Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?
Q. A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...
A. 2 August 2010: Uncle q1605 is absolutely right:
There will be no winners here.
Just varying magnitudes of losers.
Unfortunately, you can't seem to get in our head that you are just being used. He's done this before, hence the secrecy and the fact tha... (read in full...)
My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 23 July 2010: Of course there is a difference. But it's still something absolutely pointless. You can not go back in time and give her a good childhood or take her off the streets.
It's obviously something that nags you a lot. I'm just saying YOU need to find ... (read in full...)
Usually friends just drift apart but these girls seem to want revenge of some sort. How do I find peace and move on with my life?
Q. I feel stupid and way too old to be writing about this, but I need to clear my head and get some outside perspectives on this situation. I have ex-friends from childhood with whom I used to be very close with. Over time, I realized they always had ...
A. 23 July 2010: Because they are unhappy with their own little lives, so taking it out on you makes them feel better. THAT is what bullies do, honey.
Ignore them, pretend they don't exist. If they start to harass you talk to a teacher or school counselo... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest a proper gym routine?
Q. topic- weightloss i need to lose a stone minimum before my holidays... i have controlled my over eatting and excercise 4-5 times a week and i have lost 7 pounds i am down to the last 13 days before holidays and need major help to shift the...
A. 23 July 2010: Make sure you "split" your work out up, so you do upper body one day and lower the next. And take at least 1 day off a week.
Also do work out evenly. We all have a strong and a weak side. Work them both equally.
I would also suggest you ask ... (read in full...)
My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 23 July 2010: You don't sound snarky.. But the fact that you MARRIED her knowing she had a rough childhood and you HAVE BEEN married to her for 20+ years and NOW POP out of the blue (well maybe not totally out of the blue) pops all these thought of her past from ... (read in full...)
How should a woman act when a guy dumps her?
Q. To the guys. If you dump someone without telling them, how does it make you feel if they respect your not so graceful dumping with grace (not chasing your, not calling or stalking you), and moved on? Guys, what in your opinion makes a lady you...
A. 22 July 2010: I don't think there is a "classy" way to behave after being dumped. The senisble way is to cut all contact and let him go.
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Fell in love with a man seeking asylum but he's living a lie!
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship with an asylum seeker for a year and a half now. I knew his situation from the start and as much as we tried to avoid it we fell head over heels in love. The problem is (a) he has been refused asylum but can appeal ...
A. 22 July 2010: I think a relationship build on lies and fabrications is doomed.
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I think I might be pregnant, can't tell parents, can't go to the doctor!
Q. I have a feeling i might be pregnant. I recently had unprotected sex - with my now ex-boyfriend - but he did not ejaculate inside me. I know that this is not a safe way of contraception, but it just happened and it is the only time it ever hap...
A. 22 July 2010: There are such a thing as false positive tests results. I know you said you can not go to the doctor but if there is a free clinic or the likes ? you really should go get a blood test done.
It is rare though to have that many false positive... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. Hi! IT's Been a long time since i'm asking myself that i was virgin or not!i still can't understand i haven't asked anyone yet.3 Years ago i had an infection in chanels of urine and it stinged a lot so i put my finger inside and when i pull ...
A. 22 July 2010: Yes you are still a virgin. And.. urine doesn't come out of the vagina btw.. ... (read in full...)
My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 22 July 2010: Good luck. I hope you still see the counselor and deal with some of your issues, regardless.
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What am I to think? Am I being used here?
Q. I have been seeing/dating this woman (in her early 20's)for a while. She says she doesn't want a relationship. I try and try again to win her over by being there for her and supporting her when she needs me. I really like her a lot. We go out on ...
A. 22 July 2010: Nope I don't think you are being used. You are just not listening to her.
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This married woman wants to leave her husband... FOR MY BOYFRIEND!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and during this time he has cheated with many times, but when i do find out he calls off the relationship them but this always happen after lots of fights and tears. Recently i found out he h...
A. 22 July 2010: I don't get it, he cheats on you constantly and you STAY? Are you a masochist? Do you like people treating you like crap?
He is not the only guy out there. You CAN do a lot better, no doubt.
Leave him, be miserable for a little while at ... (read in full...)
Why did he deny me and our baby to this girl?
Q. Well I I'm still struggling with my situation. My boyfriend cheated and possibly got this other girl pregnant. I'm trying to get over it cause I myself had cheated but I just can't. I'm not trying to keep score but he cheated on me with three ...
A. 22 July 2010: Time to leave that loser honey!
What are you waiting for?... (read in full...)
Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?
Q. A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...
A. 22 July 2010: You already know the answer. Not only is it morally dumb to do this, emotionally it's not smart either.
YOU are starting to have feelings for him, he loves his wife, I smell drama and heartache..
Go find a single guy. ... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to ask my fiance to get a paternity test of his son with his ex?
Q. Is it reasonable to ask my fiance to get a paternity test of his son with his ex? We are planning our future living arrangements and it all hinges on our children. We currently live a fairly large distance apart and in order to satisfy everyone ...
A. 22 July 2010: I absolutely think it's a smart thing to do. Asking him to take a paternity test. He will be paying for 18-21 years if he IS the father, he shouldn't pay if he isn't.
I was in a situation similar to yours. My husband's ex GF claimed her youngest... (read in full...)
How can I stop watching hogtied porn?
Q. Hi guys i feel so ashamed of myself, is beacuse i always watch porn and i mean not any. i like to watch bondage and hogtied which it makes me feel like doing it and i like to see the girls going through the pain. how can i stop watching hogtied...
A. 21 July 2010: Step away from the computer. ... (read in full...)
I can't control my anger towards my husband
Q. I can’t control my anger toward my husband and don’t know what to do. When I get angry, I am unable to control my temper, I talk continuously and hurt my husband’s feelings and abuse him a lot verbally. The argument continues until my husband...
A. 21 July 2010: Look into getting yourself some help in form of Anger Management and/or some therapy.
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We got close but now he doesn't call me. Why?
Q. I meet some someone eithmonth ago. We had a womderful first date. Then my ex came to pick up some things he left at my apartment. he sneaked into my phone and listened to a voice message from my date. He called my date and made it seem that i ...
A. 21 July 2010: No idea, call and ask him?
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My husband's ex lover cannot accept the fact that he came back to his family
Q. My husband I was separated for almost 1yr,now he's back to us w/my two kids.He's involve w/a woman who can't accept the fact that my husband was back to his family.Now she's sending me a lot of malicious pictures of them and e-mails telling what ...
A. 21 July 2010: You should be able to file a restraining order against her as well, and BRING all the nasty emails & pictures she sent you. You guys may also consider relocating... Might make life a ton easier.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont come to my sisters wedding or spend any time with my family at all, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I'll try and keep this as brief as possible. My sister is getting married next week and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (maybe more) won't come to my sisters wedding because 'she wont know anyone'. This upsets me a lot, as I'm giving my si...
A. 21 July 2010: You guys have been together for 2 1/2 years and she isn't wanting ANY contact with your family? That is just off. I'm not saying you should adopt your GF/BF's family, but you SHOULD make an effort to get to know them.
Honestly, you sisters ... (read in full...)
My lazy husband! I feel like a single mom but I'm married!
Q. My husband is lazy! I work 40hrs a week, take care of our 13 month old daughter, cook, clean, heck I even do yard work, and all he does is work, which I understand he might be tired, but he doesnt help with anything. I feel like I am a single mom, ...
A. 21 July 2010: Seems like neither of you are happy. I would sit him down and tell him that you two need to make a "chore list" - IT ISN'T FAIR that you do everything around the house + work out of the house. You two also need to make a budget and BOTH share the ... (read in full...)
I would never date a man with 'baggage'
Q. I'm 21 and his son is 5 years old, we been seeing each other 5 months. He never told me he had a child till 3 months into our relationship as I had told him, a few times before that I would never date a man with 'baggage' he still decided to see me ...
A. 21 July 2010: He can't MAKE you DATE him. That is preposterous. Just tell him you stand by your original sentiment. There is nothing wrong in not wanting to get involved with a guy/girl with "baggage". It's not easy to live with/deal with.
Sometimes though t... (read in full...)
Is it an affair if it's an LDR with a married man?
Q. Is it called an illicit affair if you are involved in a long distance relationship with a married man? I never met him but our relationship of 3 yrs are through online chats only. ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes, It's called an emotional affair. It's just as bad as if you slept with him on a regular basis.
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My cat is peeing on my couch!! HELP PLEASE!!
Q. My cat is 2 years old, and he is peeing on my couches.. I just moved so he is a little mad but I want him to stop... What can I do to get him to stop. (He is fixed) ...
A. 21 July 2010: Take him to the vet, it can be a urinary tract infection. Also... make sure you get the spot he peed on cleaned up so he won't re-offend.
Also make sure you clean the litter box daily.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for fooling around with my ex because he is still involved with another girl?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a situation wher me and my ex-bf have been back seeing each other for some time now, but when we broke up he meet a new girl so he is still with her! I mean we see each other daily, I go to his house and he comes to mine. We go ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes you are, though I have to say HE is WAY more in the wrong, after all he is the one with a GF, you are just letting the guy USE you..
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My husband and I have decided to separate, so is it ok to date a co-worker?
Q. My question is: my husband and I have decided to separate in 1 yr, should i consider dating a co-worker i'm very attracted to? See i have been with my husband for 16 1/2 yrs, married for 16 yrs. My husband is in the military, our first yr and hal...
A. 21 July 2010: I suggest you don't start dating this guy yet. Be "single" a little while, get your head straight. You also have 2 kids to consider.
It just never a great idea to "jump" from guy to guy - from one relationship to the next.
Seems to me t... (read in full...)
He treats me better than my boyfriend, should I switch?
Q. In summary, I'm a girl, who can't make her own decisions, so I could really use your advice... I've been dating this guy for the past nine months. I really care about him, but our relationship hasn't really been the best. He's been spending al...
A. 21 July 2010: You seem like you are talking about shoes or underwear not guys you actually care for....
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I don't know her nor anything about her but I DETEST her.
Q. Me and this guy broke up in march i'm still not over him - we were together over a year, he was seeing other girls whilst he was with me i found out, i then ended it. I still think about him every day, and i'm starting to think maybe i fell in love. ...
A. 21 July 2010: Stop being mad at his new girl, it's not her fault you fell for a prick.
He moved on so easily because he is a shallow bastard. Be glad he is gone, if he hadn't cheated on you with one girl it would have been another. LEARN from this "mistake... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he's more attracted to someone else. Should I be worried?
Q. Recently, my boyfriend told me that he found a girl at his summer job to be more "attractive" than me. I'm thin for my height, and in his words, look more "fragile" than "fit" and "fragile" is not attractive. He also said that she is prettier, but ...
A. 21 July 2010: I think he is an insensitive bastard for putting you down the way he is.
Why are you still with him? Obviously it can't be for his compassionate and loving personality.......... (read in full...)
Usually friends just drift apart but these girls seem to want revenge of some sort. How do I find peace and move on with my life?
Q. I feel stupid and way too old to be writing about this, but I need to clear my head and get some outside perspectives on this situation. I have ex-friends from childhood with whom I used to be very close with. Over time, I realized they always had ...
A. 20 July 2010: Start to ignore them. They will seem like the crazy drama Llama's they are. You can be the butt of anyones joke if it's not funny.
YOU are moving on with your life, they are still stuck in High School.
Take them off your phone, Facebook,... (read in full...)
How likely is it I am pregnant, and how soon should I take a test?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me how likely it is that i might be pregnant, and how soon i should take a test Ok well over last night and yesterday morning me and my boyfriend have had sex many times and he has ejaculated inside me...
A. 20 July 2010: I think you should go see a GYN. Talk to her about how to get pregnant and how to avoid it. And no, if you had sex yesterday there is no telling (yet) if you are pregnant or not. It all comes down to your cycle, yours and your BF's fertility and.. a ... (read in full...)
She said we are "just friends..."
Q. well about 5 months ago I met this girl Natalie, she was everything I ever wanted and she knew it. I probably made a mistake telling her that I like her and she thought it was cute. I talk to her almost every day and have asked her out a few ...
A. 20 July 2010: I'm sorry your crush isn't as into you as you are into her. It happens.
Back off a bit and see where things take you, oh and stop stalking her.
Good luck,... (read in full...)
12 years together with 2 kids and he STILL won't marry me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years. We have two children together (9 and 4 years old). I feel that getting married is very important but my boyfriend always has an excuse as to why it is not feasible. I am getting tired of waiting ...
A. 20 July 2010: My brother and his now wife "dated" almost 20 year before they got married. If it wasn't for their two kids, I'm pretty sure they would still be "dating" in another 20 or 40 years.
Getting married is a commitment, but so is being in a relation... (read in full...)
I cheated, now I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt. What should I do?
Q. I'm not sure what I should do....I cheated on my fiance with a co-worker. We are supposed to get married in 6 months. While he's the one who has cheated in past relationships (not ours that I know of), I am the one who screwed up now. I am confused ...
A. 20 July 2010: Well, at least you understand what you did was "wrong". You feel remorse and regret.
I would say your friends advice isn't half bad. However, I think you need to fess up to your fiancee, cancel the wedding and move out on your own.
Also, h... (read in full...)
Why am I so hung up on not being her first kiss? Is it just the distance?
Q. Ok so my first kiss was with my girlfriend almost 6 months ago. I started dating her the during the school year I mean and it is now the summertime. I am obviously a virgin as is my girlfriend. I had never done anything with any girls except "booty ...
A. 20 July 2010: Well, MAYBE when you see her again you can be the guy who kisses her the BEST :)
She will forget about any other dudes.
Kiss her socks off.... (read in full...)
Am I just too sensitive to the touch?
Q. Hey everyone! First off: I'd like to say thank you for all the help with my other questions. I really appreciate it and they've helped a lot. Secondly: I just had my first... Erm, "long" kiss - if you will - with my boyfriend. It was incredib...
A. 20 July 2010: I think it's pretty normal that your body is reacting to a long kiss. It's be bad if it didn't.
I would talk to him. I think waiting til you feel absolutely ready is a great idea. It may be hard, but if he is worth it, he will wait.
RESPECT... (read in full...)
Engaged for 8 years, how do I tell him I want out?
Q. I have been with my partner for 14 years. We have been engaged for 8 years and lived together for 7 years. Over the last 6-8 months my feelings for him have changed - I no longer love him! I don't have any conversation with him and I don't want him ...
A. 20 July 2010: I think you should tell him. What's the point of settling into a potential unhappy marriage?
You BOTH deserve to be happy and loved.
I agree with dirtball... What DID happen in the last year or so for your feeling to do a 180?... (read in full...)
Are married women basically all disloyal, cheaters at heart, ready to do whatever it takes for male attention?
Q. Why do so many married women cheat? I don't know if this is just a function of where I live (Southern California), but it seems like the majority of women I know well have cheated at some point on their husbands. These range from a few women who ...
A. 20 July 2010: I think it has to do with the fact that women CAN cheat and not be stamped with the scarlet letter. Men has had that privilege for centuries.
I also think because a LOT of women marry for the wrong reasons and therefor end up with the wrong gu... (read in full...)
I lost the love of my life to WoW and we're still in the relationship
Q. "OP Own Title" Hello, I'd like to start off by saying that I am not an anti-gaming activist. I do not hate video games. To an extent, I am a gamer. I have a soft spot for the older Sega Genesis and Super Nintendo games and occasionally FPS and the ...
A. 20 July 2010: Not a funny situation.
Honestly, I would not make ultimatums or anything else I would quietly end the relationship. When he gets done with WoW, he will find another game and another. If you "demand" that he quit the game for you he will resent y... (read in full...)
Did I sound like a pervert for asking?
Q. Hey Agony Aunts/Uncles... I feel like I've lost some innocence in myself. I was making out with my gf the other day and I started to tickle her chest. I got the signal that I was crossing the line. So I stopped and we continued to make out. A day ...
A. 20 July 2010: Honestly, I think it would be odd if you didn't want to touch her back.
But KUDOS! to you for asking her first and respecting her no.
Keep your fingers on her earlobes, the jawline or in her hair that way you won't be tempted to grope. .. too... (read in full...)
"I don't understand"
Q. "OP Own Title" I was talking with a man online and getting to know him for about a year. I then found out that he never told anyone about me but claimed to do so with me. What does this mean? [Mod note- changed a word for clarity]...
A. 20 July 2010: I agree with CaringGuy and Anon.
He's not single. It was a fantasy/game to him, not real, as it was to you.
Dump the dude, cut the contact and move on.... (read in full...)
My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 20 July 2010: OP, I know you didn't want it to happen, I'm not suggesting you just pulled it out of a hat for the fun of it.
But this is mainly about YOU, not her. There is a reason why all this is resurfacing so many years after the fact. Think about it. Eith... (read in full...)
I just cannot stay away from him, he is the best I ever had and is very well endowed!!
Q. Ok so me and my ex-bf are still having sex!! We broke up in 2002 and we still have sex on the REGULAR I mean 3 or more times a week! Problem is me and him both are in relationship with other people now, but we both still love each other a lot and ...
A. 20 July 2010: Dump your current BF. If you are having sex with someone else you need to set your BD "free" so he can go find himself a decent faithful woman.
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Could this be breast cancer?
Q. i recently had a lump in my cheast. Usually this indecates breast cancer :(.. i havent seen my doctor yet becacause of my insurance. However the lump has faded and gone away.Looking at information on the internet the lumps from breat cancer ...
A. 20 July 2010: It can easily be harmless, still go see your doctor.
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My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 20 July 2010: You really need to quit dragging up more dirt to trow at your wife. To me it seems like you are not happy with yourself, your life and your marriage, but you put the blame on your wife and her past..
Let me quote you:
*I was buying a home at the ... (read in full...)
My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.
Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...
A. 18 July 2010: If she WAS a prostitute at 14 I can understand why she is hiding it. I'm pretty sure is was a rough horrible time in er life that she doesn't want to re-visit.
Yes, it would be nice if she could own up to it and be honest, maybe it's just too... (read in full...)
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