Should I send this mail to my girlfriend?
Q. The e-mail she sent me: I don't know right now if we are in a relationship or just friends or even nothing. But i feel necessary to send you this mail. About the hurt feeling i gave you, i'm sorry about it. I know you have a lot of questions ...
A. 4 May 2011: Honestly, she seems very self centered and all about "ME". She is also all over the place.
If you mail her that, PLEASE use the space-bar a little.
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Do I have to make special allowances because they’re from a “broken home”?
Q. We love each other and have had no other relationship problems, so is it a relationship red flag if I don’t like my boyfriend’s kids from his first marriage much after knowing them for 1 year? They’re 8 and 10 years old, live with their mom and ...
A. 4 May 2011: I think when you date a guy with children, you need to realize that they are a package deal. There is no, oh I love him, but the kids.. pffst! They go together. THEY need him to.
Honestly though. Their bratty behavior is your BF's choice. You know... (read in full...)
Depressed after cancer... am I being overly sensitive?
Q. I was diagnosed with cancer last year (September 2010). My initial prognosis was not good as they thought the cancer had spread to my liver/adrenal so they basically gave me a year to live. It seems the tumours in the liver/adrenal are now benign ...
A. 4 May 2011: You have jsut been through medical hell, so honey, from my point of view you can definently be as sensitive as you want! It takes us all a lot of adjustments dealing with serious illness, not only for the patient, but for the people around them.
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Is he seriously considering me to mother his child?
Q. Here goes...I've been seeing this guy on and off for almost six years now. Its been to the point where we have spent all our time together, we've fought, went out of down, just plain out, yadda yadda. Recently though he's been talking about having a ...
A. 4 May 2011: If he was serious he would do his part to make the relationship work, not try to knock you up.
I can't imagine adding a baby in an dysfunctional relationship. There is more likely one outcome. You being a single mom with one mroe child. Now, if ... (read in full...)
What is it that boyfriend wants to ask but doesn't ask!
Q. okay so thee past month or longer my boyfriend always says he loves me more. and i ask him why and he said that he would tell me on my birthday as a birthday present. so my birthday was saturday he said he would tell me. so saturday comes h...
A. 3 May 2011: No idea!
Tell him to cough it up, NOW!... (read in full...)
How do I find an older man that will not use me for sex?
Q. I am 19 years old and graduated high school a year ago. I'm single and i've been looking for a relationship, but there's an issue. I like older men. I didn't think it would be such an issue. I mean, I am attractive. I run so i'm fit, I ...
A. 3 May 2011: Well first of all, don't focus so much on their age. Find a guy who treats you right. TAKE your time to get to know a guy before you sleep with him, don't jsut give it up at the front door.
This is the time in your life where you figure out WHAT... (read in full...)
Girlfriend left because I am too aggressive
Q. MOD NOTE: Please do not put your posts all in caps. It has been corrected this time. Next time it will be rejected. THX My ex girlfriend says I am too aggressive, I explain to her its my response to the way she is treating our relationship. Now she ...
A. 3 May 2011: Obviously she doesn't feel safe with you, so she left. You on the other hand reacts by telling her it's all HER fault..
Yeah, you might want to consider it's YOUR behavior that is the problem.
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Did he just not like me?
Q. Basically went on a date for the first time in ages :) but I'm kinda confused, because although we had good banter and he kindly paid for my cinema ticket and also wanted to pay for my dinner (I didn't want him to though because we're both students ...
A. 3 May 2011: It's hard to say, maybe he was as nervous as you were.
If he hasn't called you yet - or you haven't called him. I would let it go.
Go on a few dates, have fun.... (read in full...)
Will he understand how hurtful he is if he gets dumped one day too?
Q. I was going through some stuff the other day and found some mememtos of my relationship with my ex. I ended up throwing them out, I don't like keeping stuff from exes. I've told my story here before: He dumped me completely out of the blue one day,...
A. 3 May 2011: Maybe he just doesn't have an ounce of feelings for the girls he dates, so it's easier for him to dump them then it is for then to realize that he is a cold unfeeling smuck?!
Let it go. Put him with the mementos.. in the trash.
Accept that i... (read in full...)
Why did the doctor ask me if I'm in a relationship? I can't see the relevance
Q. i'v just been to see my doctor i'v got a sore throat. So what relevance was there to his question to me, asking if i'm in a relationship? why did he ask me if i'm in a relationship? How was that appropriate?...
A. 3 May 2011: It could be because, Strep Throat (for instance) is transmittable and if not treated, can lead to more serious issues such as kidney problems.
Same for Mono and a few other things that can cause a sore throat.
Or he was trying to be friendly o... (read in full...)
LDR b/f wants us to have sex when we meet!
Q. Okay, so I really don't know how to start. I'm having a long distance/online relationship with a guy whom i'm supposed to meet in July. He is a really great guy, fun to be around and a really nice person. The only problem is that were not on...
A. 3 May 2011: Be up front about what your wishes and limits are. If you tell him beforehand that there will be no sex, you can't be more honest.
Also, I agree with NOT staying at his hotel/motel.
Stay safe.... (read in full...)
Is he seriously considering me to mother his child?
Q. Here goes...I've been seeing this guy on and off for almost six years now. Its been to the point where we have spent all our time together, we've fought, went out of down, just plain out, yadda yadda. Recently though he's been talking about having a ...
A. 3 May 2011: I hope you don't think that a baby will make it all peachy. With that said, it's your life.... (read in full...)
Is he seriously considering me to mother his child?
Q. Here goes...I've been seeing this guy on and off for almost six years now. Its been to the point where we have spent all our time together, we've fought, went out of down, just plain out, yadda yadda. Recently though he's been talking about having a ...
A. 2 May 2011: Why would you even WANT to have a child with this man?
I mean, who cares what HE wants, what do YOU want.?... (read in full...)
Friend has been lying and using me for material gain
Q. ive recently discovered a close male friend has been using me for material gain and has told me some serious lies. i dont understand why ive been there for him always when noone else has and the other day he told another lie and i just snapped and...
A. 2 May 2011: Time to cut his totally out of your life.... (read in full...)
I told my ex that I'm breaking plans to see her later in the year. Was this the right thing to do?
Q. I met with my ex for lunch today. It was the first time we had seen eachother in about a month and a half. We broke up just over 2 months ago after a 4 1/2 month relationship ended because I'm leaving town later this month. Contact between us have ...
A. 2 May 2011: I think you did the right thing. You didn't fill her with "oh sure we will be BFF and go Segwaying together!" You were honest and upfront.
She obviously moved on but from my point of view I don't think she likes the idea of you moving on too.
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LDR b/f wants us to have sex when we meet!
Q. Okay, so I really don't know how to start. I'm having a long distance/online relationship with a guy whom i'm supposed to meet in July. He is a really great guy, fun to be around and a really nice person. The only problem is that were not on...
A. 2 May 2011: I think you need to stick to your guns, you will be ready when YOU are ready.
Don't feel like you HAVE to have sex with him (or anyone else) because THEY want it.
I would let him know straight out that there will be no sex the first time you g... (read in full...)
Crush for long time comes down to nothing
Q. I've had a crush on a guy for a very long time and it's come down to nothing. I basically just wasted three years of my life and I'm mad about it. He led me on and now I'm forced to suffer. What I really want to know is how do I get back at him?...
A. 29 April 2011: Forget about him. Stop trying to impress him and just totally ignore him.
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I'm dating my sister's ex and hiding it from her
Q. so my sister was with this guy for a year. She cheated on him and he broke up with her. She moved on, as did he. I always liked this guy while they were together. I told him i liked him and he said he liked me2. A year AFTER they broke up, (she ...
A. 29 April 2011: Be honest with her, she BETTER hear it from you then anyone else.
If you can do that... you are SOL.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend asks me out to lunch but expects ME to pay!
Q. i have problem. My gf of 18 months, pregnant for 8 months now and we work 2geta she said we have 2 go 4 just lunch on this cuming monday if i m off . Thats excite me very much i said and then she said u will pay and i told her i wont cause i dont ...
A. 21 April 2011: She is 8 months pregnant, cut her some slack! FEED your pregnant GF. But in normal circumstances I would say that if A invites B to lunch A pays. Or A and B goes Dutch paying 50/50 or their own part in the meal. ... (read in full...)
Guy I fooled around with from work has not responded. How do I act now?
Q. I fooled around with a guy from work one night that I like, I waited a week to see if he'd text me but he didn't. I saw him at work again and we barely talked but had some small talk. Earlier I texted him casually but he hasn't replied. He seemed in ...
A. 21 April 2011: He is JUST not that into you, sorry.
I would pretend it never happened and move on.
Oh and not try and date in the work place again, it can make for really awkward situations.... (read in full...)
Should I consider having anal sex?
Q. in the last year i have had twins. i love them to pieces, but being a single mother is hard. in the last 2 weeks i have had sex with 2 people. now, for the 1st time un my life, i wasnt tight downstairs. they litterally just slid it up and there was ...
A. 21 April 2011: Well there are more ways to climax then just plain penetration.
I agree with the Kegels. They can make a huge difference for you.
As for anal. FF you want to try it I suggest you do it with someone you trust. Someone who can take the time it... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend had sex with 2 other guys and I just don't know how I can deal with it
Q. Hello, me and my girl have been going out for 11 months now. We are in a long-distance relationship (6 hours) we care for and respect each other greatly. And we both love each other, and how we manage to bring out the best in each other. We rarely ...
A. 21 April 2011: I think she loves the idea of you, but I'm not sure she actually loves you. She is NOT being respectful or faithful to you. Sleeping with one guy is bad enough but two? Yeah, I don't see her stopping sleeping around on you any time soon.
I don... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend suggesting all these sex improvement operations for me?
Q. Been with boyfriend for 10 years, have always been there for him in every way. I take care of myself financially, stay fit, work out four days a week, dress sexy, do what I can to keep things exciting. The other night he brought up me having a ...
A. 21 April 2011: Oh I so agree with Eyeswideopen! Cast iron skillet!
Tell him you want him to consider cock implants, or maybe some silicone fake balls, because his are beginning to sag...
No, just kidding. Well, maybe not. He sounds like a asshat.... (read in full...)
Was I too "innocent" for him?
Q. I went to the club the other night with some friends and got pretty drunk and started dancing with this guy I thought was extremely attractive. I ended up going back to his place. I am a virgin and 21 years old, by the way, and did NOT have sex...
A. 21 April 2011: Just be glad you didn't have your first time with this guy. I don't think he is interested in a relationship or in you. If he was.... He would have been after you like a house on fire.
So, it's NOT you, it's him.
Also, I would suggest that you... (read in full...)
Should we go through with this?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have an excellent relationship and are very open with each other. We are both 19 and have been together since we were 15. We were talking a few weeks ago and she told me that the idea of letting guys lose their virginity to ...
A. 21 April 2011: I agree with Welsh Uncle Dave. Totally bonkers!
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I am scared to start a life with my BF, because he doesn't have that financial security which I need. Am I being too picky and analytical?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. He's an amazing person and I love him, he's my best friend. We don't live together and for a while now he's been asking me when we're going to move in together. We've ...
A. 21 April 2011: I understand your line of thought. It is not that you want HIM to be the solo bread winner, but an equal in every way.
What you do have to consider is this. He is who he is. THAT is the guy you fell for. You can not change and mold him into thi... (read in full...)
How can I make my hair thicker again?
Q. dear agony aunts...... i really badly need your help....i am loosing my hair drastically.... my hair use to br really thick before....but its being months now that it went so badly... if it goes like this i feel im surely gonna be bald soon ... im ...
A. 21 April 2011:
You NEED to see your doctor. Could be lupus too or another medical reason. You need to find the CAUSE of the hair-loss.
There is not magic cure for it.... (read in full...)
I want this creep to stop lurking around my social circle... What should I do?
Q. Last week my boyfriend was at a party with his friends. At this party for some reason was a 29 year old man. This was a party hosted for teenagers by teenagers. This man had added a few of my friends on Facebook and he seemed to only interact with ...
A. 21 April 2011: 1. Tell your parents.
2. Block his creepy ass. And stop talking to him.
3. Inform your friends about the creep.
Is this some random stranger? Or is he an older brother, friend, neighbor of someone?
I would honestly have an ADULT tell him t... (read in full...)
Want him to think I'm a virgin
Q. {Moderator note: two questions combined} Okay i just wanna know , i lost my virginity about two year ago since then i havent had sex ,it was against my religion and culture to do that .Im due to get marrid in 2 months will i be tight i know i wont b...
A. 17 April 2011: Building your marriage on a lie is never a good way to start!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend liked sex with her ex better because he was "larger". How do a I deal with this?
Q. I know a lot of people on this board are tired of the never-ending penis size questions, but please bear with me. The answers to most questions are "it's how you use it" and "women don't care about size", etc. But, what if you're in a situation ...
A. 14 April 2011: You went through OLD e-mails from before she met and dated you? Correct?
If so, she isn't comparing. She was talking dirty to her old BF. Could be he is 3 inches and she was pumping up his ego with a dirty email.. Could be he's hung like a horse.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he's just being nice or he's generally interested.
Q. Hey im starting to like a workmate ..thing is im really shy and so is he and im not good with picking up signals at all so any help with be great :) a few possible signs this week stirring me up saying this other guy was my bf even though its ...
A. 14 April 2011: IF you are too shy to ask for his number, what would you do if you actually got it? Have you thought of that?
I would honestly show down, take the time to get to know him (as much as you can at work). He may be an office flirt, or he may be inter... (read in full...)
We've talked for four years. When it came time to meet he backed out. What is going on?
Q. Hello all, Im very confused right now. I met someone about four years ago. He works abroad, we kept in touch online/emails/chat etc. Got to know him well enough (as much as the net allows). He suggested to meet up, when he's on leave. Mentio...
A. 14 April 2011: Well that clears up some of it.
I would perhaps chance that, he is afraid he won't meet up to what he thinks your "standards" are or he's affraid that the whole thing will go poof once you meet again. That the two of you won't have that chemistr... (read in full...)
Do you think this will get "A's" attention?
Q. I'm attracted to this guy lets call him 'A' but he seems shy so he has never spoken to me but gives this impression that he is also attracted. Anyways, his friends with this other guy we'll call him 'B' who i've spoken to once and he hangs round ...
A. 14 April 2011: Just don't lead B on. Making a friend to "score" his friend is not always the coolest way. But if guy B seems like a nice guy, why not make friends, as long as you are up front and honest about your "intentions" (being friends nothing more).
Also ... (read in full...)
Found Dad's history of porn on computer. Should I confront him or tell my mum?
Q. my mum and dad have been married for about 18 years and recently things have been a bit awkward. they have been arguing quite a bit and my mum even told me a few weeks ago that she was getting fed up of my dad because i was upset and said that i was ...
A. 14 April 2011: Honestly, if you feel a HUGE need to do anything I would tell your Dad to remember to delete his browser history, because you don't think your Mum would like to see that crap.
Other then that.. I'm sorry your Dad is a little useless. I would ho... (read in full...)
What can I take or do to reduce the size of my breasts?
Q. Hi cupid friend! I will really appreciate if you all can find the solution to my problem and it goes... There is this guy i love and he really love me too, but the problem is that he complain how big my breast is. Please help me, what should i take ...
A. 14 April 2011: A female reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 April 2011):
Complain about how small his penis is, that ought to shut him up. Your breasts are not the issue, he is."
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LMAO!! I totally agree with t... (read in full...)
I put up a fake profile to monitor my son, but now I've fallen in love and don't know how to get out of it.
Q. I set up a social networkng acct only to keep an eye on my son. Since I was only there for that purpose I put in all wrong info and a pic that was not me. Age 20 years younger. Different state etc. The problem is that I accepted a friend request ...
A. 14 April 2011: No, you need to be honest with the guy. Tell him WHY you made the profile and buck up!
It's not love, it's infatuation with a fantasy person. Yes, you will break his heart, but he will get over it. You can not just "vanish" you need to own your... (read in full...)
How do I get my parents to believe I am who I am and don't want to be like them?
Q. This is a question about my mother....PLEASE READ!! Ok so Ive dealt with years of mental and physical abuse from my mum, she always tells me im worthless, no-one will love me, in useless, I'll never amount to anyone, I should just die already and ...
A. 14 April 2011: Don't let anything hold you back from your dreams. Go for it. Just understand that in reality Canada may not be your Utopia.
I had lots of dreams when I was your age and I went for most of them head on. Some turned out to be more of a "pipe dr... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive and very controlling, why??
Q. hi, im heather i jus turned 17 on monday. and ive been off and on with this guy who has jus turned 21 a few days before me since christmas. theres a few things that are really bothering me 7 i would jus likwe some insight on why hes treating me ...
A. 14 April 2011: 1. He treats you the way he does because he is a sick bastard.
2. You LET him treat you this way, which gives him a "green" light thinking it's OK behavior.
YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU.
3. STOP talking to this guy, end it and ... (read in full...)
My 12 year cousin may be abusing her brother, what can I do, I am 14??
Q. Please help this scenario isnt just wierd but im so conserned. well i have a cousin who is 12 years old ill call her Kim (not her real name.) My auntie got with her dad about 3 years ago and they are now married and she had a son with him who is now ...
A. 14 April 2011: Since your Aunt, Mum and grandmother aren't doing anything I would ask your school counselor what you can do.
She sounds psychopathic. She needs help. Serious help and no she doesn't sound autistic to me, but there are many variations of autism. ... (read in full...)
The guy who likes my best friend has been spreading rumours about me, how do I stop them from getting together? I don't want to lose my friend!
Q. Emm, here goes: My best friend, Ann has this admirer who confessed to her a year ago(and still likes her). The thing is I have always had a good impression of him until recently. I found out that he started spreading rumors about me being unreliable ...
A. 14 April 2011: If she chooses this guy over you, then she isn't the good friend you thought she were.
YOU can NOY control what other people think, say or feel. Let her make up her own mind and go from there.
Don't worry about what other people say about... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 14 April 2011: So she was good enough for you when you were fat, but not now?
Wow, dump her and let her find a GOOD guy.... (read in full...)
We've talked for four years. When it came time to meet he backed out. What is going on?
Q. Hello all, Im very confused right now. I met someone about four years ago. He works abroad, we kept in touch online/emails/chat etc. Got to know him well enough (as much as the net allows). He suggested to meet up, when he's on leave. Mentio...
A. 14 April 2011: Screams MARRIED to me, or at least already attached. Having second thoughts for sure.
It's hard to say though. Could be that he's not who e claims to be? Did you two do video chat? Or exchange pictures? Could be if you didn't talk via video th... (read in full...)
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