half now. I have developed strong emotions towards a guyfriend I've known for nearly 10 years. Never thought itd turn out this way. I don't know if he shares those same feelings. I've always heard ...
A. 6 February 2013: I would NOT do it on valentines day.... and I would not think of it as a confrontation... more like seeking clarification... confrontation sounds so hostile...
how about now... this week... or weekend... nothing elaborate.... "hey bobby-joe, l... (read in full...)
Why did my cousin's friend indicated interest one day yet the next day he was disinterested?
Q. Hi! Please help me. I'm so confuzzled. Okay so my cousin's best friend started messaging me on Facebook again and asked for my number. So I gave it to him and from that day on we've texted every single day! It was one day he asked if I liked...
A. 6 February 2013: he's not embarrassed... it got boring
it's only 4 days but the truth is it was just fun and games for a few days.... it wasn't anything serious...
I don't think he was playing with your emotions... I don't think he was using you or trying to... (read in full...)
She said she knew I wasn't a Relationship Person and that I was not Emotionally Available. What does my Ex mean by this?
Q. I was seeing this girl for a while and last night we finally talked for the first time since we broke up. She said she always knew in the back of her mind that i wasn't a relationship person and we weren't going to be anything more than what it ...
A. 6 February 2013: if you left it civil with her there is no crime in going back to her and saying 'hey I heard what you were saying and it kind of threw me for a loop there... but after thinking about it I was wondering if you could elaborate on it for me so I can ... (read in full...)
What do we have together? He will not confirm if we are in a relationship.
Q. Hi cupids any chance of a little help?? Been seeing a guy for 5 months now, it’s been ok-ish. I've began to fall for him and I’m not sure I’m doing the right thing allowing myself to as he's so complicated. He’s got a lot going for him, he ...
A. 6 February 2013: Well the first thing I would do is stop letting him come over 4 or 5 nights a week for sex and sleep.
If at this point he has not taken you to family events, introduced you to family, friends, co-workers and even his kids (by 5 months of re... (read in full...)
How do I go about getting rid of my lazy unmotivated Bf? But how do I cope with his threats to harm himself if I do leave?
Q. In my last question I had asked what I should do about my lazy, unmotivated boyfriend. Well, I'm at the point where I think I'm almost at a decision. But now, I need help in a different way. No matter how loving and nice he is to me..I just don'...
A. 6 February 2013: Oh this is so hard. Let me start with this.. YOU are not responsible for him if he harms himself or others. However, if he tells you he’s planning to harm himself or others you can call the police and report it. They can take him into ... (read in full...)
Can I see both? Or one or the other? What should I consider, and how can I decide?
Q. I am 16,i have a b/f who i took as a brother and friend. Not as a lover I can't imagine him kissing me because the love i have for him is brotherly. Since then I have met another guy, and i realise i like him very much. But how do i see this ...
A. 6 February 2013: boyfriends are NOT like brothers. they are boyfriends and you want to kiss them.
so you tell the friend just that.... you are like a brother to me and I want you to be happy for me that I've met someone I care about.....
of course i... (read in full...)
We want to start with a STD check. So how do I ask the Doctor for this? what happens? We've also agreed to let each other see the paperwork.
Q. My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex for the first time. But before we do, she wants us to have a check-up from a doctor to make sure we're both OK. I completely agree with her and I respect her honesty. My question is, how do I go about wi...
A. 6 February 2013: You just go to the doctor for a check up and say 'i need a full STD panel screen please" it's blood work. and it's no big deal. My husband and I each got one when we started dating... at 6 months and again once we were monogamous...
just ... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: If she is going on dating sites in front of you saying there are better guys for her than you, she's taunting you to break up with her.
I would do it.
Move out. go NO CONTACT.... if this is due to her friend's bad influence, this may ... (read in full...)
How should I resolve this situation? My husband's Rock music addiction is causing me problems and now even the neighbors are complaining.
Q. On here, you often hear about partners with gaming addictions, well, how's this for an addiction; rock music ?? I knew my husband liked music, of all types, had nothing against it, but now he's missing out on sex with me, work, time with friend...
A. 6 February 2013: Once again I have to strongly recommend a full medical work up including a CAT scan. when there is a major personality change (and what he said to the neighbor alone is so off the charts as to make me wonder) I think of my mom who had a full ... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's request
Q. Dear cupid i know this sounds stupid but a good friend asked me to return some items to a store for store credit because she lost the receipt . I am starting to think she stole them . Would you take them back can i get into trouble?...
A. 5 February 2013: HOW did she pay for them... if she says CASH...then I would be suspicious of it... I mean why can't SHE return them?
if she says charge or check... there should be a record....once you see it (and print it to take to the store) then you can do i... (read in full...)
He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?
Q. Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off ...
A. 5 February 2013: Yes had the dad said NO it would be a non issue... I do get that...
but:
he only sees the kids with visitation....so he probably did not want to say no on something that was not life threatening.... (i remember letting my kids eat pizza for b... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend will soon start thinking I'm fat and stupid the same way that my ex did.....
Q. First of all I've been in a very happy relationship for over two years (on and off for 2 years previous to this), my boyfriend is great, he cares and he loves me, he knows I have bad self esteem issues and always tries to resolve them. In the past ...
A. 5 February 2013: I would not be friends with the ex. there is no need.
he called and said he wanted to apologize. I would have said "apology accepted anything else?" when he says no... or he just wants to be friends... you can say " I see no need to have con... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 5 February 2013: nothing is wrong with girls.....
what's wrong is that you are basing your self-esteem on what others say and do. that's not a good baseline.
for all you know lots of girls think you are cute and don't say anything because even in this... (read in full...)
Am I with him for the wrong reasons? We are in a LDR
Q. I have been dating my long distance boyfriend , X, for 3 1/2 years now but im afraid im with him for the wrong reasons. He lives in one place, and i live in a state far away. Ive met his parents, hes met mine and its gone really well. His parents ...
A. 5 February 2013: two years is a long time....especially at your age..
I'm sensing that the relationship may not last that long...
BTW one of the best places for Computer jobs is mid-atlantic east coast.. (Virgina, Washington, Maryland, New York)
... (read in full...)
He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?
Q. Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off ...
A. 5 February 2013: THEY are the children of your boyfriend… if they wanted to move things around it was because they felt comfortable doing so and were trying to feel like it was more “a family” IF he is your boyfriend and you are serious enough that his kids are ... (read in full...)
Am I with him for the wrong reasons? We are in a LDR
Q. I have been dating my long distance boyfriend , X, for 3 1/2 years now but im afraid im with him for the wrong reasons. He lives in one place, and i live in a state far away. Ive met his parents, hes met mine and its gone really well. His parents ...
A. 5 February 2013: You are very young for an LDR…. And 3.5 years is a long time for an LDR… usually I find when LDRs are with folks this young and this long, it’s being used as a way to avoid real life.
If you are happy why are you even worried about breaking up? Wh... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 5 February 2013: I think you are being paranoid. You say yourself you have low self-confidence. IF she was watching you and looked away when you made eye contact, that’s NORMAL.
STOP saying how she looks hard and stubborn… if you like her smile at her a... (read in full...)
I really care for my boyfriend's little boy, but how does he feel about me?
Q. This might seem like a strange question but here goes, I have been dating a man for nearly 7 months. I met his son more or less straight away. He is a gorgeous 10 year old boy who is polite, non-demanding, intelligent, quiet and just an all roun...
A. 4 February 2013: Gawd you are so over thinking this.
do you want a ten year old boy to fawn all over you?
he's a ten year old boy.. the fact that he acknowledges you is awesome.
so he didn't do what you wanted/expected and you got your things to go ho... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 29 January 2013: I showed this to my hubby and he said "she's being too picky"
small hands mean jack in my book.. the easier to hold them if you dare.
in addition, who cares about penis size.. give me a man with a talented tongue any day of the week.
che... (read in full...)
Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 24 January 2013: Ah I love follow-ups… thank you OP for clarifying so many things.
1. DO NOT EVER consider swinging. YOU can’t handle it, based on your follow up.
2. I do not know what ^^^ed is supposed to mean but no one said she was drunk or irrespons... (read in full...)
Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 23 January 2013: alcohol makes us do things we would not and should not normally do.
I would LET IT GO
and NOT joke about this.
Swinging has ruined more marriages than I care to admit.
My last marriage was open and it was the death of the marriage.... (read in full...)
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