Age taking it's toll...
Q. I am about to meet up with an old friend the same age as me. He remembers me fondly, we went out once 40 years ago. I am probably fairly attractive, but I wear a hearing aid and have false teeth. I have already put him off once but am meeting this ...
A. 28 September 2010: Well maybe his comment about you "dating" a married man hit a soft spot? I won't get on my high horse about affairs and cheating, but he might not agree with your morals and values, if you think it's OK to date a married man.. ( no matter how ... (read in full...)
My heart says not to end this buy my head says I should? interracial relationship
Q. I am a white male, live and have lived in a mainly white suburb all my life, and most of my associations have been with others of my race. We are a pretty liberal family and I have always been raised that everyone is equal, but that being said our ...
A. 15 September 2010: Thank you for your comment :)
I hope the two of you can be happy together, regardless of everything.
And no, I didn't grow up in your neighborhood, I grew up in a small town in Denmark.
Change starts at home. It can spread (good or bad) lik... (read in full...)
Grey crusties on my nipple? what could cause this?
Q. i had a nap after work today while dinner was cooking and when i woke up my boyfriend noticed what looked like a dirt smudge on my nipple. i dont think it was there there before my nap sonim assuming it happened while i was sleeping. i tried to rub ...
A. 15 September 2010: Like I said, women who aren't pregnant can lactate too. So if you are big milk drinker, switch to organic milk.
I hope it turns out the way you want it too with regards to the pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
My heart says not to end this buy my head says I should? interracial relationship
Q. I am a white male, live and have lived in a mainly white suburb all my life, and most of my associations have been with others of my race. We are a pretty liberal family and I have always been raised that everyone is equal, but that being said our ...
A. 14 September 2010: I grew up in a VERY tolerant and VERY white society ( I'm NOT American) and I honestly have such a HARD time when people in this day and age, think that color is what makes people different.
I think the LESS people worry about skin color/et... (read in full...)
I don't want to eat but I have to. How to lose weight?
Q. I want to lose weight. I exercise every day but I eat a lot. I don't want to eat but I just have to. I don't know what to do! Help!...
A. 14 September 2010: Then EDUCATE yourself in nutrition. Know what the "right" things to eat are. Learn about portion control.
That is a start. You can go to the library (or use Google) and see what you can find on the subject. ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 14 September 2010: To me it seems all wrong. If I was you I would tell the wife that you were a little uncomfortable with the nudity.
... (read in full...)
My heart says not to end this buy my head says I should? interracial relationship
Q. I am a white male, live and have lived in a mainly white suburb all my life, and most of my associations have been with others of my race. We are a pretty liberal family and I have always been raised that everyone is equal, but that being said our ...
A. 14 September 2010: I know you are saying you are "liberal" but the fact that you keep bringing up her skin color tells me that THAT is the biggest issue for you.
I DO think you are a guy having JUNGLE FEVER (as you put it) If you truly loved her, her skin color or... (read in full...)
He is having marriage problems and we want a fling together? what should I do?
Q. So I just got into contact with a guy I had a crush on back in high school. Found out he was very attracted to me as well. We both haven't forgotten each other and would like to have a fling but here's the situation: he's married, I live in one ...
A. 14 September 2010: They ALL have marriage problems when they are trying to hook up.
*My wife doesn't like sex any more*
*My wife doesn't understand me*
Blah Blah Blah
You are willing to become a "home-wrecker" for a few hours of rolling in the hay? Do YOU want ... (read in full...)
Why the need for so many lovers?
Q. My daughter is 19. She has had at least 10 sexual partners that I know of. Am I out of touch for feeling that this is excessive? We have good communication, what is going on?...
A. 14 September 2010: Personally I'm 41 and I have had 4 sexual partner my whole life... so 10 at 19 seems like a lot to me.
MANY young women feel a need to feel loved and unfortunately society today is telling the young people that having as much sex as you can is b... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for granted by the love of my Life after 13 years?
Q. This is my first time using this and this very complicated, so here goes. I will try and shorten my story up for readability. I really need some solid advice for this group because I feel like I am dying a little every day: Please don't disregard ...
A. 14 September 2010: Honestly, get a divorce now. You ALREADY left the marriage a long time ago. You are involved emotionally in another women then your wife, THAT Sir, is cheating and NOT fair on your wife.
If your "soul mate" wants to be with you she will leave he... (read in full...)
Heartbroken by a jealous husband
Q. I have been a good woman. I never cheated on him. He was my first love, my first (and only) sex, my first everything. I have loved him for eight years. And I did not deserve this. The culmination of these years, is one year of calm and seven ...
A. 14 September 2010: It might just be that HE is the one who has been cheating. It is VERY common for cheaters to project their own guilt and angst onto their partners.
He seems really controlling and toxic, and unless you two talk this out or preferable seek some mar... (read in full...)
How do I achieve being a one man woman?
Q. I am what you call a "real life Samantha Jones". I'm a 47 year old woman who lost her virginity when she was 12. Throughout my teen years after that, I had seven sex partners. One of which was my first love who I lost my virginity to (we were ...
A. 14 September 2010: I think you could benefit from counseling as well. I don't see your sexual history as anything bad though. I have friends who based their whole life on one sexual encounter after another for years. It seemed to keep them happy, so who am I to ... (read in full...)
Grey crusties on my nipple? what could cause this?
Q. i had a nap after work today while dinner was cooking and when i woke up my boyfriend noticed what looked like a dirt smudge on my nipple. i dont think it was there there before my nap sonim assuming it happened while i was sleeping. i tried to rub ...
A. 14 September 2010: Could be you are actually lactating slightly. (even if you aren't pregnant) or it could be an infection. I would keep and eye on it and if you see it again call your doctor.
PS, you might want to lay off milk products for a bit or switch to organ... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of a game to keep me around?
Q. Hello I am in need of some help , because male behavior confuses me. The fellow I had been dating for almost 3 years had broke up , we recently started dating again not a realtionship but going out on dates . When we go out we have a great tim...
A. 14 September 2010: OP wrote:
A reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010):
This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
We broke up over fixable issues . He is pretty laid back overall .
3 years is hard to just toss away .
3... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of a game to keep me around?
Q. Hello I am in need of some help , because male behavior confuses me. The fellow I had been dating for almost 3 years had broke up , we recently started dating again not a realtionship but going out on dates . When we go out we have a great tim...
A. 13 September 2010: Seems to me he is stringing you along till he finds something "newer".
You want a relationship, he wants a "girl" on his arm on occasion.
I think you should tell him it's over and find yourself a guy who wants to be with you ALL the time, no... (read in full...)
I don't want to eat but I have to. How to lose weight?
Q. I want to lose weight. I exercise every day but I eat a lot. I don't want to eat but I just have to. I don't know what to do! Help!...
A. 13 September 2010: You can't starve yourself skinny. It's absolutely the wrong way to go about it. The less you eat, the slower your metabolism gets, the more FAT your body will try to store.
Eating 5 meals/snacks a day and drinking plenty of water is the way to g... (read in full...)
He friended me on facebook but no contact since. Do I make contact?
Q. This guy in my church friended me on facebook recently. We've never talked but it looks like he's friended a number of other people at church as well. I accepted, somewhat out of curiousity and the assurance that he was already friends with people I ...
A. 13 September 2010: Why not send him a short message saying hi how are you? See what happens.
Don't forget to live life off the Internet. Facebook is NOT living. ... (read in full...)
Do I have the obligation to look after him in this relationship?
Q. I've married for twenty years. My husband is ten years older than me. Besides finanically supporting the family there isnt much make me feel like to continue this marriage. He never cares when I am not well. Finally I divorced him and found ...
A. 13 September 2010: Seems like money matter more to you then the actual relationship, not trying to be mean but that is my observation from your short post.
If you are dating someone and they get sick, should you (in general) take care of them? Well, if he is finan... (read in full...)
Age taking it's toll...
Q. I am about to meet up with an old friend the same age as me. He remembers me fondly, we went out once 40 years ago. I am probably fairly attractive, but I wear a hearing aid and have false teeth. I have already put him off once but am meeting this ...
A. 13 September 2010: Aww you made me smile :) I had my first hearing aid at 35, I unfortunately have a degenerative defect in the tiny bones in my ears, which resulted in loss of hearing. Not total loss, but I'm sure I will get there at some point. I didn't want surgery ... (read in full...)
Ex-Girlfriend threatens me after I broke up with her, she wants my parents also to suffer.
Q. I just broke up with my girlfriend last week for 4 yrs relationship, she is threatening me in many ways and not letting me leave her, all she wants is to get married with her, I told her that I will get married to her one day, but she needs a date, ...
A. 13 September 2010: Why would she want to marry a guy who doesn't love her? I think the two of you need to talk about this.
And if you two were together for 4 years, how come your parents didn't know about her already?
... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips for delaying my girlfriend in reaching orgasm before me?
Q. Through sexual intercourse my girlfriend often reaches orgasm a good few minutes before I ejeculate. Apart from me actually stopping. Does anyone have any tips for delaying my girlfriend in reaching orgasm before me? We have tried different p...
A. 13 September 2010: Why does it matter if she orgasms before you? The whole we HAVE to get off at the same time is such a cliche and really.... rarely happens. That's PORN, not real love making.
On a good night, I get at least 3 in before my husband gets his. He ... (read in full...)
Is he a control freak???
Q. I have been married for 25 years and my husband leaves all the time.. he has went for like 9 years and this time 6 years before leaving then when he starts it he keeps at it.. they say he used to run off from his parents when he was a boy and go to ...
A. 13 September 2010: Honestly, I think I would stay divorced and set up visitations (if you have younger kids) for him to see his children and then.... I would start living life. You know what will happen if you take him back. He will at some point leave again. His ... (read in full...)
She says all I think about is sex
Q. On Wednesday, I took my girlfriend to a restaurant with a beach view, the horse races, and a Padres game which all cost $120. Keep in mind that we are both full-time college students and I don't have a job because I write for the school newspaper ...
A. 13 September 2010: Wow! q1605 put it so much better then I could have. I agree 100%.
When you take a women out, it's NOT about how much it cost ( unless you got some materialistic GF and well, then it's your own darn fault). Why not go spend $10 on some yummy st... (read in full...)
How do women deal with former lovers who were better?
Q. How hard, or dissapointing is it for you women to go from a guy who is very well hung and mind blowing in bed to a guy who is just average in both the size and skill departments. Let's say that the well hung guy was great in bed, and you were only ...
A. 10 September 2010: I have had one (out of 4 ) boyfriends who were exceptionally well "hung" and he was the worst of the lot in bed. He really thought he didn't have to put much effort into sex because of his size..
So... *shrug*
In general, I don't really com... (read in full...)
If this were your partner's past, would you be as upset as I am?
Q. I met my girlfriend on a popular on-line dating website. Her story was this - she had been doing on-line dating for 5 years, but had never been out on more than 2 dates with anyone she met on the internet. She is a divorced mother of one child, and ...
A. 10 September 2010: Personally I have never thought sex was a casual thing, but I do believe I'm a minority.
However, she did this before the two of you started to get serious. She was recently divorced and most likely NOT interested in a relationship, but still wa... (read in full...)
I don't have closure...
Q. I had been seeing this really nice guy for 4 months. We always had problems as we are long distance, and he finds it difficult to communicate and is sometimes away as he is in the military. We tried to stay close by texting often. 2 weeks ago we...
A. 9 September 2010: Maybe send him one last e-mail - if he replies good, if not.. Sorry, walk away.
Are you 100% sure he is single?... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 9 September 2010: Honestly, I wouldn't tell the GF either. She wouldn't believe you.... (read in full...)
Compatible star signs?
Q. My question is to Sag women in relationships with Aries men. Accoding to the experts, Aries is supposed to be our most compatible sign. I've heard Aries men are short tempered, have child-like tantrums and have anger management problems. I've read ...
A. 9 September 2010: A star-sign does not make a man.. or a woman. I can look at any Zodiac sing and find similarities or traits I have. It all comes down to interpretations.
Personally, I would NOT let something as trivial as a star-sign tell me what to do.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 9 September 2010: The "I don't know" is just the best excuse she can come up with that she think may not hurt your feelings too much.
She wants to do it and for whatever reason she feels entitled to do it. If I'm not wrong she will do it anyways with or with out... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 9 September 2010: So you firmly believe that a girl with a regular sex partner is a whore and a guy in the same situation is a stud?
WOW talk about being a big time misogynist! Good luck with finding a women with that mindset.... (read in full...)
Dad walked in on us having sex!
Q. last week when i fort my mum and step dad was asleep me and my boyfriend had sex but my step dad walked in on us and went mad and said that im too young to be having sex he didnt tell my mum but now his tryin to stop me seeing my bf how can i tell ...
A. 9 September 2010: I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH THIS!!!:
A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):
I'm afraid that while you live under their roof you usually have to abide by their rules.
Move out and get your own place; then you can do what... (read in full...)
I want to be his girlfriend, not his possession!
Q. On the 6th of September I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. Our anniversary was coming up and we were planning a getaway trip to colorado. He was absolutely perfect and wonderful to me but that all soon changed to extreme possessiveness. He ...
A. 9 September 2010: Rule number one in any relationships between two people:
1. Know that you can NOT change another person. The ONLY way anyone will change if THAT person realize that THEY want to change, then THEY can work on changing themselves.
2. Be realist... (read in full...)
Do men get PMS?
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for a year and eight months, and have been engaged for the past five months. I have been confused by the way he acts sometimes. I had a family dinner with my parents and his parents. Earlier, or before the dinner, he ...
A. 9 September 2010: Sure they do! PMS is a surge of hormones. Men gets those too.
As a man gradually age, their testosterone levels diminish, resulting in a less vigorous, weaker, fatigued guy.
their testosterone levels can influence their thoughts and act... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can be substituted for fruit?
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old female and unfortunately a bit of a picky eater. I eat vegetables but hate fruit. I'm terrified of cancers and what state my body will be in when I'm older and starting a family etc. I'm taking centrum vitamin supplements and ...
A. 9 September 2010: Talk to your doctor or a nutritionist, they can give you way better guidance when it comes to supplements.
... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 9 September 2010: Chalk this up to a learning experience. Yes, what you did was morally wrong, but HE is the one who cheated on his GF. If he hadn't done it with you, he would have with some other chick, at some point. I know that doesn't make you feel any better, ... (read in full...)
Husband says I must accept that he has a small penis but I never have an orgasm during sex!
Q. hi every1.i have a problem with my husband when we make love he doesnt want to do foreplay unless i complain and if i do so he says i complain too much.for the past seven years of my marriage never had an orgasm the last time i had it it was with ...
A. 9 September 2010: I think you husband MUST accept that you NEED for-play to enjoy sex with him.
... (read in full...)
Should I let him be part of my child's life?
Q. Well a few months ago my boyfriend and I were living together, happy relationship, and we find out that we're having a baby. Everything seemed to be going good (or so I thought). Then when I was 5 months pregnant I find out he had been cheating on ...
A. 9 September 2010: The fact that he was in jail for trying to kill you (and your unborn child).... That would be a huge deal breaker for me.
No, no way I would want him ANYWHERE near me or my child. No way, no how. Just no!
... (read in full...)
Would you have a problem if boyfriend was still in touch with a Fbuddy?
Q. OK, just a simple question. If your boyfriend stayed in touch with a girl while seeing you, who you know used to be a "f*** buddy" would you be concerned. I mean, even if he told you they were just friends etc... would you have a problem with him ...
A. 9 September 2010: Yes you should be worried. F-buddies aren't friends.. That would be FWB (Friend with benefits). F-buddies hook up and have sex when they have an itch and no one to scratch it.
... (read in full...)
My 14 year old daughter is having sex with a 19 year old. How to handle this?
Q. i walked into my 14 year old step daughters room and found her having sex with her boyfriend who i later found out is 19 the age gap is really worryin me i dont think 14 year old girls would went to have sex do u think he couldve made her do it or ...
A. 9 September 2010: 14 is (in my eyes) too young to have sex, be it with a 19 year old or a 14 year old. Since she is your stepdaughter I think you need to talk to her dad as well.
He might have talked her into it, she might have wanted it. Girls that young often ha... (read in full...)
My ex deleted me off his Facebook and it's upset me...
Q. Hi this is gonna sound so silly but im really upset cos ive just seen that my ex has deleted me off facebook for no reason! He split up with me 2 years ago, we never really got on after this but 3 months ago i seen him out we ended up talking and ...
A. 9 September 2010: Maybe his new GF didn't like that you were on his page, maybe he felt it was time to let you go and put you in his "past".
Let it go honey.
The longer you hang on to the idea of the two of you getting back together, the longer it will take for... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 9 September 2010: Ask her how she would feel if you wanted to FUCK (pardon the bluntness) her best female friend.. just once?
... (read in full...)
I'm offended by my boyfriends interest in celebrity, how do people feel about celebrities?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw ...
A. 9 September 2010: Well my screen saver is the Cover of Rolling Stones with the TRUE BLOOD Trio, Alexander Skarsgaard, Stephen Moyer and Anne Paquin all BUCK naked covered in fake blood. It's quite a photo!
I think my husband have one of Jenna Jamison.... I rather h... (read in full...)
He said he didn't love me and I was just a "sex thing"
Q. i have a big promblem ive been seeing a guy im in love with he's been treating me me very very poorly he used me for sex he wanted his friends to make out with me. ive told him lately that i love him he said he doesnt love me and he doesnt have ...
A. 9 September 2010: Why would you want to see/talk to this creep ever again? The dude USED you, like you were a piece of toilet paper then tossed you when he was done...
Let it go and stop talking to his friends as well. Seems like they are thriving on the drama he... (read in full...)
Did my b/f's mom cause us to break up over facebook?
Q. hi, i am back again in your website to tell or ask something about this stuff about my relationship with my ex bf.. Lately i figured out something about whats really going on. I am not really sure about it. And i don't want to think that this is ...
A. 9 September 2010: I think people should keep their relationships of the Internet. Facebook and the lot of them (social websites) are MAGNETS for all kind of drama related crap.
IF you want to know why he broke up with you I would call him/meet with him and talk it ... (read in full...)
26 year age difference?
Q. Hi, I've been chatting to a 18 year old girl on the internet for that last 4 weeks now and she now wants to meet me in person. Problem is I'm 44 years old. It started off just chatting as friends, but as we chatted more and more we realised that we ...
A. 9 September 2010: Do you guys have anything in common? If so, then why not met with her.
Personally, I think 26 years is WAY to big of an age gap for several reasons.
1. YOU have already lived 1/2 your life (no offense) you have had an education, caree... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 9 September 2010: I think you are over reacting a tad as well. So she was in a "fuck-buddy" relationship.. So what?
The fact that she continued it into YOUR relationship is more worrisome and could cause some trust issues.
I don't think that she is some dude's U... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I should "let her off" and allow her to cheat!
Q. My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then she was attracted to him after he said that ...
A. 9 September 2010: Why not let her go PERMANTLY? Find yourself a girl who wants YOU and no body but you.... (read in full...)
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