I think my best friend is mad that I'm dating her ex! What should I do?
Q. My friend and I have known each other since we were like 7 or 8. I started to really like one of her ex-boyfriends. I asked her how mad she would be, on a scale from 1 to 10, if I liked him. She said about a 2, and told me she wouldn’t care if I ...
A. 19 May 2011: Give her some space and see if she comes around. If not.. there isn't much you can do.... (read in full...)
My male housemate doesn't talk with me when the other female housemate is there!
Q. I share with 2 other people. He moved in first,and we got along really well. I had a crush on him. He taught me swimming, played cards, ... pretty much flirt with me. Then the other girl moved in (who is older and not good looking, but she has a ...
A. 17 May 2011: He is the one you feel is isolating you, correct? So why is it HER you are considering booting out?
It's just not rational.... (read in full...)
My male housemate doesn't talk with me when the other female housemate is there!
Q. I share with 2 other people. He moved in first,and we got along really well. I had a crush on him. He taught me swimming, played cards, ... pretty much flirt with me. Then the other girl moved in (who is older and not good looking, but she has a ...
A. 16 May 2011: Honestly "She" isn't your problem. So booting her out won't solve anything.
If you want to make friends GO out "there" and make some. Start on a new hobby or take some classes. Don't expect your two room mates to be responsible for YOUR entertai... (read in full...)
I need to walk away from my married lover for good!
Q. I need some help to walk away from my married lover for good. We have been together for 4 years, hes in his early forties and im 26 with a young child. Over the years he has hurt me numerous times, told me he was leaving his wife almost every we...
A. 16 May 2011: He is NOT going to leave his wife. If he haven't already, I seriously doubt he will in the future.
He's not serious about you. Or.. he would have made good at his words.
Honey, LOOK at his actions, stop listening to his "tall tales".
Why o... (read in full...)
Men are leering at my legs and I want it to stop!
Q. Hello there! Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I shou...
A. 15 May 2011: Ignore it or wear long pants. You can't control what other people do, where they look and what they think.... (read in full...)
When we have sex, it's agony!
Q. Heyy.. Okay; Well; ive been with my boyrfirend for 7months. I love him with all of my heart. Butt; when we have sex; its agony!! I have been in tears over this before during sex. I feel really bad; because he then feels bad for putting me thru the ...
A. 15 May 2011: Sounds like you need to get checked by a gynecologist.... (read in full...)
Should I complain about my treatment in the store?
Q. Hey guys. This is not a relationship question, but more a question for your view point. Im 18 years of age, and suffering from a condition that my doctor is not quite certain of yet. I also have crohns disease. My condition is something to do ...
A. 15 May 2011: I don't know if you would "get" anything out of it. She might have assumed you were on drugs, drunk or just really sick..
However, I think it was kind of callous to just walk away from you.
Hope your doctor figure out what is up with you.... (read in full...)
Can you use lotion as a lubricant?
Q. I'm really nervous about giving my boyfriend a hand job. Can you use lotion as a lubricant? If so, which kinds of lotion are best? Thank you!...
A. 15 May 2011: KY Jelly work fine. You can also look for flavored lubes, if.. you are going to use more then hands.
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Is this pushing the limits?
Q. It is starting to get warm now and us girls are starting to wear more comfortable clothing. But this one girl in our class is crossing the line, she wore a very short mini skirt to school and when she bent over to get her bag from her locker she had ...
A. 15 May 2011: I think she is being stupid. She is most likely testing her OWN limits more them anyone else.
I would.. use the term.. Attention hog. It is kinda pathetic.
Did you ask her why she would do such a thing?... (read in full...)
Normal for a married man to have pics on his phone of his male friend flexing his muscles at the gym?
Q. Is it normal for a married man to have pics on his phone of his male friend flexing his muscles at the gym? I don't think my husband is gay but others say it's a weird thing for a straight guy to have. He says they were just comparing muscles and ...
A. 15 May 2011: LOL It does sounds like a typical guy thing, honestly. Doesn't make him gay..
^shrug^ ... (read in full...)
Former "friend" with benefits said he wants to sleep with me, that I'm "hot" and doesn't seem to see anything wrong with it.
Q. I ended up having a "friends with benefits" type thing with a guy "friend" for nearly a year. He lives hours away so when he was in town we'd meet up etc. I ended up (stupidly) liking him, which was a shame because I found out that he was a complete ...
A. 15 May 2011: He is doing his "man-whore" thing.. He's hoping you want to play along..
Unless you want to feel used and/or stupid down the line...
Honestly, cut the contact, forget his number, delete it, block it.. Think of him as one of "those" mistakes... (read in full...)
My husband wants 7 kids! I thought he was joking!
Q. My husband and I have been together since we were both 20 years old. I told him from the beginning that I don't care where we live as long as we get married near my hometown. He grew up in rural farm-town America and now that's where we and our kids ...
A. 15 May 2011: I have 3 kids and that is my absolute max! LOL We planned for 1 child (since my husband have kids from a previous marriage) but ended up with 3. I have no regrets having 3.
If you two can make the marriage, life, day-today work well for you and ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be a "bad boy" for girls to like you?
Q. This question is for women ,I never had a girlfriend and I'm still looking. But I heard girls like the "bad boys". I'm a sweet heart guy and I do have confidence, faith, and not a pushover. I am responsible and I would protect my girlfriend from ...
A. 15 May 2011: Bad boys are just that.. bad.
There is (for some women) a certain attraction to "bad boys", most women though outgrow that stupid phase. Yes, I think it's a phase with the whole "bad boy" thing.
From what you describe I cant' see why you can'... (read in full...)
Why has she turned cold on me? I thought we had possibilities.
Q. Im just curious. why is it that a girl i have been friends for quite some time (appx 6 years) is all of a sudden cold towards me. She would rather be a groupie and chase musicians to various states, then have the nerve to say that it was just ...
A. 14 May 2011: Cut her out of your life, and do it now. For your own sanity.
And in the future don't put a girl up on a tall tall pedestal, it hurt like heck when you fall down.... (read in full...)
She doesn't trust me anymore and won't be with me
Q. So ive been with my gf for two years. And she doesnt want to be with me no more because she doesnt trust me. Because her parents don't like me. And because I messed up too many times in our relationship, she always getting hurt. But I just can't let ...
A. 14 May 2011: I'm sorry but you HAVE to let her go. She already left the relationship anyways.
Now what I would suggest.. is that you look BACK and look at your own actions while in the relationship and learn from those mistakes. If she constantly got hurt by ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lied about being sexually active
Q. My boyfriend has lied to me about being with other women, or so he said to me. We've been together for over seven months, and he just told me now. He also recently found out that I would prefer to be with a virgin. I'm having trouble deciding if I ...
A. 14 May 2011: How is he supposed to know that your preference is virgins?
I will quote you OP -
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He also recently found out that I would prefer to be with a virgin.
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So you weren't upfront about your preference wh... (read in full...)
Love on the amtrack...
Q. I planned a trip to Florida by train and I met a wonderful man who happens to work for Amtrak. The whole ride he was slowly talking to me asking me if I was okay and if my son was too.. At first I thought okay this is excellent customer service and ...
A. 14 May 2011: It's almost sounds romantic, but I agree with jmc930.. Red flags are all over the place.
How sure are you that he is even divorced? Honestly, if you have his info I would do a background check on him before going any further then simple texting.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a guy who doesn't want a relationship!
Q. Hey guys............ Ok, so the obvious has happened, I've fallen for a guy who Doesn't want a relationship. His 4 years younger then me, been single for 5 years and sleeps with lots of women...his honest and upfront about it. (which I appreciate) ...
A. 14 May 2011: I agree that you only really have 2 choices.
A. you have a FWB relationship
B. You walk away.
The thing is a FWB is not really that easy if one person have feelings involved like you do.
If it was me, I would walk away now. And I would al... (read in full...)
Why are guys reactions rude when they hear I don't have facebook, or drink alcohol!?
Q. Right. So I'm 18 and i don't have facebook or drink by choice. Many guys tend to find this strange or don't believe me! And I don't like the reactions they give! But whatever, it's my choice right? I'm just not interested in facebook like ev...
A. 14 May 2011: I think most people have an idea that people "your age" live on Facebook 24/7. So when they ask about yours and you don't have one they might think its because you don't want them on your page.. (in your life)
Honestly, I would stay away from guy... (read in full...)
I don't want my boyfriend to know that I'm not a virgin!
Q. im not virgin n i dont want that my boyfriend know that im not virgin on our wedding night plz help...
A. 14 May 2011: So you want to start your marriage with a lie?... (read in full...)
Wife cheated, got pregnant then didn't have the child. Why did she do this?
Q. Hi my wife had an affair 20 months ago, when she was pregnant, said the baby was mine and had an abortion. A few months ago I found out that the baby she made me grieve for was not mine. She would not talk to me about it. Eventually I have got so ...
A. 14 May 2011: I agree with Caring Guy. Do the DNA test, keep your ass covered.
And honestly, cut the contact.
Why did she tell you it was yours? Well, if she had told you it was her lovers you might have kicked her to the curb. Saying it was yours gave her a... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 14 May 2011: Maybe, honey, it's time to find a man who truly appreciate you? To me it seems like you are his doormat not his GF. And you.. let him.
Kick his dumbass to the curb.... (read in full...)
Why would your friend let you get hurt?
Q. Why on earth would a guy who likes you, not tell you that his friend who your with has a girlfriend? I just don't understand it! Why would they let you get hurt and feel that way!?! Surely if the guy liked you, then he would tell you so you don't ...
A. 14 May 2011: Maybe he thought you knew. Or that someone else had told your or would tell you.
Honestly I understand the hurt, but the only one you should really harbor any resentment towards is your BF!... (read in full...)
He cheated and then proposes with a $6000.00 ring?
Q. I just caught my boyfriend cheating on me. He took me on a trip a couple of months ago and took his side chick on the same trip a month ago, and I busted him down to the city and the hotel they were staying in. He appologized of course and said it ...
A. 14 May 2011: Honey, that is 6,000 reasons NOT to marry him. Right there - shaped like a ring.. Maybe next time he cheats you will get offered matching earring or bracelet.....
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Did I make a mistake telling him?
Q. Just last night I told my partner that I have had anal warts before. We still haven't had sex and I was so afraid to tell him, but I knew he had to know and so I told him. I had to tell him partly because we were about to head in the direction of ...
A. 14 May 2011: Since Anal Warts ( I had to google that one too) is a STD.
To quote the website:
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•Most patients with genital warts are between the ages of 17-33 years. Genital warts are highly contagious. There is around a 60% risk... (read in full...)
She kicked me out and I'm absolutely devastated!
Q. April 24 after a 3 1/2 years relationship I was told "leave". End of story, have had no ability to contact in any way. I go between depression so deep I'm suicidal then I go to anger. I will flesh out the problem. Met this person and it wa...
A. 14 May 2011: I see you made a lot of sacrifices to be with this women and I can understand your anger at the outcome. But here is the deal.You can't make someone love you and want to be with you. It does seem odd that she did a 180 on you and don't even offer an ... (read in full...)
B/f is now 2 grades behind me! Will it work?
Q. Pleaase help me, i need so much help!! Well here's how it goes.....me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a WHOLE year, its been 11 months and a half, i love him SO much, he is wonderful but the thing is he failed the grade, when we first ...
A. 14 May 2011: I don't see what his grade level has to do with the relationship.. unless.. it's because he spends too much time with you and too little studying that made him fail..
Are you afraid of what others will think because your BF is in 2 grade levels l... (read in full...)
I don't like the changes my body is going through!
Q. I have just turned 30 years old six months ago and I am worried because my body is changing in ways I do not like. My breasts are shrinking and it is not because I am losing weight because I have gained 10 lbs in the last six months at the beginning ...
A. 13 May 2011: No one likes it, but it's nature. Keep staying fit and healthy.
If it was a huge sudden change I would actually talk to my doctor. Just remember.. there is a lot more to YOU then your rack.... (read in full...)
How could he say this to me!
Q. My husband and I fought over something stupid on Mother's Day...we have not talked to each other about our child since then. On Monday our son had his last soccer game. We all went and some man held the door open for us as he was going out. I said ...
A. 13 May 2011: Talk to your husband. (After your son is in bed.) Sit him down and talk to him. You two need to communicate. You can't hide your heads in the sand or sweep the "drama" under the rug.. Life doesn't work that way.. At least not for long.... (read in full...)
A good friend screwed you over.....what would you do?
Q. Let just say a supposed good friend lied and screwed you over and you weren't happy with them about it. Would you... Give them the benefit of the doubt? Let them know you are annoyed at them? Not say anything about it and just move on? ...
A. 13 May 2011: If this is a good friend they NEED to know what they did was hurtful and wrong. So I would talk to the friend and go from there.. Through it would depend on how bad I got "screwed over".. Some people are just not worth keeping as friends.... (read in full...)
If your ex is trying to make you jealous, does it mean they want you back
Q. If your ex is trying to make oy jealous, does it mean they want you back? He up with me after an interferring relative made him believe I was bad-mouthing him behind his back to her. He never confronted me about it he just ended the relations...
A. 13 May 2011: No it rarely means he wants you back, but usually mean that he wasn't you to constantly miss him, think of him, want him.. It's like a little ego-trip.
I suggest you put HIM on ignore. STOP checking his Facebook or whatnot. Block his number, ... (read in full...)
He is on holiday with his ex wife and kids, and I havent even had a text from him!
Q. My partner has taken his ex wife and children on holiday this week. He went on Monday and is due back tomorrow. We don't live together officially but have been seeing each other for about 18 months and I love him and he says he loves me. He stops at ...
A. 13 May 2011: Since he is due back tomorrow, I would restrain myself from texting. However.... I wouldn't be cool with him going on a weeks vacation with his ex and the kids.. The kids.. sure.. the ex? hell no. But maybe that is just me :)
I would be upset th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends a lot of time with a woman in her 60's. I think he should spend more time with me. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. Can someone help me with this question? I don't know of anybody being in this situation ever. My boyfriend of nearly 7 months chooses to spend his time with a lady in her 60's rather than with me. He goes to her house every night and through ...
A. 13 May 2011: I think he has a very strong bond to his "replacement- grandma" and she is giving him something he needs that you can not give him. Did he make a promise to his grandad to make sure SHE is OK? And taken care of?
I don't think he puts HER before y... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is mad that I'm dating her ex! What should I do?
Q. My friend and I have known each other since we were like 7 or 8. I started to really like one of her ex-boyfriends. I asked her how mad she would be, on a scale from 1 to 10, if I liked him. She said about a 2, and told me she wouldn’t care if I ...
A. 13 May 2011: Talk to her (outside of school.)
Usually dating a BFF's ex is a huge no-no. But I think in your case you were considerate enough to ask her how she would feel about it before pursuing it. She might not have know how much it would actually hurt her... (read in full...)
What's a good size diamond for an engagement ring?
Q. What is a nice size solitaire diamond for an engagement ring to a tall, slender lady who has a ring size of 5.5? I am looking at just over 1 carat. The quality is impeccable, so I'm not looking for comments on clarity and color...just size. I kn...
A. 13 May 2011: 1 carat is "big" (since we are just talking 1 stone) but not gaudy IMHO. it's around 6-6,5 mm I believe.
It all comes down to the ring's design. Is the ring simple of elaborate. Gold/white gold/platinum..
What kind of cut? round stone? pri... (read in full...)
Is anyone else annoyed at Facebook?
Q. I hate Facebook. There, I said it. I hate the way most people use text messaging, too. I do not participate on Facebook, but most of my friends and family do. That's fine. It's a nice way to connect with a lot of people at once and share thos...
A. 13 May 2011: Hate away!
I don't live on Facebook. I don't post daily, maybe 1-2 times a month? Just to keep people who life far from us in the loop and to see what's going on with them. I don't tweet, I don't text. (yeah, I really don't text either).... (read in full...)
Why does he think he can control me just because we have a child?
Q. okay my ex and i have a child together he is with someone else which is fine cos i am now seeing someone to. but he won't see our baby he says he tries but he dumps her when he has something better to do. well anyway he was supposed to mind her...
A. 13 May 2011: You two need to SIT down and have an visitation agreement on paper and then stick to it. You might need an impartial 3rd person or a lawyer to draw up the agreement.
Honestly though.. shouldn't your child come before going on dates?... (read in full...)
I have nice guy syndrome
Q. I'm a freshman in highschool and as you would assume, I have a huge crush on a particular girl. She's really nice and we've been good friends for a long time now but it's only recently that I decided to confess my feelings to her (via text... if ...
A. 13 May 2011: Be yourself, don't go "douche" because she "seems" to like douches.
The ball is in her court now. Respect that she might need some time to get over her ex.
Be there for her, but don't push the issue. If she keeps "ignoring" what you told he... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I got selected to same college, but he doesn't want to come along
Q. me and my bf love each other like mad.we are in a ldr since two years. recently we gave entrance exams and i and my bf got selected to the same college. but my bf doesnt want to come.he said he will drop this year and will try for some better...
A. 13 May 2011: Is his true reasoning that he wants a better college or can he not afford the one you both got selected too?
Either way, your main focus should be your education. I know it's hard, but you HAVE to think of you and your future first. (same as he is... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I love him for the right reasons. Should I marry him anyway?
Q. Here's the thing... my fiance and I have been together for a year and a half, and have lived together for a year. We are planning on getting married in October on our 2 year anniversary. But... I have many doubts about marrying him. It's not wedding ...
A. 13 May 2011: If you have doubts, then you shouldn't marry anyone.... (read in full...)
How many friends do you have?
Q. OK I am wondering how many friends--and I mean real friends--can a person honestly have. I am not counting Facebook friends, but real friends. To me a real friend is someone you feel a kinship with, someone you identify with and who identifies w...
A. 13 May 2011: I have about 8 "real" close friends. 3 I have known since we were 5-6, 3 since college and 2 are "newer" (as in the last 8 years. So, most of my friends are people I have known 20+ years.
I don't "need" a lot of friends around me. I don't really d... (read in full...)
I'm reluctant to reccomend my friend for a job at my workplace
Q. About 2 years ago a woman I worked with left the company as she decided she wanted a more flexible job so she could have more time with her 2 children. I kept in touch with her via facebook and she often texts me. She has now decided that she...
A. 13 May 2011: I would be honest with my boss if they ask, but I wouldn't volunteer anything.
I would not stick my neck out for her though.
It's not your job to get her hired.... (read in full...)
Post-abortion relationship problem
Q. I had an abortion about three weeks ago. I was feeling fine about it the first two weeks but now I'm not feeling so great. I feel like I see babies everywhere, and I'm sad about it. I want to talk to my boyfriend about my feelings but I'm real...
A. 12 May 2011: 3 weeks ago you were pregnant with all that it entails. That means crazy hormones as well. They don't go away the moment the fetus is gone. It takes the body ( I believe) 6 weeks to readjust. So accept that part. Secondly, even if abortion was the... (read in full...)
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