We've talked for four years. When it came time to meet he backed out. What is going on?
Q. Hello all, Im very confused right now. I met someone about four years ago. He works abroad, we kept in touch online/emails/chat etc. Got to know him well enough (as much as the net allows). He suggested to meet up, when he's on leave. Mentio...
A. 14 April 2011: Well that clears up some of it.
I would perhaps chance that, he is afraid he won't meet up to what he thinks your "standards" are or he's affraid that the whole thing will go poof once you meet again. That the two of you won't have that chemistr... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 14 April 2011: So she was good enough for you when you were fat, but not now?
Wow, dump her and let her find a GOOD guy.... (read in full...)
We've talked for four years. When it came time to meet he backed out. What is going on?
Q. Hello all, Im very confused right now. I met someone about four years ago. He works abroad, we kept in touch online/emails/chat etc. Got to know him well enough (as much as the net allows). He suggested to meet up, when he's on leave. Mentio...
A. 14 April 2011: Screams MARRIED to me, or at least already attached. Having second thoughts for sure.
It's hard to say though. Could be that he's not who e claims to be? Did you two do video chat? Or exchange pictures? Could be if you didn't talk via video th... (read in full...)
Why would he even ask if I want to have sex with other men?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. We have always been happy and very much in love. My boyfriend is very protective which makes me feel special enough for him to care how other boys act around me. He has always told me he would hate ...
A. 12 April 2011: I'm going to quote you OP:
"But now im starting to wonder if he has slept with someone else and he wants me to so it doesnt seem so bad on him. Im just so confused. I feel unloved and confused. "
That is entirely possible. I would not bring it... (read in full...)
How do I disappear with my little one so he can't find us?
Q. hi everyone i need some help and some of you might think i'm a cow. but here it goes i have a 3 week old baby that the dad only saw 3 times since her birth. to me i think he is a dick he can't see her beacuse its messing with his new relationship...
A. 11 April 2011: Your best bet would be to get a lawyer ( you can look into a pro bono) and draw up papers for him (the dad) to sign over his rights.
However, he will ALWAYS be her Dad.
Now be honest are you wanting to disappear to punish him for starting a n... (read in full...)
Exit Only
Q. My husband is always trying to put things where they don't belong. I don't like THAT KIND of sex, but I feel bad for refusing him. Why does he like it so much? Can't he read the sign "exit only"???...
A. 11 April 2011: Nothing wrong in saying no to anal. If you don't want to do, you don't want to do it.
I do agree that there are PLENTY of other ways to enjoy sex and spice up the sex life.
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He cheated and came back to give me a STD, should I tell the other girl?
Q. Okay so I've been dating this guy for 10 months and I fell in Love with him because he took my virginity and I couldn't dream of being with no one else. Recently he cheated and Came Back and Gave me an Std ... and Left me For a Girl I Know. ...
A. 11 April 2011: I agree that the right thing would be to tell her. Honestly I would do it anonymous. Tell her to go get checked for XYZ STD. And leave it at that.
Sorry hun, you didn't lose anything to her but a loser.
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Am I sending the wrong message?
Q. I’m 33 years old woman and always dress up even on Sundays when I want to go out to have a cup of coffee, I m not originally from the USA. I see here women go out with pajama to be honest at the beginning I was amazed how they can go to university ...
A. 11 April 2011: Don't stop being you. If you like to dress up, go for it, it is REFRESHING to see someone with actual clothes on these days, I'm sure that is partly why you get the attention, not because they think you odd, but because they find it nice and ... (read in full...)
He wants a break when I don't believe in them, how do I act if he tries to contact me?
Q. My boyfriend asked me for a 'break' today. In my mind there is no such thing as a break but I didn't really feel like expressing that, or anything else to him at the time. He said he had a lot of stuff to deal with and that he needs to straigh...
A. 11 April 2011: I would ask him what he expect from you (and himself) while on this break. Are you still going to be exclusive or not? How long does he think the break should be? and WHY does he think you should wait for him to straighten out his stuff? Do you two ... (read in full...)
Why would he even ask if I want to have sex with other men?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. We have always been happy and very much in love. My boyfriend is very protective which makes me feel special enough for him to care how other boys act around me. He has always told me he would hate ...
A. 11 April 2011: I would ask him WHY he is bringing it up. Is it part of HIS fantasy? Is HE worried about you wanting someone else?
TALK to him. We can only GUESS at why he might bring it up.... (read in full...)
Is my ex starting to care about me again?
Q. i was with my bf for 15 years. we had an ugly break up. he ended up getting a restraining order against me. i missed him so much i recently started texting him and emailing him. hes reading everything and listening. i found this our because hes ...
A. 11 April 2011: He might care, but are you willing to go for a round two of what seems like a toxic relationship?
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Is he really is having his cake and eating it by living rent free at his mums and at mine?
Q. Please help me I'm very confused about my relationship of 15 months. He has two kids from his prev relationship of 8 years. We don't live together but he is at my place every night. For majority of the time we get along good and I really love hi...
A. 11 April 2011: Honestly, here is how I see it. The kids are HIS responsibility, financially, morally and emotionally. So if HE wants to take HIS kids to the amusement park HE PAYS. It almost seems like he invited you along to pay the bill.
Honestly, who can't he... (read in full...)
He lied about his age, should I see him again?
Q. Ok I got know this guy over the phone, we talk everyday and text. recently went on a date with him and found out he lied about his age. Turns out he is 9 yrs older tha me, there were a few other little things that I didnt really like, but these ...
A. 11 April 2011: Honestly I would start to wonder what else he lied about to get you to met him. And what else he WILL lie about to get you in bed. But that is just because I'm a jaded person .
Yeah, I think I would call him out on the lie. See how he reacts a... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but cannot marry me
Q. i am a traditional orthodox indian girl who was never in a relationship before, now from past 2 year i met a guy and both were truely in love. i have not revealed this with anyone nor he. now his parents are forcing him to get married then i raised ...
A. 11 April 2011: End the relationship. It will only lead to more heartbreak if it continues since he WILL most likely have to marry the girl his parents have chosen.
He obvioulsy either doesn't love you enough to defy his parents or he is very traditio... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my ex who has another girlfriend, and I'm only 14! Should I keep it or give it up for adoption?
Q. ok so, i was with my ex for a year and 2 months, he currently has a new gf because hes 'trying to get over me' we had sex a couple weeks ago (yea i know im such a horrible person letting him cheat on her like that, blah blah blah) but the condom ...
A. 11 April 2011: He won't be able to take care of the child financially, neither will you. Talk to your mum and dad and make a plan of action.
Adoption is not a bad choice. Since you only got pregnant a couple of weeks ago abortion is another choice. It may not ... (read in full...)
Can I satisfy and get her pregnant with this size?
Q. dear mam i have penis in 5.8" and girth 5.5" is this penis can fully satisfy a women and get pregnancy with this size of penis ?...
A. 9 April 2011: If guys with small penises couldn't have sex, satisfy women or father children all men would have dicks to their knees...
Honestly I'm so surprised that men worry more about the size of their package then women in Hollywood worry about wrinkles... (read in full...)
Should I Tell Him That I'm Pregnant With His Baby?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry to bother you all but I've got myself into a difficult situation. I'm 17 (18 in 2 months) and I just found out that I'm 29 weeks pregnant. I was really experiencing any symptoms which is why I never found out earlier. The ...
A. 9 April 2011: He has every right to know. I don't think it's fair down the road to ask for child support when he had no clue. Do it in person. Not over a text or Facebook.
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We fought over housecleaning and he walked out. How do I make him understand?
Q. Ok, living with my boyfriend is killing me! Lately we have been arguing because he doesn't clean up after himself. I do all the cleaning and I don't mind seen as I don't work as much as him but the guy does nothing and when he eventually does ...
A. 9 April 2011: PUT his crap next to his side of the bed, every little thing.. If he doesn't take a hint.. maybe he needs to take a hike.... (read in full...)
How accurate are sonograms? I'm worried about who is the father of this baby
Q. Hello. I cheated on my boyfriend whilst we were going through a rough patch. I totally regret it, I have not told him but I think about it and deeply regret it every single day. I almost torture myself mentally over it. The worst part is that I'm...
A. 9 April 2011: Only way to tell 100% is to do a DNA test.... (read in full...)
Girls, thoughts on chewing tobacco?
Q. Quick question for the girls on here. How much would it bother you if your guy dipped. By dip i mean used chewing tobacco. Enough to leave him or view him differently? What if you have been with him a while and you barely find out hes been dipping?...
A. 7 April 2011: Yes, I think dip is absolutely disgusting. The smell and even worse the TASTE (when you kiss) is enough for me to gag. My husband used to use dip, but he didn't while we dated because I told him it was gross. He started to use it again when he was ... (read in full...)
Am I slutty?
Q. I want to know if I'm a drunk slut i'm 19 and In my sophomore year of college last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 4 months but since we broke up... ive had 2 one night stands (full intercourse) given two blow jobs, and let one othe...
A. 4 April 2011: Having random sex is not going to make the hurt over the last relationship go away. It's certainly not going to make you more "loved" either.
Some people (both guys and girls) think have more sex is going ot make them more popular or fill a void i... (read in full...)
Wedding date dilemma......
Q. I have been invited to the wedding of a friend and I need some advice about taking a date. I am single and would generally not have a problem going alone but in this situation I would rather not. The main reason is that it is just out of the ...
A. 4 April 2011: Ask the bride first. Simple as that. IF you were single at the time of the invitation, she doesn't expect you to bring a date. (don't forget feeding all them guests is costly so inviting "random" people to tag along is jsut tacky).
If you guys wor... (read in full...)
Why would my ex say something like that?
Q. Why would my ex boyfriend say something like that? am hurt? My ex boyfriend dumped me and 2weeks later I found out that he was cheating on me. The girl was cheating on me with asked him if he got back with his ex (me) cos he was breaking up w...
A. 4 April 2011: To get your sympathy and because he is an asshat.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said to his friend he is not attracted to me and I have a fat ass!
Q. Found conversations between my bf and a friend of his. He was telling her how he really likes me and that i am one of the nicest people out. But he hates my ass. He thinks it is fat and is not attracted to it. He is horny as fuck but doesnt even ...
A. 4 April 2011: Wow, I'd ditch him too.
If YOU are happy with you, he is the one with the problem. ... (read in full...)
He's went back to his wife 28 times! I've had it!
Q. I bumped in to my first love after 24 years, for two years our lives have been like a rollercoaster. He has now left and gone back to his wife 28 times. I have told him to leave me alone that I have had enough, but he will go a few days and then ...
A. 1 April 2011: I'm sure it's "easier" to be mad at "the other woman" rather then her husband.. after all she has to LIVE with him.
Just ignore the both of them and stay away from married men in the future. Less drama & less heart ache, I'm willing to bet.... (read in full...)
I'm going to what people call "party land" ..should I be worrying so much?
Q. I know this website is to do with relationships, but i really want some advice! I'm going on holiday with few my best friends this year to the place everyone calls "Party land". It's just tanning and playing on the beach during the day and partying ...
A. 1 April 2011: I'm guessing Spring Break? If it worries you that people might drug your drink then stay safe. 1. NEVER leave your drink unguarded. (not even with friends) 2. Never accept drinks from strangers. 3. THE above suggestions goes for ... (read in full...)
He asked me to pay for dinner on the second date! What should I think about this?
Q. If a man asks a woman to pay for dinner on the 2nd date what should she think ?...
A. 31 March 2011: Going Half/Half is fine, but asking the "date" to pay is being cheap UNLESS it's agreed upon beforehand, (I pay for movie, you pay for dinner).
When did he ask you to pay? During the meal? After the meal? Or before you even set foot in the rest... (read in full...)
Confused that BF interrupted love making to use bathroom.
Q. Can someone explain this to me? Woke up when the alarm went off this morning, bf of 7 months was kissing my neck...so we ended up having sex, and kinda half way through, he stops and says "gotta go, baby"...I was like, "go where?" and he jumps out ...
A. 31 March 2011: If you guys just woke up, I say it's VERY possible that the poor guy just needed to go pee.... (read in full...)
I had sex with someone else while we were on a break and now he says I am 'dirty' to him, what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend who I love more that anything else told me we should take a break so he could deal with some issues. A week later I saw he was taking someone to prom and I knew he liked her. Out of jealousy and a need for security, I had sex with a ...
A. 28 March 2011: You can dump his dumb ass. This guy will hold this over you heard for the rest of your relationship. Every time he is mad at you for something he will bring this up. Every time you disagree with him, he will bring this up. Personally, I don't ... (read in full...)
My soon to be ex husband is moving on so quickly and I'm confused
Q. So I am having issues coping with my feeling here. I was married for 8 years to a very wonderful father of our 2 kids but a really crappy and neglecting husband. It was wrong but I ended up having an emotional affair with a colleuge of mine. We ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think one of the reason you felt neglected for so long was because you husband had already left the marriage (at least mentally) and long time before you two separated.
Also, people move on in different ways. From what I have seen some move str... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my crush give me his email address?
Q. I asked my crush for his email address for a project. I needed to send him something for school. He was like really reluctant and came up with all these weird solutions instead of email. What does it mean? ...
A. 28 March 2011: He isn't comfortable giving out his e-mail address?... (read in full...)
15 weeks pregnant and very obvious baby bump?
Q. I am 15 weeks pregnant and already seem to have a very obvious baby bump, is this normal? ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think that totally varies with the woman. Have you had an Us to confirm the size of the baby yet?... (read in full...)
He says we need to stay away from each other for 2 months, does he love me?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for a for a month now. We slept together twice, since that day he has been telling me we need stay away from each other for two months and talk on the phone. Please help me I really luv this guy I don't know if he ...
A. 28 March 2011: That is about the dumbest reason I have ever heard for needing a break! so having sex for a while then a long break ensures you won't get pregnant? ILLOGICAL! IT only takes 1 time. 1 little swimmer.
WHY are you risking pregnancy? STD's?
Also... (read in full...)
I was deceived. If she's pregnant, what are my options?
Q. Hello, thanks for readin, basically i met up with a girl a few weeks back who failed to tell me before she got back to mine after a party that she was allergic to latex, but told me she was infertile, so being a bit drunk and stupid i slept with ...
A. 27 March 2011: Yes, she can "force" you to pay child support. In the eyes of the law you fathered a child, so you are responsible for it, at least financially.
In your case it sounds a little like entrapment, but legally I don't think there is anything you can ... (read in full...)
Has he become interested in me since we started dancing the Tango for drama class, or am I imagining it?
Q. I go to a drama club and recently we have been working on the cell block tango. We are split into partners and it can be a little awkward as the dancing is raunchy and risqué at times. My partner is a boy about two years older than me and the older ...
A. 27 March 2011: I would just have him as a dance partner and NOT get involved with him otherwise. Strictly platonic.... (read in full...)
He's went back to his wife 28 times! I've had it!
Q. I bumped in to my first love after 24 years, for two years our lives have been like a rollercoaster. He has now left and gone back to his wife 28 times. I have told him to leave me alone that I have had enough, but he will go a few days and then ...
A. 27 March 2011: NO contact. That is what I would do. Change your phone number, block his number, delete his email, facebook EVERYTHING, tell him if him you don't want anything to do with him.
He keeps going back to her, because SHE lets him. And you, do the same... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law lives with us. I want her more than my wife.
Q. I'm 36years old and living a happy married life. We are living two families together. This means my family and the other family is my wife's brother's family, but wife's brother is not living here. He is in Dubai. I like his wife and want to develop ...
A. 27 March 2011: Shame on you.... (read in full...)
He has 3 other women in his life, I am pregnant and he doesn't want anyone to know about the baby!!
Q. Okay! I am a divorced professional with two children. I started dating an independent contractor who came to my house to do some work. It started as an innocent friendship and over time, became intimate. During our platonic friendship he mentioned ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hindsight is always 20/20 So don't look back, look forward.
Prepare yourself for being a single mom with 3 kids, prepare yourself to only receive child support from him and nothing else.
Look at his actions, don't listen to his words. I'm sorry... (read in full...)
I make all the money, take care of the children, and clean the house. Should I go for my office mate whom I love?
Q. I am married for 11 years now, and my husband doesn't work, he works on his own art which is good but makes little or no money. He is dependent on me for 10 years now. He has many issues like he cannot talk to people who are in a respecta...
A. 27 March 2011: The best thing to do is to NOT start something new before you finished with the old. Which mean, I think you should figure out what you want to do about your marriage and your future. Don't have an affair because you are not happy in your marriage. ... (read in full...)
Was the orgasm a one-off?
Q. I'm wondering if I had my 1st orgasm . During intercourse last night I became really flushed and a tingling sensation in my vagina spread up my body.It was so pleasurable I had to release quite a long moan. Although I've heard you'll know if you h...
A. 27 March 2011: Keep practicing. You will know ;)... (read in full...)
First he says he wants friends with benefits, then he says he wants to be with me, what does he want?
Q. So today, I had a date...or hang out day...with a guy I like. He knows I like him and he's told me he likes me too. But I had asked him if it was a date, he said he wasn't sure. And when I brought up what we were, he said "I'm not sure." Throughout ...
A. 27 March 2011: I think you should let him go. The poor fella has no idea what he REALLY wants. He "thinks" he wants a FWB, most likely because he assumes it wouldn't involve any changes in his life.
If you do sleep with hi, I'm pretty sure he will back peddle a... (read in full...)
We had a fight and he just walked out! Can I stay with someone who would leave like that?
Q. Please help me! My husband walked out on my 6 days ago after a fight. He said he was going to stay at his mothers. I don't like a husband can just up and leave like this I never would do this to him. He has try to call but I'm to hurt to answer I ...
A. 27 March 2011: Seems like you two could use some help. Have you considered some marriage counseling?
Obviously the communication between the two of you is not working.
Also, if he keep running off every time you two disagree how is anything going to get res... (read in full...)
He says we need to stay away from each other for 2 months, does he love me?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for a for a month now. We slept together twice, since that day he has been telling me we need stay away from each other for two months and talk on the phone. Please help me I really luv this guy I don't know if he ...
A. 27 March 2011: You guys went out for a month and he is asking for space already? And right after you two slept together? It sounds all together odd.
I would seriously ask him why. ... (read in full...)
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