Is it too early to be discussing engagement/ marriage after only two months?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now. We are in love with each other and he has already mentioned engagement and marriage. I believe that it is too early to discuss them, but on the other hand, it expresses how we feel for each ...
A. 13 June 2011: Yes. I think so. Where is the fire? What is the rush? ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm trapped in a mess!
Q. I feel like I'm trapped. I met a man(call him x) through mutual friends. He was head over heels for my other female friend(call her y). That night she kept giving him grief though and even started yelling about a hook-up that happened with another ...
A. 13 June 2011: Yuck, he sounds rather nasty to be honest.
Ignore him, block his calls and pretend you don't know him. Everyone makes mistakes from time to time, HE is your mistake. Learn from this lesson. Don't drink and hang out with a man you hardly know. Sp... (read in full...)
Married ex had my name tattooed on his body.
Q. I am in a serious pickle and I'm afraid I've got myself into it. I was seeing a married man for a few years and broke up a few weeks back. He's been asking me to take him back since but I'm adamant to move on and make something of myself. Hoever ...
A. 13 June 2011: Eww. If he was REALLY serious he would have left his wife, not just get a tattoo. The tattoo sounds like serious "emotional blackmail" on his behalf.
Don't feel bad for not wanting to get back together with him. Getting a tattoo was HIS CHOICE. ... (read in full...)
Is this mom interested in me?
Q. Hey guys. I'm a married dad with two sons. One of the mom's at my son's school has asked me for a play date with our kids. What does this mean? Could she be interested in me? Don't the moms usually ask each other? Should I say yes? Just wondering ...
A. 13 June 2011: Get her number, give it to your wife, let the women work out the playdate. Sounds innocent to me. Now if she doesn't want to make a "play date" with your wife, something is up.... (read in full...)
Should she give the engagement ring back?
Q. After 2 years with a wonderful girl I proposed... She said yes! We were planning on moving in together and then got into an argument about money. She says I had a look in my eye like I was going to hit her.... I wouldn't touch a hair on her head! ...
A. 10 June 2011: Personally, I think she should give it back, SHE broke the engagement, not you.
I would actually contact a lawyer, if the money you spend is substantial (over $5,000)... (read in full...)
I was dismissed on my placement for being to sensitive and upset!
Q. Is it discrimination if you get fired from a job or a placement because of being too sensitive and getting upset easily? I was on a work placement, which was voluntary, as I was put on it through a training course i am on to help get me back into ...
A. 10 June 2011: No I don't think you can call it discrimination. I would venture that you need to learn some better social skills and work ethics. No one expects a new employee to know everything and do it right from the get go, but to throw a fit when called aside ... (read in full...)
Is it possible my best friend lost so much weight in a week just thru diet and exercise?
Q. My best friend is pretty slim anyways, but when i saw her after half term (which is only one week) she looked so skinny!? Like her legs were definitely thinner and her waist was smaller, her stomach was as flat as it gets!!? I just can't get my head ...
A. 10 June 2011: Hard to say. I don't know how much she actually lost in that week. Loosing belly fat (if she had any) takes more then a week, same with waist and leg fat. BUT with that said, she wouldn't have lost anything significantly by starving herself either ... (read in full...)
Is it true that it's a woman's right to change her mind--or is she just being bloody rude??
Q. Got into a row with my girlfriend of several months after she canceled on me for the third time in a row, calling a couple of hours before. She said she had things to do. I asked for more details and she said she didnt want to get into it. I got ...
A. 10 June 2011: Everyone can change their mind, that shouldn't be gender specific. But to cancel with no good reason 3 times in a row seems more like a snub. And that, would (IMHO) be rude.
What is it that she is canceling? *curiosity and all*
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Gender dysmorphic at 29 and I don't know what to do anymore.....
Q. I'm gender dysmorphic I guess I just think I tick more feminine boxes. I'm 29, 6 foot 1, wide shouldered, deep voiced. People assume I am hard and it's a facade I've become very good at faking. I'm soft as shit and I feel bad when I squash a snail...
A. 10 June 2011: I would honestly find a therapist who specialize in transgender issues.
I can't imagine feeling like I'm in the wrong body or wrong gender. Whether to go though the operations or not is something only you can decide.
Maybe these websites c... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a nightmare. Is this normal?
Q. I Have been going out with my GF for a few years She is Controlling Possessive Paranoid Moody Childish Doesnt let me see my friends Checks my phone Checks my emails Checks my facebook The reason she does all this is because I have...
A. 9 June 2011: Since you are following all her "rules" you are in essence accepting them. So either you sit her down and "negotiate" new rules or you let her go and find someone you are more... compatible with.
This is NOT common girl behavior.
Does she not ... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with my ex, who has a boyfriend and I need some serious help!
Q. My ex girlfriend hit me up and I have been sleeping with my ex for the past 3 months. The funny part of this is that she's had a boyfriend for 6 months prior (now 9 months; who she hasn't slept with at all for the past 3 months) At this moment, s...
A. 9 June 2011: Would you tell him if she chose you? Or would you expect HER to tell him?
And either way, you or him, if this is giving you so much guilt and grief, WHY do you continue to sleep with her?
Personally, I would walk away now and never look let, ... (read in full...)
"Hopelessly lost and hurting"
Q. Please help me, very confused. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months, I'm supposed to move in to his apartment within the next couple of months. He's ex wife still lived with him up until last week, now he's all upset shes gone, he ad...
A. 9 June 2011: Chin up, Honey! THERE are good guys out there too, you just need to accept that YOU deserve one too.
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A family member violated my privacy and I want to get back at her
Q. As we all know, you are not going to get along with your family all the time but still, that's no excuse for to do this.... I have been verbally abused all my life by a family member. She has physically assaulted me and my mother has just let it ...
A. 9 June 2011: First off, who is she? Your sister? Can you share some ages? How old is she and how old are you?
I'm guessing that it's your older sister? Am I right?
Honestly, I think your Mom didn't intervene in order to let the two of you sort it out, obv... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STDs?
Q. Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STD's? I get tested every year at my check up because you never know what someone else is doing and my job has some exposure risks. He has never been tested. We have a sexual relationship, ...
A. 9 June 2011: No, I don't think it's unreasonable at all. Also I would always use protections with a BF. (as in condoms).
I also can't see why he doesn't just get tested, it doesn't hurt and it's not invasive.
Since you are both in your 30's (I assume) you h... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell him his sexual habits are strange for me...
Q. Hi guys, I just want to ask is it normal for a guy to lick his own come? It's just after we've finished having sex, my boyfriend will go down on me and put is tongue right inside me to get all my come and his come in his mouth... I was just ...
A. 9 June 2011: Some people are less "squeamish" about bodily fluids. Others are not. Seems like you have a BF who isn't.
Frankly, it sounds like he's been watching to many bad porns...... (read in full...)
Nearing the end?
Q. Am I honestly "over the fear" of our marriage being over? Been married 18 years, 3 kids, college sweethearts, basically we've been together our entire adult lives. Been inseparable since our first date. Fastforward to now. My wife is a GREAT mo...
A. 9 June 2011:
You know, I think you should sit her down and talk to her. I can say from personal experience that being a "SAHM" (stay/stuck at home mom) is no as cracked up as it sounds, honestly I am sick of it and have been for the past 8 years.
You two a... (read in full...)
"Hopelessly lost and hurting"
Q. Please help me, very confused. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months, I'm supposed to move in to his apartment within the next couple of months. He's ex wife still lived with him up until last week, now he's all upset shes gone, he ad...
A. 9 June 2011: Read CaringGuy's post a few times. I think he hit the nail on the head.
Not to be harsh, you were his rebound and he used to utterly.
Don't let this guy or any other man treat you like a doormat.
Tell him to go fly a kite (with his ex) and m... (read in full...)
He used to check my Facebook, but now I want to check his he says this is wrong! What is with the double standard?
Q. my boyfriend has gotten on my facebook before and checked out guys he thought I might have had something to do with. I didn't care because I wasn't doing anything. He even talked to one of the guys as if he was me. After doing this for a bit he ...
A. 9 June 2011: You write:
He states he trusts me now and has to go on faith and that I should do the same. I am not where he is.
Did you DO anything that made him not trust you? Or did he project his own "bad" behavior onto you? As in, did he think that because... (read in full...)
I lied and told my boyfriend I am 16! What should I do?
Q. for a beggining im 14 years old turning 15 this month and my boyfriend turned 16 last month.. but i lied and told him that am onto 16 too! and now everyone even my closest friends think im turning 16 this month, but im really afraid of the future ...
A. 9 June 2011: Fess up. The longer you lie (and the MORE you lie) the harder it will be for you to gt anyone to trust you.
If you tell him WHY you lied about it he might not get too mad. But you want to be a "grown up" act like one, and own your own actions.... (read in full...)
Sex communication trouble......
Q. Sex with my man of 2yrs has never felt good to me, so mostly I just give him oral sex. When we talk about intercourse or actually doing it he discourages me because he can't understand why would I want it or why I don't feel anything. Even if I'm ...
A. 9 June 2011: I think you need to get to the bottom of WHY you don't like sex. As in, I think you need to see a counselor or therapist.
Have something bad (sexually) happened in your past?
Also, doing stuff you don't like or enjoy is not always healthy, ... (read in full...)
Love at first sight? Possible? What do you think?
Q. Ok. I'm back. I was on here a long time back whining about am I ever going to get over an abusive ex. Ok, that's done, pain is gone but now I have a very interesting issue. I had been talking to a guy on and off on a dating site for about a...
A. 9 June 2011: If there are no "red flags" other then the "love declaration" - I would just take it slow and get to know him and let him get to know you. Who knows he might just BE a romantic. He is obviously capable of long term relationships.
What does you... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to break up with a friend because you find their way of life offensive?
Q. It seems like to be a good friend means to be supportive. And we are all told we should not be judgemental. But what happens if a friend has habits you find offensive and which go against your value system? Are you a terrible person if you want to ...
A. 9 June 2011: Best friends (or even "just" friends) don't have to have everything in common for a good friendship to work.
However, if you spend more time being annoyed with her, her lifestyle, whatnot then you enjoy her company it's time to part ways. Sometime... (read in full...)
Guys, would a girl's past FWB relationship put you off her?
Q. I'm currently in somewhat of a friends with benefits situation with a guy I know. What I want is opinions on how this may make future potential guys look at me in the future. Guys, would you keep yourself away from a girl who had previous...
A. 9 June 2011: I think if you run into a guy (or two) who has a problem with it, they are not for you.
I'm sure some will and others won't. ... (read in full...)
Man in wife's class is unintenionally exposing himself, should she tell him?
Q. I (we) have some need for advice. My wife and I are married for quite a few years, our youngest child is now in full time elementary school, so my wife wanted to pursue a career. She is currently attending a university to become a teacher. Ther...
A. 9 June 2011: It can be done nicely. Just say Dude you really should wear some underwear, your pecker is sticking out.
No one wants to see a limp ....
It doesn't make your wife a pervert that she's noticed it.
If it would make her uncomfortable she co... (read in full...)
Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom?
Q. Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom. He's cute, yes, but too much for me to handle, financially and sleeplessness. It is burdensome and bothersome for me. I'm getting so stress out and burnout from taking care of a baby. I don't have a reliable sitter ...
A. 9 June 2011: Sounds like post partum depression. Go see your doctor. Call friends/ family and ask for help with some breaks. All new moms need a little "me-time".
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Should I tell my teacher of my feelings or just leave quietly?
Q. I am 14 and wondering whether my teacher likes me too. I mean, I like him too and it has been 2 years. I don't know if I am misunderstanding the signs because I also have feelings for him. I think he is in his late 20s. He is so nice to me (and ...
A. 9 June 2011:
Don't tell him. There is nothing he or you can do about it anyways. It wouldn't be legal for him to pursue you.
Just accept that it's a crush, you will have more.... (read in full...)
B/f asked for a threesome but now he wants one every weekend!
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 years and my boyfriend asked if we can have a threesome i said ok but now he just wants a threesome every weekend. he says it really turns him on seeing me with someone else but to be honest i am not into it and ...
A. 9 June 2011: Tell him no means no. Have you explained that you feel degraded? And he still pester you? If so, it's time to go.
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She doesn't give me oral - Is she really a lesbian?
Q. I'm dating a girl who doesn't like to give oral. The basic thing to like and love in a lesbian relationship. Is it possible to still be a lesbian and not like to give oral to your partner?...
A. 9 June 2011: Oral is jsut not for everyone. Has nothing to do with her sexuality.... (read in full...)
He used to check my Facebook, but now I want to check his he says this is wrong! What is with the double standard?
Q. my boyfriend has gotten on my facebook before and checked out guys he thought I might have had something to do with. I didn't care because I wasn't doing anything. He even talked to one of the guys as if he was me. After doing this for a bit he ...
A. 9 June 2011: I think the two of you need some serious help. You both has no trust or faith in each other. How can a relationship work if there is this much distrust?
Though I don't get the double standard, if he can look at yours and use the chat - you shou... (read in full...)
Should I be worried by his threats to take custody of my baby?
Q. So my fellow dearcupid friends, I have a serious question. I am nearly 3 months pregnant, me and the man have not been together in a while. Soon after finding out I was pregnant I began working and putting money away for my baby when he or she ...
A. 9 June 2011: Why did you have a child or even a relationship with this guy? He sounds like a creep.
Anyways, legally, I doubt he has a leg to stand on.... (read in full...)
He breaks up with me every summer, and this year is no different! How do I get him back?
Q. my partner have been together 3 years on and off. we seem to have a routine of us getting together September/ October time and him finishing with me in June (this is now the third summmer- he always finishes it). at first we fall in love all over ...
A. 9 June 2011: So he leaves you every summer so he can basically screw around?
Wow, why do you even WANT this guy in your life? He sounds like a douchebag of a user.
I agree fully with Kc100, you are his backup girl.. the one he likes to keep around til the g... (read in full...)
I want to leave my job, but I'm worried that because my co-worker is pregnant she will be off sick and the company wont have anyone to cover for us....
Q. I have been an admin assistant at a job for four years. It is basically me and my coworker doing alot of tedious things. I have been trying to leave for awhile now. My coworker recently told me she is pregnant. It was sort of the final push for m...
A. 9 June 2011: If you feel it's time to go, it's time to go. Some pregnant women are fine the whole 9 months, others puke their guts out. Usually thought the first two trimesters are the "easiest" for most.
Good luck!
PS it's HR just to find a new person, to... (read in full...)
He cancelled our trip and gave all the money to his ex for new clothes for his child! Do I mean nothing to him?
Q. My boyfriend planned a special weekend away together for us as my birthday present. Then his ex wife called and told him she wanted extra money (besides maintenance already paid and a few extras) to buy clothes for their child. Now this child does ...
A. 9 June 2011: Honestly, I think you should find a guy without "previous" kids.
Seems like he either a. couldn't really afford the trip or b. he didn't want to spend the money on it.
Either way, I would tell him that you felt hurt over being put aside like t... (read in full...)
How do I make him stop bugging me when he hasn't formally asked me out?
Q. How can I give this guy the slip without feeling like a rude b****?? He keeps texting me, buying me coffee at work (we work together), trying to make physical contact at work, asking if we can meet up outside work etc BUT he has never actually p...
A. 9 June 2011: Tell the dude, he isn't a mind reader.... (read in full...)
Love at first sight? Possible? What do you think?
Q. Ok. I'm back. I was on here a long time back whining about am I ever going to get over an abusive ex. Ok, that's done, pain is gone but now I have a very interesting issue. I had been talking to a guy on and off on a dating site for about a...
A. 9 June 2011:
Honestly I would be a little weary of someone professing love right off the bat. ( or that fast rather). Maybe I'm a little jaded but word are sometimes just words. Know what I mean? Does the guy know about your background? If so, he surely k... (read in full...)
I'm angry at her for replacing me so soon!
Q. So, just to let you know that this is gonna be long... My ex girlfriend had just broken up with me recently(about a month in a half ago) and we decided to be friends..well best friends, but then she started dating someone else a month after we b...
A. 8 June 2011: Being best friends after a break up is always complicated, since there are always some residual feelings.
Get yourself some distance and space from her. Wish her happiness. Maybe in time you can become friends again, right now, it hurts too much... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have sex with other men saying that it's just sex
Q. Hello guys ... So, to start off directly, my boyfriend kind of asked for permission to cheat on me, if you can then still call it cheating ... and gave me this permission, too, which doesn't really interest me since I could never do this... Th...
A. 8 June 2011: Some people are able to maintain open relationships, where they both "screw around" (in lack of a better term), but neither get emotionally involved with anyone expect their partner.
Personally, I can't imagine a relationship like that. I honestly... (read in full...)
What should I do about my stingy boyfriend? We are to be married.
Q. Hi all, my bf and i have been dating consistently for 4 years now. I'm just a bit concerned and scared that he might be stingy. I'm not been ungrateful or whatsoever, but i really need to set things right before we get married. He hardly assists me ...
A. 8 June 2011: I would guess that BEFORE you two get married that you make a budget together and settle the finacial side of living together.
Also, don't forget that he isn't a mind reader. You need something, you might have to ask.
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My BF gave a girl a wedgie and I got upset. Was I wrong?
Q. Is it ok for me to get upset that my boyfriend gave 1 of his friends that are girls a wedgie? I know its sounds kinda stupid but i don't like that he put his hands down her pants an touched her underwear and pulled em up?...
A. 8 June 2011: It's sounds like a lame kind of thing to do to a friend (be it a guy or gal) But.... as pranks go I don't see anything to get madly upset about.
Sounds like you are a little insecure or don't trust him fully?... (read in full...)
I believe I am doing the right thing, but would like reassurance.
Q. Hello everyone, I recently posted a problem about how the internet conversations with this boy I met briefly were getting a little serious, and how I was confused being only 15 and getting myself into a silly situation without realizing it. An...
A. 8 June 2011: You are 15! You ar allowed to be a little impulsive, a little passionate to, maybe :) Gtting gaught up in the moment. Don't beat yourself up.
Honey, just be honest with the dude, if he gets mad, sad and uspet, that is fair enough, but honesty ... (read in full...)
Bf broke up with me, and then says he'll take me back...but only in 2 years?! What's THAT about?
Q. Hey.. I really need help.. I have been with this guy for 6 and a half months, we decided to have sex for the first time, and we did it a couple of times, then this one Sunday we did it and we were happily in love then on Monday he broke up with me....
A. 8 June 2011: Well you have several options as to why he did and said what he did.
1. He got what he wanted from you (sex) and the whole 2 years is just bull.
2. He going overseas for work/school - 2 years.
3. He is joing the military.
4. He is se... (read in full...)
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