Should I accept her back in my life or just be done with her?
Q. 11 days ago my fiancee broke up with me, she wanted to be with another guy. After all the break-up arguments were over she has been texting me and hinting about getting back together. I do love her but I don't enjoy the way she has treated me ...
A. 16 November 2010: Was she cheating on you with the other guy?
Honestly, i would take someone back knowing that I was that person's second choice. That is just not something time could erase.... (read in full...)
My husband is old school!
Q. My husband is from "the old scjhool", who beleives giving a male (a kid)co-worker a ride home (because his car broke down), is a breech of trust and that, I, as a married woman, should not be "driving around town with men in my car". First ...
A. 16 November 2010: I think your husband is controlling in an almost scary way.
Has there been any breech in the trust between the two of you? Is this a new idea from him or is it just showing its ugly head now?
One thing is for him to want to keep you safe (pr... (read in full...)
Do exes come back a second, even third time?
Q. Hi I was wondering if you could help me at all. My ex boyfriend of 5 years split with me in 2008 before i completely lost my sanity i left for a new life in London. I was doing ok and seemed to be moving on until my ex wanted me back. He moved t...
A. 16 November 2010: Maybe you really should consider cutting the contact 100%
You two seem to have an absolutely messed up and toxic way of treating each other.
I think he told you the truth, when he said he loves you but isn't in love with you. You, on the othe... (read in full...)
What to do when the lover gets married to another???
Q. Two years back I fell in love with a girl (though I was married to another). She too was madly in love with me despite knowing my status. We felt we were born only for each other. Due to my circumstances we were not able to get married. We took a ...
A. 16 November 2010: Stop living in la-la land and focus on the wife and family you got.... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to be with me but doesn't want to put a label on it. What does this mean?
Q. so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and we are planning on moving in together (his idea). but last night we were talking and the labelling subject came up and he said He doesn't like labelling relationships. basically it is what it is ...
A. 16 November 2010: I would straight out ask him what he means. And how he sees the relationship.... (read in full...)
Wanting a happy ending!
Q. I don't want to be a lesbian. i want to have a life with a MAN that i love and have normal children! I read about being bisexual, but it still scares me! I am probably bisexual, but can I just be with a guy if im bi? I'm in my lower teens!...
A. 16 November 2010: The fact that you are still in your lower teens speaks volumes, you may not even know for sure which way you actually "bend". I would try not to worry so much about sex and sexuality and more about be proud of who you are.
Right now you are gett... (read in full...)
He's browsing women's sexy clothing websites!
Q. Hi everyone, I'm the girl that had the boyfriend who wanted a break. Well things haven't gone as far as that but I have found that he has been checking out girls wearing sexy clothes online. He is no way looking at pornography, just girls weari...
A. 16 November 2010: I wouldn't worry. He MAY even be looking at stuff to buy for you? Have you considered that?
I would MUCH rather my SO looked at lingerie websites then porn, ANYDAY!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has had 3 disposable marriages!
Q. This question is about marriage. I have been married one time for almost 26 years until it was actually until death due you part. I am aware that alot of society has a "disposable marriage" policy. You know, if this don't work I will just divo...
A. 16 November 2010: I think those are all valid questions. And I think you should ask him.
I don't know how his mind works or how he was raised, so I can only guess.
I think your BF is slightly immature, but think the "grown up" thing to do is to marry the woman ... (read in full...)
I'm way more pleased with myself than guilty!
Q. This morning i cheated on my fiance with someone I met online. I have been with my fiance for 8 years...my question is why don't i feel guilty? I try to make excuses like i did it for an ego boost because i have low self esteem or that it was nice ...
A. 16 November 2010: I think you are being ridiculous actually. The world does not revolve around you. Every ACTION has a reaction. Sooner or later it will come and bite you on the arse.
And I agree with the other two, end your engagement, you obviously could care les... (read in full...)
Proper etiquette!
Q. Hi, need advice badly. Basically am in a 3 year relationship love my boyfriend very much but cant stand his family. They have no manners. Went to family meal recently his brother made really crude jokes and had a chat about it with his mam. My ...
A. 16 November 2010: It may offend you, but... that is how they were raised and chose to live.
I don't think you can expect them to change because it offends you. Personally I would just suck it up. You will have to accept that THAT is who they are. If your BF have ... (read in full...)
How can I show her I am truly sorry after my affair?
Q. I have had an affair I owned up and was for given but stayed in contact with other person (not fisical)I wanted to be at home with my wife who love dearly but didnt want the othere person to hate me. I was questioned about phone calls and again ...
A. 16 November 2010: Like Sageoldguy said, break it of with the "other woman" and do not resume contact.. Basically SHIT or get off the pot. If you want to be with your wife SHE should be the one you focus your attentions and love on.
Personally I would ASK your wif... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is sexting other women!
Q. I've been in a 2 year relationship. We broke up last June because he had been sexting a Married Woman. Yes, I checked his phone (1st time) and I found the texts. I broke up with him. He claimed that he had done Nothing wrong because it was only ...
A. 11 November 2010: Let me put it this way.....
IF you forgive and take him back, he WILL continue what he is doing since he is thinking he is NOT doing anything "wrong".
Run honey, run like frigging Forrest Gump! Let someone else take care of his cheating ass.
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How do I get my husband to get over his office crush with a needy co-worker?
Q. I have been married for 26 years, two years ago my husband took a job in another town, so now we are in a long distance marriage. Every thing was going as best it can in this situation, until a year ago a new single female co-worker arrived, who is ...
A. 11 November 2010: It's what I call the "Knight in Shining Armor Syndrome" Many men have it, just like many women have to "DIY-fixer upper syndrome".
The "knight in shiny Armor syndrome" is when a women either is or play the "damsel in distress" or the " I'm so h... (read in full...)
Every time I fall for someone my heart gets broken! What should I do?
Q. I could probably say I'm one of the 'Popular Girls' at my school. Everyone knows who I am, and I'm best friends with all the girls I would call popular. The difference with me is I'm more laid back. I'm not one to start drama, rumors, and when it ...
A. 11 November 2010: Maybe you need to look at the guys that you tend to fall for. It may the totally "wrong" type for you.... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become special only after a guy cheated on her?
Q. After a guy cheats on girl, why does she all of a sudden the love of his life? He starts saying things like: -Your the beautiful girl i wouldnt trade you for anything -I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with you -You mean so much to m...
A. 11 November 2010: I agree 100% with Cerberus
Talk is cheap, yet plenty of women fall for it. Gets suckered in and turn a blind eye on the "bad" thing in the guy, thinking they can "fix" that later..............
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Will swallowing sperm help me to conceive?
Q. Is it true if a girl swallows sperm can it help her conceive? I was told it helps you get pregnant. Now don't think I'm asking will it get me pregnant I'm asking will it help?...
A. 10 November 2010: How would it help you? You can not fertilize any eggs by swallowing sperm. Your eggs are in your ovaries which, in case you don't know, are situated in your uterus. No where near your stomach.
I hope you stop listening for advice from whomever... (read in full...)
Best time to have sex without a condom so she doesn't get pregnant?
Q. What is the best time I can have sexual intercourse without using condom with my g.f without her being pregnant?? I need answers from experienced people.....
A. 10 November 2010: It's about as safe as Russian Roulette. Are you familiar with that? If you are you know that it is almost totally random, so is the fertility of a young woman.
Unless she is on birth control and have been for a few months there really isn't a ... (read in full...)
When two people stay friends after a break up, does one usually harbour feelings?
Q. Does anyone think when two people break up and remain friends that theres an ulterior motive? I am sure that there are exceptions to the rule (where there is a genuine friendship) but generally do you think one person harbours feelings? ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think it's hard not too. But I also think that if it IS painful not being friends is better. And I do believe it is easier to get over a broken heart if you don't stay in contact.... (read in full...)
He throws his ex in my face when we fight
Q. My boyfriend and i have had a lot of up's and downs. we love each other, and it seems he dont want to break up. not everything we fight about is his fault, but when we do fight, he throws his ex's in my face. "his ex's trusted him better" "his ex's ...
A. 9 November 2010: If his EX was SO great, she wouldn't be his EX ,she would be his current.
Tell him to leave the EX out of your fights, because you don't care about her, you care about him and you. There can only be TWO people on a relationship, so he needs to... (read in full...)
He makes fun of me, hurts me and then says he loves me?
Q. I stopped at my boyfriends this weekend and he got drunk one night, I was lying on the sofa and he turned to me and said "wheres this come from?" and pointed at my stomach he then said "you've got a right little stomach on you" meaning he thinks ive ...
A. 9 November 2010: Drunk or not he behavior was absolutely uncalled for. If I were in your shoes this relationship would be over, he is not supportive (WTG on beating Anorexia, "it's" quite a bitch to beat!) and he is downright cruel. Next time and I have no doubt ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him but does he love me?
Q. [first question] My Boyfried Loves eccusin me all the time he says he knows i am cheatin whene i am not he dosent listen to me is he eccusin me because he's cheating ? x [second question] I Think Im In Love But Dose He Love Me?,, He Says it all...
A. 9 November 2010: Honey my first advice ha nothing to do with your boy friend problem but.. your spelling is atrocious, please use spell check next time.
1. He may be cheating on you and saying you are the cheater, but.. he could also be listening to the wrong pe... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me why he thinks he's hurting me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for six months and I love him to death. Everything was perfect and I couldn't ask for a better man. A few days before homecoming we got into a small arguement and he broke up with me because he said he doesn't ...
A. 9 November 2010: I don't have a magic 8 ball so I can't tell you why or what he may have done. I could guess til the cows come home but that isn't useful or productive.
I would tell him that if he can't fess up and be honest that you two have no future together... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and is now outside my house wanting to talk to me
Q. so i dumped my boyfriend on saturday because he cheated on me with my friend and after that he kept ringing and texting me and i wasn't answering and now he is standing outside my house he keeps knocking on my door he won't go away i texted him and ...
A. 8 November 2010: Call the police. And tell your parents when they get home, DO NO LET HIM IN.
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Notes from girls make me mistrust my fiance
Q. I'm at a loss for words and feelings. I don't know if I should stay with my fiance anymore. I can't trust him. I feel like he has lied to me time and time again. I constantly find notes from girls and all he says its girls who want to get with him, ...
A. 8 November 2010: Keep all the notes and confront him. Trust your gut on this one.
If he is cheating on you now, being married will not make him stop, a RING and some vow's never stops a cheater.
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I want to show that I'm interested, but not a creepy stalker
Q. Hi guys. Just need some advice about something that is slightly confused me. Last weekend I met this really sexy lady at a club where I work as a bouncer. The story was that This woman was outside the club with her friend (woman.) looking to grab ...
A. 8 November 2010: Maybe send her 1 more text telling her you found her very beautiful, but that you have no intentions of being a stalker, so if she is interested contact you. Maybe go out for a cup of coffee/lunch..
Leave the ball in her court in a way that the... (read in full...)
Why do people chase you and then drop you?
Q. as your aware my last question was over my ex i moved on and met someone else, at first he was really funny told that i was the one, and that he loved me dearly we went on holiday together but he woud blow hot and cold with me, i felt real close to ...
A. 8 November 2010: He got what he wanted? He obviously isn't very good at relationships.
This is not about you, but him. It just hurt you mroe then him.
Drop him like a hot potato, no let's be friends,no sex. Pure and simple drop him.... (read in full...)
He doesn't love me but wants to be with me?
Q. my boyfriend told me straight out he dosent love me but that he still wants to be with me. he said he dosent think he will ever love me but still wants our relationship to work. what do i do?...
A. 8 November 2010: Ask yourself this, IS that a relationship YOU want?
Is he just hanging on to you til "true love" shows up? Someone better comes by?
I think you deserve better.... (read in full...)
If he don't please me, should I have to please him?
Q. my boyfriend admitted that he only cares about his sexual plessure and that he isnt worried about me getting mine. witch explains why all this trying to convience him that i want more forplay isnt working. i tried to explain to him that the type of ...
A. 8 November 2010: He might as well go buy a blow up doll if you ask me.
Honestly making love or having sex is about MUTUAL gratification, if he doesn't care about you in a sexual aspect, why would he care about you otherwise? Love & respect should carry into the... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend is messing with my head!
Q. I really need help, advice, anything. Shamefully, I have been dating an emotionally and physically abusive married man for 2 years now. He has no children, and claims to have been miserable in his marriage since day 1. He told me he married her out ...
A. 8 November 2010: You are stupid if you do stay with him. So is his wife.
I'm willing to bet he lies faster then a speeding bullet. I'm also pretty sure that his wife is not who he is making her out to be, but he... is really a piece of shit.... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 8 November 2010: I'm sorry he cheated on you again, but it seems like you are moving on. Truly his loss, and yes, sooner or later when she has to pick up his smelly socks, dirty towels and be the constant "cheer leader" she will figure out that he really isn't all ... (read in full...)
His ADD is affecting our sex life. Help!!!
Q. So this guy and I have been together for almost two years. We are both virgins but take part in other sexual activity. Oral, handjobs, dry humping, etc etc. He has always had a really hard time getting me to orgasm but i've always just blamed it ...
A. 8 November 2010: Don't finish him first... It's like feeding a starving man turkey..
SHOW him what/how you like it.
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How can she say she love me and then say she wants to "try" other people?
Q. Ok....I know I'm asking a lot of questions in a relatively short time but I'm stuck in a hard place at the moment....Ok so me and this girl went to her cabin with her family over the weekend. We where supposed to be "just friends" But last night I ...
A. 8 November 2010: She has no idea what LOVE is. She likes you and is attracted to you, but love? Not quite.
You are BOTH so very young and it's quite possible that you BOTH will met other people and truly fall in love.
Spend time with her, if she still wants ... (read in full...)
Now that he's single he doesn't want to be with me
Q. I am a female who had been dating a married male of this same age group for approximately 18 months. my dilemna is, now that he is single he seems not to want to be with me and build a relationship. he was being very evasive about it all at first, ...
A. 8 November 2010: He is blaming you for his behaviour. He know he shouldn't have been cheating and won't assume the responsibility of his own actions. YOU didn't make him cheat.
I would be guessing that he feels heaps of guilt towards his dead wife. Maybe he found... (read in full...)
His ADD is affecting our sex life. Help!!!
Q. So this guy and I have been together for almost two years. We are both virgins but take part in other sexual activity. Oral, handjobs, dry humping, etc etc. He has always had a really hard time getting me to orgasm but i've always just blamed it ...
A. 8 November 2010: I don't think its his ADD either, I think he is either just inexperienced or lazy.... (read in full...)
My fiance has sexual dreams about other women - is this normal?
Q. my fiance has continuous sexual dreams of other women while he's sleeping and he wakes calling out their names. is this in any way normal?...
A. 5 November 2010: Oh yes. Don't tell me Brad Pitt or some other hunk hasn't snuck in any of your dreams in a sexual way?
No one is fully control of their dreams.... (read in full...)
We hooked up and he's told all of our friends about it!
Q. I started seeing this guy. When we got to the point where we hooked up, it was fun. So afterward, that's when things got complicated. It seems like thats all he wants from me now. I mean, he does make an attempt to be normal, but then he starts ...
A. 5 November 2010: Wow how immature! Honestly I would stop having sex with him and overall ignore him, he's a douche.... (read in full...)
Dad thinks he's a lackluster boyfriend because he dosen't put me on a pedestal. Is he?
Q. Hello all. I've been with my guy almost 2 years, and things have been pretty smooth. No arguments, though some disagreements. He's my 1st guy, I'm his 4th girl. "Jack" is a nice guy to everyone he meets. Guys or girls, he would give them the sh...
A. 5 November 2010: Who is dating him YOU or your dad?
If the two of you have a good thing going then by all means rock on. If you want MORE from your guy you need to talk to him, guys (nor gals) are not mind readers.... (read in full...)
Does anyone wait till marriage to have sex?
Q. I know that in our culture, sex is made into a large part of life, from what we see in movies, to what hear in music, there's no getting past it! so my question is, does anyone wait until marriage anymore? I firmlybelieve that waiting is the best ...
A. 5 November 2010: There is no overall wrong or right thing to do. There is a RIGHT and WRONG for each of us. If you believe waiting til marriage is RIGHT for you then stick to it, own it.
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My friend lied about how far she went with her boyfriend, should I talk to her about it?
Q. Hi. I found out recently that my friend lied about how far she'd been with her ex-boyfriend. We were at a sleepover and she told all of us that he'd fingered her and she'd given him a blow job. Im friends with her ex-boyfriend and i had a feeling ...
A. 5 November 2010: I would talk to her. Not only can she get a really bad rep around school for something she actually didn't do.
Also tell her there really is no rush to do all those things.
I think you are being a good friend, but she may not like hearing it,... (read in full...)
He already has a girlfriend - what is your opinion of me if I stay in this relationship?
Q. He says I'm all these great things, but I feel like I'm not good enough. Its definitely not a self esteem issue, its because he has a girlfriend, but he's having his cake and eating it too. And I'm allowing it. I think I've fallen in love with thi...
A. 5 November 2010: "A female reader, CindyCares + ?, writes (5 November 2010):
My opinion of you is irrelevant, what counts is YOUR opinion of yourself . "
I totally agree. It really doesn't matter what I think about your lack of morals. You need to examine ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with both of them, why cant we just have a 3-way relationship!
Q. I am new to this site so please don't laugh at what I am about to say. Almost 8yrs ago I met and got involved with a woman who is 10yrs older than me. Everything was going well until like the fool I am I cheated on her with a woman 8yrs older than ...
A. 5 November 2010: Unless the women are into plural relationships there is nothing you can do or say for them both to stay with you.
Sorry, I seriously doubt you are that much of a price that they would be willing to share.... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: It's pretty obvious why he cheated, he wanted a woman to put him on a pedestal and put some air back into his ego. He wanted to be DA MAN!
I think affairs happens more often because we ( spouses on both ends) take each other for granted in some ... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 10 December 2009: I have no idea, but I have wondered that myself. Maybe because (no offense here) less attractive women will settle for less?
Maybe they don't worry so much about their look and focus more on other things?
Mistress used to be YOUNGER and PRET... (read in full...)
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