Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 6 June 2011: Honestly, don't you think it's about time YOU do something on your own as well? I mean it is geart to hang out with the spouse, but having an identity besides being "joe's wife" should count too. Take a weekly class is something you want to learn ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to join the Army but I really don't want him to go....
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and he just recently told me about his interest in joining the Army. I told him I would support whatever he chooses to do but I really don't want him to go. I don't really know what to do, if to ...
A. 5 June 2011: Be honest with him, but you also need to respect that it might be a lifelong dream of his.
What is it about the Army that you dislike? The chance of him getting hurt? Or hurt other? No being home a lot?
Why does he want to join? Do you kno... (read in full...)
Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 5 June 2011: Mid life crisis?
That is the only thing I can think of. Honestly you two need to find something you can do together or each alternate a weekend, not just him getting all the "fun" and socialization every week end. I would really resent my husband ... (read in full...)
How can I sweep this guy off his feet and away from his girlfriend?
Q. I have this cute neighbor who lives beside me. He is so cute and handsome. I like hardly ever see him. The other night I was going out with some girlfriends of mine and he was waiting at the elevator with a female who I thought was his friend. I was ...
A. 4 June 2011: Grow some morals, honey.. and maybe a conscience....... (read in full...)
I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?
Q. I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...
A. 3 June 2011: I'd keep it "private", sooner or later one of you will suggest you talk on the phone or meet up, hopefully. Nothing wrong in taking it a little slow either, so take the time t ask him question you really want him to answer :) and good luck.
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Its stupid to say I'm sorry when I'm wrong!
Q. Why do people say I'm mean because I dont apologize and feel bad when Im wrong? I talk to them after a little while so shouldnt they know Im over it and they should be happy I talk to them again? Why all the drama and stuff? It's stupid. Why they ...
A. 31 May 2011: Owning your words and actions is not being weak. Being able to admit you are wrong and apologize (if need be) is not being weak. It's being a decent human being. It's having manners and respect for others.
Keep that attitude and see how many peo... (read in full...)
I want to marry one of my friends, but her response to that isn't good...
Q. Hi friends plz plz plz help me, i am in big big trouble, i've a friend and now i want her as my girl friend because i want to marry with her, she is not giving me positive reply, i want her to tell her parents about me so that i may proceed but she ...
A. 31 May 2011: She wants you as a friend not a husband/lover. You are going to have to face those fact and move on.... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he cheated on me or if he got this girl pregnant before we got together, and now the baby's mom wants to fight me!
Q. Okay my boyfriend and I have been dating going on a year in two months. I was going threw his phone to prove him wrong about a text that I sent him, this was back in October. We were just playing around like always and I found a text stating "I love ...
A. 31 May 2011: First of you your BF is lying through his teeth. First she is just some girl, then the baby isn't his,... you see a pattern honey?
He lies when he is caught.
How can you be with a guy who has no qualms of lying to you? How can you trust hi... (read in full...)
I am at a point in my life where I can't stop hating men and it is poisoning me.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some help. I am at a point in my life where I can't stop hating men and it is poisoning me. Six years ago I was kidnapped and raped by a very sick individual. Since then I have honestly tried to not look for evil in men, I r...
A. 30 May 2011: First of all I'm sorry what happened to you.
Second of all have you gotten any therapy ? That is a LOT to go through. You may unknowingly send out signals that attract "those" kind of men, you may also be drawn to the "no-good" type because ... (read in full...)
I don't like the engagement ring he gave me
Q. My fiance recently surprised me with an engagement ring. He knew I preferred white gold, but got me a yellow gold one. I do love my ring, but it matches nothing I wear and with me being OCD I'm now having to get all new jewellery and accessories to ...
A. 30 May 2011: My engagenment ring was hidious (honestly gaudy!) Not at all my taste,but you know what? I wore it. HE picked it out with ME in mind. However, my wedding band I picked out :)
If it upsets you (I know OCD) I would tell him that you absolute... (read in full...)
What's the problem here: Her or Me?
Q. I'm a guy, and there is a girl I met semi-recently and developed strong romantic feelings for. We've know each other about 4 mos, we've hung out, partied, we talk on Facebook, we text and we talk. She knows i like her as more than just a friend. She ...
A. 30 May 2011: I don't see you being a douche at all. I kind of seeing her being a little "douchy" honestly.
If your friends can see through her, you need to open your eyes and listen to them.
You want more then she is willing to give. But what she is expe... (read in full...)
My conservative wife wears low-cut tops that show her bra?
Q. OK, this is going to sound odd, because I certainly find it odd. My wife is in her 40s. She has always been very decorous. Serious professional, dedicated mother, married for 20+ years. A virgin when we got together. Very conservative sex...
A. 27 May 2011: Maybe she has "just" adapted to the culture she lives in. Revealing bra straps is not really rare these days. Not is it inapropriate.
As to why she does it, ask her.
I don't think it is to show off ( or she would be buying Victoria secret ... (read in full...)
I queef, therefore I blush. Make it stop?
Q. Here's an embarassing question... So, when I get turned on, my vagina seems to open up and suck in some air. The result is queefing. This doesn't happen if something penis sized is inserted (except once with a very small penis), but if something...
A. 27 May 2011: If you have a BF worth a darn he will giggle WITH you when it happens.... (read in full...)
I am lazy when it comes to relationships now because I had a bad breakup. Is this normal?
Q. I went through a bad breakup because of my infidelity...I made mistakes and ultimately paid for it by losing someone I loved...she started dating a guy immediately after breaking up with me. I had a long recovery period from this and can finally ...
A. 26 May 2011: I think it's normal, but I also think it means you aren't quite ready to be serious.... (read in full...)
Should I just not argue ever with him?
Q. I had an argument with my boyfriend and he told me he has enough stress to deal with from his ex wife, he didn’t want more from me and that I was starting to sound like her. So I should like never argue and always be agreeable just because he has ...
A. 26 May 2011: I would tell him that you are NOT his ex and would prefer not to be compared to her.
He needs to start living in the now, not the past.
YOU are bound to not agree 100% of the time, that is pretty darn normal. You should also be "allowed" to hav... (read in full...)
So why haven't I met someone who seems like a good match?
Q. So I'm 27, almost 28, and I've never had a real serious relationship. It frightens me, because I feel like there's something wrong with me! I date guys, but they never seem to stick around long (I'm not clingy, I'm actually pretty cool and funn...
A. 26 May 2011: Stop having casual sex, it's NOT what you are looking for.
Have you tried an oline dating service? A new hobby, taking some evening classes in something fun? Blind dates?
Or where DO you meet the men you have been around lately?
And c... (read in full...)
Attached men visiting strip clubs?
Q. How to deal with a man who use to visit strip clubs when he was single!!My boyfriend was a strip club visitor when he was single. He tries explaining to me that he feels those were better places to hang out, have a beer and relax, than a normal bar. ...
A. 26 May 2011: Honestly, I think strip clubs are like porn.. LAME!
Bunch of selfabsorbed or desperate women taking their clothes off for money.. that is hot? really? I think it's sad.
Where I come from, nakedness is not taboo like it is in the US - where i... (read in full...)
Does he want to be with me just to have sex because I'm a virgin?
Q. My boy frd dated me for 2month,nd left without any explaination.after 7month he come back for me.i accept him back.on my birthday he didn't get me any bday present.and yet am madly in love with him.he ask me that am i still a virgin,i told him ...
A. 26 May 2011: He sounds like bad news.... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 26 May 2011: First of all you can't even buy some LUBE?!
And secondly, if she's decided that she really doesn't dig anal, you need to respect it. Sex is not about one person, but BOTH people enjoying what's going on.
Stop being selfish.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: There are just some elephants you can't sweep under the rug.
Personally, I would sit down and figure out WHAT you would need/want from her in order to make the marriage work, then talk with her about it. Maybe even try a marriage counselo... (read in full...)
I found explicit photos of my g/f and they burned into my head!
Q. I started going out with my fiance about 8 years ago, and we have a 6 year old son. We broke up for about 4 years ago (I broke up with her), and we got back together about a year ago. I recently discovered some photos on her computer that I'...
A. 26 May 2011: You need to talk to her. I think marrying her with this on your mind would be a HUGE mistake.
Also, the photos.. It might have been her "rebellion" after you dumped her, she wanted to know that she was still hot & sexy, so she did things she migh... (read in full...)
Should I Sue Her?
Q. Okay here is my previous post and question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-if-she-is-genuine-and-it-is.html My girlfriend and I have broken up now.I have spent more than 20k on her in the past 8 months. I bought her various gifts fr...
A. 26 May 2011: I am not sure you really have legal recource or that you would actually see a penny of it. Might have to find a lawyer and see.
Seems like she knows how to get men to pay her stuff and it also seems like they have no complaints til she dumps th... (read in full...)
Why would he tell me about his vasectomy. Is that not too personal?
Q. Why would a married man in a relationship have a vasectomy and then tell me about it. I have been working with a professional guy and he had his kids a little later in life (40's). He has a much younger wife. A strong attraction grow between u...
A. 26 May 2011: I know many guys who have had the "snip snip" I know even more guys that OUGHT to have had it.
Honestly, I would have said, that is a little TMI for my taste.
Maybe.. it was his way of saying that you wouldn't get knocked up if you two went phy... (read in full...)
I queef, therefore I blush. Make it stop?
Q. Here's an embarassing question... So, when I get turned on, my vagina seems to open up and suck in some air. The result is queefing. This doesn't happen if something penis sized is inserted (except once with a very small penis), but if something...
A. 25 May 2011: Actually queefing is a sign of having good vagina muscles. So don't sweat it.
Vaginal flatulence, or queefing, is simply the sound of air rushing out of the vagina. It occurs frequently during sex, as the penis forces air into this cavity, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex gf I am moving and the new place is by her?
Q. Ok. I am selling my condominium. I am sick of working on it. I have found a great deal on an apartment in a neighboring city. The only problem is that the apartment is only about 6 blocks from my most recent ex gf. We dated only 4 1/2 months but I ...
A. 25 May 2011: Nope, you don't need to inform her that you are moving to her neighborhood, in a few short weeks it will be Your neighborhood too.
IF you run into her, just tell her you got a great deal. Personally I would pretend I had forgotten that she live... (read in full...)
Why are my colleagues resentful of me?
Q. Im finding recently that my work colleagues are becoming resentful of me. The 1st thing that happened was I got engaged last year and my boyfriend and I designed my engagement ring and had it made. I absolutly love it so when I showed it off ...
A. 25 May 2011: Let it roll of your back and "kill" them with kindness. Some people are just PETTY!
Just be who you are and let them stew in their own pot of jealousy.... (read in full...)
How can I get pregnant quickly?
Q. hi i am currently trying to conceive i would like some advice on the any quick ways to get pregnant? or anything i can do to get pregnant faster? i have been with my bf for 2years and have had one misscarraige before we have been trying again for...
A. 25 May 2011: What's the hurry?
And no, in general it takes the time it takes ( I know, annoying answer)
Have you done the whole ovulating calender thing yet? That way you two make use to use the most fertile times of the month.
http://www.marchofdim... (read in full...)
An ex-lover sent me a friend request on facebook...I am married-is it appropriate to accept?
Q. Is it okay to accept the friend request of an ex lover on facebook even if im married already?...
A. 24 May 2011: Do you really NEED to include this ex in your life?
Ask your husband how he feels, it's a perfect time to discuss some boundaries.... (read in full...)
If the first time you meet a guy he talks about sex, is that all he wants from you?
Q. I have a couple of questions. If you meet a guy in a bar, and he mentions sex the first time he meets you, does that mean he is only after sex, or could it also mean that he finds you sexually attractive but could possibly want a relationship with ...
A. 24 May 2011: Not always, but usually.
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Should I be forced to invite my cousin to my bfs small birthday dinner?
Q. Today I called my mum to invite her and my father to my boyfriends birthday dinner in a couple of weeks. I explain that we don't have a set date put aside but heads up - it will be in two weeks. Immediately she tells me that as my cousin will be ...
A. 24 May 2011: I would ask your BF see how he feels and go from there.
PS your cousin is old enough to entertain himself for one night, but I would invite him, if it's rare that you get to see him.... (read in full...)
I was unhappy about what I found on his phone and then he asked me to marry him!
Q. To be honest, I have been trying to stop my obsession with looking at my boyfriends text messages. I have problems trusting people and I explained that to him. Also I went about a year and a half to two years practically living on computer/text ...
A. 24 May 2011: You guys have only been together 4 months and he is already checking out the "greener grass" ?
First of all, did he propose because he was scared of loosing you? Or to try and cover for his "straying"?
Personally, I would never date a che... (read in full...)
I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?
Q. I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...
A. 24 May 2011: Just go slow. He accepted you as a friend which means you can start by aking how he's doing, what's he is going to be doing over the summer.. you know the usual chit chat. If he is interested he will keep the convo up.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend behaves like a 5 year old!
Q. my boyfriend behaves like a five yr old. i love him we met on freshers week i had just come out of a bad relationship and needed someone who really appreciated me, and he did he told me all the time how beautiful i was brought me gifts unexpectedly, ...
A. 23 May 2011: Ehh He sounds more like work then a partner...
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Questions about being in the reserves
Q. In reserves, do you have to be stationed in another state from where you normally live? Also, are people able to have a regular job such as a lawyer or nurse and be in the rerves as well since reserves is only a once or twice a month thing?...
A. 23 May 2011: Call a recruiter and ask, it may vary from branch to branch.
Being in the Reserve means you can get called up for duty, such as... deployments.
http://www.army.mil/info/organization/unitsandcommands/reserveunits/
http://afreserve.com/... (read in full...)
I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?
Q. I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...
A. 23 May 2011: I would never ever in a million years profess my feeling on someones social website.
Just start talking. If you two hit it off and meet in person you can tell him. Take the time to get to know him.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always referring to his ex!
Q. hi my guy friend, he had an 18 yrs relationship with a girl , they have broken up. i really want to know after being in an 18 yrs relationship , how can ppl still break up , was their no love or why does this happen ? now the point is i l...
A. 23 May 2011: Sounds to me that he isn't really over her.
And you can break up at any point in time fo a relationship/marriage - some times people just grow apart. Some time they grow bored or restless.
Maybe date someone closer to your own age?
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My smart girlfriend is sabotaging our relationship
Q. My new girlfriend is very smart and she has been creating issues out of small things and bringing things we have discussed in the past back into it. I feel like she is sabotaging us. I have a child to a previous relationship and i have good ...
A. 23 May 2011: You have been with a 3 months and she already try to dictate your life?
I'm sorry, but you child should come first. SHE ought to be OK with you being civil to your ex (baby mama).
She seems very immature, insecure, distrustful and jealous. I d... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with me? Every guy I've dated they have broken up with me!
Q. Every guy I have gone out with has broken up with me and i dont know why! I try not to be so clingy, I try not to hug all of my guy friends all the time. I dont know what I do wrong. It seems as if I'll always be lonely :(...
A. 23 May 2011: How about just being yourself? Boys and girls at your age are fickle!
I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but maybe you are looking for something in the wrong kind of guys?... (read in full...)
Bigger boyfriend has made me looser?
Q. Super quick question! Recently I've been having sex with my boyfriend who is very very well endowed. He's the biggest I've ever had in me and sometimes it's even very painful. But, a couple minutes ago I was fingering myself and it just felt looser. ...
A. 23 May 2011: Google KEGEL excersices!
It's time to start. And ye, it's natural, just as women who give vaginal birth will for a while after be very loose, but it will again adjust and with kegels it can go back to pre-birth.... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend want to go off with his friends on a bank holiday?
Q. Okay, so this weekend is a bank holiday, my guy is off work Saturday and Sunday (he works a lot of weekends) and basically he has been invited to go camping with his two best mates. I’m pi***d off. I don’t have a problem with either of these gu...
A. 23 May 2011: I think him taking a long week-end with his buddies is a good thing. Specially since the last time he did it was a year ago. Honey, we ALL need a little buddy-time.
Also, taking that week in Scotland with YOUR friends is a good thing. One should n... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm obsessed with her and this whole situation is draining me!
Q. Am I really that bad? In the past 8 months have been loving a girl and it was an emotional exhausting process becuase we started from very good friend to she fwent out with anothe guy to now she thinks I am obsessed with her. I don't want to be...
A. 21 May 2011: Ignore her. Avoid her. Not much else you can do.... (read in full...)
I had sex with a transexual, does that make me gay?
Q. i had sex with a transexual, it it really bugging the hell out of me.. does that make me gay?...
A. 21 May 2011: Do you mean a man with boobies? or one who had had a gender reassignment surgery? There are many variation of inbetweens with in the transexuals. Does it make you gay? I doubt it. Depends really on this, did you see "her" as a girl a or guy... (read in full...)
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