Why would she say her baby daddy is 'irreplaceable' if she supposedly doesn't have any feelings for him?
Q. so, I was talking to my girlfriend last night. and we were talking about her friendship with her baby daddy. and she told me, that i was replacable and he was irreplacable. after she tells me she hates him. i can understand keeping a friendsh...
A. 26 January 2011: I think it comes down to the fact that there will always be a connection between her and the baby-daddy, which is the child. No matter how much of a douche-bag that guy is... he will always be the father of her baby.
She most likely DO NOT have... (read in full...)
I regret moving my ex back in, I want her out tonight!
Q. So right to it.I made a huge mistake feeling me and my ex gf could start off fresh. She lost her job which was my opening to start fresh. She moved in with me 2 months ago but I'm not feeling it. I want her out but she doesn't have the money or any ...
A. 25 January 2011: Well, I think you are being slightly cold hearted here. If you don't WANT her to live with you and you don't want to be with her TELL HER!
But seriously... you need to give her some time to find a new place for her and her kids. Set a deadline... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he cant promise he will ever love me, is there reason to stay?
Q. So here's my story. I am in the active duty military at my first duty station, a week after getting here I start hooking up with this really cute guy that I developed a crush for in my platoon. Well the hooking up became into something more and we ...
A. 25 January 2011: First of all I'm sorry you had a miscarriage. I know how emotionally painful that can be.
Secondly, make sure you get on proper birth-control. Being AD and a mom is hard hard work and most women can't do it.
If the guy doesn't love you and you... (read in full...)
I don't want to date him but I don't want to lose the friendship
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and in 9th grade in High School. I'm kind of new at this love stuff so I really don't know what to do. A guy friend has sent me a private message on Face Book telling me that he likes me and doesn't have the nerve to ask ...
A. 25 January 2011: You have to be honest. You can not go out with someone out of pity or fear of losing their friendship.
I would tell him that you are really flattered but at the same time that you don't feel the same way about him, that you regard him as a friend... (read in full...)
How can I move on from my husbands past relationship
Q. I was reading the article a couple of men wrote. I have that same type of issue with my husband. I cannot let go of the past. We have been married for a long time and he is my best friend. My problem is that I cannot stop thinking about him and his ...
A. 25 January 2011: You haven't forgiven him yet, because you are getting something out of "holding" it over his head. I would suggest that you find a therapist maybe? If you have been harboring this resentment for over 20 years, you need help letting it go. Trust me ... (read in full...)
He has lost his libido but I cant help thinking it must be to do with me.........
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 2 years and recently he's just stopped being interested in sex. I got a bit upset not because we weren't having any but because it made me feel like he'd lost attraction for me. He explained he just goes through ...
A. 24 January 2011: I think he is telling you the truth. Could be that he has some fluctuations in his testosterone levels.
Also I think throughout a relationship it's pretty normal that there are ups and downs in the amount of sex.
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He only comes to me when he has a problem and I have to pick up the pieces.....
Q. Hi, would love to get an outside opinion on this. it's kinda long (sorry), so here goes... I'm 19 and have an extremely close guy friend of mine who's 20. We were sexually involved but it ended and we still remained best friends. We are very hone...
A. 24 January 2011: I have had friends like that. I only heard from them when they needed a shoulder to cry on or advice. That worked for us, but it doesn't for everyone.
I see nothing wrong in giving a friend advice, but you need to let it go afterwards. All you ... (read in full...)
Why cant one of the twins find a man yet the other has guys falling at her feet? They are basically the same person!
Q. Ok so last night we had a big discussion on this topic and we would like to get other opinions ... You can be honest we need answers !! Ok here we go .. We have a two good friend there twins .. Twin A is a nice girl very funny loves sports . She ...
A. 24 January 2011: I agree, they are NOT the same person.
I'm guessing one of them have guys falling all over for her because she is comfortable about herself and shows a lot of self confidence.
Seems to me you are trying to hook the blond twin up with ALL the ... (read in full...)
How do I know what is normal in a relationship?
Q. How do I know what is normal in a relationship? Okay, here's my question(s) but first let me say I know I'm probably being over the top and am just looking for some insight while I wait for an appointment to see a counselor to discuss this. My b...
A. 24 January 2011: Ok, first off, talk to your counselor about trust issues. Snooping will never make you happy. Why? Because either you find something you really didn't want to find or you find nothing. Now, if you find nothing, you will start to imagine that he ... (read in full...)
He is choosing his mates over a special weekend I planned for us ages ago!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend since august 2009 and met him on holiday. I originally lived in Southampton, and he lives in Kent. In June 2009 I decided that I will move up to Kent to make the relationship work, so had left my friends and fami...
A. 24 January 2011: Honestly, I would find someone else to take to the concert, whether he is going to Portugal or not. That is my personal opinion.
He has CLEARLY told you and showed you that going with his friends IS more important then seeing the concert with you... (read in full...)
How do I confront her about her 'ex'?
Q. I'll try to keep this short. Got involved with a woman at work about 18months ago. She was with someone else so nothing really happened until that came to an end (though I suppose you could say we had an emotional affair). After she left him we ...
A. 24 January 2011: Your relationship started out as deceit ( her cheating on her ex) so you knew from the get go that trust was that important to her, apperently.
Even if she told you what you wanted to hear, do you really think you would magically start to trust he... (read in full...)
He talked about marriage but now says he doesn't love me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a very long time and we are always on and off. He always tells me he loves me and he always drops little hints about marriage. I have never brought up marriage to him even though I wanted to marry him. We got into a ...
A. 24 January 2011: Why are you still with him? If he sees no future with you? Seems to me he is just with you til the next "big" thing comes around.
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My X wants to rekindle a friendship with me after he hurt me hard super duper bad.
Q. Are there any reasons why a person should never accept an ex's invitation for friendship? Why would my X want to be friends with me when he was the one who treated me so bad and left me on the side of the road? I still love him but what he did made ...
A. 24 January 2011: I don't see the reason to get involved with this guy ever again, friends or not.
Personally I wouldn't. You know why he is an ex.... (read in full...)
Am I just too old for my girlfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 56 and my girlfriend is 40. Do you think that is okay or am I just too old. I look very young for my age. Most people think that I'm in my late 40s or maybe 50. What do you think?...
A. 24 January 2011: After a certain age, the gap kind of becomes smaller for most people. If the two of you share a lot in common, have a great relationship and enjoy each other I don't think those 16 years makes much of a difference.... (read in full...)
Should my wife be very close and open to male friends more than women?
Q. My wife is very friendly and open to male friends than women friends. She says she is more confortable with men than women. She almost talk about anything(culture, love eperiance, sexual things, men vs women behaviour etc) with her male friends may ...
A. 24 January 2011: I have always had more male friends then female. I jsut clicked better with males. And I have NEVER dated or slept with a friend. Ever. So I think you need to look at WHY you feel this way, why you don't trust her, because it does come down to ... (read in full...)
He's the one who cheated so why is he blaming me for the marriage problems?
Q. My husband cheated on me 4 years ago yes when we fought I brought up the affairs...the one I caught him see he was on a dating site and met several women....I have been on here asking for advice..about this..now that he up and left because again I ...
A. 18 January 2011: Because blaming you is WAY easier for him then owning his own actions. Just like a 5 year old who will blame ANYONE for dropping their ice cream cone.
*sarcasm* Didn't you know that it's ALWAYS the spouses fault when a wife or husband cheats? ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm the one, but I'm not so sure if he's the one.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 months now. I had only known him for slightly less than 2 months before we started dating. I'm pretty sure he was saying he loved me from the very beginning. I held out for a while in saying it but then ...
A. 18 January 2011: You SHOULD break up with him. You are hurting him by staying with him out of pity. You are being SELFISH.
He deserves a girl who is madly in love with him and he in her.
(and so do you.) He just wasn't it. ... (read in full...)
Losing my hair at 17, what should I do?
Q. Unfortunately i am one of those people who start losing their hair already at a young age and i am not panicking around ,i already accepted the fact, and i know what i am going to do. So i will get a buzz cut or get bald completely. There are just a ...
A. 18 January 2011: Some women like a guy with lots of hair, some don't. Living on a military installation I mainly see guys with short hair, it's become the norm. When I do see a long haired guy, my first thought it.. If he was my dog, I'd give him a hair cut!
I thi... (read in full...)
What makes a man emotionally attached to a woman?
Q. For the first time ever, I swallowed! Will this make a man appreciate you more? Not that I did it for that reason, but just wondering since I heard that if a female squirts she can become so attached to him. I did this because 1) I like givin my bf ...
A. 18 January 2011: Depends on the couple.
I highly doubt that a women will become more attached to a guy if she "squirts" with him. Maybe it's more the fact that he doesn't have a problem with it, or he didn't think she just peed herself.
Sex can bring a couple c... (read in full...)
I'm really in love with him but don't want him to put his hands on me in anger again
Q. ok me and my husband have been together for 5yrs now we have a daughter and everythang..will he has slapped me choked me and throw me cross the room,an not only throw me a cross the room but im late on my period like 2weeks late so i mite be ...
A. 18 January 2011: I can only iterate the other Aunties:
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT.
THAT is not love, honey. He won't change.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cut us up because he messed about and that's put me in harm's way?????
Q. I'm really hoping I get a lot of answers cause I need all I can get. My boyfriend bailed out last weekend. He wouldn't tell me what caused him to break us off. He wasn't mean sbout, if anything looked like he was in a dar place. He just keeping ...
A. 18 January 2011: I'm guessing he was cheating on you? He didn't want to be with you, he either wanted another girl or he wanted to be single and free to screw around. He is just trying to sound "mysterious" about it. Pathetic really.
Either way, he's right, h... (read in full...)
She wouldn't remove this ex from her facebook!
Q. my fiance has had a threesome about 10 years ago, the guys is still on her facebook, i feel terrible to look at his pics, when i asked her to remove him, she said that it would not solve the problem, all i wanted to hear is yes, right now this is ...
A. 18 January 2011: Stop living on Facebook. If SHE has pictures on HER FB, then that is HER business, you can CHOOSE to NOT look. It's frigging FACEBOOK!
I don't know why people have this great URGE to dictate to their partner, WHO the can talk too or be in conta... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my girlfriend's irrational behavior?
Q. Yesterday my girlfriend and I had another fight and she provoqued me by saying she had no money to buy the plane ticket so I should be the one doing it. I did it. When she saw I could do it she started to play victim saying that she didn't want to ...
A. 18 January 2011: Let her go, cut her lose. Never talk to or see her again. Find someone who is more compatible to you.
I think the both of you treat each other like crap. If I had a BF and he called me a prostitute it would be over in a NY minute.
Very unhealth... (read in full...)
Have you ever had to make up your mind? Did you ever have to finally decide?
Q. Here is my problem, Agony Aunts: I am in a relationship where I am between a rock and a hard place. There are things I like about the girl (her looks, her sweetness, her intelligence, the thrill I get when I see her) and things that I can't stand (s...
A. 18 January 2011: Hate is for the most part a wasted emotion. It will tear you up more then the person you "hate" Honestly, there aren't really much to gain from hating anyone.
So here goes. You head, your friends and your gut tells you to leave and the end it. ... (read in full...)
Missing the ex as just in a friend?
Q. Do you ever miss your ex not in a romantic way but just their friendship and company? Or is that impossible?...
A. 13 January 2011: My first BF I still miss from time to time. We broke up almost 20 years ago. So yes it's possible. We stayed friends for years after we broke up and still "talk" maybe once a year through e-mail. I don't think of him in a romantic way at all but ... (read in full...)
How long will a woman chase a man by phone only?
Q. How long will a woman chase a man if the chasing can only be done by phone? How can I shorten the chase and how can I drag it out if needed? Please at least let me know if you are male or female....
A. 13 January 2011: Female here.
I would not "chase" any one, by phone or other means, mainly because I'm just too old to play games.
Seems pretty immature.... (read in full...)
In a very emotional "Love Triangle." It is driving me crazy at times...MEN PLEASE HELP!
Q. The man I have been dating, he is 30 years old has been going back and fourth between this other woman. Currently he is with her but is confused about if he wants to be with me instead. He says he cares about me a lot and likes me. He feels like ...
A. 13 January 2011: Stop taking him back, seriously!
Move on. Find a man who KNOWS what and who he wants.... (read in full...)
Drug, Sex and Rock and Roll
Q. My husband is suffering from major depression. He’s a drug addict (marijuana and any drugs that can relaxing him) and also he is an alcoholic. He hasn’t been working almost 2yrs now. His parent and I have been supporting him financially. Because ...
A. 13 January 2011: To me it sounds like the two of you have a very toxic and dysfunctional marriage and relationship. There is addiction and codependency going on like crazy.
I think you need to stop blaming the women he has been sleeping with .... Yes, they hav... (read in full...)
Why my wife feel pain when fingered inside?
Q. My wife loves when I finger her clitoris. But when I try to finger inside she feel pain even when it was a gentle touch. Is this a common problem? Is there a way to avoid the pain? Thanks in advance....
A. 13 January 2011: Maybe just stay on the outside? She may not be comfortable with a finger inside her.
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She wants to know why I am sexually attracted to her?
Q. My girlfriend asked me why I am sexually and physicall attracted to her. I was at a lost for words. What do I say?...
A. 13 January 2011: I don't know... Her mind, her body, her soul? You really had nothing to say?.............
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The Mom of my married boyfriend has threatened to Dis-Inherit him if he doesn't go back to his wife. What can we do?
Q. my boyfriend is married..i know but he left his wife and stayed with his mother and our relationship bloomed. he recently found out that his mother has had him followed, knows all about me..she told him to go back home to raise his 2 girls..(mind ...
A. 12 January 2011: It's HER money, of course she can disinherit him as she sees fit.
It's up to him to figure out what he wants, money or you.... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to cry on demand?
Q. Hi, Last year I was in a relationship with a woman who in retrospect I feel was manipulating me. She had asked me for a lot of money and I gave it to her over the course of the year, without getting anything back. (We were not even dating.) But I fo...
A. 12 January 2011: I can. Not that I do it, but I can. I'm not one for crying in front of anyone. ever.
She may or may not have faked the tears. She might be one of those over emotional people who's whole world seems to fall apart every 5 minutes. The thing is, it's... (read in full...)
My crazy ex is ruining my life. What do I do?!
Q. I'm really lost here people and I don't know what else to do? I've had a few difficult years of late. My Dad was diagnosed terminally ill and as a result past away a few months ago. I was with a girl who literally changed over night. Wh...
A. 12 January 2011: 1. Be honest with your GF. I wouldn't try and keep anything from her, I understand you wanting to protect her from that crazy ex, but really, you are doing yourself a "disservice" when you keep her out of the loop.
2. Cut all contact with the ex. ... (read in full...)
We have tried counselling, but I am still unsatisfied and now considering an affair. What should I do?
Q. I am married and unsatisfied. I'm not sure if i love my husband and I am contemplating having an affair. We have tried counseling...what should I do?...
A. 11 January 2011: So let me get this straight.. Your marriage is solely about YOUR happiness?
If it is, I suggest you get a divorce and try and find happiness for you. Cheating will so not make you happy. It will make you a liar and a cheat. Doubt that would ma... (read in full...)
Is my wife hiding a 'dirty' side of herself from me?
Q. Hi. I'm 44, my wife is 38. We've been married for 8 years. When we were first dating, she would ask me to masturbate and to climax on her buttocks. This went on for awhile, and then went away. Now, after having two children and going through a long ...
A. 11 January 2011: Does it really matter? Every single person have one (or more) ways to achieve climax, some have only one ( or so they think). Maybe she knows it will get the BOTH of you off.
Everyone has a little bit of a 'dirty" side, doesn't mean they want to ... (read in full...)
I tested my boyfriend and he failed!
Q. so i had my friend send my bf a message on myspace to see if he would cheat on me she sent him a message asking him if he had a girlfriend and he said no. I found a different reason to break up with him and after i broke up with him i asked him why ...
A. 11 January 2011: You can't fix it. Let him go. He deserves better then what you dished out. You already messed it up so badly. Stop playing "games" with people. You don't "test" your partner.
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My best friend has no shot with this guy, but I do!
Q. my best friend (Sara) likes this boy(evan) who goes to a different school than us. evan is best friends with kyle, who is dating another friend of ours, jackie. so since october (its january now),sara has been trying to get with evan, but she's ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well, according to the "girl code" he is off limits, unless she (Sara) gives you the OK. I would talk to her and see how she would feel. But this is ALWAYS a tricky situation. So you need to figure out if you value your friendship with Sara more ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to not tell anyone I'm pregnant, and that I'm secretly getting an abortion?
Q. I need some good advice, I'm 18 and I'm in college it's my first year. I found out that I'm one month pregnant and I don't know what to do. I feel as if my life is over. I'm thinking about getting an abortion without anyone knowing. Is that wrong, ...
A. 11 January 2011: I agree with a couple of points.
1. It's your body - your choice.
2. You should tell the father.
3. Go to Planned Parenthood and get informed and IF you do get an abortion seek counselling afterwards, this is not something to take lightl... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop calling me that nickname?
Q. My boyfriend has recently started using the same nickname I used to call my ex when we were going out. My ex and I ended on extremely bad terms so it's really weird to hear that nickname used towards ME and be reminded of him. Is there any way I can ...
A. 11 January 2011: Tell him to pick another Nick name, just tell him you don't like the one he currently uses, if he wants to know why... tell him, I am wiling to bet he will NEVER use that nick name again.
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My boyfriend of 3 months is away a lot in Army. is it a good idea to have a baby now?
Q. I'm 19 (20 at the end of 2011) I'm currently with my boyfriend who is 22 we have been together for 3 months and are living together (ano sounds crazy) he is in the army and is away a lot but recently we have decided to have a baby after a ...
A. 11 January 2011: No I don't think having a baby after knowing each other for 3 months is a very smart thing.
Get to KNOW him before you decide whether he is Daddy material or not.
Be financially stable ( not his paycheck) but that you could stand on your ow... (read in full...)
He seems to value his money more than he values me!
Q. Ok there is this guy that I've been dating for 6 months he is very nice and we have our problems but we always fix them and we connect on a big level.. Ok there is this just one problem he is obsessed with money he is divorced and has 2 kids so ...
A. 10 January 2011: Honestly, he doesn't seem like a "keeper" - he obviously have poor self control when it comes to spending and a LOT of baggage. Could be his shopping sprees is his way of "self medicating" a depression.
I think if you can you should talk to him. ... (read in full...)
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