I had sex with a transexual, does that make me gay?
Q. i had sex with a transexual, it it really bugging the hell out of me.. does that make me gay?...
A. 21 May 2011: Do you mean a man with boobies? or one who had had a gender reassignment surgery? There are many variation of inbetweens with in the transexuals. Does it make you gay? I doubt it. Depends really on this, did you see "her" as a girl a or guy... (read in full...)
Does a bad experience with one guy color her judgement towards all future guys in her life?
Q. Why and how can a bad experience with one guy change someone to change how she looks and thinks about certain things, have trust issues and be more guarded but confident? I know it sounds silly, but i'm just interested how one guy can have this af...
A. 21 May 2011: It can up to a point, specially if she likes to live in the past.
Some people remember only the sunshine and rainbows from past relationship, others only the bad.
If you have ever been treated like crap it stick with you for a very long time.... (read in full...)
He's never going to let go of his girlfriend so I need to move on
Q. Basically i've been in love with this guy for over a year now and he has a girlfriend. He flirts with me all the time and we text most nights but i know it isnt fair on me as he is never gonna end it with his girlfriend for me so i need to get over ...
A. 21 May 2011: Tell him to stop texting/calling you. Block his number. Forget about him.
You are a distraction, amusement for him, nothing more.
Find yourself a real man!... (read in full...)
B/f says leave him alone I screwed up his job!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years LDR, Canada and USA. I was up there just two months ago and we are talking marriage and he asked his parents and mine for a blessing etc..I get back home and lost my job got a bit too overly bored and over ...
A. 21 May 2011: Find yourself a new job, focus on YOU. I think he owes you a big ass apology.
And in the future, if you know ahead of time that texting during work hours is a no no, then don't do it.
Let him chill. Maybe, he will grow a set and apologize, m... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 21 May 2011: Quit the porn. It's fake.
Get out there and meet people. Date a girl (or heck a boy too) see how it goes. It's not so much about sex, but what attracts you. Many teens are sexually "confused" and it's not really abnormal to not be 100% sure of ... (read in full...)
I lost weight and now I am no longer interested in heavier women. Is that normal?
Q. I've lost quite a bit of weight this past year, and it certainly shows. I'm a bit worried about myself, however. Back when I was overweight, I never wanted to get into relationships. I really felt I needed to make a solid first impression first, so ...
A. 21 May 2011: Maybe the fact that you now look/feel normal, you feel more attracted to average weight women?
I think the fact that you realize this and feel shallow for thinking so. But, the thing is.. A fit guy can attract a larger variety of women and a ov... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't want to be with me anymore because I support my family
Q. My husband says that he doesn't want to be with me anymore because I support my family. My family is overseas and I am living in USA since 2007, I have a decent job and YES I help my family sending some money each month. We both work and we don't ...
A. 21 May 2011: Why are you still married to him? Personally I see nothing wrong in you sending a portion of YOUR salary home to your family if YOU wish to help them out. I don't understand why he thinks he can dictate what you spend your money on, if bills and ... (read in full...)
The ball's in his court now... right?
Q. So I met this guy at a party a couple weeks ago and he was a true gentlemen... he asked for my number... he arranged a coffee date around a week later and it went extremely well. We hit it off and had a lot in common so the date carried on from the ...
A. 20 May 2011: Well bringing a 3rd wheel to a "date-like" situation is not a good start. If you already had plans to go there iwht your friend "matt" you should have told "the guy" that you had already made pland with male friend.
But overall yes, the ball is ... (read in full...)
Oral sex during a herpes break out
Q. So my boyfriend and I recently had sex and he ate me out while I was having a herpes outbreak that I didn't even know about. But anyway I got my herpes from him and he doesn't know yet because im scared to tell him he gave me herpes type 2 .He ...
A. 19 May 2011: It's an STD he has a right to know. And.. are you 100% sure you got it from him?... (read in full...)
The wedding is so close and I know I love this guy but why do I keep focusing on reasons why the wedding shouldn't happen when the date is so close and there is a kid involved?
Q. The man I am with treats me very well, and treats my 7 year old kid just the way I would want a step parent to treat her, but there is no heat in our relationship anymore and I am SOOO infatuated with a guy I used to work with and constantly see him ...
A. 19 May 2011: Well, I don't think a ring on your finger will solve your feelings or the problems you are having at the moment.
You need to figure out what you WANT/NEED from your Fiancee to make it happen or not. Deal with it now. Talk to him.... (read in full...)
Have we messed up? Or can we make this affair work after his divorce?
Q. My situation right now is that I feel like am at the bottom of the pit and that I struggle to be back up and out of this. I am staying with a couple who are in the middle of divorce right now. I've been staying with for a year now. Am I a foolish ...
A. 19 May 2011: Wow, You have some "gonads" to sleep with the husband un their roof! (and so does he).
Honestly, I would move out. Start fresh without all that drama. He used you, because you were convinient. You were RIGHT there. This will hang over you (and the... (read in full...)
Playing peek a boo for a year. will he ever ask me out?
Q. A co-worker and I have been playing peek-a boo for over a year. We do not speak to one another. This week we locked eyes and he had a genuine smile and his eyes sparkled and I smiled back. Has he finally let me know he is intereted and likes me? ...
A. 19 May 2011: Over a year and you two haven't spoken? Well, seems like if you want anything to happen YOU will have to make the first move.... (read in full...)
Room mates 3 cats are stinky and too furry! What do I do?
Q. i have a bit of a dilemma, although it's not necessarily about a relationship problem. i have a roommate who's a great person to live with. she's a good friend of mine, we get along great, never argue, she always pays her bills on time or early. o...
A. 19 May 2011: You need to say something! I have myself 3 cats and most people would have no clue when walking into my house. I change litterboxes twice a day, I vacuum daily and I don't feed my cats cheap food ( cheap food tends to make fecal matter stinkier).
... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to get a bikini wax so what are my alternatives?
Q. Ok so im too shy to go get a bikini wax. And for some reason I cant wax myself. I dislike always needing to shave and the effects of that. So does anyone know another way. Can I use that veet stuff as long as im careful to keep it external?...
A. 19 May 2011: I would suck it up for those 10 minutes of getting a professional wax. Yes, it's not nice laying on a table in front of a stranger, but it doesn't take long and it lasts for a good while. WORTH IT.
Self waxing is almost impossible (at least in... (read in full...)
He talked of marriage and children, and I took him back. Now he has walked out again!
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me again for the second time. he came back to me after 8 months of being with someone else promising all of these things, telling me it was the worst 8 months of his life and he's lost me once he never will again. that he ...
A. 19 May 2011: Every time things get tough he walks out? Seems like you are wasting your time with him. I think he likes/loves the IDEA of the relationhip, but not the actual relationship.
Time to move on, honey.... (read in full...)
I am 33 and he turns 24. He can't handle the age difference, is there anything I can do or say to keep him?
Q. Hi...I feel so sad and heartbroken that I have no clue where to turn and who to revert to...something someone who can maybe help what I thought would be my long lasting relationship not be lost. I met this guy who is 9 and a half years younger than ...
A. 19 May 2011: Honestly I don't see the problem with your age difference, but ... You are not in a relationship with me :)
I would break it off now. End it. If he can't handle it, he can't handle it. HIS loss. I don't see what anyone can say or do to change h... (read in full...)
I have to plan for my own birthday party?
Q. I have a very small circle of close friends, and really only two people I spend lots of time with (my other friends are in other cities and states). Last year I took it upon myself to throw one of my two nearby friends a birthday party. It was a ...
A. 19 May 2011: Personally I wouldn't expect others to throw me a party. Even if I am the one who throw other people parties.
They might assume that you LIKE to arrange and throw parties, they might not even be considerate enough to fathom that YOU might like to ... (read in full...)
My ex's daughter wants to live with me
Q. My partner and I have split up amicably. I have just heard from her daughter that she wants me to live with her. I do know now that she wants me as a sexually active partner. It transpires that we have the same needs and desires. The age difference ...
A. 19 May 2011: Sorry, that is just Eww. You two may not be biologically linked, but you were her mother's partner. Which... sort of makes her your "child".
If your dating pool is THAT shallow you need to get out more.
You want sex, she want a male role model ... (read in full...)
We had sex on our first date and now he's ignoring me
Q. Hi, well a few months ago I met this guy on a bus and we got talking and it was an instant attraction. I totally fell for him we didn't exchange numbers we added each other on Facebook and I found out he had a girlfriend. I just forgot all about him ...
A. 19 May 2011: Yep Yep Forget about him. I'm pretty sure he either A. didn't really break up with his GF or.. he is back with her now.
Besides the sex was bad..
Mehh no need to cry over split milk.
Next time.. take the time to get to know a guy before hit... (read in full...)
Why does my ex log into messenger everytime I do and stay on for as long as me, when he had blocked me before?
Q. HI All, Your insights would be most welcome!! I finally ended it with my ex- well he was an ex but we were still kind of in touch. It was a very volitile relationship,I really loved him, but I got very hurt, and was very angry that he would se...
A. 19 May 2011: Just block him, so you can't see what he is doing and keep moving forward without him.... (read in full...)
My husband dictates how I'm to dress
Q. my husband and have ben married year. for as long as ive known him hes been concerned with the way i dress. he dictates how i dress. im not allowed to wear short dresses or hot pants or low cleavage showing tops. he expects me to dress like...
A. 19 May 2011: Why do you do as he tells you? You aren't his child you are his wife.
I would tell him he ought to be PROUD to have a hot wife.... (read in full...)
Don't women like to receive oral sex?
Q. Me and my partner are in love for a long long time. The thing is that my partner gives me wonderful blow jobs but when I go down on her vagina to lick it she gets reluctant. She doesnt want me to lick her down. I wanna know the fact - dont girls ...
A. 19 May 2011: Some do - some don't. A guy REALLY needs to know what he is doing or it can get very off putting and honestly.. boring.... (read in full...)
He promised he'd never cheat,
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9mths now, and he has recently cheated on me. the whole time we were together, he always promised that he would never ever cheat on me, and if so then he would break up with me first. since he has ...
A. 19 May 2011: He cried because he got caught.
If you want to give him a second chance, go for it. Jsut don't expect him to never do it again.
PS I don't think you NEED him, you like the idea of a relationship, and the idea of the guy you thought he was. ... (read in full...)
My husband has had a 13 year affair. what should I do?
Q. I have recently found out my husband of 13 years has been having a physical and emotional affair with a woman at his work. This has been going on since the day we got married. I am in shock. He says he wants to "move forward" with me and "get ...
A. 19 May 2011: I'm sorry the onely one who "failed" in the marriage was your husband!
Personally, I couldn't live in a lie like that, I would rather be a single mother then married to a douchebag.
You have BOTH stepped outside the marriage, doesn't that tel... (read in full...)
To be an army wife or not?
Q. OK, I really need some serious help! Let me start from the beginning. I have only been in two relationships and my first relationship lasted for about 6 years. My ex is in the Army and 2 years ago he was deployed to Iraq. He broke up with me before ...
A. 19 May 2011: It is not uncommon for guys to go into a "deployment mode" where they "push" people away. Rumors fly about cheating wives and girlfriends.
My suggestion would be that you don't jump from one guy to another, JUST because he's back and have fond mem... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is mad that I'm dating her ex! What should I do?
Q. My friend and I have known each other since we were like 7 or 8. I started to really like one of her ex-boyfriends. I asked her how mad she would be, on a scale from 1 to 10, if I liked him. She said about a 2, and told me she wouldn’t care if I ...
A. 19 May 2011: Give her some space and see if she comes around. If not.. there isn't much you can do.... (read in full...)
Would a happily married woman want to know that she has an admirer? Or would it complicate her marriage?
Q. Does a woman who is happily married want to know if she has a harmless 'secret admirer'? Does it flatter her, or complicate her marriage? If someone has fallen for her, but has no intention of ever pursuing her, does she want to know?...
A. 18 May 2011: I have to agree with the other ladies. I wouldn't want to know either, in fact it would creep me out. Been there done that - burned the T-shirt. AWKWARD!... (read in full...)
Why would this 28 year old want to date me? And if he just wants sex, why would he bother asking me out to dinner?
Q. Hey there, Agony Aunts. (: Just a few things I'm wondering about... I am recently single and an attractive 19 year old. The other night while I was clubbing, a guy bought me a drink and we ended up spending most of the evening dancing and hang...
A. 18 May 2011: He might prefer younger women. (as in younger then himself). If he didn't try and have sex with you when you spend the night and he invited you out for dinner, it would seem like he is interested in getting to know you. As far as what he wa... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so horny?
Q. I am Thirteen (Almost 14) and almost always horny. I'm ok with the fact, but not that I am horny all the time. Is there any way to keep my self from being like this so much? I know it would go down if I had sex, but I'm 13, that's not happening any ...
A. 18 May 2011: Unfortunaltely it's pretty normal. New hormones are flying around in your body in higher "doses" - It takes a while to adjust, some don't even settle until early 20's. And, sorry to burst your bubble.. sex doesn't make it go away... it can r... (read in full...)
He doesn't care if he sees me before I go on vacation, but wants me to buy his groceries for the next month! Am I right to be upset?
Q. I need advise from guys who can relate to my bf's kind of thinking. I am about to go on a vacation and I was thinking of spending more time with my boyfriend at least during the weekend. However, he told me today that he will come home on monday a...
A. 18 May 2011: Wow, what are you, his Mom? Buy you his groceries? Oh heck no! LOL
Honestly, if he can't spend one day of his week end with you, before you leave, I think I would prefer that he was gone when I got back home.... (read in full...)
Should I marry this bad boy?
Q. How to deal with possibly marrying a bad boy who is slow at shaking his bad boy image......
A. 17 May 2011: What's the hurry to marry?... (read in full...)
His first love really hurt him and broke his heart, so why does he still want to be friends with her?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year (11 months) and it has been a great and solid relationship for the most part. However, something I could just never quite get over is the fact that he still remains with his ex. Like many of you ...
A. 17 May 2011: I would say he's not over her. Yet. ... (read in full...)
Untrustworthy behaviour?
Q. Background: I have been quite close to an older guy for a number of months. We ended up getting quite close and he tends to flirt with me, especially when we're alone - though nothing has actually happened yet (he's married). He's been very ...
A. 17 May 2011: Why even bother with this guy? He's married.. which means.... he's got a wife. Are you really interested in being something on the side? some one's dirty little secret? ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 17 May 2011: I don't see this relationship going anywhere.. He was sleeping with you and supposedly LOVEING you... yet he managed to knock his wife up too....
Sorry, dating, sleeping,flirting... with a married man is a disaster waiting to happen, and morally ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex wife is stalling to sign the final papers - not sure why this is and how to be around my partner?
Q. Bf is currently going through a divorce - his ex-wife is stalling and delaying to sign the final papers. I am trying to understand why she is doing this. I believe this is down to them spelling her middle name wrong which I guess could possibly ...
A. 17 May 2011: I would honestly, Tell him to give you a call when he REALLY is divorced, if he is still interested in a relationship with you.
As for the baby, take care of yourself and the baby. And take the time to figure out if you really think he's worth wa... (read in full...)
I have gotten over depression, now how do I get over my poor social skills?
Q. Dear DC readers, Around 2years ago I hit depression and lost many friends and contacts. I stuck myself in my room and never saw anyone. Due to this, I lost confidence and selfesteem and my social skills deteriorated. Of course I battled with the...
A. 17 May 2011: Small steps. Maybe start by taking up a hobby, go to the gym, take a class. Some place where you are around plenty of people but don't HAVE to be social. And if all those people abandoned you when you were depressed, how good friends were the... (read in full...)
Does playing 'hard to get' and being slightly unavailable keep a guy?
Q. Hello everyone. I have a question - does playing hard to get work and how do you do it? I am always the very willing one, always available, always wanting to spend time with my guy, quite needy and I always end up losing the guy I'm with! I think I ...
A. 17 May 2011: I think playing games and "pretending" to be someone else will surely backfire. If you are ALWAYS available, you might consider having a hobby or do things on your own (or with friends) from time to time. I think, that guys (many guys) is ... (read in full...)
My male housemate doesn't talk with me when the other female housemate is there!
Q. I share with 2 other people. He moved in first,and we got along really well. I had a crush on him. He taught me swimming, played cards, ... pretty much flirt with me. Then the other girl moved in (who is older and not good looking, but she has a ...
A. 17 May 2011: He is the one you feel is isolating you, correct? So why is it HER you are considering booting out?
It's just not rational.... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife.........
Q. Alrighty guys and gals,I have a little bit of a problem. For the past year or more now I've had feelings for my best friend's wife.Now before you tell me it's wrong and to let it go, I know, I tried, and thought I was over it......well the...
A. 16 May 2011: Don't even go there.
Talk to your friend. Tell him to grow a set and help out around the house.
Also, if you talk to her a lot, suggest that SHE sit her DH down and talk to him.... (read in full...)
Do I dump him and stop putting up with him hurting me over and over? Or do I just get over it?
Q. My boyfriend never invites me out with his friends. They are people I know, so they are not strangers and a separate bunch of people from me. I have brought it to my bf's attention after he upset me once night by not inviting me out somewher...
A. 16 May 2011: Why are you wasting your time trying to change this guy? You do know he isn't going to change, right? Because if he was, he would have thought about asking you to come out too a long time ago.
Find someone who appreciate being with you.... (read in full...)
My male housemate doesn't talk with me when the other female housemate is there!
Q. I share with 2 other people. He moved in first,and we got along really well. I had a crush on him. He taught me swimming, played cards, ... pretty much flirt with me. Then the other girl moved in (who is older and not good looking, but she has a ...
A. 16 May 2011: Honestly "She" isn't your problem. So booting her out won't solve anything.
If you want to make friends GO out "there" and make some. Start on a new hobby or take some classes. Don't expect your two room mates to be responsible for YOUR entertai... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is mad that I'm dating her ex! What should I do?
Q. My friend and I have known each other since we were like 7 or 8. I started to really like one of her ex-boyfriends. I asked her how mad she would be, on a scale from 1 to 10, if I liked him. She said about a 2, and told me she wouldn’t care if I ...
A. 13 May 2011: Talk to her (outside of school.)
Usually dating a BFF's ex is a huge no-no. But I think in your case you were considerate enough to ask her how she would feel about it before pursuing it. She might not have know how much it would actually hurt her... (read in full...)
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