What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 30 March 2020: Again, control is a thing for him.
He waited 3 days to say hi back to her. So that HE didn't look interested. He OBVIOUSLY wanted to engage her in conversation but AT his terms, which is also why he did a voice mail, maybe also because you coul... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 29 March 2020: Pleasure?
No, it's not about pleasure, it's control. I mean look at how much time you ponder and wonder about things that have nothing to do with you?
If he makes you feel insecure, you will try harder to convince him that you will stand by hi... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 28 March 2020: You ask, "how can I make him do this?"
The answer is, YOU can't. You can't "make" him do anything that HE doesn't want to do.
He is partly content with living with one foot in the past. Maybe to soothe this guilt, maybe to make himself look mor... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 23 March 2020: You got him and yourself this far, keep it up.
But you also have to decide, are you willing to keep pushing or pulling him to go do this.
Having a crap childhood is something he should have dealt with a long time ago, giving his age. Same w... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 17 March 2020: If nothing else OP, YOU go find a counselor and talk. And then you go from there.
... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman crushing on an old friend
Q. Hi I am married with a child but recently added an old online friend on social media and we have been chatting .. exchhnGed numbers and all..we flirt a lil but I decided that I won’t speak with this guy after we meet.. it’s been about 10years since ...
A. 14 March 2020: So if you husband is OH SO OK with this why are you asking total strangers on the internet? Makes no sense.... (read in full...)
How do I tell a co-worker that I misunderstood them and that I don't want to date?
Q. So recently I've had a coworker ask to go out. However, I didn't realize that he was probably asking me out on a date. The day that it happened, he had clocked out for the day and followed me around for a good hour and a half before asking if I'd ...
A. 13 March 2020: It's not your fault or problem that he has never asked anyone out before. That doesn't mean you OWE him a date.
He obviously have so issues with social cues if he was "hounding" you to ask you out. NEVER be vague. It doesn't help you. Or them.
... (read in full...)
I have a hard time believing anything my b/f says. Should I break up?
Q. Hi, I’m writing this in regards to my current relationship, the question is (Should I let him go?) My current boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months now. In the very beginning he did cheat on me, we had a fall out and he begged f...
A. 13 March 2020: Ghosting is rarely a good option, OP
It shows a bit of immaturity. It's sticking your head in the sand. All while making a BIG decision.
If I were you? I'd at LEAST text him (he doesn't deserve a face to face break up) But to let him know:" t... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman crushing on an old friend
Q. Hi I am married with a child but recently added an old online friend on social media and we have been chatting .. exchhnGed numbers and all..we flirt a lil but I decided that I won’t speak with this guy after we meet.. it’s been about 10years since ...
A. 13 March 2020: I suggest you ask your husband what he thinks you should do?
Come on, lady USE some common sense here.... (read in full...)
Will this single dad ever be ready for a relationship?
Q. I have been seeing this guy on and off for almost a year. He has a young son (4 years old) and when we were first starting to see each other and things were getting serious, he got scared and said he couldn't handle anything new because his previous ...
A. 13 March 2020: I know you like the guy, but you NEED to listen to what he says.
"he just isn't ready for a relationship right now."
He isn't READY. So what he is doing is having you as a "GF- experience" while still (in his mind) being single.
He ha... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 13 March 2020: I'm sorry he isn't really willing to work WITH you on fixing what's not working.
To think that counseling is about "letting someone in your head" is silly. Yes, a counselor can make you "see" or understand yourself AND your partner, their wishes a... (read in full...)
His lack of respect and communication are getting to me!
Q. I'm at a loss as to what I can do so all advice appreciated. I've been living with my boyfriend on and off nine months, we was together for two years before we moved in. I work full time, self employed and I have no breaks in my day. I get home ...
A. 12 March 2020: If you know deep down it's not working and won't work, then maybe it's time to TELL him? End it? Don't drag it out, for YOUR own sake, because you will turn into a person YOU won't like.
Contact Citizen's advice on how to evict legally an ex-partn... (read in full...)
I'm a married teacher with a crush on student's father. Why is he avoiding me?
Q. Hi I am married but have a harmless crush on one of my students father Recently . Previously I didn’t notice him but now I do and I feel like he is avoiding seeing me as I’m also new to the class.. however he doesn’t behave that way to other female ...
A. 12 March 2020: I hope you are not an English teacher...
Unloyal? Seriously?
No, no one is perfect, but there is such a thing as being professional, appropriate, using common sense, and acting like an adult. You should try it. Any of them really.
You a... (read in full...)
I want to tell my ex that I made a mistake and I miss her
Q. I need help with my situation and what to do. Last summer I broke up with my ex gf of 2 years. I wasn’t happy in my relationship for a long time and I realised she was very toxic. At first I felt nothing but relief so thought I was over it. My ex gf ...
A. 12 March 2020: Sometimes you can't unring a bell, OP
(which means, you you have to live with the consequences as it can't be undone.)
If you contact her now and try to get back together or even GET back together, things are going to be very different, She i... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my married doctor. I want to tell her my feelings
Q. I have a crush on female doctor (she is married lady) I don't know when I see her I really feel to talk to her more and more (she is already married I don't know what to do know). Can I reveal this to her directly?. Help me....
A. 12 March 2020: No, she is married.
If she is your doctor, I'd suggest you switch doctors.
If you were a married man and your wife was a doctor, how would you feel if her patients declared their love for her?
It's absolutely inappropriate.
... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 12 March 2020: Start with a marriage counseling therapist. If he truly needs a sexual addiction counselor too, then hopefully the therapist can point that out and suggest someone.
I can see why your husband is not wanting to do counseling. It's not in his favo... (read in full...)
I'm a married teacher with a crush on student's father. Why is he avoiding me?
Q. Hi I am married but have a harmless crush on one of my students father Recently . Previously I didn’t notice him but now I do and I feel like he is avoiding seeing me as I’m also new to the class.. however he doesn’t behave that way to other female ...
A. 11 March 2020: My guess is he can sense your "crush" and he is avoiding YOU and the drama that could ensue.
I think you need to get a grip, lady
You are there to teach kids, not lust after the dads.
... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the effects of my sister's co-parenting on her child
Q. Since I can't register because it States my emails are being used when I've never registered before I'm just posting without registering so bare with me please. So I was wanting some opinions, the situation doesn't directly effect me but it sort o...
A. 11 March 2020: As much as it sucks, it's HER life, HER son and HER mistakes to make.
I get that your concern comes from a place of love, but whether WE (totally strangers on the internet) think it sounds like a messy situation or not, is kind of irreleva... (read in full...)
His lack of respect and communication are getting to me!
Q. I'm at a loss as to what I can do so all advice appreciated. I've been living with my boyfriend on and off nine months, we was together for two years before we moved in. I work full time, self employed and I have no breaks in my day. I get home ...
A. 11 March 2020: You treat him like a child.
Lock him out when he isn't conforming is childish.
Why not SET some ground rules? If you WANT to date this guy.
1. if he goes to the pub after work, text you and let you know.
2. when he gets home from sai... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't stand up for me, and it hurts
Q. So, this may be a stupid thing to be upset about, and feel free to tell me if it is. My husband and I have been married for five years, and I don't feel like he ever stands up for me to other people. By "other people," I mean his family. For the ...
A. 11 March 2020: I think the reason your husband says, ignore - a basic "smile and wave, boys" is because it DROPS the subject and doesn't escalate to HAVING to "defend" you or him, or the both of you, which in turn can turn into an argument and family drama ... (read in full...)
He suddenly wants marriage and kids?
Q. The guy I have been dating told me at the beginning of our relationship that he did not want marriage or kids. I wasn't sure I wanted them either, so it seemed like we were on the same page. We didn't discuss the subject again until he recently ...
A. 11 March 2020: Absolutely.
I didn't want kids until I meet my husband. I wasn't even sure about marriage either.
I wouldn't say my husband convinced me, because he didn't. He did say that he wouldn't MIND kids (he already had 2 when we met).
Some pe... (read in full...)
I have a hard time believing anything my b/f says. Should I break up?
Q. Hi, I’m writing this in regards to my current relationship, the question is (Should I let him go?) My current boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months now. In the very beginning he did cheat on me, we had a fall out and he begged f...
A. 11 March 2020: The thing with forgiveness, OP, is that it's not easy and it's not always deserved.
You KNOW his has "issues" with boundaries with other girls. He cheated. He still keeps a girl around he also slept with at some point in time. And he thinks y... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 11 March 2020: So far so good.
You did what you set out to do, calling him on his BS. And ASKING him to go to counselling to save the marriage.
The thing is he refused and will continue to DENY that what he did is what destroyed your faith, trust and love i... (read in full...)
Am I in over my head? I just want a healthy relationship
Q. Hello. Im at a point in my life where having and maintaining a healthy relationship is one of the most important concentrations i have. Ive accomplished everything else ive wanted to thus far, but have struggled getting my love life right and so ive ...
A. 10 March 2020: EDIT:
"Because 2 months in, things should be complicated."
should have been...
Because 2 months in, things shouldn't be complicated.... (read in full...)
My son has been acting like a jerk since he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, im a mother of two. Since my children are baby,im the only one who take care of them. Their father cheated on me since then i was alone supporting them financially. I worked hard for them till they finished their college. Now they are grown up ...
A. 10 March 2020: You daughter is right.
Don't REWARD his disrespect with attention or anything else. What he doesn't seem to understand is that both YOU and your daughter are on HIS side, so when his GF cheated you both decided she must be a piece of crap (and rig... (read in full...)
Can anyone from Texas recommend the best places to go?
Q. Me and my best friend are planning a trip to Texas this weekend for May. It’s always been a dream of my to visit Texas and now I finally have the time. However I’m having trouble deciding between Austin and Houston became Ive been hearing mixed ...
A. 10 March 2020: Why not see both places?
You will probably fly into to Houston but you can drive to Austin. It's only a 2 1/2 hour drive.
Houston is HUGE city (4th largest in the US) and spans well over 50 miles from one end to the other. You get pretty much ... (read in full...)
Am I in over my head? I just want a healthy relationship
Q. Hello. Im at a point in my life where having and maintaining a healthy relationship is one of the most important concentrations i have. Ive accomplished everything else ive wanted to thus far, but have struggled getting my love life right and so ive ...
A. 10 March 2020: Let's talk about that GF of your BF's cousin that he lives with.
You say: "She seems to have way more in common with my boyfriend ". The point SEEMS. The second point is, SHE is obviously DATING his cousin and thus is seen as part of the "family"... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm being friend zoned or pushed to make my move?
Q. Got a friend and I can't decide whether I'm being friend zoned or pushed to make a move. I playfully asked if she would ever consider going out with someone 'like' me. This was her response... 'Not gonna lie, there has been a few times where I'...
A. 10 March 2020: She pretty much told you no.
"Dating you personally... it may have crossed my mind once or twice but... I have no intension of trying to swoop you off your feet with my amazingness".
That is her saying no.
This is also her saying, NOT YOU... (read in full...)
Is it ok to kiss a single mom on the 2nd date?
Q. I started dating a single mother recently. I am 21, unmarried and without she is 39 and has a 3 year old daughter. She is awfully sweet and nice and suggested a second date soon -- so a second date is on the cards very soon. So do you think it is ok...
A. 9 March 2020: I don;'t think her being a "single mom" has much bearing on whether you should kiss her on a second date or not.
What SHOULD be considered is are YOU interested in dating her? Is she interested in dating you?
And if you at the END of the night... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet. Do I meet him and rub my pregnancy in his face or just ignore him?
Q. My ex has been bugging to meet me for weeks now..I dumped him for many reasons. I am not interested in getting back to him...because I have moved on.. I am actually 7 months pregnant... While we have been apart for a year and a half.. He also moved ...
A. 9 March 2020: eh, why bother talking to him or meeting up? You obviously have a new partner and baby on the way, focus on that, not some pathetic ex!
Aren't you a little old for teenage drama games?... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 9 March 2020: See, this is where I think he is embellishing...
"So this is the crazy part ,I remember clearly that he said to me that she had told him that since she did not want sex , that he could go and do it with other women, but then when she found ou... (read in full...)
How do I tell a co-worker that I misunderstood them and that I don't want to date?
Q. So recently I've had a coworker ask to go out. However, I didn't realize that he was probably asking me out on a date. The day that it happened, he had clocked out for the day and followed me around for a good hour and a half before asking if I'd ...
A. 9 March 2020: Just tell him you want to clarify what kind of outing he is talking about, because going out as friends sounds nice but you are NOT looking to go on a date as you have no plans to start dating at all. And that you do not want to string anyone along ... (read in full...)
How can I get my insecure and paranoid mistress to trust me after almost 10 years together?
Q. No harsh judgments. I am only looking for advice here. I am a married man having a relationship with another woman for close to 10 years. It's no longer an affair per se. We've grown to love each other yet I cannot leave my wife. I find ...
A. 8 March 2020: What about your wife?
You mention nothing about that. And spare the BS about how you "can't divorce her". Your wife deserves better.
Your mistress is nuts because she still waiting on you to leave, after 10 years. She has driven herself n... (read in full...)
Help me decide... Were her actions innocent or was she flirting with me?
Q. So, this is one of those 'what did this mean?' questions and I would appreciate your opinions. Went to a bar just chilling with a friend of mine (I've only known her for a few months) and I'd say we are very close but I'm not sure I think about her ...
A. 8 March 2020: I see nothing strange in her behavior?
It rained she shared her umbrella, walking arm in arm meant that the both of you could fit under it and not get wet.
I'd say, she is thoughtful, kind and sweet.
I don't think she had any "ulterior mo... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 8 March 2020: Many people have a lot of guilt after someone dies. Whether they are family, friend or... foe.
Because there is ALWAYS things that were unsaid, left open, regrets perhaps? Self examination?
And don't forget, he probably holds on to the GOOD m... (read in full...)
I feel hurt and used by my girlfriend and don't know where to go from here
Q. Hi everyone Thanks in advance for your opinions and advice. My gf and I have been together for around 3 years. She is in her last year at college and I have finished and have a full time job. We don't live together, I have worked hard all my life ...
A. 8 March 2020: Just end it, OP
She IS using you.
How do you process awful messages? By deciding if you WANT a person in your life who would SEND that kind of message to you OR not.
You are her "vacation home" for when she needs a break from her own place... (read in full...)
Am I living with an abusive husband?
Q. Is this abuse ? I’ve been with my husband for 18 years (married for 15). He has some great qualities (doesn’t lie, cheat, is hardworking…), but he has major issues with his moods/temper/ADHD/depression/anxiety. Over the years he has seen a cou...
A. 7 March 2020: I think I remember this OP from way back (the bike scenario sounds familiar).
I'm pretty sure you got the advice that YES, this is abusive behavior and WHY are you still there? You CAN NOT change him by staying, you CAN NOT change him by loving h... (read in full...)
How do I tell my daughter’s father I’m seeing someone new?
Q. I have been separated from my daughters father for just under a year, we are still good friends but I think there are still some underlying feelings on his part. Recently I've started seeing someone new, I live in a small town where everyone k...
A. 7 March 2020: You say you have separated, so were you married or did you "just" split up?
If you are NOT fully divorced I'd finish the divorce before dating. It just seems smarter.
If you were not married, I'd just call him (the ex) and talk to him. Tel... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 6 March 2020: Talk to a divorce solicitor BEFORE leaving your shared home - IF you own it. As that can be used against you, as in "abandonment".
Not sure on the UK laws, which is why I think it's SMART to talk to a lawyer/solicitor before making big choices.... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 6 March 2020: You say "he MUST have ulterior motives"... must he though?
I'd say probably, because most GROWN people know this is not exactly proper behavior to do in front of a partner. It shows a lack of common sense, common courtesy and well.... lack of ... (read in full...)
Gay urges that won't stop
Q. I know that I love my girlfriend very much. But the older I get, the more I worry that I'm actually gay. So, I started off by watching gay porn, and being very aroused. Then being with my first man was I was 16. Ive always been harder during se...
A. 6 March 2020: How do you know?
I can't tell you that. I don't think most people have deep doubts, they know what sex they are most attracted to. Even the bi-sexual who CAN go either way, usually HAVE a "main" preference.
I think the fact that you have th... (read in full...)
I'm shy and don't know how to move forward with a friend
Q. Hi, I've become really close friends with a lovely guy over the past two and a half years (we're both gay). We get on so well and I've been able to open up to him about life stuff that I've never told anyone before. We've just been "friends" for all ...
A. 6 March 2020: I'd say open your mouth and TELL him that you are interested in more than friendship with him.
Kissing him is NOT a "hint", many people kiss their friends on the cheek. H e might just think that it's you trying to show "friendly affectio... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 5 March 2020: I would definitely talk to a solicitor, and I would also think about finding a place YOU can afford on your own closer to work, you don't HAVE to live right next door to family, right?
Figure out what you are financially entitled to and then dec... (read in full...)
8 years of being a stay at home mom. I want to work hubby doesn't want me to. I think I want out
Q. Hi, I’m hoping I can get a little advice here, I’m feeling slightly .. lost? Here’s a little background I hope it doesn’t bore you. Me and my partner have been together now for nearly 9 years, we have 3 beautiful children together. When I firs...
A. 4 March 2020: It sounds like he has isolated you from the "outside World" over time. Because it SUITS him. And you have realized that this is not how you want to live life.
I think BEFORE you decide to leave, that you need get on your feet and get back your ind... (read in full...)
Unrequited love... I totally messed up any chance with my crush, why do I act so weird around him?
Q. So I'm feeling really down on myself at the moment. I'm generally a very bubbly, nice person. My friends all tell me how kind I am and I just like to smile and be happy. However recently I've been the total opposite, mainly down to feeling ...
A. 3 March 2020: Don't "test the waters" - obviously he doesn't take hints or clues... as to whether you are interested or not.
I have to agree that asking him out might be a option. Because if he says no, thanks - well then you know the guy isn't interest... (read in full...)
He says he will never marry me, which makes me think I am not good enough.
Q. Hey all been with my partner for a year I've moved in with him and it's going great he has 2 young children who he sees alot and we have a great time together. Hes been married twice and engaged once. I've been engaged twice and married once. We ...
A. 3 March 2020: I don't agree with you, CarrieSoa,
For MANY people marriage DO mean something. Otherwise no one would marry any more. It's not just a "piece of paper".
But I DO get the point that being married doesn't prevent "things" from happening. That ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to help him through his heroin addiction I'm not sure that I want to
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for five months and we really love each other like I’ve neber before we only see each other the weekends as he lives 40 mins away and works nights but that’s changed this weekend he’s back on days and was supposed to be ...
A. 2 March 2020: Honestly?
I think he is asking too much of you. It's ONLY been 5 months and you ONLY see each other on weekends, so while you might FEEL this is going great... obviously there are things you had NO idea went on. Like, serious drug use.
I think... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 2 March 2020: Maybe he knows that HE is the guy with the GF who is "too pretty for him" and yes, he might be insecure because he probably knows you could find someone YOUNGER, more successful and more handsome.
I think most people think that if they have a p... (read in full...)
He says he will never marry me, which makes me think I am not good enough.
Q. Hey all been with my partner for a year I've moved in with him and it's going great he has 2 young children who he sees alot and we have a great time together. Hes been married twice and engaged once. I've been engaged twice and married once. We ...
A. 1 March 2020: Maybe the two of you will at some point come to a conclusion that will make you both content.
It has only BEEN a year as well. So maybe given some more time there will be some or other compromise and mutual agreement.
Good luck, OP... (read in full...)
He says he will never marry me, which makes me think I am not good enough.
Q. Hey all been with my partner for a year I've moved in with him and it's going great he has 2 young children who he sees alot and we have a great time together. Hes been married twice and engaged once. I've been engaged twice and married once. We ...
A. 1 March 2020: Sometimes people have different goals.
You might WANT to be married because it makes you feel safer in the relationship WITH your partner.
He might not. He's been there, done that, twice.
So YOU have to decide HOW important is marriage to... (read in full...)
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