Why do guys beep their horns at girls? It is really embarassing!
Q. Everytime I go out, with my mom, my friends, ANYONE, people would do that whole 'I beep the horn because you're attractive' thing. Before, when I was an insecure person, i would feel really flattered. Now, it's just really embarassing and my parents ...
A. 24 March 2011: Because idiots like to honk the horn too!
It's not just to let someone know;" YOU look good!" it's also a "HEY HEY look at me ma, no hands..!!"
If you feel annoyed or irritated by it, best bet is to ignore it. Pretend you didn't hear it a... (read in full...)
Was this normal or a bit weird to bring this up?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about a week now and the other night we were in his car just talking about life. Suddenly he tells me he is tired of keeping his hand down on his lap to cover "it". We weren't talking about anything sexual,...
A. 24 March 2011: Oh heck no! If he has a GF, I'd say stay as far away as possible. First of all he should never have acted upon the "chemistry" with someone who might be a "recruit" , VERY unprofessional behavior, but I don't think that is the first time he's ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and won't dump her for me
Q. i dont know how to word this so long story short.... the guy i like likes me to, he says he loves me bt he has a nother gf but wont dump her........ What do i do...
A. 23 March 2011: Move on hun, he wants to have you both but won't commit to neither.. He is a loser.. Next!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't think I've ever had an orgasm?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend almost two years and he's said he doesnt think i've ever had an orgasm. I know that when we're done having sex i get this numb tingling amazing feeling from head to toe and thats what my friends say an orgasm is. But he ...
A. 23 March 2011: The "strong" pulsing or "contractions" don't always occur. The mroe relaxed you are the better the chance for a strong one, at least in my experience. So.. lots of foreplay and if he still can't feel a thing.. maybe..... it's his "fault ;)... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex he received an email from a girl, inviting him for a drink?
Q. My ex partner of 10 years and I separated 4 months ago but still stay very close - it's not over for me and I believe we can recover from it given time - we still care deeply for each other. A girl has emailed him to ask him out for a drink and it ...
A. 22 March 2011: Forward it to his new e-mail, even if it hurts it's the right thing to do. IMHO.... (read in full...)
How do I ask my new girlfriend to lick and finger my ass?
Q. About a year ago, for the first time i got a prostitute. She said she would do anything. I always wanted a girl to lick my ass, so i asked and she did. Since then i have stimulated my ass as much as possible, by stroking around it and even putting ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well I guess it comes down to a few things. How long have you two been together? How adventurous is she sexually? How well do the two of you communicate about sex? Does she know about your experience wit ha prostitute?
Personally, that would be... (read in full...)
I feel obligated to sleep with him
Q. I would really appreciate if somebody could answer me. So here's the story; It begins like every other lovestory: girl meets boy, girl likes boy and boy feels the same. We started dating like two months ago nad it has been really fun. He is really c...
A. 22 March 2011: Wait until you feel you are really ready - if he is worth a darn he will wait for you too. NEVER EVER feel obligated to have sex with a guy. Ever. IT IS OK, to both say no and say, this and no further. Having some personal boundaries is he... (read in full...)
I like porn and get turned on by women. Am I bisexual?
Q. Hey, well im sort of touching a senstive matter and i could perhaps use abit of advice. Im 14 years old and well im a girl and i like to watch porn. i watch metro sex porn, the thing that i dont really understa...
A. 22 March 2011: This may sound old fashioned but watching porn at 14 gives you a skewered view of sex. Porn is FAKE, it's PRETEND, it's FANTASY and MAKE BELIEVE. Does watching two women have sex change your sexual orientation? I don't think so, it might peek yo... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: If you think "losing" your virginity is that important that you want to hire someone to help you, go for it.
Personally I know a LOT of women who would have absolutely no problem with a 20 year (or older) virgin guy.
The thing is, after you lo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes leaves the room with his phone, does this mean he is cheating?
Q. Hi all. Something is bugging me. Sometimes (not always, by any means) my bf takes his phone with him when he leaves the room and also leaves it face down, when we are sitting together, watching tv or whatever. I don’t want to mention it to him cos ...
A. 22 March 2011: I wouldn't suspect cheating based on that either. I ACTUALLY prefer that my husband leaves the room when on the phone, it is HIS conversation and I don't need/want to "overhear" it.
Whether he puts it face up or down, does it really matter? ... (read in full...)
Fiance wants to have anal sex, I'm scared of losing him but I don't want to do that
Q. Hello, Please,I need your advice.My fiancee would like to try anal sex.I havent tried that with my past relationships.I wanted to try it because I am afraid he would find somebody else who is willing to do that.I love him and I dont wanna lose ...
A. 22 March 2011: I think you need to be honest with him. Anal is not for everyone. I know MANY women who plain refuses to try it. To even consider trying it and you know what, that is OK!
Just because you can do it, doesn't mean you have to. You COULD also go ... (read in full...)
I'm on 14 and I'm scared he'll dump me if I don't have sex
Q. I met this guy and we have been going out for a while now. I think I am falling in love with him. He is so good to me and makes me so happy. The thing is he wants to have sex and im not ready for it. I have never done any sex stuff before. I am...
A. 22 March 2011: NEVER NEVER let a guy think you HAVE to have sex with him to keep him.
A 14 year old shouldn't be considering anal sex (in the bum as you cal it). It will TEAR you up. And EVEN if you guys do the anal you can actually still get pregnant. There is... (read in full...)
Why do people stay in loveless marriages?
Q. Why do people stay in a love-less marriage? When you know the other person doesn't love you anymore, why do you stay in that relationship? Is it because you think you can win them over? I think once the love is gone, it's gone. They might still ha...
A. 22 March 2011: I guess it depends on the said "people".
I believe some stay out of fear of being alone.
I believe some people stay because it's "safe" (Better the devil you know).
I believe some people stay because they financially can't afford to divorce.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't think I've ever had an orgasm?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend almost two years and he's said he doesnt think i've ever had an orgasm. I know that when we're done having sex i get this numb tingling amazing feeling from head to toe and thats what my friends say an orgasm is. But he ...
A. 22 March 2011: I don't think you are broken at all. Or too loose/tight.
I think YOU need to figure out exactly how an orgasm feel like, not how your friends describe it. You KNOW if you have had one or not.
My best advice is, have your BF "manipulate" you... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011:
If you go into a marriage with that attitude, then Yes it will most likely suck after 5-10 years. If you go into a marriage realizing that things DO change over time and sometimes even for the better, you might have a different outlook & outc... (read in full...)
How can I make him fall back in love and stop contacting his exs?
Q. Dear cupid, I am having problems with my relationship, well the thing is i am abit jealous of my partner which is normal for people to feel in any relationship, but the thing is before we started fighting we were great he showed ...
A. 22 March 2011: You can't "make" him do anything.
If YOU are always the one chasing, maybe it's time to stop and look for someone who wants to put an effort into the relationship instead of making you do all the legwork.
Also, I find it incredible how m... (read in full...)
My ex wife and I want to give it another go, but I have just found out she is working as an escort! What should I do?
Q. my wife and i broke up for just over 12 months after a 2 year marriage,seperation was mutual and we both met new partners,she moved some 200 miles away to be with her new man but relationship failed,as did mine with new woman as i stil love my ...
A. 21 March 2011: Tell her. Talk to her. But you also need to figure out before hand if this is something you can live with or not.
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Afraid to sleep over at my boyfriend's house because of my snoring!
Q. I am 21yr old female and afraid to sleep over my bf house because I snore....any advice?...
A. 21 March 2011: 1. If your snoring is BAD, seeing a doctor may not be a bad idea.
2. Let him know. I used to snore like a chainsaw. Hubby snores like a monster truck. So it's all good.... (read in full...)
Was this normal or a bit weird to bring this up?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about a week now and the other night we were in his car just talking about life. Suddenly he tells me he is tired of keeping his hand down on his lap to cover "it". We weren't talking about anything sexual,...
A. 21 March 2011: Obviously you turned him on. And obviously he isn't a shy guy.
However, seeing that you guys have only been getting to know each other for a week, I think it's a little creepy.
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I dealt with my insecurity by wearing coloured contact lenses -- does that present a false image?
Q. This sounds stupid but i really want as many opinions on this as i can get. So here's the story, i'm attractive and i mean that in a non snobbish way! But yet ever since i started clubbing i've worn coloured contacts every time (very natural lo...
A. 18 March 2011: So why not wear the contacts on your date? Trust me hun, it's not your eyes they want to date, but you.
Having a little fun with contacts is just fine. But if it gets to a point where you feel you can't face other without them, you might stop and... (read in full...)
I'm scared I might have caught HIV
Q. I am freaking out big time here. I had protected sex with a guy I'm dating and the condom broke. He didn't ejaculate inside of me. Now I am dead worried I might have caught HIV. I'll be taking a test, but I'll have to wait for a couple of weeks, ...
A. 18 March 2011: I hope it turns out OK for you.
If you know your partner is HIV positive there is a tiny chance you got it. Which means, you SHOULD test in 3 months and then re-test in 9. Also no unprotected sex til the second test result in 9 months.
... (read in full...)
Should I wear makeup on our first date?
Q. Should I wear makeup on a first date? We met at a party and wore full-on eye makeup with lots of shimmery eyeshadow and fake eyelashes. However, I normally just wear mascara (for going to school, casual hangouts, etc). We're having dinner ...
A. 17 March 2011: Light and natural make up is what I would go with, let him see your beautiful face :) Doesn't mean you can't "enhance" it a little ;)
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Is it all just porn?
Q. Just wondering, are there "Real" women who like and enjoy getting cummed on her face or in her mouth? or is this all just porn?...
A. 17 March 2011: There is a HUGE variety in what women (and men) like when it comes to sex.
The reason it's used in porn is because the producers knows that the majority of viewers (men) like to see JUST that.
Personally, I don't see the point of a guy "cuming... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter wants to move away to be with her boyfriend, what is the right thing for us to do?
Q. Our 16yr old daughter wants to leave home to live with her boyfriend and his family. They are both 16 and have been going out together for about two and a half years. He, the boyfriend, went to live with his mother after the xmas holidays. His mum ...
A. 17 March 2011: Well, as a mother of 3 girls, my first instinct was a screaming no, she shouldn't go. She is only 16! Who knows how long they will actually last?
On the other hand, if she got a scholarship to a realllllllly good boarding school most people w... (read in full...)
Apparently my boyfriend has changed his relationship status to single!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months. Him and I have had our fights but have always over come them. Now as i came to school today I am told by several of my friends that he changed his relationship status to single. I am freaking...
A. 17 March 2011: I guess he dumped you on FB?
He seems very immature and very juvenile. Why don't you call him on it? Pick up the phone and give him a ring? If he is "single" every time you guys fight.. what's the point?... (read in full...)
Why would he want me to parade around in revealing clothes? Is this because he never had many girlfriends and only watched porn?
Q. My lovely boyfriend who is 35 hasnt had many girlfriends and when we first met he had a huge collection of porn which he has now deleted from his computer. He says he doesnt need it any more. However, he seems very keen on me wearing really h...
A. 17 March 2011: I agree with Dirtball, he is VERY proud of having a hot chick (YOU) on his arm.
But, honestly, if you don't want to wear slutty clothes don't. Stick to your guns, he will understand that having a CLASSY HOT chick on his arm is FAR more "impress... (read in full...)
Are my ex's family being inappropriate?
Q. My son's bio father, we will call him Cord, his family randomly called me the other day over and over and over and over. WHen I listened to the voicemail it said,"Wow you sound really down on your voicemail. You need to call us. (pause) I need a...
A. 17 March 2011: All of the above, rude, inappropriate and jsut plain wrong.
Honestly I would call her and let her know that you have ABSOLUTELY no pull with the hiring and wish her good luck. And.. then I would tell whomever is in charge of hiring NOT to hire tha... (read in full...)
Should I turn a blind eye to his online activities? Or am I right to be hurt by this?
Q. I have found that my husband of 13 years is watching beautiful naked women masterbate on a site called Twistys. He also watches some porn. I find this out because I check the tool section of the computer and it will give the date and the actual ...
A. 17 March 2011: If you "turn a blind eye" it's going to eat you alive. You mind will start to create all kind of "stories" and ideas as to how,when, who, where involving your husband and X woman.
TALK to him. ASK him why he seems to prefer porn over sex with you... (read in full...)
Staying over at my guy friends house.
Q. hi im 15 nd how do i persuade my mom to let me stay at a guys sleep over even though i say hes gay. I have had recent sleep overs but when i came home i had to ask my mom for a pregnancy test. so now she doesnt trust me. I am trying to tell her i ...
A. 14 March 2011: I don't blame your mother. The thing with trust is, once you lose it, it's pretty hard to regain. You need to show your mom that YOU can be trusted.
Maybe you need to talk to your mother about birth control, if you are already having sex.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to get involved with an engaged man?
Q. Ok...heres the 411 Theres this guy...ofcourse...we get along great, we're in the same line of work, and when we're together all we do is laugh. I've been single for a while and I'm really picky. Its rare that I like someone. All this seems t...
A. 14 March 2011: I think MORALLY YES, it would be wrong getting involved with him. And set the morals aside, would you really want to start something with a guy like that? If he is willing to cheat on his Fiancee, do you really think he wouldn't do that to you at ... (read in full...)
My lover thinks she can move in with me in 2 months but I'm still married!
Q. I am 41, married 10 years, no kids and have fallen in love with another women (14 years younger). I know the other women now 1 year from another State. She visited me several times (when my wife was out of town) and I visited her often including her ...
A. 12 March 2011: That is what you get when you lie and try to have your cake and eat it.
I suggest you fess up to both wife and mistress. They both have the right to the truth.. Whatever the outcome, you will have to suck it up.... (read in full...)
Is it my fault she got so messed up at my party?
Q. I had a house party because my parents were away, my brother said it was ok too. we both invited a lot of people and the people we invited brought more people. i invited my ex, the girl i want a relationship with. as the night went on, people got ...
A. 12 March 2011: No I don't think ti was your fault, but I do hope that you took her to the ER if she got raped at your party.
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Why did he act this way after breaking up with me?
Q. This is a follow up to my question that I posted about a week ago (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/where-do-i-go-from-here-what-should.html) I attended a party last night and my ex (quick backstory - he broke up with me over Facebook last we...
A. 12 March 2011: I think he kind of regrets how he dumped you. Also he is trying to be the "bigger man" I'm pretty sure SOEMONE told he he is an ass for doing it over FB.
I would personally avoid social situations with him around for a while. If he keeps popping ... (read in full...)
What if your guy doesn't remember your middle name, your favourite color?
Q. We are told often throughout life via many venues how to tell if a man truly loves you. If you have been dating for some time (over a year), is him not remembering your favorite color, middle name, etc...a clear sign? is how info is store with a ...
A. 12 March 2011: I don't think a man who can't remember the details isn't loving. The whole pay attention to detail is more of a female thing ( IMHO). Not that I mean that it's ok for a guy to not remember significant details.
My husband of 13 years, can't re... (read in full...)
Brother kissing sister. Weird?
Q. Does anyone think it is somewhat awkward for a 32 year old man to be playfully kissing his 35 year old sister? As the girlfriend, I have never seen him act out this behavior. I just think it's a flirty and wierd situation. Like he said he will kiss ...
A. 12 March 2011: I think it's a little odd. Where I'm from it's pretty normal to hug & kiss your sibling (on the cheek) when you meet them. Also two girls holding hands and kissing on the cheek is normal greetings for really good friends/family members.
There... (read in full...)
My gf is angry at me for cheating with her friend and I don't understand why!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for a few months (we got together at the start of last year (and broke up until November). In early December she and her best friend came to stay at my place for the weekend. Her friend ended up getting very dru...
A. 11 March 2011: First of all you didn't cheat with her BFF.
Secondly, I would sit her down and put my foot down about this. She needs to either dump her BFF or dump this whole "not trusting" business. you have done nothing ( that I can see) to make her not trus... (read in full...)
He makes crass sexual jokes. I don't really mind, but does it mean anything?
Q. does this guy like me or do you think he's just joking around ?. i've seen him in a bar in my home town three tiems now. the first time i saw him, i started dancing with him, which he didn't mind lol. the next time i saw him, i walked past him to ...
A. 11 March 2011: Honestly, he seems like an asshole.
He has absolutely no flirting skills and to me it seems more like he is putting you down then hitting on you. Personally, a guy like that I would stay FAR FAR away from. Specially of his female friends are in o... (read in full...)
Does my age have anything to do with why he doesn't want me to meet his parents?
Q. Iam 26 my boyfriend is 38 he is going through his second divorce. I have not meet his parients yet. Does my age have anything to do with me not meeting his parients?...
A. 11 March 2011: If he is still going through a divorce maybe he doesn't want them to think less of him for dating someone else before the divorce is final.
Is there a hurry for you to meet the parents?... (read in full...)
How do I get him to understand without losing him??
Q. Me and my boyfriend havent been dating very long (about two months) and we already had sex. The sex was completely consensual on both sides. Now that we've had sex a few times, he always gets horny when we are just laying on the couch and he tries ...
A. 11 March 2011: It's not really that hard, first of all DO NOT get in a place/position where you are going to cuddle (since you don't seem quite able to assert yourself enough to say no, or not today Buddy)
It's about boundaries and respect. If you tell him we c... (read in full...)
Separation and other woman
Q. Hello, My husband got another apartment in other state because at first he said that he is tired to commute 4 days a week. I was having alcohol problem that time and I even did not think this is separation. After a couple months he said to me, t...
A. 11 March 2011: Keep focusing on your sobriety and yourself. Be ready to divorce your husband, he HAS already moved on.
If you have proof of them having a sexual relationship what are you waiting for? Obviously he is not going to come clean. Living like this can... (read in full...)
Does My Baby's Father Really Want to Be With Us
Q. I am guilty of over explaining. So I am going to try and make this short and sweet. My significant other and I have been together for three and a half years. Nine months ago we had our first son together. This is my first child and his third. ...
A. 11 March 2011: Why hasn't he moved closer to you or prepared a place for you and the baby?
Yes, his word and actions do not match.
Is he helping you out financially?... (read in full...)
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