Bf broke up with me, and then says he'll take me back...but only in 2 years?! What's THAT about?
Q. Hey.. I really need help.. I have been with this guy for 6 and a half months, we decided to have sex for the first time, and we did it a couple of times, then this one Sunday we did it and we were happily in love then on Monday he broke up with me....
A. 8 June 2011: Well you have several options as to why he did and said what he did.
1. He got what he wanted from you (sex) and the whole 2 years is just bull.
2. He going overseas for work/school - 2 years.
3. He is joing the military.
4. He is se... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but says he loves me, should I believe his words?
Q. I have been with a guy for 6 months now. When we met, it was supposed to be a one time sex thing. But we fell in love. I knew he had a girlfriend, she is 20 yrs younger than him. We recently had a talk about "us" and he begged me to stay with him ...
A. 8 June 2011: I can only second CaringGuys answer.
LOOK at his actions and not just his words, even though.. they are some mighty pretty words.... (read in full...)
Husband of 15 years has just left me!
Q. Hi guys, I have just been left by my husband of 15 years and I have 3 kids with him. I am not coping very well, how am I going to get over him? Please, help me somebody! ...
A. 8 June 2011: You guys have 3 kids, so that is your main focus. Can you afford the place you live in without him? Has he (or you) filed for divorce? If not, get on it.
Find a lawyer. Find out what you are entitled too and go from there. Don't let the fear of ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to give him her email? I'm feeling bad.....help..
Q. Hi friends...so this guy, who's my teachers friend, he kept asking about this girl who I know from my school but she doesn't know me. So I just asked him if he liked her. So he said yes. I gave him her email from facebook. Was if wrong. Because he ...
A. 8 June 2011: I agree. DOn't give out OTHER people's info, phone number or e-mail.
Next time... ask for his and pass it on.
Now you know, so stop beating yourself up. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend treats me so badly I have started having feelings for her friend.....what should I do?
Q. Hello, I am 17years old and have been dating a girl for about 1 1/2 years already. Since after our one year ann, things have not been as high as i expected. Ok i feel under-appreciated, and feel like a third wheel when around her friends. I mean ...
A. 8 June 2011: x
You are investing yourself emotionally in someone else which mean you are taking time, effort and energy away from your existing relationship.
You know the saying the grass is always greener? Well it isn't.
Be WHO you are. Don't try and B... (read in full...)
I'm going to be living with her next year and I want to tell her how I feel, but I don't want it to become awkward.....plus she has a boyfriend!
Q. I'm not sure what to do about a girl i like, it's quite complicated but i'll try to keep it short. I'm at university and have been for a year, there's a girl i really like, we're pretty close friends and i'm living in the same flat as her next...
A. 8 June 2011: I have to agree with Kc100 and Caring Guy.
I think the fact that she is pulling away, shows that she finally figured out that you have feelings for her. I think she saw you as a "safe" male friend - hence the hanging out and cuddling. Once she... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my FWB is ever going to turn into something more?
Q. I have known this wonderful guy for four years. He always was so nice and made me laugh, both were in relationships at the time. But for the last four n half months we have been making hot passionate sex with kissing and cuddling and spending the ...
A. 8 June 2011:
The whole point of FWB is to have sex with someone you "know". Someone who isn't emotionally invested in it, who can separate sex from "love".
He wants sex and sex only. Though I'm sure he enjoys the attention and the stroking of his ego as w... (read in full...)
Isn't this a little too serious a little too fast?
Q. My girlfriend freaks out every time someone comments on my photos on fb or writes on my wall. We've only been dating for about a week but whenever someone writes something on my wall or on a photo she panics and starts questioning me about it. She ...
A. 8 June 2011: All that drama after 1 week? Holy Moly! Yeah, I think it's a tad nuts.
I don't see this getting any better.
However, I think it's a little un-cool of an ex to friend request her so soon.
She seems a little too "emotional" and just pla... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is smoking weed everyday....Help!
Q. Ok so I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, I could not ever picture my life without him but for the past couple months/weeks he has been smoking weed/grass near enough every single day.. Every time he talks to me (texting) or even when ...
A. 8 June 2011: Why are you still with him? He cheats, he smokes weed, he can't have an Why are you still with him? He cheats, he smokes weed, he can't have an intelligent conversation, spends his money on weed, has bad friends......... Honestly, he sounds like a ... (read in full...)
I need to move on after I misled this person with fake pictures, how do I do that??
Q. I posted the question about meeting a girl for the first time and coming out about using fake pictures. I finally came clean and turns out, it didnt end so well. She infact loved the pictures she saw not so much the person or my heart. I figured ...
A. 8 June 2011: It seems to me you are upset about her falling for the image YOU represented. I'm sure it was a combo of the phot andyour personality that she was attracted to. However, I understand her fully. If you would decieve someone about your looks (knowing ... (read in full...)
My ex threw away 7 yrs. of our life & what we had built up for our future, for another girl, only to be deceiving her too!
Q. How do I get over these angry feelings I'm having for my ex? It's been almost 13 mths. now since my ex left me after 7 yrs. together and shortly there after became involved with someone else. No explanation was given at the time other than he was ...
A. 8 June 2011: Karma will nail him, I have no doubt.
However, the anger and resentment you are holding on you (and honestly I don't blame you) is also holding YOU back. I'm sorry you feel like you wasted 7 years on this guy and I'm sorry the other girl has no c... (read in full...)
Is he using me?
Q. I like this guy so much and i think he likes me too but i'm still not sure, we flirt a lot and every time he got a chance, he would come over and talk with me. He loves to tease me, he always text me on MSN and stuff like that. The other day when we ...
A. 8 June 2011: Stop flirting and stop talking to him. He isn't serious about you, specially not if he has a GF. YOU are just a convinient pretty girl to stoke his EGO and maybe more.. But yes, I would think he is using you or at least trying to..
... (read in full...)
I saw my boyfriend kiss another girl!
Q. i saw my bf kiss another girl but he conntinues to kiss and hug he, but im not sure what i should do because i know he loves me but after i saw that im now not so sure. we have been going out for 3 years and he made me wear a promise ring that i ...
A. 8 June 2011: So you wear a promise ring for him. Promising not to cheat, but it's ok that he cheats? Doesn't that sound wrong to you? Like a double standard?
Honey, you deserve better and it's about time you realize it.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to read these books even though I'm technically more pure then most girls my age?
Q. Hello! I'm going to get straight to the point and not beat around the bush. I'm a 18 year old virgin and I love to read romance novels. Not just the nice sappy ones, I like to read the sexy intense one with wild sex in them. I love historic novels ...
A. 8 June 2011: EVERYBODY who has been though puberty has a dirty mind. Some more then others. Having a "craving" for intense fantasies is again, pretty normal. Otherwise there wouldn't be such a HUGE selection of book in this genre.
Does it make you less pur... (read in full...)
I found some texts to his ex that have made me worried...what should I do?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. When we got together his ex fiancé was pregnant with his child, she kicked him out not long after she found out. Recently they have been getting on better, for their daughters sake. I don’t k...
A. 7 June 2011: He is not over her. It sounds to me like he is cheating on you with her, because she feels "safe". As in he thinks she would never tell you.
Honestly, I'd end it now. They may not have had sex, but it sounds like they are planning on re-livin... (read in full...)
Why have my friends become two faced, I've known them for years?
Q. I got a message from my friend who moved interstate some time ago [I'll call her friend#1]. There was the usual chit chat, but then she mentioned that our other friend was flying up to see her [I'll call her friend #2]. Then she said "wish you were ...
A. 7 June 2011: I guess it's time for some new friends honestly. Friend #2 doesn't seem very... friendly.... (read in full...)
I don't need Viagra but I want to try it, would anything bad happen?
Q. hey everyone..im just thinking about taking a viagra once..just for fun and see how it feels lol. i never had problems with my sex life but i just want to take a pill and see how it feels..but im worried about what could happen to me after i take ...
A. 7 June 2011: There is nothing FUN about taking medication you don't need. What's next? Nitroglycerin for "fun" too?
Don't be stupid.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: I've been an Army wife for 14 years. It is NOT an easy life. And I was much older then you when I made that choice.
There isn't much you can do about him wanting to join. It might be his dream. It might turn out to be something he doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Why is she trying to break us up? We don't even know her. Help!
Q. I've just started dating a girl and a complete stranger to both of us has just started emailing my girlfriend telling her I'm a fake and that I'm not genuine, I'm really confused because I've never spoken to this person before and neither has my ...
A. 7 June 2011: I doubt it's a stranger.
I would suggest you both block "that" person.... (read in full...)
Is it a crazy idea to have a baby at 15? Or a good idea?
Q. im 15 and i really want a baby. i know this is not really the best idea ever but i feel like i was born to be a mother. i have wanted a baby since i was 11 and like the idea of being a teenage mum. i currently dont have a boyfriend so it wouldnt be ...
A. 7 June 2011: In one word. YES!
Your body, your mind and surely your financial state is NOT mature or really ready for a baby.
IF you want to get an INKLING of what it takes to be a mom, get a puppy. A nice 8 week old one. Make sure you can afford ALL the s... (read in full...)
Can a man really be too sore for some "morning loving" after an evening of sex?
Q. So last night me and my boyfriend (together a few months) had a date, came back to mine ended up in bed and had some really great sex. Super! This morning when we woke up I was still feeling horny and started nuzzling in, stroking him and being af...
A. 7 June 2011: How about you just plain ask him? Maybe, he really had to go pee.. I can't imagine having sex if I REALLY need to pee and I know guys don't have the same ability as women in holding it in.
Talk to your man.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be depressed on holiday when I see my friend's figures in bikinis!
Q. I'm going on holiday in two weeks with my best friends, but it's just hit me how amazing they're bodies are compared to mine. One of them is 6ft and she has a great figure that many guys love and girls are jealous of. In fact it's intimidatin...
A. 7 June 2011: Go enjoy the holiday!
Humans come in all shapes, sizes and shades. We don't all look alike. Heck how boring would THAT be?!
Get over it honey, it's vacataion time! Leave your petty jealousy at home and bring that nice personality to t... (read in full...)
Can I believe him when he says he didn't cheat after he already cheated twice before?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We have broken up twice. The first time we broke up it was because he cheated on me. I had a feeling he did and after asking a him a couple of times if he did he finally told me he had cheated, but he ...
A. 7 June 2011: Ask youself why you keep taking him back after he cheats.... (read in full...)
As an American woman, is it possible for me to find a Mexican man to marry?
Q. I`m feeling blue and I don't see how I can ever be happy. I don't want to date or marry someone just to be dating or marrying someone, I want to share my life with someone I really love. Being lonely is horrible but I won't settle for someone I ...
A. 7 June 2011: I think whatever floats your boat, whatever makes you happy is what you ought to go for. Be he from Mexico or Iceland.
Just realize that there IS a cultural difference between US and Mexico. Something you would have to asjust to and try and fit ... (read in full...)
Which is worse, her cheating or my looking at her email?
Q. Long story short, girl I was seeing I found out was having sexy liaisons on the Internet with a couple of guys she knows. They didn't have sex or were intimate (I don't think, anyway) but exchanged a bunch of messages like "I miss you" or computer ...
A. 7 June 2011: People snoop because they don't trust. They don't trust because they don't communcate and they aren't being honest. With their partner and themselves.
She is mad because you invaded her privacy, but also becauseshe is now "caught" writing "happy f... (read in full...)
We dated in 3rd grade but he is not interested in me now, is there a way to get him to like me again?
Q. I like this guy but he says he does not like me. but we 'dated' in 3rd grade so is it posible to get him to like me if so how?...
A. 6 June 2011: You were what 8-9 years old in 3rd grade? So VERY different people then who you are at 18.
If he doesn't "like" you he doesn't "like" you. I would honestly let it go and look for a guy who is willing to worship and love you, not waste my time try... (read in full...)
I am so upset at his swearing and name calling that I really don't think I want to be with him anymore.....
Q. I was frightened of my partner driving fast last night as it was raining heavily and dark and he got angry as he was tired. He knows I hate it when he drives at the upper limit as I was in a bad accident in my teens in the rain. He was so angry he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Wow how old is he? 5?
Honestly, he could have called you worse names, but the fact of the matter is that he doesn't think he did anything wrong and that he totally disresepcted you.
Ball is in your court. Don't forget, YOU are in charge of how... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to look, but NOT touch?
Q. I happen to have a wandering eye. I don't cheat but I do look at a girl if she's my type. My type is a girl who is thick in all the right places. Mostly in the legs and ass. My girlfriend is definitely my type. If I'm talking to another girl that ...
A. 6 June 2011: I think it's almost natural to notice atrractive people. However, there is a time and place for it all. If you sit and oogle a good looking person right in front of your GF, then I think it's crude and rude.
Flirting can easily be mistaken... (read in full...)
How can I fall back in love with my husband?
Q. Okay, so I’ve been married for two years, we’ve been together for nearly six. He’s a great guy – he really loves me and I know it. He’s about to turn 29, I’m about to turn 25. Here’s the issue… We used to have a problem with him going out and ho...
A. 6 June 2011: Wow. Well first off, I don't get why you didn't walk out after the first time he cheated or.. at least the second time.
I think you two need to at some point have a discussion about the furture and what you both want. Obviously you are not sexu... (read in full...)
Why is the woman to blame for an affair?
Q. Can everyone tell me why it is that the woman often gets all the blame when she has an affair with a married man? People tend to look down on the woman and in the end her reputation is ruined and she is called all kinds of names etc. But the guy who ...
A. 6 June 2011: Because it's easier for the wife to be mad at the "other women" then face the facts that her husband is a lying cheating whore of a man.
Maybe because the "other woman" has a choice. She can CHOOSE to stay away from married men. Where as a lying ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend, he likes me. The problem? I have a boyfriend.
Q. Okay, so I posted a few months ago that I had a boyfriend, but had developed feelings for my best friend. After months of torturing myself because I didn't know how my best friend felt, and because I felt bad for my boyfriend, I decided to tell my ...
A. 6 June 2011: Honestly, I think you sound really selfish. You already know that you like your friend more then your BF, but you don't want to miss out on all the fun this summer and your friend is gone as well.
If you aren't serious about your BF, break up... (read in full...)
With a married man...
Q. Hi, I'm with a married man...he's five years older than me, he's very cute and I really like him. It all started from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panels, he wrote them down on a paper and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: You should feel bad. Where are you sense of right and wrong? Your morals and values? do you have any?
But HE is the one hurting his family, you are jsut the "tool" he is using. If it wasn't you, he would be screwing someone else ( I want to bet o... (read in full...)
Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 6 June 2011: Honestly, don't you think it's about time YOU do something on your own as well? I mean it is geart to hang out with the spouse, but having an identity besides being "joe's wife" should count too. Take a weekly class is something you want to learn ... (read in full...)
Could you give me some ideas on how to pay him back, "nicely?"
Q. My sister was dating a guy some time ago. One night-out I, my best friend, and my sis were chilling in the bar. My sister's boyfriend came together with his friend. So I and he started to chat. We had a party-relations- it means we were meeting, ...
A. 5 June 2011: I would tell people who ask you if you twop had sex, that would honestly wouldn't touch a "child" like him with a ten foot pole. That you don't have sex with kids.
Also I would talk to your sisters BF. Maybe he can set the guy straight.
PS, it'... (read in full...)
Anyone ever had their husband leave for another woman and then return?
Q. Has anyone out there ever had their husband leave them for another woman, and then return? My husband left me for another woman and i have moved forward and am looking forward to a great future with my kids. I just wanted to know if anyone had this ...
A. 5 June 2011: If my husband left me for someone else, there is no way I would want him back. I'm not some convinient doormat or safe haven.
I feel strongly about certain things. One thing is working through issues, but being left and that once the "other w... (read in full...)
We're planning to get married, but he wouldn't put me up for a few nights??
Q. I need help! I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I'm 25 and he's 32. Recently, we have been looking a houses and setting plans (in the belief that we would be getting married in the near future). We went ring shopping almost a ...
A. 5 June 2011: That jsut sounds totally nuts! I think I would have broken up too. WTH is he thinking?
Sorry, that relationship would be OVER.... (read in full...)
Do I accept the proposal from my FWB?!
Q. I've been FWB with this guy for about 4 and a half years. But it's been an unspoken rule with the other people we know and at our school that we're both unavailable. We see each other all of the time, we have the most amazing conversations and I ...
A. 5 June 2011: You are still in highschool, so what is the BIG hurry to marry? Get an aducation, see the world, live life a little.
And, as a rule of thumb, if you have doubts.. it's most likely not the right thing to do.... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll notice if I am bigger?
Q. I like going to the gym because the stronger I get I feel like I have more confidence. It gives me something to talk about and now some girls I know are like wow you love the gym and that kind of stuff. I am considering taking dbol which is a ...
A. 5 June 2011: Go to the gym, work your ass off and stay away from any drugs. If you gain muscles the "natural" way it can overall benefit you.
Be who you are, getting more fit is a good way to feel more confident.
Will she notice? Maybe, but I doubt a... (read in full...)
We met on line. But he's inconsistent. Is it him or is it me? I'm baffled by his attitudes.
Q. I'm seeing this guy, it's been a month, we like each other and like to spend time together. we met online and on our first date he invited me to a work event and introduced me to his co-workers and boss, etc. So we agreed to take things slow and ...
A. 5 June 2011: I think you ARE going faster then him. 1 month is not that long. It does seem very inconsistant to invite you to meet his co worker on the first date and then wanting to take it slow.
I just don't think you are that into him, but the idea of ... (read in full...)
I thought we had a good thing going, but his brother says I was just a fling!
Q. Ok this is quite a long story. I was "seeing" this guy for about 6 months. At first he was really keen on me and calling me and we would catch up, meet all his friends etc. then he started backing off saying he didn't know what he wanted, needed his ...
A. 5 June 2011: The thing is you slept with his AFTER he started to back of. Did you think if you guys slept together he would want to be with you?
I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt, but by the look of it, he didn't seem like he was all that into you as a GF.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to join the Army but I really don't want him to go....
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and he just recently told me about his interest in joining the Army. I told him I would support whatever he chooses to do but I really don't want him to go. I don't really know what to do, if to ...
A. 5 June 2011: Be honest with him, but you also need to respect that it might be a lifelong dream of his.
What is it about the Army that you dislike? The chance of him getting hurt? Or hurt other? No being home a lot?
Why does he want to join? Do you kno... (read in full...)
Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 5 June 2011: Mid life crisis?
That is the only thing I can think of. Honestly you two need to find something you can do together or each alternate a weekend, not just him getting all the "fun" and socialization every week end. I would really resent my husband ... (read in full...)
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